We had a good weekend! The kids and I headed to the beach house after school on Friday afternoon - DH was already there. We had a quiet night on Friday night - the kids were tired from their first partial week of school. Saturday morning DH and I went for a long walk with the dog, then we all went to the beach for a few hours. Came back and the kids swam in the pool for a while, then DH and I closed the pool when they finished up. Grilled and hung out Saturday evening, played board games, and went to bed early. We drove home on Sunday mid-morning to avoid a parade and to make sure that the kids were ready for school today.
It's the first "real" week of school. Full day of classes, then sports, then piano lessons. This week they'll have school sports, rec sports, club sports, therapy, piano, HOMEWORK. I'm buckling in for a bumpy ride this week. We have back to school night tomorrow for DD2, and next week for DD1. September is insane.
Our biggest event of the year is coming up in less than 2 weeks. I'm scrambling to finish signage and get everything to the printer. The woman that runs the event is very pregnant and has been very sick for the entire pregnancy. I'm trying to help, but I'm not getting all of the info that I need. I was really trying to do everything I could to not make this a scramble, but... it's going to be a scramble.
I really wanted a quiet weekend... Friday-DD had 3 dental appointments and I had to deal with excusing her from school and then returning her to school and it was a nightmare. I feel like my kid is going to prison between the very loud embarrassing call button, the long ass form to fill out on who/what/why/when. I got her back to school in time for me to drive directly to my acupuncture appointment which ran long because he has a teaching student. I got home the same time DD did from school and then it was eat and rush her to practice. DH was a jerk and couldn't figure out why I didn't do anything on my day off. Saturday-DH played golf most of the day. DD and I vegged on the couch reading/watching TV while I dealt with laundry. We also baked cookies, made bread, canned peaches, and cooked dinner. Sunday-we made and canned salsa and DD cooked roast with carrots and onions for dinner.
All weekend DH was upset because we didn't get anything done. My counters are full of canned foods that we prepared and did. But we did nothing all weekend.
Remember that year long science project...it is for the science fair in June. They actually don't get the instructions until November. DD has a thousand thoughts and wants to get on it now and be done with it before the 1st of the year. Her reason is Jan-April is stressful time and she doesn't want it adding to the stress. She wants to make a programable robot that mixes and pours the chemicals together to make a volcano erupt. Anyone know a good kit for robots as I'm not an engineer and have no clue where to steer her towards.
Saturday DS had an audition. I spent the morning running lines with him and then chilled while he was in the audition until the parent meeting. Afterward we saw blue beetle which was interesting. Not a bad movie but not a good one either?
Speaking of not doing anything, Sunday I did laundry and went through all the kids shoes so I could donate the ones that don't fit, and in the process went through a bunch of other stuff that can be donated or didn't need to be downstairs in the living room. Speaking of not getting anything done, I went through a lot of stuff and got a couple large bags of donation together to go out, and put a ton of stuff away... but I personally think it looks like I did nothing, which is super annoying.
Thursday we saw Wait Wait Don't Tell me. Friday I had a concert. I took Friday off and napped until noon. It was glorious/ needed. I was sick the week before and kept waking up at 5am, so this was amazing.
Saturday was soccer tournament. They went to the championship and got runner up. I was told the refs were horrible and called 4 fouls which mean penalty shots against us. There is no way that we played that much rougher than the other team, so basically they were calling on us and not the other team at all. The coach got kicked out that's how bad it was. And the coach can usually keep his cool 99% of the time which shows it was rough. DD is a flipping Rockstar. She crushed it. She played amazing.
DS had his first game. He has 20 players on his team which is way too many but the games are now the full 90 minutes and they rotated them half and half so he still got to play 45 minutes which isn't bad considering in rec he probably played about the same. I think rec was 60 minutes total. There are some problems with this club but it's our first year and DS likes it so we are just rolling with it. The problem being too many players and no tournaments, but I am secretly relieved that he hasn't started tournaments yet, so we shall see how it goes. Also, I am OK that he doesn't have to play 80 minutes since he isn't used to it yet. My tone might change as the season progresses.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 11, 2023 13:09:59 GMT -5
Yesterday didn't go as planned but for the most part our weekend was good. Beau waited until Saturday morning to birthday shop for his grandson. It all worked out, but meant we spent the morning shopping before the birthday party. A bunch of people had RSVP'd to the party but bailed at the last minute, including Beau's DIL's mom, so that bummed her out for the party. But this is the 3rd birthday party for his grandson that I've been to, and her mom has only showed up to 1, and her mom is generally a flake, so I wasn't surprised. After the party, we loaded up our bikes and gear so we could go riding Sunday. But after, we went to a brewery and apparently three ciders is too much for me now. I woke up Sunday feeling terrible, threw up a few times and laid in bed for most of the morning. By the time I was feeling better, Beau was into watching football, so we decided to hang out and have a lazy day.
This week is busy at work since I'm covering for my coworker while she's out for her lumpectomy. Almost half of our 50 person work unit is off for training or other things this week, so it's already been tricky this morning finding answers to off the wall questions from my clients. I haven't been into the office in months but I'm supposed to go in on Wednesday. Beau and I will hit the gym and maybe go riding one night after work to make up for not going yesterday.
Post by twinmomma on Sept 11, 2023 13:28:38 GMT -5
The weekend went well. The kids were very into their movie making project and filmed a bunch of scenes. I'm so grateful we have a finished basement for them to do these things in now! They had a green screen up, were painting set projects, writing a script, and storyboarding on the ipad. It was pretty impressive! I love that it's a creative group project that the three of them collaborate on.
On Sunday my college friends came over for lunch and it was so good to catch up! The kids had fun visiting too. Theses are all friends I know from theater, so they were asking them all kinds of questions about performing.
I also got a ton of homework done. I was feeling pretty confident in my excel abilities until I hit the second half of my accounting spreadsheet assignment and got completely lost. I had to close it and take a break, so I'll be back to that tonight.
I'm also really proud of DH and I - we both committed to doing the Peloton more regularly and have been keeping up with it! We both rode over the weekend like we said we would.
mustardseed2007, my 6 tomato plants are doing well. I actually have enough canned that I don't need to do anymore. My dad is coming by after work and is picking what I have ripe since his plants aren't doing great. I've also told my neighbor I don't need or want anymore tomatoes from his yard. If you look at my cabinets, you can see I've been a busy ant but the rest of the house/yard looking like nothing has been done for weeks.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 11, 2023 14:02:53 GMT -5
DS had hockey evaluations this weekend, so DS and we were all stressed. DS thought he did well on Saturday, then found out Saturday night that he got placed 2 tiers lower than what he wanted and wasn't with any of his former teammates. Cried Saturday night, voluntarily refrained from any screen time on Sunday morning so that he'd be focused for Sunday's evaluations. One of the Dads texted DH Sunday night to see if anyone wanted to go for a drink because it was such a stressful weekend for everyone - and 9 dads went! We have 2 more evaluation games next weekend before this is all done. To put this into context - DS is 11. I both love and loath youth sports.
traveltheworld - good luck to you all through the rest of the evaluations!! I’m in the pick up line right now with a perfect view of field hockey and soccer tryouts and I’m chewing my nails to bits! I don’t even know why - they should both be placed on the B teams… both WANT to be on the B teams… it’s no cut with only 2 options… it’s fine!! I’m just crazy!! 😂
sandandsea, I can tell you that none of my OB's would have told me to "be completely stress free" and quit my job, especially a job that is a desk job. It sounds like she didn't want to continue working there and made up the "per my doctor" part.
The maternity leave is trickier because if she quit before having the baby then theoretically she loses health insurance to have the baby and check ups afterwards. Is quitting during maternity leave better than after? Both choices suck for the employer.
Post by sandandsea on Sept 11, 2023 15:17:34 GMT -5
Yeah the bigger problem here is neither are really team players who care about the rest of their team members, which is unfortunate. They are both experienced and know the job and what it entails (busy season, you’re in tax!) so it’s disappointing they would abandon their teams during this time when they know it’s very unprofessional in this industry.
I’m annoyed but viewing both as favorable exits at this point.
sandandsea, that sucks especially since S Corp and partnership returns are due Friday. Sending you giant hugs. traveltheworld, 4 different tryout! That is insane and way too much pressure for youth sports. mae0111, DD has been a wreck too. Between school kid drama, gymnastics drama, being bored at school with review, and just being a tween I'm ready to ship her to Mars.
This weekend was nuts but fun. Included a flag football game, 3 soccer games, 3 softball games, a baseball game, a retirement party, and the Sunday night start of a work conference for me. Phew! It's also unseasonably warm and humid here right now (though I imagine none of you will feel super sorry for us that it was a high in the 80s and humid here after what most of the country has dealt with this summer).
It was great to celebrate DS2 and DS3's daycare provider as she retires. I was just going to hold the party at a park, but ran into one of the other former daycare moms at OrangeTheory and she offered to host at her incredible new house. Complete with pool, waterslide, playhouse, trampoline, sports court....that definitely made it easy to entertain the kids.
sandandsea I do worry that I scarred my kid who I was expecting right when the world shut down and I had a crazy job and no childcare and was 6 months pregnant...he did come a month early, I think from stress. But I think there's a big gap between that and completely stress free - that's a little crazy. What about when it's her second kid? There's no way to remove stress when you're already parenting.
DD had her first games yesterday with her new travel softball team. We and she were worried she'd be a little out of her depth but she did well, so that was cool. DS1's teams lost a soccer game 10-0 Saturday and won a baseball game 15-2 Sunday, so that was a good lesson in how he needs to be gracious on both ends.
Post by librarychica on Sept 11, 2023 21:24:45 GMT -5
186momx, that’s a pretty ambitious science experiment! Robots are tricky things. Would she be open to scaling back a bit? Ozobots or Makebot are good for programming to stay within mazes, navigate without falling off tables, etc. There are also a lot of guided projects available for them. Programming a robot for what’s basically chemistry could be a complicated and expensive endeavor, especially since most kit robots are designed to do things like follow paths.
We had a pleasant weekend. I got a ton of deep cleaning done, we went and visited my brother’s new cat, DD2 and her friend and I made cake pops, DD1 and H found a new love for YouTube metal casting videos? This week is very busy. Work is pretty busy, elementary open house and book fair volunteering commitments, I want to try and go to an alumni art event with DD1 at my alma mater — we will see if we make it, H is working late and at customer sites several nights this week, and DD2 has a follow up with the orthopedist and auditions for school drama club. Then DD1 and I have yet more volunteering commitments — though this one is a lake cleanup via kayak so at least the fun kind. H and I are going to need a couple drinks by the time Saturday afternoon hits
I’m speaking a conference in the fall, though, and I’m nearly finished with my talk! A full month ahead of the deadline! Idk, this has never happened before. Go me.
Saturday I spent time with my parents & two local sisters. Sunday morning I ran errands with my twin sister.
DS(7) started feeling sick Sunday evening. Sunday night was rough. I went off to work with a vat of coffee because sleeping and dealing with a sick kid don't go together*. H dealt with all the barfing while WFH yesterday. He said all in all it wasn't too awful. DS was so low energy and H was able to be pretty productive.
*H and I split nights DS is sick. H takes the 9pm-2am shift and I get the 2am-7am shift. That way we both get 5ish hours of sleep.
Last weekend was low key since everyone is still getting used to the school schedule. On Friday, I had to go on a last minute customer visit which was 3 hours one-way by car. It turned out to be a bust since the data we went to collect was messed up. It made for a really long and frustrating day (6am - 9pm). On Saturday, DD, DS1 and I went to taekwondo since we missed classes during the week due to open house at their schools. Then we came home and lounged until dinner time. We met my parents for dinner. On Sunday, we went to Target for something to do. DD and DS1 each have a book called "Wreck this Journal." DH found an old book for DS2 to destroy. The kids worked all afternoon to do the crazy things in the book. I could hear giggles all around the house. Nothing too crazy going on this week. Just the usual school and taekwondo. The boys are getting haircuts on Friday and I'm hoping we can get to community day on Saturday. The kids have been begging to ride bikes at the park so that might be on Sunday. The weather is finally getting more fall-like here - mid 70s during the day and in the 50s at night. I can't wait to turn off the AC tomorrow.
librarychica, good to know. I told her she needs it approved by her teacher first and I'm really hoping her teacher helps her tone it down to make it more realistic. Maybe a robot that goes through a maze to hit a button to activate the volcano might be a better idea. Her friends think she has lost her mind.
Totally random but I was just reminded by our public library that they offer free online tutoring for anyone who hold a library card. I think DD might need that for this project.
186momx, we have a private tutor for DS, and I anticipate this for a very long time. Actually his executive function has gotten better this year, but he still doesn't complete ALL the assignment and needs help in subject matter and just generally staying on top of everything. Since I spent an hour doing 7th grade advanced math with him last night, it is well worth the money. She will spend another hour on it on Wednesday. Might be an option if the public library thing is not substantial enough.
I've learned that I had totally forgotten probability and interest rate calculations along with a plethora of other random math stuff.
Post by campermom on Sept 12, 2023 20:36:09 GMT -5
ExH violated the court order that was put in place a month ago, twice so far. I’ve been dealing w that.
I’m working really hard to not be so affected by these things. Money is one thing but I can’t ignore some of this-the direct impact on kids.
PDQ Now that he’s not able to read my texts and no longer has access to me in that way, he’s really reaching.
He will text me the most ridiculous nonsense-just to engage. It’s becoming less emotion-provoking and more…pathetic. These things are easier to ignore. It’s almost satisfying to see him so uncomfortable.
Also boyfriend is planning a weekend getaway to Jamaica in the winter.