When I tell you sharing is important, I don’t mean your germs.
Love, Sick Mom
Dear Boss,
Thank you for finally telling the jerks I work with what my job is. Yesterday was downright refreshing when they started treating me like someone who actually has something to contribute and a significant job with… you know, objectives and goals.
Where are you? We are running out of time. Please show up now.
Thank you, Mae
Dear Kids -
I know you don't like the morning and evening schedules that we've put into place. But it's the only way we can keep you from fighting is to keep you separated. So now you have allocated bathroom and kitchen times. DD1 especially - I know you don't like being told what to do. But I don't like breaking up fights over the bathroom or the arguing at the breakfast table, so this is the new way of things.
GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. Don't cancel practices with no explanation. Let us know what day a show is, showtimes and arrival times with enough time for us to actually plan our lives. Telling us a couple days before is *not* okay. Quit blocking off entire weekends for a month in advance, ESPECIALLY IN DECEMBER, "just in case." You are going to lose the whole damned team at this point because most of us have lives.
Signed, The person who hates everything.
Dear DH,
Sorry, we don't get to have a big celebration for your big 4-0, since sync thinks they're the only damned thing in our lives. And apparently they are.
Signed, Your wife.
Dear DD,
QUIT SAYING WE DON'T DO ANYTHING FOR YOUR AND WE SHOW FAVORTISM TO YOUR BROTHER ALL THE TIME. If that were the case, you'd be off this damned team.
Signed, Annoyed on so many fronts.
Dear WP,
In case you can't tell, I am losing my mind over here.
k3am, perceived inequity is a big thing in our house too. DD1 has a narrative that we do EVERYTHING for DD2 and NOTHING for her, no one cares about her, no one watches her sports games, no one comes to her activities... it's all baloney. But it is really frustrating. And for me, it feels gaslight-y. I second-guess myself so much that I literally make lists of time spent on each kid's activities. She always comes out ahead.
That is one nice thing about having four kids spread across 8 years, and different genders. Nothing is ever going to be completely equal. DD gets the most annoyed because the younger kids get to do things before she does (like she got an iPad at 10, and DS1 got one at 8). I was also an older sister so I get it, but have told her that's just the way things are. She has plenty of other advantages as the oldest kid and only girl.
DS1 wants to have his birthday party at K1 speed, and DS1 isn't tall enough to drive/participate. We're going to have the birthday party on MLK day and my two other kids will get to be there (DD participating, DS3 just watching). I'm going to send DS2 to a camp that day - he'll have more fun doing camp activities than watching his big brother and friends get to do stuff he can't. DS2 is also a more "popular," social kid than DS1 and DS1 having the spotlight more to himself will make him happy for his birthday. Maybe DS2 will talk about this in therapy one day - who knows We'll have a family party on DS1's real birthday a week later, and make sure all the kids feel included.
My younger sister tends to go for the jugular and try to make people feel really bad when she's mad, and that's what she did to my Mom growing up and tried to attack her on things being unfair to her. So my parents ended up going really overboard trying to make things super fair - like spending the exact same amount of money on both of us for holidays.
WPs My new mailbox was installed yesterday, and the mail carrier personally delivered my new mailbox keys last night at 6pm! No more DH waiting 30-60minutes to pick up mail at the post office just to be told we have no mail. Fingers crossed all my mail will magically start coming again Me
Dear IRS OMG the number of notices from 2020 and 2021 that clients are getting the last couple of weeks. I know you are behind but a lot of these should have been caught by the computers and sent out back in 2022. Missing W2Gs, missing 1099Rs, and missing payroll tax payments. Tired of digging in the archives looking for 2020/2021 stuff. Tax lady
Dear Mom You are cooking roast, mashed potatoes, homemade noodles, and I'm to bring bread on x-mas eve. Then on x-mas you are cooking a full turkey, bone in ham, two types of gravy, and mashed potatoes plus I'm to bring more bread. DD is right we don't need all that food for 6 people. I can't believe how upset you are by DD suggesting we have homemade pizza on x-mas day to make things easy. Plus we will have tons of deserts. Maybe it is time to buck tradition and try something new. Oldest daughter
Post by librarychica on Dec 13, 2023 14:52:23 GMT -5
Dear dad,
You end up with the weirdest gifts. Why can’t you just want to go to Broadway shows like mom and I?
Lol never change.
Love, The daughter that’s giving you two replacements for the pool thermometers her kids broke, an ornament that looks like a cardinal, some new gardening gloves, and $50 toward a tree
So my old boss is moving upstairs. The one that thinks rules don't apply to her and doesn't turn anything in on time including information for my almost finished report that should have been done 3 months ago. Come to find out, her office is a hoard (she keeps it shut and locked and usually comes in about 1 hr a day). You literally cannot see the floor, there are boxes turned over, papers everywhere you have to step on them to get to the desk, I don't know what some of this is, 1 shoe, etc. And she has not let the exterminator in for years. We have an exterminator monthly because we have BROWN RECLUSE!!!!!!!!!! Letting some people get away with complete bullshit is a reason your're going to loose many of your good seasoned employees in the next few years.
Dear WPs, Yesterday DD1 was lost for about 45 minutes. She was supposed to stay after school and then walk to the library with her sister, like she does every Tuesday. I got pulled out of my annual planning retreat because DD2 called me freaking out that she lost her sister and didn't know what to do. After 45 minutes, exH finally tracked her down. DD1 had decided to walk to the library by herself. No communication to anyone. We had the school, the librarian, dad of their BFF, and our whole family trying to track her down. And I was out of town and totally unable to help. It was awful. Signed, Twinmomma
Dear daughters, I bought you cell phones so that we can find you when you stay after school and walk places without an adult. But this requires you to have the cell phones charged and with you daily. This is not a big ask. And it would have made yesterday's insane debacle not even happen. I know dad gave you a major lecture last night at his house. You're getting round 2 at my house tonight. Get ready. Signed, Stressed out mom
Dear ExH, If one daughter is missing and the other one is freaking out about it, I should not have to explicitly call you to say "Drive to the school and find her." That should be your first step. Instead, DD2 called me, said you weren't helping and she didn't know what to do, and asked me to help her solve the problem. I was an hour away. WTF. Signed, This is why you're an ex
Dear work wife, I'm sorry things are getting so tough and tense for you right now. Please don't leave! You and I solve so many problems together and do such good things! I totally understand why you're feeling the way you do though. I hope you can figure something out and hash out these issues that are plaguing your work load lately. I need you! Signed, Work BFF
I am letting you have a lot of "wins" early on in this renovation planning process. They are practical (well... technically. One is a really stupid splurge that's entirely unnecessary) and will be used, but generally things I don't particularly care about other than the expense. In exchange, I anticipate getting some wins on things that I actually do care about.
twinmomma that must have been so scary! I'm glad she's OK.
This is a different age category....but we lost 3-year-old DS3 at Sea World recently. We were there with my four kids and their three cousins, and all the kids were climbing on a giant structure with multiple slides and areas. My 6-year-old niece was with DS3 and then came out of the structure without him. The whole family fanned out around the area and couldn't find him. Finally I asked an employee and she said someone had taken him up front to guest services. It reminded me that if I find a kid alone, I should walk them around that area first before removing him from the area - that was counterproductive. At the end of the day, 6-year-old said "this was the best day ever! Well....except for the middle when we lost Ben."
Post by supertrooper1 on Dec 13, 2023 16:28:53 GMT -5
Dear programmers,
I raised this issue on Friday. You finally agreed there was a problem on Monday and were able to "fix" it yesterday, but we've been slammed with emails for the cases that already happened and you were unable to retroactively fix the issue. Maybe next time I should escalate to a supervisor when I know there is an issue instead of being blown off?
Signed, I told you so.
Dear self, I have no idea where the dread feeling is coming from and the pit in the stomach. I really hope our intuition off and nothing is wrong in life.
While I appreciate your enforcing your policies for once in your lives, does a 2 hour detention for a kid carrying a snack in the lobby and putting it away when you ask her to really seem appropriate? How about you address how some of your kids run down my middle school hallway using the n-word and shouting fuuuuuck when I have 10 year olds in my classroom?
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
WPs My new mailbox was installed yesterday, and the mail carrier personally delivered my new mailbox keys last night at 6pm! No more DH waiting 30-60minutes to pick up mail at the post office just to be told we have no mail. Fingers crossed all my mail will magically start coming again Me
Dear IRS OMG the number of notices from 2020 and 2021 that clients are getting the last couple of weeks. I know you are behind but a lot of these should have been caught by the computers and sent out back in 2022. Missing W2Gs, missing 1099Rs, and missing payroll tax payments. Tired of digging in the archives looking for 2020/2021 stuff. Tax lady
Dear Mom You are cooking roast, mashed potatoes, homemade noodles, and I'm to bring bread on x-mas eve. Then on x-mas you are cooking a full turkey, bone in ham, two types of gravy, and mashed potatoes plus I'm to bring more bread. DD is right we don't need all that food for 6 people. I can't believe how upset you are by DD suggesting we have homemade pizza on x-mas day to make things easy. Plus we will have tons of deserts. Maybe it is time to buck tradition and try something new. Oldest daughter
Do we have the same mom and daughter? This is SO my family of origin!
twinmomma, I'm so sorry this happened! I've had a kid go missing for only like fifteen minutes and I thought I was loosing my mind.
Dear Dry Weeknights, You are kind of working for me. I would really like a glass of wine right now, but a few candies and a warm blanket will give me the same satisfaction and not the crappy sleep. But... Signed, Once a wine lover, always a wine lover
Dear H, I have mixed emotions when you're gone. The carting of kids on my own is exhausting. The worse part is the inevitable fight between the Ds over something stupid at 8:15 at night when we still have 20 minutes left in the car together. But....They really go to bed well for me. And I have the house to myself once this happens. It's pretty nice. Love, Your wife who can appreciate the glows of solo parenting when you're gone
Dear DD1's Bestie, I love you. I'm also wondering if you and DD might be needing a break from each other. You both have bothered each other with your excessive teasing. It's not what it used to be. Today, you and another friend skipped class. DD1 felt ditched. While skipping class - even 7th grade PE - is NOT okay, I'm wondering what's up. Yes, this IS 7th grade, so friendship ups and downs are part of life. Wishing I could help you and DD1 navigate more, but my place is on the sidelines. Love, Mithers