Thursday updates

[waverly]

No real updates here.  We survived DD's pool party, and it was fairly successful.

I need to make a decision, and I am waffling.  My uncle isn't doing well, and I need to decide if we are going back next weekend to see him.  This is also weather dependent.  This is really the only weekend we can do it because every other weekend has 4 games plus parties, and that weekend only has 2 games.  If I wait to go for the funeral, we would have no idea when that would be.

It's complicated because for Christmas my ILs and mom and sister were supposed to visit in early January.  ILs had Covid and then we had a big snowstorm, so neither of them came to visit.  And, I know if I go back it will turn into us having to do Christmas with them a month later with the purpose of the trip to see a sick relative, so having to figure out "Christmas" would be super annoying at that point.  

This is compounded because I would have seen the relative after Thanksgiving but my sister decided she didn't want to, so I had to change my plans to only see my dad.  But if she had stuck to the original plan, then I would have seen both.  I'm getting kind of annoyed that my mom and sister are affecting how I see dad and uncle to the point that I have had to make multiple trips back.  I get everyone puts themselves first, but they just don't stop to think about the outcomes of their behaviors. I was planning to see my dad over Labor Day and my mom threw a fit, then made a trip back at Thanksgiving to make up for that.  Then sister cancel the uncle part, so now I need to make another trip to see uncle.  She is involved in seeing uncle because we were going to share driving and meet in the middle.  I'm very tempted to do trips back and not tell them anymore. 

And SIL now demands that her parents fly across country to see her despite the fact that they are elderly and sick (she is a narcissist), so that is annoying me also.  They had to cancel that trip also due to Covid, and now have to reschedule it because she is refusing to visit them in the next 18 months in order to have more vacation time for her trips to Europe.  

[librarychica]

waverly, I think you are right. In the future you should just make your own plans. I’m sorry about the stress and the dicey driving conditions.

[librarychica]

My only update is that DD and I went to our aerial yoga class. She loved it. Surprisingly, it’s gotten harder in the 5,6 years since I last went. It is definitely the class and not me, lol. We will be going again next week.

[dglvrk2]

My update....DD1 is being a totally emotional tween. I'm over it.
I am proud of myself for telling H that I'm approaching parenting burnout between all of drama with her and the demands of solo parenting on the weekends. He asked what he could do to help. At this point, I don't have a realistic answer for him. He told me I'm putting too much pressure on myself to be a good mom. I wish I had more direction. Damn kids not coming with instruction manuals!!!!

[twinmomma]

The kids were all home sick all of last week. Then we had no school Monday for the holiday. Then we had a snow day on Tuesday. All three kids finally went to school for two full days. Then this morning DD1 woke up with a nasty case of pink eye. So she's home again. And it's the worst kind of "kid home sick" because she's not actually feeling sick in any way, so she's going to be driving me insane out of boredom while I try to work from home. DH is plotting a list of chores for her to keep her busy.

[rere]

We are still booking our anniversary trip to Cancun. Dh has found locations and possibly flights. He just needs to check everything. Go ahead, but freaking book it. I would have had this done a month ago. Because I would have done none of it. I'd have called a travel agent and just ask when and where do I need to be. But if you insist on doing it, let's get it going.

[mae0111]

dglvrk2, I hear you about the tween/teen emotions. Can you get a break? Like just a day to yourself? That always helps me.

In fact, DH told me to go to the beach house this afternoon and stay for the weekend, just to get a break from the huge emotions that both kids have been having lately. But he's out of state. He told me not to worry, he'd be home, just go!! And then his flight home got canceled, and there's bad weather where he is, and weather moving in here... and he thinks he's getting out on a late flight tonight, but I think he's in a hotel tonight...

It's been a long week. I was supposed to go to a full day meeting over an hour away for work, and I was really looking forward to it, but DD1 broke her ankle so I had to miss the meeting to go to the orthopedist instead. I'm hoping for a quiet weekend this weekend. I was thinking maybe DH and I would try to go out for a quick dinner, but he's eating all of his meals out today at unhealthy places like Cracker Barrel, so he's not going to want to do that. So maybe we'll try to do a home date - which the kids don't typically allow, but maybe we will luck out.

I'm hoping to be able to go to the beach house next weekend and recharge a bit.

[k3am]

Jan 19, 2024 8:40:38 GMT -5 rere said:

We are still booking our anniversary trip to Cancun. Dh has found locations and possibly flights. He just needs to check everything. Go ahead, but freaking book it. I would have had this done a month ago. Because I would have done none of it. I'd have called a travel agent and just ask when and where do I need to be. But if you insist on doing it, let's get it going.

Our last vacation, we just pulled up the Costco website, found a place with good reviews in our price range and booked it. It was so easy. I'm sure we paid a premium for it, but it was worth not having to spend forever thinking and analyzing. 

[supertrooper1]

Jan 19, 2024 12:17:28 GMT -5 k3am said:

Jan 19, 2024 8:40:38 GMT -5 rere said:

We are still booking our anniversary trip to Cancun. Dh has found locations and possibly flights. He just needs to check everything. Go ahead, but freaking book it. I would have had this done a month ago. Because I would have done none of it. I'd have called a travel agent and just ask when and where do I need to be. But if you insist on doing it, let's get it going.

Our last vacation, we just pulled up the Costco website, found a place with good reviews in our price range and booked it. It was so easy. I'm sure we paid a premium for it, but it was worth not having to spend forever thinking and analyzing. 

I have compared Costco prices to what it would have been if I had booked everything separate and Costco was always cheaper.  The reviews on Costco have always been accurate, not to mention it was so much easier.  Our trip to Cancun 2 years ago was through Costco.  

[supertrooper1]

I was invited to Beau's DIL's baby shower in March...for their 3rd baby in 5 years. I know this is probably more socially acceptable IRL, but my time spent on The Bump boards has me convinced this is nothing more than a gift grab, plus there is a diaper raffle. The DIL told me it is her aunt pushing her, but she could have said no. The DIL is the one that created the FB invite, which is again an etiquette faux pas.