Ok, so when you're super crazy about a guy

[Bernadine]

How do you stop yourself from moving too fast?

I've never felt like this. It's a little overwhelming. I think I might start journaling again so that I'm not annoying everyone with my gushy-ness.

[starryfish]

Sept 26, 2012 11:31:37 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

How do you stop yourself from moving too fast?

I've never felt like this. It's a little overwhelming. I think I might start journaling again so that I'm not annoying everyone with my gushy-ness.

I am in the SAME boat too....im scared that I feel this way but am loving it too!

[lovelybb]

You two are funny!!! Enjoy! Just remember to keep your own lives...

[doriswe]

Act like a raging bitch and push him away....I'm kidding!!

Enjoy it!!

[imalwaysme79]

Me three!
It's only been 3½ weeks, and we made things "official" yesterday. He is more than I could ever ask for, and I am totally and completely smitten by him.

[starryfish]

Sept 26, 2012 11:42:13 GMT -5 lovelybb said:

You two are funny!!! Enjoy! Just remember to keep your own lives...

Lol, thanks. I had a lot of free time before him, so now I am just using that free time to spend with him, while still maintaining my obligations.

[farfalla2011]

That is so exciting!! But I agree with the others that said keep living your life. The distance helps keep the rose colored glasses off since it gives you actual time to think.

I will say, I felt like that with BF right after our first date (we had been talking for a month beforehand). I still feel that way and its been 6+ months. It really is an amazing feeling, but I totally understand the overwhelming feeling as well.

Sit back and enjoy the ride!

[dakotadangerdog]

Hahah I will tell you the same thing I told Starry! Just make sure to keep up with your personal life, keep doing what you normally do, don't ignore your other friends and responsibilities for the guy. And also try to still be keeping an eye out for any red flags or shady business. I know sometimes when you get excited it's easy to ignore the little things that would otherwise make you pause.

Have FUN!!!!

[gozf]

YAYYYYY!!

Enjoy it. You totally deserve it.

[Bernadine]

I love you guys!

I love everyone!

::blows kisses to SO::

[Bernadine]

Yup, same guy. I laughed/smiled so hard my face hurt.

I'm not this mushy generally. It's weirding me out.

[jade28]

Ooooh I'll answer your question since I am going through it. I am head over heels with my boyfriend and we are four months in. I try not to post here too much gushiness but I also don't want to bother my friends so maybe I should journal too haha.

I am all for enjoying it like people posted but honestly, it's so important to not get carried away and lose yourself in the relationship. There needs to be balance. I see that happen to too many people and it always, always bites them in the ass and leads to relationship problem.

Anyway, here is how I avoided moving too fast:

- Limit the time you spend together as hard as it is to do this. My bf and I spend usually two weeknights together and then one weekend day. This leaves plenty of alone time and time to pursue our own stuff. And when we get to see each other, it's super exciting.

- Force yourself to make solo plans with friends and to set and achieve your own goals. My bf and I both have running and hiking but I also have my own hobbies like writing and crafting. I force myself to make time for all of this, even if it means cutting into time with him. I also always have a night where I hang with my friends b/c I learned how important these relationships are.

- Continue to go on dates. Don't get into the habit of not setting up dates and instead spending time with him running errands, doing chores or just watching TV. I think this makes a relationship move too fast and get into a boring, comfort zone that is hard to change. Keep going out, staying active and trying new things together. Don't just stay home in bed all the time.

- Don't think or worry about the relationship. Stay in the present. I know my bf's deployment here will end. This fact sometimes makes me worry and want to push things to go faster since we are time limited but I want to enjoy what we have, right now. Enjoy the beginning, enjoy the not knowing, enjoy the fluttery feelings and don't think about the future.

- Remember, your boyfriend is crazy about you because of who you are. Don't sacrifice who you are to spend time with him. Don't sacrifice your independence, your likes, your personality, etc. Maintain your life and yourself b/c that is what made him fall for you in the first place.

Anyway, just wanted to share my strategies b/c I struggled with this at first. It was so tempting to just fall hard and drop everything for him but in the long run, I know keeping it balanced and focusing on myself...helps the relationship grow and sets up healthy habits for the long run.

[Lauren88]

Sept 26, 2012 12:25:35 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Yup, same guy. I laughed/smiled so hard my face hurt.

I'm not this mushy generally. It's weirding me out.

I missed the post but this is exciting!! Enjoy it!!

[Bernadine]

Thanks for the well thought out reply jade

[blackkitty]

Make sure his actions speak the same language his mouth does.

Other than that, just enjoy

[usedtobebear]

Yay, very happy for all the ladies falling in love, I have no advice but this post makes me smile and gives me hope for my future!

[wrathofkuus]

I don't! I just go WHEEEEEEE! and have a good time.