You wrote a post in a local Facebook group putting the personal info of a guy out there for everyone in the group to see with no reason to even wonder if he was dating anyone else and you hadn't even been on a date with him yet? If I was the guy I'd be pretty weirded out by that and also by the completely inappropriate text the other woman sent him.
Googling someone's name to check for red flags is not the same as posting in a FB group dedicated to cheaters.
The group that I am in, women very routinely post on this group before meeting up with a man. And I didn't post any personal info, it was literally just a screen shot of his dating profile that anyone on a dating site could see if he showed up for them to swipe. I was looking for redflags after my last experience.
Definitely not faulting you-- you should absolutely move forward dating in the safest way possible. No one is really to blame here except the weirdo than scared him off-- which isn't you. I get your perspective and his.
Are kitchen refreshes really expensive if you keep the layout the same? We've had multiple issues with our cabinets since we moved in, and while I was gone last week one of the drawers completely separated the front part from the rest of it. We can probably glue it back together, but part of it had already been glued once within the last year so I don't really expect that to hold forever. We've also glued another similar drawer, and have had issues with the hinges of another cabinet that we were able to replace but since they were installed a little off, I have a feeling that's going to be a frequent issue too.
I'm starting to think replacement may end up being sooner rather than later - they look fine but are not good quality and I have no idea how old they are. I'd just want to replace the cabinets, countertops, and sink - we don't need appliances and the floors were done last year. I guess while we're at it we could add a backsplash, but that's not totally necessary. It's a small kitchen so I'm hoping in the ballpark of 10k? But I really have no clue and should start looking into it.
I think cabinets are $$$. We did a refresh in 2021 and new counters, sink and backsplash ran us around $10,000.
Oh man I do NOT like that! Is your kitchen big? I am tired of spending money on this stupid house!
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Oct 5, 2023 11:12:21 GMT -5
We are 2h and 10 m (7a-9:10a PT) into trying to get her into the shower to start getting ready for school. School started at 8:20a. She wouldn't be ready for another 90m-2h. I was up and ready by 7a.
This is why I HATE ADHD/ODD/DMDD ... especially unmedicated ADHD/ODD/DMDD (at her choice by law).
eta - she got into the shower at 9:15ish and to school at 10:15ish ... 2h late to school.
I don't know. When the last guy she searched was charged with 3rd degree murder (and there was a crime involving a child), preemptively checking people seems like the reasonable response. Men aren't always safe for women. Routinely checking for red flags *before* spending any time alone (not just waiting for exclusivity) should be normalized.
I agree with vetting a person though? I just wouldn't create a post asking if we're dating the same person when you're not dating. I'd browse, I'd google, whatever else.
Listen, I hate men. I find they have very little value. But I also don't blame him for being scared off in this scenario because it invited (unintentionally) unnecessary drama.
The only reason he was scared off from me was because of the drama. He has actually texted me since then and apologized that he was really just caught off guard when she texted him and that he understood why I did it and we are going to go out again. We had actually talked last night about how we had googled each other, and he realized that my posting there was nothing nefarious and that other girl was just starting trouble, which I now see is a risk when you put something out there in that group.
That said, I just want to add that I am not normally unsafe when dating and the other guy was a one-off and taught me a lesson about pre-checking them aka always google. But when I do go out, my location is always shared with my Bestie and I take a selfie and send it to her godforbid anyone ever needs to ask what the last thing I was seen wearing was.
My DD's teacher this year is amazing. She is taking DD under her wing and is working SO hard to build DD's confidence, and it makes me tear up. Like, I see what you are doing Mrs S and I want to hug you.
This teacher is very no-nonsense and has a tough reputation. She is definitely not the teacher that kids are generally hoping to get for 6th grade. I know there are other teachers that are more warm and fuzzy, but DD is not a warm and fuzzy kid and seems to be gelling with the teacher extremely well.
Earlier this week, she read DD's response to a reading prompt out loud to the class as an example of what she expected from the rest of the class.
For reference, when we pulled my DD out of this public school at the end of 3rd grade, she could not write a sentence in a way that anyone would be able to read it back. She has come so far and is transitioning back to public school like a rock star, thanks in large part to this teacher's support. I feel so lucky.
I think cabinets are $$$. We did a refresh in 2021 and new counters, sink and backsplash ran us around $10,000.
Oh man I do NOT like that! Is your kitchen big? I am tired of spending money on this stupid house!
Nope sorry. It is one cabinet, dishwasher, sink cabinet, corner cabinet, stove and half cabinet in an “L” and then fridge and double cabinet.
Hope those “meausrements” make sense. You can do it cheaper if you are willing to pick a less expensive counter top but personally I’d wait and save a little longer to do it the way you want it.
A friend/coworker has been out for a few days due to "damage to her house" from the big rain storm over the weekend.
She called me today to fill me in and I want to vomit. Apparently, there is some weird pump thing buried in her front yard that is suppose to pump raw sewage out to the city's sewer system that malfunctioned over the weekend - bringing raw sewage into her basement.
The kicker - it was spewing raw sewage into her finished basement for over 8 hours as no one was home.
The videos are absolutely horrid, and she said the smell was unimaginable.
Me too. And I've opened up a can of worms by wanting to simply PAINT the bathroom.
I decided I want to do a deep jewel tone in the bathroom (either royal blue or a jade/emerald green) but I think that would look better with gold and all of our fixtures are brushed nickel. So I brought this up to H and started looking at new drawer pulls, faucet and light fixture. NBD. Then he mentions possibly getting a whole new vanity/sink because when we remodeled the bathroom 6/7 years ago we bought a vanity that is a bit too big for the space. Which led to him suggesting if we're pulling out the vanity he should put in a new floor because there is a spot in the corner that has never looked right. I also might suggest we wallpaper one wall as an accent. Might as well at this point. LOL
So now my plan of slapping a coat of paint on the walls Saturday has turned into a whole weekend + project. Which we won't be able to execute until likely November due to ordering stuff and schedules.
This is exactly what happened to me 2 weeks before our kitchen renovation 😬
I did exactly that-- deep green walls, brand new everything in the bathroom (floor, vanity, toilet, storage, lighting, etc).
I hated myself, lol.
Good luck!
I bought the kids a pool table for Christmas which started an entire basement renovation. I also hate myself, but Christmas magic! ::sob::
Click on their name, then on the right side of the page there is a little settings wheel looking thing you can click on that gives you a drop down and one of the options is "block member"
Post by litskispeciality on Oct 5, 2023 14:50:43 GMT -5
Taking a brief assessment for work. I'm no mathematician or math teacher, but how can you get an 80% passing score on 4 questions without getting all 4 correct? I'll take an easy for over say 20 questions, but the math don't math ya know? Thankfully they repeated the questions until I could pass, lol.
The teacher stopped me to tell me my son got “engaged” at recess and he and the girl kissed each other on their cheeks. He’s five. I am trying to underscore how much you CANNOT kiss someone at school, and he’s like, “Why not? I kiss all the people I love.” And I am like, “Yes, but we are FAMILY.” And he’s like, “But she’ll be family some day!” Oh boy.
Taking a brief assessment for work. I'm no mathematician or math teacher, but how can you get an 80% passing score on 4 questions without getting all 4 correct? I'll take an easy for over say 20 questions, but the math don't math ya know? Thankfully they repeated the questions until I could pass, lol.
I've run into this with our annual cyber security training/assessment at work, too. It's annoying.
I agree with vetting a person though? I just wouldn't create a post asking if we're dating the same person when you're not dating. I'd browse, I'd google, whatever else.
Listen, I hate men. I find they have very little value. But I also don't blame him for being scared off in this scenario because it invited (unintentionally) unnecessary drama.
The only reason he was scared off from me was because of the drama. He has actually texted me since then and apologized that he was really just caught off guard when she texted him and that he understood why I did it and we are going to go out again. We had actually talked last night about how we had googled each other, and he realized that my posting there was nothing nefarious and that other girl was just starting trouble, which I now see is a risk when you put something out there in that group.
That said, I just want to add that I am not normally unsafe when dating and the other guy was a one-off and taught me a lesson about pre-checking them aka always google. But when I do go out, my location is always shared with my Bestie and I take a selfie and send it to her godforbid anyone ever needs to ask what the last thing I was seen wearing was.
You're not doing anything wrong. Dating seems to get harder and harder. This guy sounds promising, I hope he's cute!
The teacher stopped me to tell me my son got “engaged” at recess and he and the girl kissed each other on their cheeks. He’s five. I am trying to underscore how much you CANNOT kiss someone at school, and he’s like, “Why not? I kiss all the people I love.” And I am like, “Yes, but we are FAMILY.” And he’s like, “But she’ll be family some day!” Oh boy.
I was a lunch and recess aid at my son's kindergarten. The number of times I had to say " there is no kissing in kindergarten!" was really surprising. LOL I hope your first meeting with your future inlaws goes well!! LOL
My brother wrecked his semi truck in the metro I live in. He is ok (seatbelts save lives) but he did not call me to come “help” he waited for his BIL to get there (also a truck driver). While I am sooo glad he is ok, I am upset he didn’t call me.
We are on week 4. I thought all the hiccups would come early, but all the little details personalizing the space aren't quite working out and I'm frustrated. They're supposed to be finished tomorrow but there's no way.
I bought lighting and ordered custom counter chairs and now the lighting isn't working out and I cannot find a single semi-flush light/small pendant combo I like and I feel like I've looked everywhere.
I'm sick of living in a construction site with dust everywhere, no space to walk and everything dumped on open spaces.
Solidarity.
Our project just finished yesterday. I love the new space but idk if I'd go through all this again. We redid the whole first floor, so everything is crammed into either the basement or our top floor. It's so claustrophobic and now trying to clean up all the dust and figure out where to start to get things back to normal...ugh. And the dog is so used to being locked in my office with me all day long he won't leave me alone now. He just follows me everywhere. He did a lot of steps yesterday while I attempted to clean lol.
ProfessorArtNerd, fucking hell. I would keep him home, too. That is asinine.
I think I broke my big toe last night. I slipped on a BANANA PEEL leaving my kid's school and it is so painful.
I broke my little toe last Monday…in my own kitchen..stubbed it on a box of wine. Like, I don’t even understand what I did?! 🤦♀️. Anyway, they say it takes 3 months to heal. That’s just the nature of a broken bone. 😢