Are kitchen refreshes really expensive if you keep the layout the same? We've had multiple issues with our cabinets since we moved in, and while I was gone last week one of the drawers completely separated the front part from the rest of it. We can probably glue it back together, but part of it had already been glued once within the last year so I don't really expect that to hold forever. We've also glued another similar drawer, and have had issues with the hinges of another cabinet that we were able to replace but since they were installed a little off, I have a feeling that's going to be a frequent issue too.
I'm starting to think replacement may end up being sooner rather than later - they look fine but are not good quality and I have no idea how old they are. I'd just want to replace the cabinets, countertops, and sink - we don't need appliances and the floors were done last year. I guess while we're at it we could add a backsplash, but that's not totally necessary. It's a small kitchen so I'm hoping in the ballpark of 10k? But I really have no clue and should start looking into it.
My random is that my dad is in the hospital and his kidney's are failing. Dialysis wasn't really working and they've figured out it's likely autoimmune. They are doing a biopsy today and should know more soon. I can tell by his voice he's really scared.
My relationship with my dad is complicated and he hasn't always been supportive of my health stuff. I'm worried for him of course but I don't know. He's a "what's wrong with you NOW?" sort of person so I have empathy but only so much.
Another question - are there any kid texting apps that don't require an iPhone? My nephew is 9 and has started texting his mom and grandma and a few select friends through his iPad. My sister understandably has him locked down so that he can only text those numbers, but we tried to add me and realized we couldn't because it is iMessage and I have an android. I think she'd be open to adding another app that can include me IF it is really secure and could only be used to text me (and anyone else they want with an android, I guess). I don't have any Apple products and don't plan to buy any, so I'd really like to find something to help us keep in touch! Or is there some workaround with iMessage that I'm not finding?
Post by maudefindlay on Oct 5, 2023 8:52:42 GMT -5
wildrice I let DD use FB messenger kids. She does not have her own FB account, it's all set up thru me and I approve all friends and if she wants to friend anyone it is thru me and request is sent to that kid's parent for approval. I get weekly updates on who she messages and I can see messages. She can also do video calls thru it. I have controls too to lock down what hours she can use the app and when it is to be turned off.
Another question - are there any kid texting apps that don't require an iPhone? My nephew is 9 and has started texting his mom and grandma and a few select friends through his iPad. My sister understandably has him locked down so that he can only text those numbers, but we tried to add me and realized we couldn't because it is iMessage and I have an android. I think she'd be open to adding another app that can include me IF it is really secure and could only be used to text me (and anyone else they want with an android, I guess). I don't have any Apple products and don't plan to buy any, so I'd really like to find something to help us keep in touch! Or is there some workaround with iMessage that I'm not finding?
If you use Facebook messenger, she can sign him up for kids messenger and you can communicate through that. That's how my DD communicated with my parents and me before she got a phone.
shauni27, I broke my big toe years ago and I can STILL remember how much it hurt, like I cried so much. It was gross but I had major relief when the dr burned a hole in my nail to relieve some of the pressure. It was terrible and I'm sorry you're hurting.
It feels like fall today! It's chilly! And rainy! We had the AC on the last few days so it feels so nice to have the windows open. I love Fall.
Last night, I found out DS1 is planning on asking a girl to HOCO. He's doing a one of those invites after her game. I guess "she probably knows" he's going to ask. He was asking her friend for ideas and they have been talking a lot on snap and in person. I hope she says yes.... eeekkk
I'm so surprised. This is my son that used to have Selective mutism. Never imagined he'd do something like that
Another question - are there any kid texting apps that don't require an iPhone? My nephew is 9 and has started texting his mom and grandma and a few select friends through his iPad. My sister understandably has him locked down so that he can only text those numbers, but we tried to add me and realized we couldn't because it is iMessage and I have an android. I think she'd be open to adding another app that can include me IF it is really secure and could only be used to text me (and anyone else they want with an android, I guess). I don't have any Apple products and don't plan to buy any, so I'd really like to find something to help us keep in touch! Or is there some workaround with iMessage that I'm not finding?
If you use Facebook messenger, she can sign him up for kids messenger and you can communicate through that. That's how my DD communicated with my parents and me before she got a phone.
We use the same. It's nice because the grown up has to approve folks before they can communicate.
Post by blondemoment123 on Oct 5, 2023 9:12:49 GMT -5
DS's school had an unannounced lockdown practice yesterday. All I saw on my email when I glanced at is was "lockdown" and my heart sank. I hate this is the reality we live in.
And I feel bad because this is BEC territory, but our contractor is driving me crazy because he insists he want to be respectful of me and the house, so he knocks on the door every morning and makes me come answer it. Please don't make me come answer the door and say good morning and engage in small talk every day. Please, just come in and do what you need to do.
He's been here 6 days a week for 2.5 months now. I said to H that I feel like we have a roommate. And as an introvert I'm very over feeling like I have no privacy or personal space to recharge.
Sorry, that turned into a novel!
We are on week 4. I thought all the hiccups would come early, but all the little details personalizing the space aren't quite working out and I'm frustrated. They're supposed to be finished tomorrow but there's no way.
I bought lighting and ordered custom counter chairs and now the lighting isn't working out and I cannot find a single semi-flush light/small pendant combo I like and I feel like I've looked everywhere.
I'm sick of living in a construction site with dust everywhere, no space to walk and everything dumped on open spaces.
Are kitchen refreshes really expensive if you keep the layout the same? We've had multiple issues with our cabinets since we moved in, and while I was gone last week one of the drawers completely separated the front part from the rest of it. We can probably glue it back together, but part of it had already been glued once within the last year so I don't really expect that to hold forever. We've also glued another similar drawer, and have had issues with the hinges of another cabinet that we were able to replace but since they were installed a little off, I have a feeling that's going to be a frequent issue too.
I'm starting to think replacement may end up being sooner rather than later - they look fine but are not good quality and I have no idea how old they are. I'd just want to replace the cabinets, countertops, and sink - we don't need appliances and the floors were done last year. I guess while we're at it we could add a backsplash, but that's not totally necessary. It's a small kitchen so I'm hoping in the ballpark of 10k? But I really have no clue and should start looking into it.
Based on my renovation, I'd say for what you want, you're probably closer to 15k-20k.
And I feel bad because this is BEC territory, but our contractor is driving me crazy because he insists he want to be respectful of me and the house, so he knocks on the door every morning and makes me come answer it. Please don't make me come answer the door and say good morning and engage in small talk every day. Please, just come in and do what you need to do.
He's been here 6 days a week for 2.5 months now. I said to H that I feel like we have a roommate. And as an introvert I'm very over feeling like I have no privacy or personal space to recharge.
Sorry, that turned into a novel!
We are on week 4. I thought all the hiccups would come early, but all the little details personalizing the space aren't quite working out and I'm frustrated. They're supposed to be finished tomorrow but there's no way.
I bought lighting and ordered custom counter chairs and now the lighting isn't working out and I cannot find a single semi-flush light/small pendant combo I like and I feel like I've looked everywhere.
I'm sick of living in a construction site with dust everywhere, no space to walk and everything dumped on open spaces.
I just realized our trip to NYC is a week from tomorrow and I've done absolutely nothing to prepare, other than booking the flight and hotel. I swear I had at least another week in there somewhere. I feel like this month is flying by.
I'm sorry, calamity. I also have a dad with a lot of health issues and a complicated relationship. It makes so many of these feelings tricky. (((hugs)))
Are kitchen refreshes really expensive if you keep the layout the same? We've had multiple issues with our cabinets since we moved in, and while I was gone last week one of the drawers completely separated the front part from the rest of it. We can probably glue it back together, but part of it had already been glued once within the last year so I don't really expect that to hold forever. We've also glued another similar drawer, and have had issues with the hinges of another cabinet that we were able to replace but since they were installed a little off, I have a feeling that's going to be a frequent issue too.
I'm starting to think replacement may end up being sooner rather than later - they look fine but are not good quality and I have no idea how old they are. I'd just want to replace the cabinets, countertops, and sink - we don't need appliances and the floors were done last year. I guess while we're at it we could add a backsplash, but that's not totally necessary. It's a small kitchen so I'm hoping in the ballpark of 10k? But I really have no clue and should start looking into it.
This is exactly what we just did with our kitchen and we ended up around $18k. Obviously this will vary depending on the amount of cabinets you have, the square footage of counter you need, what you DIY and what you hire out, etc. Our floors and appliances were the only thing that stayed, and we kept the layout exactly the same.
If you want, you can PM me and I can give you a detailed breakdown of costs. And pics if you want.
I was just vetting him before our first date to make sure he wasn't attached/a bad buy. I searched the group before hand and no one had posted about him, so I created a post, and this other girl responded to the post and also sent me a message. It was an awkward exchange, because she had never met him either but her feelings were hurt that he was going out with me before her.
In the future, I would save those posts until you're actively considering being exclusive with someone. I don't blame him for being weirded out about being posted in a red flag group when you're not doing anything wrong.
I don't know. When the last guy she searched was charged with 3rd degree murder (and there was a crime involving a child), preemptively checking people seems like the reasonable response. Men aren't always safe for women. Routinely checking for red flags *before* spending any time alone (not just waiting for exclusivity) should be normalized.
I'm so drained by school threats. My district had a another middle school kid arrested last week for making a threat- and picked up his parent (dropping him off) on a warrant at the same time.
I have a 14yo daughter today- we both made it through 13! <3 <3 <3
My 11th grader lost his $150 calculator yesterday- so not like him, and a first. This is such a stressful year! He just texted to tell me he found it again, but because he had an important physics test today- we went out and bought a second one last night (DD is in precalc next year, so that will just be hers- you know, if it makes it home, LOL). I get so annoyed by the pricing of graphing calculators- they're just as expensive as they were in my day without THAT many improvements. And these kids have access to all these extremely powerful online calculators now- for free! But tests.
I feel you, DD is in 11th and she is a constant ball of stress. I don't know how to deal with all of the crying and worrying about school and grades and her future and college etc. I feel so bad for her. I keep telling her that everything isn't as important as it feels in the moment and it's ok if she's not perfect.
You can try sticking a Tile onto the calculator to help keep track of it: www.tile.com/en-us
calamity, I am really sorry. Prior to my dad's sudden death, he had a lot of health issues and we had a complicated relationship as well. Sending lots of love and peace for you both while you navigate this.
Gotcha. I figured if you were on that site checking him out there was a reason.
I was just vetting him before our first date to make sure he wasn't attached/a bad buy. I searched the group before hand and no one had posted about him, so I created a post, and this other girl responded to the post and also sent me a message. It was an awkward exchange, because she had never met him either but her feelings were hurt that he was going out with me before her.
You wrote a post in a local Facebook group putting the personal info of a guy out there for everyone in the group to see with no reason to even wonder if he was dating anyone else and you hadn't even been on a date with him yet? If I was the guy I'd be pretty weirded out by that and also by the completely inappropriate text the other woman sent him.
Googling someone's name to check for red flags is not the same as posting in a FB group dedicated to cheaters.
In the future, I would save those posts until you're actively considering being exclusive with someone. I don't blame him for being weirded out about being posted in a red flag group when you're not doing anything wrong.
I don't know. When the last guy she searched was charged with 3rd degree murder (and there was a crime involving a child), preemptively checking people seems like the reasonable response. Men aren't always safe for women. Routinely checking for red flags *before* spending any time alone (not just waiting for exclusivity) should be normalized.
I agree with vetting a person though? I just wouldn't create a post asking if we're dating the same person when you're not dating. I'd browse, I'd google, whatever else.
Listen, I hate men. I find they have very little value. But I also don't blame him for being scared off in this scenario because it invited (unintentionally) unnecessary drama.
In the future, I would save those posts until you're actively considering being exclusive with someone. I don't blame him for being weirded out about being posted in a red flag group when you're not doing anything wrong.
I don't know. When the last guy she searched was charged with 3rd degree murder (and there was a crime involving a child), preemptively checking people seems like the reasonable response. Men aren't always safe for women. Routinely checking for red flags *before* spending any time alone (not just waiting for exclusivity) should be normalized.
Yeah, honestly I feel like the real issue here is that the other people in the story are being childish. The other woman obviously is 12 years old if she felt the need to text the guy about this, and the guy should realize that checking people out is a fine thing to do for safety reasons and not hold it against @sameoldstory that the other woman is wrongly getting on his case about it. But if he is holding it against her, maybe that's a sign he's not a particularly aware/thoughtful guy, and it's better to know that asap.
ETA: That said I was not aware of the existence of this type of FB group until posts on here recently, so I don't know what the norm is for that specific scenario!
Are kitchen refreshes really expensive if you keep the layout the same? We've had multiple issues with our cabinets since we moved in, and while I was gone last week one of the drawers completely separated the front part from the rest of it. We can probably glue it back together, but part of it had already been glued once within the last year so I don't really expect that to hold forever. We've also glued another similar drawer, and have had issues with the hinges of another cabinet that we were able to replace but since they were installed a little off, I have a feeling that's going to be a frequent issue too.
I'm starting to think replacement may end up being sooner rather than later - they look fine but are not good quality and I have no idea how old they are. I'd just want to replace the cabinets, countertops, and sink - we don't need appliances and the floors were done last year. I guess while we're at it we could add a backsplash, but that's not totally necessary. It's a small kitchen so I'm hoping in the ballpark of 10k? But I really have no clue and should start looking into it.
This is exactly what we just did with our kitchen and we ended up around $18k. Obviously this will vary depending on the amount of cabinets you have, the square footage of counter you need, what you DIY and what you hire out, etc. Our floors and appliances were the only thing that stayed, and we kept the layout exactly the same.
If you want, you can PM me and I can give you a detailed breakdown of costs. And pics if you want.
Thanks! I'd love to see pics. I am hoping your kitchen is bigger than ours, lol. We would probably DIY nothing (other than paint touchups maybe?). I really don't feel ready to take on a kitchen refresh, but I don't want to end up with all of our cabinets just pasted together either, lol.
Me too. And I've opened up a can of worms by wanting to simply PAINT the bathroom.
I decided I want to do a deep jewel tone in the bathroom (either royal blue or a jade/emerald green) but I think that would look better with gold and all of our fixtures are brushed nickel. So I brought this up to H and started looking at new drawer pulls, faucet and light fixture. NBD. Then he mentions possibly getting a whole new vanity/sink because when we remodeled the bathroom 6/7 years ago we bought a vanity that is a bit too big for the space. Which led to him suggesting if we're pulling out the vanity he should put in a new floor because there is a spot in the corner that has never looked right. I also might suggest we wallpaper one wall as an accent. Might as well at this point. LOL
So now my plan of slapping a coat of paint on the walls Saturday has turned into a whole weekend + project. Which we won't be able to execute until likely November due to ordering stuff and schedules.
Are kitchen refreshes really expensive if you keep the layout the same? We've had multiple issues with our cabinets since we moved in, and while I was gone last week one of the drawers completely separated the front part from the rest of it. We can probably glue it back together, but part of it had already been glued once within the last year so I don't really expect that to hold forever. We've also glued another similar drawer, and have had issues with the hinges of another cabinet that we were able to replace but since they were installed a little off, I have a feeling that's going to be a frequent issue too.
I'm starting to think replacement may end up being sooner rather than later - they look fine but are not good quality and I have no idea how old they are. I'd just want to replace the cabinets, countertops, and sink - we don't need appliances and the floors were done last year. I guess while we're at it we could add a backsplash, but that's not totally necessary. It's a small kitchen so I'm hoping in the ballpark of 10k? But I really have no clue and should start looking into it.
I think cabinets are $$$. We did a refresh in 2021 and new counters, sink and backsplash ran us around $10,000.
Me too. And I've opened up a can of worms by wanting to simply PAINT the bathroom.
I decided I want to do a deep jewel tone in the bathroom (either royal blue or a jade/emerald green) but I think that would look better with gold and all of our fixtures are brushed nickel. So I brought this up to H and started looking at new drawer pulls, faucet and light fixture. NBD. Then he mentions possibly getting a whole new vanity/sink because when we remodeled the bathroom 6/7 years ago we bought a vanity that is a bit too big for the space. Which led to him suggesting if we're pulling out the vanity he should put in a new floor because there is a spot in the corner that has never looked right. I also might suggest we wallpaper one wall as an accent. Might as well at this point. LOL
So now my plan of slapping a coat of paint on the walls Saturday has turned into a whole weekend + project. Which we won't be able to execute until likely November due to ordering stuff and schedules.
This is exactly what happened to me 2 weeks before our kitchen renovation 😬
I did exactly that-- deep green walls, brand new everything in the bathroom (floor, vanity, toilet, storage, lighting, etc).
Me too. And I've opened up a can of worms by wanting to simply PAINT the bathroom.
I decided I want to do a deep jewel tone in the bathroom (either royal blue or a jade/emerald green) but I think that would look better with gold and all of our fixtures are brushed nickel. So I brought this up to H and started looking at new drawer pulls, faucet and light fixture. NBD. Then he mentions possibly getting a whole new vanity/sink because when we remodeled the bathroom 6/7 years ago we bought a vanity that is a bit too big for the space. Which led to him suggesting if we're pulling out the vanity he should put in a new floor because there is a spot in the corner that has never looked right. I also might suggest we wallpaper one wall as an accent. Might as well at this point. LOL
So now my plan of slapping a coat of paint on the walls Saturday has turned into a whole weekend + project. Which we won't be able to execute until likely November due to ordering stuff and schedules.
This is exactly what happened to me 2 weeks before our kitchen renovation 😬
I did exactly that-- deep green walls, brand new everything in the bathroom (floor, vanity, toilet, storage, lighting, etc).
I hated myself, lol.
Good luck!
oh man, that doesn't make me feel good, LOL. Hope you at least love the finished product?? And we do NOT have any other major renovations on the horizon, so that makes this project more sane, I think!
Post by emilyinchile on Oct 5, 2023 10:08:08 GMT -5
We've been engaged for over 2.5 years and are finally planning our wedding. I am HOPING that after this weekend we'll have a place and a caterer because while I want it all to be perfect I also just want to have a date set and not have to keep looking for options and getting quotes!
Post by amandakisser on Oct 5, 2023 10:23:47 GMT -5
I’m in a few of those AWDTSG groups. The rule is you can only post their picture, first name, age and location. And you are only supposed to comment if you have first-hand experience with the guy.
Considering how many men turn out to be absolute pieces of shit makes these groups necessary. There are often women who say great things about the men poster, too. I do not fault anyone for posting in those groups.
The other woman was in the wrong for getting her feelings hurt about a man she’d never met talking to multiple people at once.
That said: online dating is a cesspool. I was on FB dating for like a week and quit. Its so time consuming and the pool of acceptable men is shallow!
I was just vetting him before our first date to make sure he wasn't attached/a bad buy. I searched the group before hand and no one had posted about him, so I created a post, and this other girl responded to the post and also sent me a message. It was an awkward exchange, because she had never met him either but her feelings were hurt that he was going out with me before her.
You wrote a post in a local Facebook group putting the personal info of a guy out there for everyone in the group to see with no reason to even wonder if he was dating anyone else and you hadn't even been on a date with him yet? If I was the guy I'd be pretty weirded out by that and also by the completely inappropriate text the other woman sent him.
Googling someone's name to check for red flags is not the same as posting in a FB group dedicated to cheaters.
The group that I am in, women very routinely post on this group before meeting up with a man. And I didn't post any personal info, it was literally just a screen shot of his dating profile that anyone on a dating site could see if he showed up for them to swipe. I was looking for redflags after my last experience.