It's Monday Again!

[twinmomma]

One week til Christmas, how are we all hanging in there?

[twinmomma]

I am already in a horrible mood and I've been up for an hour. Doesn't bode well for my day.

We were at my parents' house for the weekend. Overall had a great time. DS started to act mopey and whiney on Saturday mid-day, complaining of a headache. He had refused to eat anything until that point for unfounded picky eater reasons (we were feeding him the same shit we have at home, he had just decided he didn't like it that day) so I assumed he just needed to eat and drink something and suck it up. He took some tylenol and then took a nap and seemed fine again after that. But the waves of whining and moping kept coming and going all weekend and it was getting really frustrating to deal with. At one point he was just laying down on the floor, telling us he couldn't even get up to walk to the bathroom and had to crawl. And yet, he could play minecraft and several board games easily when it suited him. He has had a mild fever of around 99, so nothing serious. I totally know it's a me problem that when DS gets sick, but I instantly get pissed off and then feel like a bitch. He's boy who cried wolf on a good day and the instant he doesn't feel 100% the world freaking stops and DH falls all over himself to cater to him. I ended up sleeping in a twin bed on Saturday night so that DS could sleep with DH instead. Because otherwise, DH planned to sleep on the floor next to DS's bed. Please note: these beds are all in the same room. Last night DH drove 40 minutes round trip to pick up take out that DS specifically requested, but then DS refused to eat it because it "didn't taste the same as last time." So I'm just burnt out on the whining and drama and DH's catering to these demands. Feeling a bit "we don't negotiate with terrorists" but of course DH is acting like we're one step away from the hospital. DS goes back to his mom's today so I'm hoping he's snapped out of it by the time he returns on Wednesday.

I didn't sleep well last night. My cpap mask piece needs to be replaced and it kept falling off so eventually I just took it off. But not feeling well reseted at all. The girls then gave me a hard time about going to school and switching back to their dad's and almost missed the bus.

Plus, we woke up to insane winds, trees down everywhere, and power outages around town. If we lose power I'm terrified because our sump pump will turn off and we'll lose water because our well pump will turn off. We're getting a generator, but don't have it for today's immediate weather issues. So I'm just freaking out and paranoid about that.

So basically, I hope DH just leaves me alone in my home office with my Christmas music and my coffee until I can get my life back on track and give myself an attitude adjustment.

[waverly]

I need an attitude adjustment also.

Friday was the school dance. We made DS try it but he didn’t really care for it. Think 700 kids invited (they didn’t all go) crammed in the gym. He got norovirus from his friend and started throwing up last night. He was around friend for lunch so could have gotten it anyway but now I feel bad about the dance part because maybe that’s where he got it. Also side eying the parents for sending their kid to school but we will probably send DS too when he feels better so not sure who I should be side eyeing- the virus?

Saturday I felt everyone was very demanding and Sunday was a gingerbread house fiasco. I just want winter break to be here already. I’m tired of my weekends being dictated by DD’s soccer.

[librarychica]

Add me to the attitude club. I have a busy day ahead of me and didn’t sleep well plus I’ve been nursing a headache for a couple of days. I was really tempted to call in today but I have a couple of hard to schedule things and if I don’t get them done today they won’t be done until January. Some of these conversations are going to be touchy and I’d prefer not to have them with a pounding headache so hopefully meds kick in here soon.

Saturday was a great day. We had family Christmas at my brother's and then left the girls with my parents and drove to another Christmas party. 12 hours of Christmas. Sunday I was grumpy and headachey and short with the kids. Granted, DD1 later admitted she was pushing my buttons on purpose so obviously the grump was not one sided. Then H embarrassed me (accidentally) on a group call with some out-of-state friends so he got snapped at too. 4 days until Christmas vacation.

[librarychica]

Also there are 4 regular days and field day left in school and DD1’s science teacher has decided that they’re going to do a fairly large genetics project and have a test this week. Now I know they’ve had state testing going on the last couple of weeks, but seriously?

[rere]

It was a great but tiring weekend. I stayed out to late Friday. Saturday I pretty much cooked for events from the time I woke up until we left for the game. Sunday was church decorations and candy party.

Dd is so tired. From finals to working, Saturday dh and I came home and she crawled in bed with me to watch tv about 8 and crashed until 9 Sunday. She got to go eat Mexican and hang out with friends last night.

3 days of work this week! I'm basically finishing packing my office for the move with a few meetings to take care of before Thursday.

[mae0111]

We had an OK weekend. DD1 had a game Friday evening so that was fun. Her friend's dad got great video footage of a nicely executed play that ended with DD1 scoring on a long jumper. They lost big but still fun!

Saturday both kids skipped basketball. DD1 had a gingerbread house decorating party and DD2 still can't really play after her finger got slammed in a door. I took the dog for a long walk - almost 4.5 miles - but kept getting interrupted by DD1 who plans for nothing and was panicking about what to wear to the party. So walked her and DH through where to find my fun ugly Christmas stuff while wrangling the dog in the woods. Brought her to the party, then made many batches of cookies while DD2 helped/made bird feeders out of pinecones/practiced soccer/licked the bowls. DH and I went out for a bit on Saturday night.

Sunday I'd planned to take the kids to see my sister and nieces, who are visiting for the holidays. I told them they had a short list of chores to do and then we could go. DD2 nodded and got to work, but DD1 didn't think it was "fair" that she should have to pick up after herself, and had a lengthy meltdown. She eventually did what she was supposed to do and we got to see my sister and nieces, but it kind of set the tone for the day. My nieces are so cute (they are 3 and 1) and we had a lot of fun with them.

Today we are having the same storms that twinmomma mentioned. I ran a couple of errands and came home to find our basketball hoop lying in the road - the base is full of water and I literally couldn't move it after I stood it up - DH fixed it and we threw some rocks on it.

The kids are in school until tomorrow afternoon. I feel like I'm behind. I need to get some gift cards tomorrow, but otherwise I'm pretty much done. I have more baking to do, lots of wrapping to finish. But otherwise I think I'm good??

[mommyatty]

I was incredibly sick yesterday. I pretty much stayed dozing on the couch wrapped in a quilt. Today I am somewhat better but still not great. I had a couple of calls scheduled for work and just cancelled them all. DS is still coughing a ton, but he’s resistant to doing anything to help it. So I don’t know what to do other than keep giving him cough syrup. And call the telemedicine people today to see if we can get antibiotics. DD has a cough but not like DS and I do.

I need to get well so I can finish prepping for Christmas.

[traveltheworld]

We were having a pretty good weekend until we came home from hockey last night and realized someone stole our 8 foot inflatable snowman from our front lawn. It was very upsetting. We thought we lived in a very safe neighborhood - people constantly forget to close their garage door and nothing gets taken.

[erbear]

Dec 18, 2023 8:53:17 GMT -5 librarychica said:

Also there are 4 regular days and field day left in school and DD1’s science teacher has decided that they’re going to do a fairly large genetics project and have a test this week. Now I know they’ve had state testing going on the last couple of weeks, but seriously?

I am giving a test (writing) on the last day. Otherwise, it's impossible to keep the kids focused. I am not a babysitter.

[livinitup]

Work has a pretty competitive office decorating contest. I am pretty over it and don’t want to decorate. I figured, fine, lay low, be mildly supportive. So, of course, this year, no one else is doing it in my section.

So, I am doing it alone.

[186momx]

Where did the weekend go? DD had a meet on Friday and we were gone from 6am-3pm and the location was freezing plus the drive was super foggy. Saturday DD and I went to the college gymnastics meet so were gone all day too. DH finished his antibiotics for his sinus infection and is now sicker than he was before he started the meds. He is back to sleeping in the camper and I yelled at him to cover his damn mouth as he was just coughing into thin air like a 2 year old so Sunday was annoying. DH is pissed that we are making him sleep in the camper but so far he is the only person who is sick and he has been sick since mid October. I'm grateful that DD and I are staying healthy.

This week is busy with appointments, work, gymnastics and winter break from school which is why there are so many extra appointments.

[librarychica]

Dec 18, 2023 12:49:43 GMT -5 erbear said:

Dec 18, 2023 8:53:17 GMT -5 librarychica said:

Also there are 4 regular days and field day left in school and DD1’s science teacher has decided that they’re going to do a fairly large genetics project and have a test this week. Now I know they’ve had state testing going on the last couple of weeks, but seriously?

I am giving a test (writing) on the last day. Otherwise, it's impossible to keep the kids focused. I am not a babysitter.

I mean, fair enough, but I personally could have done without the 8AM announcement and project supply shopping list.

[twinmomma]

Well, I had a really good talk with my boss to air my grievances and talk through a lot of the BS that has been festering and came to a head during annual planning last week. It definitely made me feel like I wasn't crazy and he and I are on the same page. So that's a relief.

On the other hand, there will be no kid-free down time tonight because DH's ex had her flight cancelled because of the storm so she's not back in town to pick up DS. I really needed tonight to finish wrapping gifts and doing all the last minute holiday stuff without the kids around. And, I really wanted a chance to regroup with DH after being so pissy all day. Maybe tomorrow. Sigh.

[mustardseed2007]

I haven't wrapped anything. But we did pull the kids gifts out yesterday and look at them so we could see if we were missing anything. When I buy over a long period of time that becomes a hazard...that and loosing presents all together.

We are so stinking busy this week. Also our CEO came by last week and asked if we would take his daughter in over the Christmas break and give her stuff to do...um ok...but also I wasn't planning on working in the office after Wednesday so that's actually a little bit of a pain.

OH and my car needs 4K in repairs. It completely and totally stopped working over the weekend because of a bad battery. The battery is under warranty but then when they inspected the car they found all kinds of things wrong with it. I don't think it's BS because I had been hearing noises, plus the car is 6 years old. On the one hand after they do all this work it shouldn't be making noises anymore. On the other hand, December is the worst time for a large, unexpected car repair.

[dglvrk2]

twinmomma , I'm sorry DS was such a pain this weekend. DD1 has moped around relatives in the past and it's beyond frustrating. Yes, she's uncomfortable, but not to the point that the whining is okay. (It's NEVER okay, actually.) She's getting better about this with age. At 12, she's calmly told me she just needs some time alone when we are visiting others and does not feel social or feels otherwise uncomfortable. She'll than ghost, but knows there are expectations to be engaged with everyone around dinner or other specific times during the day/evening. I'm here in solidarity.

Our weekend was good! We hosted a casual Christmas Party Friday night. We had a great turn out, about 20 adults and 15 kids and it was fun to catch up with everyone. Saturday I adulted. DD and h skied in the afternoon. We went to two Christmas parties Saturday evening. Both were family parties and we were home by 8:30, which was more than fine by all of us. Sunday, I met my usual running buddy for our weekend morning run and coffee DD2 and a friend went ice skating. I took DD1 shopping for Secret Santa gifts. H had an out of town work event yesterday. No solo parenting mayhem, so I say we all won!

This week, the Ds are in school through Thursday. We have the usual afternoon sports and DD1's holiday band concert.

For those who had the patience to read my work saga from last week (and a huge thank you to those who responded!!), work is off to a good start this week. I sent a quick email to both bosses thanking them for their time and openness this morning. "Grant" was not in the office today. My other boss thanked me again for my honesty and assured me my performance was great. Grant gave me the lead on the project I initially asked to lead.

We leave Friday to see my in-laws in the Pacific Northwest. I'm a little stressed about how the week will go. The weather is not supposed to be great. I need to brainstorm fun things to do with the kids. It's a 9+ hour drive to their home, so hopefully H and I can collaborate on some behavior/tolerance pep talks on the way. My MIL is not feeling well - some rough health issues. FIL is getting more cantankerous - and less tolerant of kids - as he gets older....I just want this to be peaceful. 

[mommyatty]

I think it’s sort of funny that so many of us are celebrating Festivus this year, with the “Airing of Grievances” to our bosses. Lol.

[twinmomma]

Dec 18, 2023 21:53:30 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

I think it’s sort of funny that so many of us are celebrating Festivus this year, with the “Airing of Grievances” to our bosses. Lol.

It's so true! LOL I hadn't thought of it that way!

[twinmomma]

I told DH last night that DS is learning how to have a "man cold" really young and needs to snap out of it. DH claims he'd never heard the phrase "man cold" before and was borderline offended and wanted to know why "it has to be such a sexist thing." lolololol ok. Welcome to my world. It's basically always "a sexist thing" for women.

[rere]

Dec 19, 2023 8:35:01 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

Dec 18, 2023 21:53:30 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

I think it’s sort of funny that so many of us are celebrating Festivus this year, with the “Airing of Grievances” to our bosses. Lol.

It's so true! LOL I hadn't thought of it that way!

My former boss is currently not speaking to me from what I can gather. I consider it a win.

[waverly]

I spent last night puking etc in my 2nd bout of norovirus in 5 weeks. So my life is going great.

[dglvrk2]

Dec 19, 2023 8:37:02 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

I told DH last night that DS is learning how to have a "man cold" really young and needs to snap out of it. DH claims he'd never heard the phrase "man cold" before and was borderline offended and wanted to know why "it has to be such a sexist thing." lolololol ok. Welcome to my world. It's basically always "a sexist thing" for women.

I call BS on your H. How has he never heard of this?

[mommyatty]

A random. I have a lot of calls today, but mostly I don’t need to talk on them. I still look and sound like I’m on the verge of death. So no camera and I’m on mute. Teams keeps telling me I’m muted every time I cough or blow my nose. Thank you, Teams. I’m glad to know that. That’s on purpose.

[sandandsea]

Dec 19, 2023 11:25:19 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

A random. I have a lot of calls today, but mostly I don’t need to talk on them. I still look and sound like I’m on the verge of death. So no camera and I’m on mute. Teams keeps telling me I’m muted every time I cough or blow my nose. Thank you, Teams. I’m glad to know that. That’s on purpose.

lol. Sorry let me unmute myself to cough in your ear.

[mae0111]

Jumping on the work frustration bandwagon... I have my review tomorrow. I had to ask for it. Everyone else was scheduled without prompting - even other contractors. My boss forgot about me.

Boss sent me a list of questions to ponder for the meeting. One question is how Boss1/Boss2 can better support me. That feels... loaded. I have a number of ideas about how they can support me, but I don't know how to address them without coming across as negative and aggressive. I have a lot of concrete examples of me being pushed to do something quickly, me completing and sending for feedback before executing, me receiving ZERO feedback, me following up, and then never hearing about this important thing that I worked my ass off ever again.

[sdlaura]

I kind of missed Monday entirely. DS2 got a stomach bug and was up every 30 minutes Sunday night, then it started for me yesterday morning. On the plus side, I feel pretty good today. I haven't slept that much in a 24 hour period in like a decade, and it was like I had a cleanse I was so miserable that I didn't even feel like reading or looking at my phone, so all there was to do was sleep. I have sooo much on my to do list so really needed to be in the office yesterday, but it was just not happening, so I'm doing my best to catch up.