The weekend is a blur and it's not even started. Tomorrow I have to go to our picnic grounds to set up for our annual church picnic. I will be covered in chicken and mutton before it's over. I have to go home and try to look amazing for my high school reunion that night. I'm going with a friend. Dh is going to an airshow and bed early because he gets up at 3:30 am to barbecue for the picnic.
Sunday is the actual picnic where I still prep and run the cake stand. Sunday afternoon I will collapse in a lawn chair with a drink.
Dd is living her best life at a concert tonight and a home game tomorrow. Ds is also living his best life since he's been at the beach the last 2 weekends visiting his girlfriend.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 15, 2023 8:29:04 GMT -5
My dad has been in the hospital. He went in for cephalitis caused by shingles and he's now been there a month. Yesterday he went into ICU. He has developed really bad case of disorientation, not knowing who he is...heck it's dementia. The only question is, is it hospital dimentia or is it because of something. CT scan is clear, he cant' have an MRI bc his pacemaker isn't compatible. He may have meningitis although they think not. He may have something chemical going on, or it could just be hospital dimentia. It's really taking a toll and I or my sister have had to be at his side at almost all times.
Yesterday he went into ICU and I'm relieved because he'll have closer nurse care. But I'm also freaking out because they can't seem to get him stable to get him out which is what he I guess needs if its hospital dementia but it's...really hard. 2 days ago he knew who I was and although he said the year was 1923 I think he was not surprised to hear it was 2023. He didn't realize he was in the hospital until the doctor told them and then he goes "still?" Yeah buddy. That's how we all feel. Yesterday was worse, yesterday he thought I was his mother.
I'm leaving tonight to go on a mother daughter camp out. I think I am still going because I'll be able to go to the hospital today and sunday. I'll just miss saturday. But I just hope nothing further drastic happens while I'm gone.
mustardseed2007, I'm so sorry! I hope they're able to give you some answers soon and your dad starts feeling better. That sounds really scary!
My weekend is all homework, all the time. We have no kids this weekend so I need to get ahead on some papers while I can. I'm also planning to put up all my fall decor and I can't wait! It'll be a good brain break for me between all the spreadsheets and papers.
Tomorrow my cousin's wife is hosting a 50th birthday party for him and DH is catering so I'll attend too to visit family and hang out. It's kind of awkward, because no one else in my immediate family was invited. I assumed my parents would at least be there, but nope. It's going to mainly be my cousin's friends. I only got the invite because they hired DH to do the food and bar. I'll probably just end up helping serve and bus to avoid too much awkward small talk with random strangers.
This week has been weird. DS has been having a great year at school. But on Wednesday, the counselor called, saying DS said he was hearing voices telling him to hurt someone. Which obviously freaked everyone the F out. Counselor recommended we take him to the children’s hospital ER. Called his pediatrician. She agreed. So I pick him up and he seems.. fine. Normal. Wtf. He’s made dramatic statements before so he could go home, but never anything about voices. I had asked the counselor if it could be that. She said she didn’t think so.
DH’s car was in the shop. He had mine, at the grocery store. So I called him a bazillion times. He wasn’t picking up. I texted him I needed to go get DS and why and for him to drop what he was doing and come home. He takes his sweet time, but is home in about 15 minutes.
After I got DS, and he seemed perfectly fine, in the hospital parking garage, I asked him, “What do these voices sound like? Like a man or woman or does it just sound like your voice that’s always in your head?” He said “It’s the voice that’s always in my head.” So we check into the ER because now his school isn’t going to take him back without something clearing him from being a danger. The ER nurse asked him more about the voices. Who did they want you to hurt? His teacher. Did his teacher do anything mean or was anyone mean to him? Well, Avery was sitting on a cushion and there was another cushion but his teacher wouldn’t let him sit on it.
Y’all. My super mellow autistic kid didn’t know what it felt like to be so mad that he wanted to hit someone. The “voice” was literally his thoughts that he wished he could hit his teacher, but because he had never felt that, he thought he was losing his mind. It was our first occasion of DS not being able to discern his own emotions because of the autism. But good God I was terrified. So we were released to follow up at his normal therapy appointment to help him identify his emotions and how they feel in his body and his brain.
Busy day/weekend ahead: I go online to get work done early. Got caught up, took the dog for a walk where he promptly rolled in something nasty wild animal poop or something) so went home and gave the dog a bath (he stunk so bad)
Caught up on emails again.
Made turkey meatballs and tossed into the crock pot. I plan to make up some pasta shortly
Caught up on emails again. lol
Then I'm leaving early to go to DS2's cross country meet and then rush to DS1 football game. Tomorrow is DS2 17th birthday! Watching the weather to see if we can go to dinner. I am working my second job Sunday.
mustardseed2007 and mommyatty, you've got a lot going on. I hope things calm down with good results soon.
It was a long week full of a lot of emotions in my house. I popped off on Wednesday night because I had to work late and no one did one single thing that they were supposed to do, including DH. It's becoming increasingly more exhausting to manage my neurodiverse kids, and DH just can't seem to comprehend that it's not helpful if I have to give him very specific instructions to "help".
BUT...
DD2 was so happy when she came home from school yesterday. She sat down with her Macbook and started working on her "vision board" that her teacher had discussed with them I guess? She worked happily for over an hour, and only stopped because it was time to go to soccer. She's very excited about her science class this year - a subject that she's always hated at school because it was all reading and worksheet. This year the teacher will stage a crime scene and the class has to process it. She's just thrilled.
DD1 was very concerned about her session at the center for learning diversity - didn't want to be labeled. BUT... she had a great time, and it was really helpful. She has a quiz on Monday on material that was supposed to be covered in 4th grade, but COVID hit and they went home and never really covered it... so she scrambled to learn it and went from getting a 30% on her first practice quiz to 100% on the latest one. She dove in to field hockey with both feet and is having a ball. I'm just really proud of her.
This weekend is a little weird. There is a hurricane off the coast, so we are expecting rain and high winds - tropical storm level. DH left to go to the beach house to just secure everything, which was not really the plan, leaving me to deal with a whole pile of stuff here that I didn't anticipate dealing with today. The wind and rain is supposed to be much worse there than here, so he wants to make sure there's no damage and plans to ride out the storm there. The storm kind of puts a lot up in the air. DD2 is supposed to have soccer tomorrow and Sunday - and while the weather is supposed to be OK on Sunday, the field may very well be underwater. The kids want to have friends over, but I don't know how driving will be, will there be debris in the road, will we have power, etc.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 15, 2023 10:38:06 GMT -5
mustardseed2007, I'm sorry! My grandma used to get UTI's that would make her severely disoriented, so hopefully it's something as simple as that.
mommyatty, I'm sorry you had to go through that. How scary.
Beau's son called last night to tell him they're expecting their 3rd baby. I had all the emotions last night and some continued into today. The pee stick isn't even dry and they're telling everyone tomorrow at their 2nd son's first birthday party. I had a couple losses, so it bothers me when people share their news so early. She's an AW, so even if the worst case scenario were to happen, she would love the attention. They also act like their kids are a nuisance half the time by getting in the way of their activities and social life and they drop them off with family constantly. His son is finally getting to a good place financially and was starting to pay off debt so he could buy Beau's house. But I had to listen to them for an hour talk about adding on to the house, buying vehicles to haul the kids around, etc, and all I could wonder is how much this was going to cost Beau. I'm trying to be happy for them and Beau who is ecstatic, but it's hard.
We have DS this weekend and the only thing planned so far is Beau's grandson's first birthday party. I'm tired from work more than usual this week and just want to relax.
My morning went like this. Cat saunters his butt all over mewing, can't decide what he wants. Wants to go outside, decides nope too cold. Mews some more. Finally decides to go outside. Immediately becomes a nuisance, walks as slow as possible across the road at the stop sign (we are at a 4 way stop). Hangs out still in the road. Meanwhile, I'm waiting for the bus, and afraid the bus will hit him, so I bring him back inside. At this point the dog was let out of the crate, and likes to chase the cat. Cat doesn't seem to care that the dog chases him anymore? Saunters his orange butt around some more without a care for his life. Goes upstairs, mews goes downstairs mews. Finally he stopped when I gave him so much attention that he started swatting at me. I have pictures of their staring contest. I also forgot to wake DD up early to shower so then she was mad, but she is mad every morning since she inherited my cheerful morning disposition.
I haven't shared here but dad has been in the hospital 4 times since April all for very short stays, overnight or just that day. He's really going downhill, and I really would have liked to have seen him if my mom (who's also going downhill but in a different way) hadn't thrown a fit. My sister saw him and said he is a mess.
mustardseed2007, mommyatty, that sucks. Keep slogging through and doing what's best for your families, but remember to take care of yourselves in the process.
Our weekends keep being front loaded. Fridays we have at least two kid activities (three this weekend), and Saturday's is a mad dash between soccer and ice skating. By the time Sundays roll around, neither DH or I want to do much of anything, so we've just been hunkering down, much to my kids' distaste.
It will get a little easier after this week, since DD's skating will move to Wednesday, and once we make it through soccer season, Fridays will be free and Saturdays will just be time at the rink. I dream of those days.
We have another crazy sports weekend, but after this weekend we only have one day of softball per weekend for like the next month.
DD has a flag football game at 7:40 pm tonight, and then a softball tournament a little over an hour away all weekend. DH and DD have to leave at 5:45 am tomorrow for games at 8, 9:45, and 11:30. Then there will be another two games Sunday afternoon at times that depend on their seeding. She’ll miss her soccer game and football pictures Saturday, so we’ll just have soccer games for DS1 and DS2.
Sunday DS1 is going to miss his baseball game to go to his classmate’s birthday party. They rented a big inflatable water slide thing. And I’ll probably be the one to go to the softball games with DD Sunday. The venue where they’re playing looks super cool - it’s called Big League Dreams and the fields are deigned to replicate major league parks. We’ve never been to a kids’ sporting event where spectators have to pay to get in before. I guess they also serve/sell alcohol? Should be interesting.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 15, 2023 23:04:26 GMT -5
We'll continue with hockey evaluations this weekend. So it'll be both fun and stressful. DS, who has always had trouble with friendship, invited 2 boys to come play tomorrow. I was quite surprised; texted the moms and they are actually coming! I'm really excited for DS.
Well this hurricane/major tropical storm was a bust. It’s not even windy here, and it’s barely raining. But DH has sent me some really cool videos and photos of the beach near our house. I will try to post if I can figure it out.
mustardseed2007 and mommyatty big hugs. Keep doing what is best for you and your family. Hopefully things calms down soon.
It was a busy week at work and a few extended family things happened. My dad had knee replacement surgery last week. Things seemed fine until Tuesday. Then his knee swelled and appeared to be infected. He got on the right antibiotics but couldn't see his surgeon until Friday...my parents had to make a 7+ hour drive to the city where his surgeon is. (All flights were full.) H works with orthopedic surgeons and knows how severe these types of infections can get, so we were rather nervous until we got the report that my dad's knee was healing okay, no sign of infection and the antibiotics were working, if they were needed at all. Uggnnn
On a happier note, my parents closed on a condo in a retirement community in my hometown. They've lived in my childhood home for 39 years. It's huge and getting to be too .much for them to take care of. Next challenge, getting them to get rid of things... I may be seeking advice. More later.
My sister's home is way too small, on the other hand. She closed on a much larger home in a great neighborhood yesterday!
This weekend is typical. A work project for me to finish, a few kids activities. I solo parent tomorrow while h is at a ski patrol training.
Post by librarychica on Sept 16, 2023 11:22:40 GMT -5
DD1 and I started the day off with a sweaty stinky lake cleanup. We hauled out two buckets of trash in only an hour. DD even pulled out a bucket, which was covered in slime and we stuck more trash in that. A couple of guys worked together to pull an entire decomposing tarp. People are pigs.
While we did this H took ten younger daughter out for breakfast. Lucky duck!
Not much on the schedule for the rest of the weekend. Chores, we are getting a new fridge so prep for that, H wants to repair some damaged drywall. Probably some family movies.