So, as someone without kids, I am *very* nervous when driving other people’s kids. I’ve only driven my niece/nephew and our best friend’s 3 kids. In my car, not until we could use a booster, and they showed me how to install/attach the seatbelt.
I did use my SILs car when driving both niece in nephew when one was in a car seat and one in a booster. I take it very seriously, maybe b/c I don’t have kids of my own?
Now that all kids mentioned, except for one, are able to ride without boosters, I am more comfortable!
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I am not typically anxious, but car stuff gives me major anxiety so I have not yet (oldest is 5, almost 6). I've only really been offered a car pool situation once, and it was when she was 4 but I still had her in a car seat and didn't want to deal with it.
Idk car stuff makes me so nervous esp seeing how half hazardly people install their car seats/buckle their kids up/stop using a car seat or booster so early... But it also hasn't come up in my life since I'm a SAHM thats walking distance from school, and don't have family or close friends with big enough cars to add more kids to.
I mean, I can’t even drive my kids anywhere, so I depend on other people a lot. 😂
We moved to the suburbs when my oldest was 7. I have no qualms about anyone driving him around. He’s 10 now and often carpools with friends.
My little one is 4 and needs a car seat, so a little harder to just hop in a car with, but happy to have others drive him as long as he has an appropriate seat.
Post by purplepenguin7 on Jan 5, 2024 16:21:48 GMT -5
When you say “drive your kid”, do you mean with an appropriate car seat? My answer would be very different with a nanny/babysitter/family member with an appropriate car seat vs a carpool situation.
When you say “drive your kid”, do you mean with an appropriate car seat? My answer would be very different with a nanny/babysitter/family member with an appropriate car seat vs a carpool situation.
I’m hoping that everyone that has answered that has kids in a seat still are saying the car seat was used! I do not think OP is asking if people are driving their kids around without a car seat.
When you say “drive your kid”, do you mean with an appropriate car seat? My answer would be very different with a nanny/babysitter/family member with an appropriate car seat vs a carpool situation.
I’m hoping that everyone that has answered that has kids in a seat still are saying the car seat was used! I do not think OP is asking if people are driving their kids around without a car seat.
Well most 5,6,7 even 8+ year olds should still be in proper car seats (even if it’s a booster). I don’t think that a lot of posters are providing a booster seat in some of these cases (not calling anyone out specifically) unless I am wrong. Some people did say they provided the seats. I know that sometimes you have to do what you have to do so I’m not judging anyone if they have.
Anyway here on GBCN everyone follows the rules but in real life I know tons of people who use improper seats or think by 6 a kid is ok with just a seatbelt. I was just wondering if the OP meant a person with a designated seat for the kid versus a spur of moment ride home from school or soccer or whatever.
I’m hoping that everyone that has answered that has kids in a seat still are saying the car seat was used! I do not think OP is asking if people are driving their kids around without a car seat.
Well most 5,6,7 even 8+ year olds should still be in proper car seats (even if it’s a booster). I don’t think that a lot of posters are providing a booster seat in some of these cases (not calling anyone out specifically) unless I am wrong. Some people did say they provided the seats. I know that sometimes you have to do what you have to do so I’m not judging anyone if they have.
Anyway here on GBCN everyone follows the rules but in real life I know tons of people who use improper seats or think by 6 a kid is ok with just a seatbelt. I was just wondering if the OP meant a person with a designated seat for the kid versus a spur of moment ride home from school or soccer or whatever.
Multiple posts referenced using booster seats so I assumed they were being used!
We barely let grandparents drive them. Only if we install the seats and only if there is no other option. (Various reasons, one is basically narcoleptic and one set are not confident regarding buckling.)
I actually trust friends with young kids more because they actually understand how to install/adjust car seats. But still, haven't had the opportunity come up much. It is much more plausible now that both can ride in boosters, though.
I have driven my nephew who was 3, DD's friend from preschool who was 4, DS's friend who was 8, and my other friend's 2yo when I was helping her with childcare. I am always especially careful with others' kids in the car. 3 car seats is a tight fit in our cars so that limits how feasible it is to carpool regularly.
We barely let grandparents drive them. Only if we install the seats and only if there is no other option. (Various reasons, one is basically narcoleptic and one set are not confident regarding buckling.)
I actually trust friends with young kids more because they actually understand how to install/adjust car seats. But still, haven't had the opportunity come up much. It is much more plausible now that both can ride in boosters, though.
I have driven my nephew who was 3, DD's friend from preschool who was 4, DS's friend who was 8, and my other friend's 2yo when I was helping her with childcare. I am always especially careful with others' kids in the car. 3 car seats is a tight fit in our cars so that limits how feasible it is to carpool regularly.
Yeah, this person is child free. They would use my car with the seats already in. They are not the best driver 🫠
The girls did go on a field trip with their boosters, but all of the parents have to be cleared as drivers.
When you say “drive your kid”, do you mean with an appropriate car seat? My answer would be very different with a nanny/babysitter/family member with an appropriate car seat vs a carpool situation.
I’m hoping that everyone that has answered that has kids in a seat still are saying the car seat was used! I do not think OP is asking if people are driving their kids around without a car seat.
It gets muddier the older the kids get. My local laws require a booster until 9 and strongly suggest backseat only until 12. By ~7 most parents start making up their own rules. These are people I would have previously trusted to install and buckle a carseat correctly for a toddler or preschooler. I was a lot pickier about allowing rides for my son from age 6-9 than I was at younger ages.
We barely let grandparents drive them. Only if we install the seats and only if there is no other option. (Various reasons, one is basically narcoleptic and one set are not confident regarding buckling.)
I actually trust friends with young kids more because they actually understand how to install/adjust car seats. But still, haven't had the opportunity come up much. It is much more plausible now that both can ride in boosters, though.
I have driven my nephew who was 3, DD's friend from preschool who was 4, DS's friend who was 8, and my other friend's 2yo when I was helping her with childcare. I am always especially careful with others' kids in the car. 3 car seats is a tight fit in our cars so that limits how feasible it is to carpool regularly.
Yeah, this person is child free. They would use my car with the seats already in. They are not the best driver 🫠
The girls did go on a field trip with their boosters, but all of the parents have to be cleared as drivers.
Then it would be a No for me.
I have a couple friends and at least one grandparent that wouldn't be allowed to drive DS. I'm not comfortable riding with them, so I definitely wouldn't trust my son to them. For me, it's far less about age and everything about safe driving and general awareness about child safety.
I’m hoping that everyone that has answered that has kids in a seat still are saying the car seat was used! I do not think OP is asking if people are driving their kids around without a car seat.
It gets muddier the older the kids get. My local laws require a booster until 9 and strongly suggest backseat only until 12. By ~7 most parents start making up their own rules. These are people I would have previously trusted to install and buckle a carseat correctly for a toddler or preschooler. I was a lot pickier about allowing rides for my son from age 6-9 than I was at younger ages.
Yes I understand that. But I was just saying I don’t think that’s what OP was specifically asking. I think they would’ve asked "do you let your kid rid without a car seat or booster seat if they’re X age."
I've always let friends or my siblings drive DD (almost 8) while I'm in the car too. I only started feeling more comfortable with them driving her without me last year, and only if they had an extra car seat for her because she's still in a HBB. I'm thinking of buying a travel booster soon because I think she's getting big enough to use one for short trips.
My kids are older but yes to friends when they were maybe 4-5. My friends all had kids their ages and were responsible humans with their own kids in the car so I trusted they were being careful. I trust mamas with kids pretty implicitly
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My girls are 9 and 14. Once they were in a booster, we started carpooling with close friends. I actually own extra boosters as do my friends to make carpooling easier.
Post by penguingrrl on Jan 6, 2024 15:56:40 GMT -5
We didn’t do much carpooling, etc until the kids were booster age due to convenience, but occasionally I would carpool with one mom in my middle kid’s preschool. We both had other kids and car seats that were easily adjustable, so I would adjust my other kid’s seat for her kid and vice versa. I don’t trust many other parents with car seat installation because I’ve seen some really bad misuse and miss installation (and the worst was SIL and BIL, who are a pediatrician and family doctor and their seats were poorly installed and their kids were never in their harness correctly), but once the kids were booster age we did a lot of carpooling. Most people I know keep a spare booster in their car in case they end up with extra kids, and I only took my spare out this year even though my youngest stopped needing one a few years ago (he was only 8, but was already 5’ tall).
The harder one for me is now we’re hitting teenagers driving my kids and that’s taken a lot of adjustment and discussion on who they ride with. I’m glad we’re in NJ, where kids can’t get a license until 17 and for the first year of driving they can only transport one passenger, so it’s pretty rare for my kid to ride with friends because of those rules.
We barely let grandparents drive them. Only if we install the seats and only if there is no other option. (Various reasons, one is basically narcoleptic and one set are not confident regarding buckling.)
I actually trust friends with young kids more because they actually understand how to install/adjust car seats. But still, haven't had the opportunity come up much. It is much more plausible now that both can ride in boosters, though.
I have driven my nephew who was 3, DD's friend from preschool who was 4, DS's friend who was 8, and my other friend's 2yo when I was helping her with childcare. I am always especially careful with others' kids in the car. 3 car seats is a tight fit in our cars so that limits how feasible it is to carpool regularly.
Yeah, this person is child free. They would use my car with the seats already in. They are not the best driver 🫠
The girls did go on a field trip with their boosters, but all of the parents have to be cleared as drivers.
Are you going to tell us the backstory or not? 😂
We don’t have anyone offering to drive our kids around so I guess this isn’t an issue for us LOL.
DS(7.5) is autistic and has a hard time in cars. So no one except his grandparents and aunts at this point. It's not about when I feel comfortable. DS needs to feel comfortable. Not sure when that will be.