Monday of Thanksgiving week

[waverly]

Our weekend was meh, I guess.  I had to cancel drinks on Friday night because I was recovering still. DH dragged me out for about 30 minutes but I sipped water. 

I didn't have a ton of energy on Saturday.  DD misbehaved quite a bit.  I tried the time out method, but it still seemed to be a problem.  I did some cleaning and laundry etc. 

Sunday morning, I continued cleaning the loft attic guest bedroom/ office.  DD was yelling again, and I yelled back what is SO bad about your life?  Turns out it was knots in her hair.  These are the kind of things she tantrums about.   DH took her out for a one on one- they got doughnuts and went to Ikea, and she returned a much better person, so maybe that is the key, who knows.  We've explained multiple times that if she doesn't want knots she has to cut her hair, and she wants long hair.  I also had to cancel a movie with a friend and her daughter.  DD went to an art class, and the mom's invited me to stay but I didn't want to get them sick.  I've never had 3 friends want to hang on one weekend and of course I was sick and couldn't do any of them.  Such is life.  

I also cleaned up the yard for winter and put stuff away because it was 60 and sunny, and it won't be again probably.  

[rere]

I am broke, but pretty much finished with Dd and Ds's Christmas shopping. I spent the weekend in a hotel with 16 women. We all broke up and shopped in small groups during the day and met up at night. Dd met me Saturday. We spent too much, ate too much, and drank too much.

Yesterday, I came home and Dh was putting up the outside decorations. I asked him to bring the 9 ft Christmas tree from the basement. We have to wait until Friday to decorate so Ds will be home, but at least I can plug it in and look at the lights. At first he balked, but then drug it upstairs. Good thing too, because it needed a lot of shaping and lights arrangement. So now the fun part is all that is left. So all in all a fun, tiring, but productive weekend.

I'm only working 2 days this week. Today I'm basically purging my office. The building is getting painted over the holidays.

[186momx]

Weekend kind of dragged. Woke up to DD voice typing a couple assignments she wanted to redo on Saturday. Doing schoolwork was distracting her from the gymnastics meet that wasn't until 1:30. DD did great at her gymnastics meet. I was really lonely. All the girls that DD started doing gym with are now optional level and DD is still in compulsory. All the girls who moved into her level were together last year and are all cliqued up. I know it is a me issue, but I felt like I was back at school eating lunch alone in the corner. The two girls she competed with last year parents won't talk to me and actually snub me due to some drama that I got blamed for but actually didn't cause. They also moved up to level 5 and don't even talk to DD because she is a level 4 (stupid I know).

Sunday we rearranged the living room, so we have space for the Christmas tree. DH went golfing for most of the day and DD and I just watched TV and had a quiet day.

I'm only working today and so far, my clients are not sending me payrolls for this week. I've sent out reminder emails this morning.

[sdlaura]

My sister and her fam flew in early Saturday. My sister has a bad sinus infection and just went straight to my parents' condo and slept the rest of the day. My brother in law was a rock star, entertaining all our kids at DD's 2 softball games and then coming out to dinner with us and all the kids while my sister recovered. Then yesterday we all went to Sea World. We hadn't been with the kids ever, and everyone had a great time. Got back just in time for DD's evening basketball game.

I drove around for an hour and a half this morning getting everyone where they needed to be at camps, preschool, surf lesson and then came to the office. I won't be here all day since kids' activities don't last all day. Currently trying to do my grocery orders for our big Thanksgiving hosting between meetings.

[mae0111]

We had a decent weekend. The kids had Grandparents'/Grandfriends' day at school, so my mom drove them home after, which was great. We didn't do much on Friday night. DD1 had a significant meltdown on Thursday afternoon/evening that went on for hours, and DH and I were just totally wiped out afterwards.

Saturday was also quiet, except that since DD1 didn't have screens after her behavior during the week, she basically followed me around for most of day whining. She even tried to hang out while I was working out, which is a HUGE pet peeve of mine - that is my alone time, and everyone knows it! Saturday evening Dh and I went out to dinner for our anniversary.

Sunday was better. The kids had their piano recital. I posted under November activities... it did not go well for DD2. But she was able to recover a bit at home last night.

We are leaving to head to MIL's house tomorrow morning since the kids have the whole week off from school. I'm kind of dreading it because the kids have just been at each other's throats. And as annoying as it is, I don't need MIL chiming in on everything. We are staying a little longer than we usually do, so I'm hoping the kids can keep it together...

[supertrooper1]

The weekend turned out pretty good. Beau’s son cancelled his plans so we didn’t have to babysit. We invited Beau’s brother last minute to go riding since the forecast changed from rain to sun. I didn’t particularly enjoy the trails we went on because they were hard AF and it didn’t help that everything was wet and slippery from the rain we’ve had. But it was nice getting outside and we ended up finding some incredible views of the San Juan Islands from the mountain top. We tried a new restaurant on our way home from our all day ride.

Sunday we lounged around, watched football and then ventured out for dinner at a new pizza place I’ve been wanting to try. I’m off all this week and I’m cleaning my house right now. So much prep to do for hosting Thursday.

[twinmomma]

We had a good weekend. I got all my school work done so I don't have to do anything while DH and I are on vacation. And we were able to fit in the holiday traditions I wanted to and have a really fun day hanging out in the city. MIL insisted on taking the kids to see a movie at the science museum without us, so we eventually agreed. She always really, really wants to give us time to ourselves and watch the kids, which is very sweet. But we always remind her that we only have them half the time, so we don't need to plan dates for the limited time we have them. We can do plenty while they're away. Plus, she's a bit of an absent-minded professor so we only trust her with the kids in small batches. The kids are old enough now that it's not as big a deal too.

Last night around 10 PM I glanced at my calendar to see what was on tap for today and realized I was supposed to be in the office for a meeting all day. Got up early, showered, and got a text that it was being moved to virtual due to a conflict. It was like an early Christmas miracle! I was not mentally prepared for an in-office day. And I'm glad it ended up virtual anyway because I got kind of heated at some parts and I stand up for myself more easily when I'm virtual vs. in the room with people.

Tonight we're putting up the Christmas tree and decorations since we'll all be home. I can't wait to see how the new big tree looks in the new living room.

I have Wednesday off and then DH and I leave for our tropical Thanksgiving at like 5 AM on Thursday. I am so ready for this vacation!

[186momx]

Work vent: I have 2 clients who still haven't sent me their payroll for later this week. I gave them 2 weeks notice we were going to be closed Tue-Fri for the Thanksgiving holiday and sent them a reminder email this morning. Just talked to my dad/business partner and he was like oh well looks like you will be working tomorrow after all. No, I don't want to work tomorrow! I want to deal with all my adulting crap that got scheduled because I took the day off. I'm beyond frustrated. Rant over

[mustardseed2007]

Weekend was semi decent.
Saturday was my dad's birthday. He would have been 80 if he hadn't died last month. I spent the day helping my sister pack to move in with my mom. We didn't get a ton done but we did make some progress.

Saturday night DS was part of a showcase in which he did a monologue about - I kid you not - talking to his dog before taking it to the vet for him to be put to sleep. The thing is called "Goodbye Rufus". Given that part of my dad's death involved deciding to put him into hospice, this was one that nobody but DH and I went to see. DD was actually at a girl scout event so even she didn't go.

However, DS was amazing in it. It was obviously a difficult piece and he just really presented well.

Later that night my sister and I went to a wine and cheese party, which was semi fun.

Sunday was my DH's birthday. We treated him to breakfast, presents and dinner. We also baked him a cake. Basically really low key given everything else going on.

[mommyatty]

mustardseed2007, hugs. That’s a lot.

I’m trying very unsuccessfully to take this week off. Also I have a call tomorrow with someone about the job I applied for and have had two interviews for. I’m leaning toward taking it if it’s offered to me. The commute will suck, but it’s only 3 days a week, I would get every other Friday off, and it sounds like it’s pretty flexible. And less travel. I really want to stop traveling so much. The funny thing is I guess they’re worried I’m going to be upset that it’s an individual contributor role. I would welcome an individual contributor role. I’m tired of dealing with politics and palace intrigue. I want a nice little job where I do my work, feel confident I know what I’m doing, and I can just leave at the end of the day without this constant hum of worry.

[k3am]

DH came back from his work trip with a miserable ear infection, so we had a low key weekend. I spent one miserable night sleeping next to him and have been in the office ever since and will be for the next few days, most likely.

I talked to my sister, who had previously said based on timing (holiday weekend travel issues, DD having a show coming up and tons of places for me to be this weekend) that they didn't need me to come down to help move my mom. Talked to her yesterday afternoon and she is freaking out. So I now have flights booked to head down on Friday after work. Almost $700 for round trip tickets that usually cost ~$250, and I won't be back in time on Monday, so going to take a day off work. I also need to work out a schedule for flying down more regularly in the new year to help with going through my mom's stuff. Thankfully DS's soccer doesn't start until spring and DD's skating schedule will ease up after their holiday shows.

This move is shaping up to look like all of my own household moves. Meaning.. it's happening on Saturday and not a thing has been done to prepare. Except for in my case, I've just paid people to make the problems go away. It's going to be a mess. I've already recruited a friend from high school to come help and he is a saint for agreeing.

[librarychica]

We had a nice weekend. Pretty low-key, DD2 had music lessons, DD1 had bupkis. Saturday H and I did a ton of yardwork. Sunday he relaxed around the house, DD2 and I had a nice afternoon at the science museum, and DD1 spent most the day at a friend’s house.

Work was crazy today then I had to jump early to drive DD2 to her duet rehearsal before duet partner goes out of town. Tomorrow is looking no less crazy but thankfully the only place I have to drive is the local library right up the street where dD1 is taking a sewing class. The library allows them go stay alone if they’re over ten so I’ll just drop her off and pick her up 2 hours later. I’m hopeful everything will be quiet Wednesday.

I didn’t take Friday off because I didn’t think we had plans but H informed me today that the Friendsgiving he had mentioned wanting to attend is midmorning. It was on the calendar for 6pm? I could duck out to at least make an appearance but idk that I will. We will see.

[dglvrk2]

My weekend was really nice. We had a Thanksgiving dinner with my sister's family and my mom and dad on Friday night. I don't know when the last time was that I had legit Thanksgiving leftovers, but I walked away with two more bags of food than I brought to the dinner! I absolutely love leftover turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes and stuffing.

Saturday was pretty chill. We did a bunch of errands and I caught up on some work. My parents stayed with us Saturday and Sunday night. This was a nice amount of time to have them. My mother only snuck in three or four comments about my housekeeping or lack thereof!

Sunday we went to a apple orchard/ Christmas tree farm/farmers market. It was really fun. One of my cousins and her family medicine there. Again, it was the perfect amount of time with them.

I worked yesterday and will be working today. I have a lot of odds and ends to catch up on. We leave tomorrow afternoon for h's best friend's house, where we will spend Thanksgiving. It's about an 8 hour drive. I'm hoping to catch up on some more work and do some online Christmas shopping when it's not by turn to drive.

[librarychica]

I got some very confusing feedback this morning from my director, so I am taking a couple of hours to make French onion soup while I ponder my next steps. Meditative chopping, lol.

[k3am]

DDOT.. has anyone bought from Poshmark or Mercari before? Will I regret it if I do?

The dog at DS's big baby yoda stuffy last night. He is devastated. And while I appreciate that he thinks I can fix anything, I can not repair this. And of course, Costco no longer sells them. =\

[callmekd]

Nov 22, 2023 16:25:51 GMT -5 k3am said:

DDOT.. has anyone bought from Poshmark or Mercari before? Will I regret it if I do?

The dog at DS's big baby yoda stuffy last night. He is devastated. And while I appreciate that he thinks I can fix anything, I can not repair this. And of course, Costco no longer sells them. =\

I’ve purchased from both and haven’t had any issues.

[twinmomma]

We made it to the airport and DH realized he forgot to put his backpack in the car! But we decided not to risk driving home and back again and he went on a little Hudson News shopping spree for the toothbrush, books, and medicine he forgot. Thankfully there was nothing super important in there since I had the passports in my bag! I cannot wait to get to the beach and nap!

[k3am]

I’ve been making an Amazon wishlist for the kids for Christmas. For me to buy from if things go on sale, to send to multiple family members, etc.

MIL bought basically EVERYTHING and certainly everything “fun” off their lists. So now me and my family will be relegated to buying them sweatshirts and toothbrushes (not really, but to get the gist that it’s practical stuff they don’t want but need). I’m so annoyed.

I get it. They like spoiling their grandkids. But now basically the only “fun” gift I can get is a PS5, which I don’t want to buy and which is way beyond what I want to spend. And wtf is Santa supposed To give them???

[dglvrk2]

Nov 22, 2023 16:25:51 GMT -5 k3am said:

DDOT.. has anyone bought from Poshmark or Mercari before? Will I regret it if I do?

The dog at DS's big baby yoda stuffy last night. He is devastated. And while I appreciate that he thinks I can fix anything, I can not repair this. And of course, Costco no longer sells them. =\

I buy from Poshmark frequently. I only buy name brand items with which I am familiar. EG. Athleta athletic tights and tops, North Face outerwear and Ann Taylor tops. That way I'm fairly certain they will fit. I also buy IKEA products as I am fairly familiar with them.

[186momx]

I sent my siblings a couple items off my Amazon wishlists for DD and myself. My mom was wanting ideas since we haven't given her anything to go on. So my sis says DD wants this Lego robot kit. My mom wanders off at the mall and comes back with a star wars robot Lego for DD. Lucky my sister said no and doesn't she know her only granddaughter at all.

I bought boomerang subscription so DD is enjoying a scooby doo marathon.

[dglvrk2]

Nov 23, 2023 14:35:04 GMT -5 k3am said:

I’ve been making an Amazon wishlist for the kids for Christmas. For me to buy from if things go on sale, to send to multiple family members, etc.

MIL bought basically EVERYTHING and certainly everything “fun” off their lists. So now me and my family will be relegated to buying them sweatshirts and toothbrushes (not really, but to get the gist that it’s practical stuff they don’t want but need). I’m so annoyed.

I get it. They like spoiling their grandkids. But now basically the only “fun” gift I can get is a PS5, which I don’t want to buy and which is way beyond what I want to spend. And wtf is
Santa supposed To give them???

k3am, this is so lame!I'm sorry it happened.

My own mom has good intentions, but clearly wants to be the shining star of gift giving at Christmas. While she knows deep down it's not a competition, she instinctively treats it as such.

I shared a Google Sheet wishlist with my mom and dad earlier this week. After reading your post, I deleted the big ticket items for the Ds from this sheet and created a separate sheet for me and H. I initially noted for no one to purchase the big items yet and that I'd have to "talk to H" before they're purchased. However, I didn't even want temptation. Hence, the deletion.

[librarychica]

Nov 23, 2023 14:35:04 GMT -5 k3am said:

I’ve been making an Amazon wishlist for the kids for Christmas. For me to buy from if things go on sale, to send to multiple family members, etc.

MIL bought basically EVERYTHING and certainly everything “fun” off their lists. So now me and my family will be relegated to buying them sweatshirts and toothbrushes (not really, but to get the gist that it’s practical stuff they don’t want but need). I’m so annoyed.

I get it. They like spoiling their grandkids. But now basically the only “fun” gift I can get is a PS5, which I don’t want to buy and which is way beyond what I want to spend. And wtf is Santa supposed To give them???

Arghhhh that is so inconsiderate! I don’t suppose she’d relinquish a couple of items? I know it’s more work, but next year I’d withhold a few items or make separate family lists. I asked the girls to make separate lists this year and it’s already saved me so many text-message threads.

[186momx]

Oh my the lists. I got it last night again. I've given each person a couple ideas and no one is happy with the limited list I've given. DD told grandma she wanted these special mechanucal pencils. Both my sibs agreed that they are awesome and my mom was like so I can just get some from the dollar store and everyone was no.

I had an upset stomach on Thanksgiving so barely ate all day. I'm in the bathroom and everyone is yelling at me to come carve the turkey as I do it best. My brother also told mom she needs to use a thermometer to test when the meat is done.

[mommyatty]

186momx- I would have paid you real money to yell, “Bring it in here and I’ll do it while I’m on the toilet!” Lol.

[k3am]

Yesterday was just.. not good. I am stressed on to many fronts, and the present fiasco just sent me over the edge. I definitely ugly cried. So I poured myself a glass of birthday champagne to enjoy by myself while I cleaned for Thanksgiving. DH had one glass. The bottle was empty before anyone even arrived. It seemed like a good idea. Thanksgiving was great. My birthday cake was great. The alcohol + sugar hangover today? Not so great.

I leave in 30 mins to head down to my mom's. Wish me luck.

I've also realized that my anger outbursts have become really pathetic. You know what I did to make sure DH knew I was pissed off? I... I... I LEFT MY TOWEL ON THE FLOOR AFTER I SHOWERED! Really stuck it to the man! Also, he didn't notice it, and it really bothered me so I picked it up the next time I was in the bathroom. Oh, and this morning? I DIDN'T MAKE THE BED. When did I get so old and boring?!?!

[186momx]

mommyatty I yelled it needed to sit and rest and to give 5 stinking minutes. My brother told me I'm really good at carving and I said there are lots of videos that show you how. 100% said no on going back over for another family dinner tonight. I think we are doing take out at home and have had a full on pj day.

[waverly]

I’m sorry k3am. I’m too lazy to make Amazon wish lists so I just text them a couple of items that I wasn’t planning on getting the kids.

I hope the move for your mom goes as well as possible. Adjusting is hard but once she is settled I think you will find it much easier for everyone.

[polecat8]

This week has been so hard since Tuesday would have been my Dad's birthday and then Thanksgiving on Thursday. I was fine on Tuesday until I wasn't and then I had an ugly cry in the shower. Thursday was just weird being at my Mom's and not seeing my Dad in his chair directing everyone what to do. As we were leaving, my Mom confessed that she didn't really want to do Thanksgiving but didn't want to be alone either. I used to love the holiday season, but now I am barely hanging on, trying to fake it until I make it, so the kids can have a semi-normal holiday.
We were supposed to have Thanksgiving with the in-laws yesterday, but FIL and DH are both sick. DH didn't get out of bed at all yesterday so I took him to urgent care today. It turns out that he has strep. He just took his antibiotics and drank some tea and should be a lot better in the next 24 hours. Luckily, no one else in the house seems to get strep (at least not like DH).
Now I am hiding in the basement at my desk trying to work until dinner time because I need something to distract myself for a bit. I figured that I might as well be productive if I don't want to be idle.