We had a good weekend. My mom is in town. Friday night was homemade pizza and horse back riding lessons.
Saturday was DH’s 5k and then there was an all day block party. It rained, so we waited out the rain and went from 4-8. It was really fun but the bouncy house was janky and kids fell in the crack between the floor and wall and would start to tip it over. It never actually tipped and kids were doing it on purpose, but we had to constantly manage it. Other than that issue, there was a band, ice cream truck and more. Very fun!
Sunday was lunch at one of those sushi conveyor belt places and that was really cool.
Today I had my scope and found the cause of my acid reflux. Unfortunately it doesn’t warrant surgery yet and even if there was surgery it’s kind of tricky/ doesn’t always solve it. So I’ll be on this acid reflux diet probably forever 😒.
Oh and FIL had his surgery and it went well. MIL, on the other hand, called to tell us that and then complained that DH didn’t call this weekend before the surgery. Well he was planning to call after the surgery but they never told us the time so they were done super early. How are we supposed to know that she wanted a call before and after. DH is just so annoyed at being yelled at for no reason. If it were my family, I probably would have called but I’m not going to “manage” his relationship with his parents. I reminded him of the surgery day and the rest is up to him and them. Glad the surgery went well though.
Saturday was great and I really enjoyed hanging with my BFF for the day.
SOS VENT: DH was a cranky and beyond antisocial, but I really didn't care because I enjoyed myself. Sunday DD rode and DH was supposed to power wash the house. He did a crap job and then used the good white guest bath towels to remove the mud from his legs. I was annoyed and asked why couldn't use a dog towel, beach towel, or his own black towel. His response was a towel is a towel and it will wash. I said this is why I don't buy nice stuff for the house anymore because he is a stupid teenager who is an idiot. My BFF said he was being an idiot putz.
I'm taking a few days off this month to paint my house which I can do. He is mad I won't hire it out, that I'm taking time off work and I won't wait for him to be home to "help". I reminded him that he is a crap painter and whenever I've painted, I've taken time off to paint alone.
We have had such a weird past week. DH has COVID, most of the rest of us have various smaller illnesses (like a nagging cough), but no one else has tested positive for COVID, so that's good. DD did a special softball catcher camp that's over an hour away the past few days, so that's caused lots of logistical challenges. We have a leak in our front yard that is nearly causing a sink hole on the street in front of our house. The water company guy thinks DH can fix it himself, but we need to find the time for him to do that. My car has a nail in the tire and the tread is too low to patch it, so we ordered new tires, but when I went to get them put on today Costco told me those tires aren't great for my car so now I need to get other tires from another location (of course no appointments available). I carpooled kids to camp today and on the way there, one of the kids realized her mom had signed her up for the wrong camp and I had to drop her at a different location. I also forgot DS2's lunch for camp. Luckily camp this week is 5 minutes from my office so I put a bunch of office snacks in a large ziploc and ran it over. And DH just heard at DD's catcher camp that some of the other girls there are also trying out for DD's travel team starting tonight, so she'll have some major competition. Ugh
Anyway, weekend was pretty good. I picked up all the kids Friday from camp and we went and got pizza and then hung at the playground and ate it while DD had flag football practice, and then we went for froyo with the coach and his daughter after. Saturday DD had her camp 1 pm-7 pm. It took us over 2 hours to get there with summer Saturday traffic. While she was there, the 3 boys and I went to SkyZone and K1 speed. Yesterday was day 5 of DH's COVID so I had him come back from my parent's condo and he was with the boys all day while I took DD to her 10 am - 7 pm camp.
I cannot believe that a week from today, DS3 starts preschool, then the next day, the other 3 kids start school (including DS2 starting kindergarten) and DD turns 11. I'm excited to get back into a semi normal routine!
I had a nice weekend! DH and the kids left to go camping on Friday morning. After they left I went to get my hair cut and colored, and then came home and worked for a while, then took the dog for a long walk.
Saturday morning I took the dog for another long walk, then I cleaned the house a bit and met a few high school friends for happy hour/early dinner. One of my friends that met us was in a terrible car accident about a year ago, and he was just able to start driving a few days before our meet-up. He broke 22 bones and had to have a lot of hardware added to his back, legs, and arm. He's still walking with a cane, but he has the most tremendous attitude about the accident, his injuries, and life in general. It was refreshing and he helped to reframe my thinking after a rough couple of weeks in my house.
Sunday was another long walk with the dog, a bit more cleaning, and some time by the pool with my book. I didn't speak to anyone until DD2 called me at 9pm and it was glorious.
I don't have much planned this week. I may head to the beach house for a day or two, but the weather isn't going to be awesome. I'm trying to get extra hours in at work so that I can take it easy for the last couple of weeks before school starts. Whatever happens, it will be FINE - I'm very content to just hang out and relax and maybe get a few things done.
186momx that's really frustrating about your DH. My DH used to be kind of like that, too (like hiding/not participating when I had friends over). It kind of came to a head though since we have so many kids and I need his help with them all the time, pretty much. And he ended up finally seeing his doctor and going on an antidepressant, and he doesn't so stuff like that anymore. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
I had a busy weekend! Saturday morning I drove 2 hours to my parents' house to pick up the girls after their week away. We spent the day out on the boat and then my sister and I went to go see The Chicks that night. It was such a fun concert! The girls and I drove home Sunday morning and I brought them back to their dad. I spent the rest of the day poking around Target, Home Goods, etc... to pick up little things for the house. Now that we're settled in I feel like I can focus on the little decor stuff and fill in the blank spaces. I found some really fun stuff for the girls' bathroom! I'm excited to get it all set up before the come back here and surprise them with it.
This week is an in-office week for me, so it'll be a busy one.
Great weekend, but exhausting. We were able to sit out at the house and grill last night, but I'm still craving some downtime.
Mom texted that she want to make dd biscuits and gravy before she leaves on the 16th. Problem being, dd won't go without me. Mom doesn't ask how anyone is doing and basically talks nonstop about whatever she's got going on the entire time. Both kids avoid her. She talks at you and you are exhausted after an hour. She does this biscuit and gravy thing because they liked it as toddlers, she never really wanted to know much about them later.
But dd closes 3 days this week. I work late Thursday. Friday I'm sure she will have something going on. Saturday we are have a barbecue for her with friends. Sunday she requested chili as her meal before she leaves and Monday and Tuesday I predict chaos. We've got a lot going on to drop things for people who never had much interest in fitting in to our lives. Instead of the other way around.
On a good note, I talked ds down from a fancy new phone on installments that the att store was trying to sell him to a sensible refurbished one bought straight out, so maybe he's learning budgets and maturity.
Post by librarychica on Aug 7, 2023 17:28:23 GMT -5
The long weekend at the beach was a bit rocky — even hotter than usually expected in august, my dad has thrown his back out, my brother is just sometimes difficult and requires a lot of grace — but overall we had a good time. I’m glad that it was only 3 days though.
My parents seem very old all of a sudden, especially my dad, who is 70. I want to leave Florida but I also don’t want to leave. So many feelings.
Speaking of feelings, DD, 8, had a friend sleepover for the first time ever and she didn’t love it. Much building, much disappoint. I related because I often thought at sleepovers or when I had friends over “okay, I’m ready for sleep, all y’all can leave now.” She also said her friend gets bored every 15 minutes and “that’s just tiring, mama.” This is kind of ironic because she is definitely the most go-go-go Em member of our immediate family.
I loved sleepovers as a kid but in hindsight just way too many of them.
I don’t really like them now as a parent because DD just doesn’t get enough sleep. It’s not worth it to do on a regular basis. I wanted to do a sleepover once for each kid so the milestone was achieved but I have no desire to do anymore.
I loved sleepovers as a kid but in hindsight just way too many of them.
I don’t really like them now as a parent because DD just doesn’t get enough sleep. It’s not worth it to do on a regular basis. I wanted to do a sleepover once for each kid so the milestone was achieved but I have no desire to do anymore.
Right? I also did way too many. Though mainly we do just one friend visiting at a time, not planned parties. That’s how it was for me as a kid too. Once in middle school I didn’t go home for well over a week. Possibly two. I just road my bike off one day and called nightly to confirm I was still at so-and-so’s house.
OTOH H’s parents didn’t allow sleepovers at all. So there is like a cultural sleepover mismatch in this household. I will say my middle schooler handles then much better than the 8yo who thinks she is a middle schooler.
I loved sleepovers as a kid but in hindsight just way too many of them.
I don’t really like them now as a parent because DD just doesn’t get enough sleep. It’s not worth it to do on a regular basis. I wanted to do a sleepover once for each kid so the milestone was achieved but I have no desire to do anymore.
Right? I also did way too many. Though mainly we do just one friend visiting at a time, not planned parties. That’s how it was for me as a kid too. Once in middle school I didn’t go home for well over a week. Possibly two. I just road my bike off one day and called nightly to confirm I was still at so-and-so’s house.
OTOH H’s parents didn’t allow sleepovers at all. So there is like a cultural sleepover mismatch in this household. I will say my middle schooler handles then much better than the 8yo who thinks she is a middle schooler.
My mom wouldn’t let me go for a week. Weekends only especially during the school year. But both nights (one at my house and one at theirs) almost every weekend is still over 100 sleepovers a year!
My relaxing Monday ended with a 10pm call of all 3 of my family members crying and screaming at each other and me. Apparently they lost a kayak in some bad weather. The kids were crying about that while DH was yelling that the camper was dirty. It took 30 minutes of calming the kids and telling DH to STFU before everyone calmed down.
I woke up with a migraine this morning since I didn't sleep and there are storms rolling through, so the barometric pressure is all over the place. I took the dog out, and he was howling because he couldn't poop... so I'm now in my backyard, in PJs and rubber gloves with the garden hose trying to dislodge a stuck piece of poop. He apparently ate one of his toys and it caused things to get blocked up.
I've already had another phone call of crying DD2 because she didn't sleep well after being all upset last night. At this point, I'd really just prefer to pick her up because I'm tired of getting calls and texts from both kids about fights with each other and with DH, DH forgetting to get them dinner, etc. But there are terrible storms (including a tornado watch) between me and them. So I really can't get there.
Here's hoping the day gets better... I don't think it can do downhill from digging poop out of my dog's butthole, but who really knows.
mae0111, Good Lord!! Your husband should have handled the situation last night calmly and kept you out of it. I'd be so mad if my staycation got interrupted over bad weather, a lost kayak or anything else of which I had no control.
mae0111, I think next year you need to set boundaries on what warrants a phone call or text message to you. You can't fix or help with any of that and you 100% shouldn't go rescue them. It isn't like your girls are little and can't fend for themselves if needed.
sdlaura, we very seldom have company. My siblings will stop by and drop stuff off and maybe stay 30 minutes or stop and pick DD up, but they don't come over to hang unless DH is out of town. I think the last time we had someone at the house for more than an hour was when DD had a friend over for a sleepover last summer. Before that it was well before COVID. Even our friends in Central OR don't care to come to see us but that is more because the couple times they have come our weather has been crap.
I had a long night because the neighbors decided to light off 1 firework before they went to bed at 10:30. This upset the dog and we were all up off and on all night. I don't blame the dog because it is scary to have something explode over your house that causes the windows to shake.
186momx, I think next year there will be no camping trip. I think he will be selling the camper and I will just escape to the beach house, or send them there for him to manage. There's an issue every year. It's never smooth, no one comes home happy, and I really don't get much of a rest since I'm still refereeing via text and phone.
We’re in our last 3 days of summer vacay. I have the week off work. I had planned to take the kids to Six Flags on Monday, Great America today, and to DH’s campus on Wednesday (practically an amusement park in itself).. I’m currently very glad I didn’t tell the kids the plan in advance. We had a great time at Six Flags yesterday, but my body just can’t handle the rides the way it used to. So instead we’re at a trampoline park, will grab lunch at the new Lazy Dog, and possibly go bowling.
Class assignments came out yesterday - neither kid got the teacher they wanted, but they’re not the least bit upset. DD thankfully didn’t get the teacher she DIDN’T want - thankfully because I didn’t want her either! DS has several friends in his class, DD is being separated from every friend she had last year. It’s interesting to see how I find out who is in what class - for DS, it was a flurry of texts from parents and our classroom WhatsApp thread, for DD, it’s her texting friends directly on messenger. She’s like a person now and not just a kid. Wah. And yay!
mae0111, this sounds like something that would happen to me if my H took the kids camping and I stayed at home (which I would love to do!)
But yeah....that's not fun at all for mom to get stressful phone calls; it pretty much ruins your mood because hard to forget especially when it involves your kids!