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[mae0111]

How was the weekend?  What's happening this week?

[rere]

We raised $7000 for the family from our volleyball tournament. The dad, grandparents, aunts and uncles came to watch. I'm sure they thought we were lunatics, this is not competitive and there are lots of screaming, falling down, a bit of cussing. But they were so touched and grateful. My team was not great, see above cussing. But I had a good time.


I have scheduled myself a long overdue massage Wednesday and I cannot wait! The highlight of the week.

[mae0111]

It was kind of a busy weekend, but fun. DD1 had a sleepover with a couple of friends on Friday night, and then I took them all to watch a couple of basketball games on Saturday morning. Did a few chores, worked out, and then off to coach DD2's indoor soccer game on Saturday evening. Sunday was DH's birthday. He worked most of the day. I did more chores, took DD2 to soccer practice, took the dog for a long walk, made DH pan cookies instead of a birthday cake, per his request, then we all went out to dinner.

DH and I were able to chat a bit more than I would have thought, and we agreed that it's time for me to resign from my work/client. I'm planning to offer to do specific projects, but I do not want to be considered like an employee anymore. They can find someone else to run strategy, and if they need me to staff an event, or even a bigger project like revamp a website, then I will jump in if they want. But it's becoming all-consuming and it's making me grumpy, and it was only supposed to be like 15 hours a week max. I have 4 bosses, they have conflicting opinions and requests, and no one seems to value my experience or opinions. They are so, so good at what they do, but they can't seems to agree on a path forward from my perspective.

DH needs more help, I have more flexibility with my time than when he first got started and needed help, so that seems to make the most sense. Boss #1 of 4 had a plan to meet each person on the team for lunch once a month. My second lunch was canceled. This didn't surprise me. But I'm planning to resign at my next lunch meeting in mid-March, and I'm working on documenting my work procedures and projects in detail between now and then.

I feel like a weight has been lifted.

[waverly]

My mom is still stuck in South America. They are going to try to fly out today. Sister has sent out 4 texts and BIL didn't respond to any of them. I'm responding the bare minimum if he is going to be judgy. Get me off this group text with BIL that I have never liked.  I've always lived my life with interacting with him the barest minimum of politeness, and not speaking as much as possible, and that isn't possible right now.  

Not sure if they are flying with oxygen or not and I am not going to ask. I'm still not even sure why they got thrown off the last flight if there was a breathing issue or if sister just said the wrong thing to someone. No idea what is happening but oh well.  I'm also not planning to go to their state to help since my sister hasn't asked, so I guess she just handles it all like always.  Don't complain to me about it if I offer to help and you don't accept it.  Ultimately makes my life easier to stay here anyway.  It's just been pretty stressful from all angles and both sister and BIL are not helping with the stress levels. 

[twinmomma]

We had a great weekend with the kids to kick off their school vacation week. Saturday we went to visit MIL and swim in her building's indoor pool, which is always a highlight! DH's aunt was there too, so we had a really nice visit. Dinner together and after dinner mahjong rounded out the night. On Sunday we went to a board game bar and had a ton of fun! We stayed for almost the full 3 hours that's allowed and played a ton of different games. The favorite was definitely Family Feud. We grabbed dinner after that at a restaurant where the fried food is celiac safe, so DS and I enjoyed fish and chips, which is a big treat for us!

The girls are doing theater camp for the week with a performance on Saturday. DH and DS are going to stay with MIL for the night tonight and do stuff in the city instead of sitting around our house. I'll be in the office more than usual since the camp is right near my office and it makes more sense to work from there vs. drive back and forth to work from home.

I woke up yesterday with a kind of scratchy throat that's gotten progressively worse. Today it's feeling even more scratchy and starting to get sore and I'm feeling a bit run down. I'm WFH today and will probably set up camp in bed with my laptop since I have no meetings and can just work on projects in a comfy place.

[twinmomma]

mae0111, Leaving that job definitely sounds like the right plan! You don't need that kind of stressful client in your life!

And waverly, I'm sorry for all the drama with your mom and sister. I hope they can get safely home today.

[mommyatty]

Welp, DS has been rejected by just about every private school in our area. We are trying to figure out how to get him into public school with a support plan in place because if we just throw him to the wolves, it’s going to be a total disaster. So that’s absolutely awesome.

Apparently at the school visit to the school for kids with special needs, DS spent both days arguing with the teacher about whether or not he had to do the work. We think he may also have done that at the school he used to attend/where his sister goes, so that may be why they didn’t want to admit him. Also we think the teacher filling out the teacher recommendations may be saying shitty things about him. We just got rejected on a paperwork review, so I know it’s not just his behavior.

We think his arguing is because for his first year, he was told he needed to advocate for himself if his learning plan wasn’t being followed. So now he thinks any time the learning plan isn’t followed to a tee, he should argue. That’s really awesome.

Oh, and the kicker? We were never told he was arguing with his teacher. We could have nipped that in the bud if we knew it was an issue, but we never knew.

[mae0111]

oh mommyatty, I'm so sorry. What a mess. Is it possible for you to review some of the feedback from the old school? If they are preventing an admission with inaccurate or incomplete information, is there any recourse? This was something that I was truly concerned about with DDs' old school - they were really mad that we decided to leave. I got a few pretty nasty comments, especially about pulling DD1. I'm really sorry that this happened.

[k3am]

DD had her birthday sleepover with a few girls from her team on Saturday... and they got to do it prehistoric style, since the internet went out, so no TV, movies, music, etc. I am going to need a year to recover from the lack of sleep, but they had a great time.

This week, DH and I will be passing ships... I have a dinner tonight, he has one Tuesday and Thursday, DD has a late practice on Wednesday, and we'll hopefully be able to get the whole family together for a quick dinner and birthday cupcakes before heading straight to bed... My first baby is turning 11. WAH.

[sdlaura]

I'm sorry about the school situation mommyatty. We have had a really fabulous experience in our local public school, as have many families I know who have neurodivergent kids. The process just to get my son enrolled in speech therapy exposed me to how many resources our schools have available. You won't have to worry about him being asked to leave, and can repurpose the tuition money to other areas of your lives. I hope things work out!

[sdlaura]

We had a really nice weekend. Even with 7 games across 4 sports, the only time that felt crazy was Saturday morning (when I went from soccer to softball pictures to baseball pictures to softball opening day and game, while DH went from a different baseball game to baseball pictures to softball). My parents took my 3 older kids to dinner Saturday and then had DD and DS2 spend the night at their condo, so that really let us get ahead on some chores and relax a bit.

DS2 was a bit obsessed with bidding on the softball opening day silent auction baskets. We ended up "winning" (for over $400) one that included Padres tickets. It's four really good seats, but I really need eight tickets to I can take my family of 6 and my parents, since they'll be in town. So I'm going to try to sell the four really good seats for eight less good ones

I'm getting a tummy tuck a week from today. It was supposed to be last week, but the surgeon rescheduled. I'll be trying to get stuff done this week at both work and home to prepare to be recovering for a bit. I'm really hoping I'm able to do some work from bed next week.

[librarychica]

waverly, just reading about your family exhausts me.

We had a busy but very enjoyable weekend. We were all over the place! The house is so gross and the laundry is so not done.

DD1 has day 1 of track tryouts today and I am nervous in her behalf.

DD2 gave us a hard time about going to school today. This is something we have struggled with the last two years. I blame being virtual and then homeschooled by a combination of her parents and grandparents. She’d much rather return to that! Real school is boring.

She’s in an all-gifted class but never comes home with anything less than a 98. So I can see that she isn’t lying when she says everything is “easy.” Her teacher is not really inclined to do extra projects either, and she isn’t warm and fuzzy, but she isn’t going to have a super engaged teacher every year no matter what school or class she’s in.

She has friends, teacher says she is fine, if quiet, in school. I have her in piano, she does the school play every year, we do extra learning things with her as we can, H is constantly having her help with his various building and hobby engineering. What do you want from us, kid? The world is kind of boring sometimes.

[waverly]

librarychica, lately its been really exhausting between DH's dad being in the hospital, my uncle dying, and now this trip.

I think there are some communication issues in DH's family. For my sister, I think she overcommunicates which was the problem with my aunt. My BIL is a jerk always has been always will be. Some of what I am writing is probably more dear diary stuff.

[186momx]

librarychica, DD is like your DD2. I'm lucky if I get one day a week where she doesn't ask to stay home. She also would rather go back to virtual and have more free time to explore other things or just read. She told the counselor at school that by going to school it limits the amount of time she has to read for fun.

WPs DD recopied by hand her spiral notebook for science yesterday because the cover got torn. She re-wrote 44 pages of notes. Is this normal behavior for an almost 13 yr-old 7th grader?

This week is insane between work, my uncle flying in, gymnastics, and my sister's birthday. I'm glad I have acupuncture tonight for some me time.

[librarychica]

My child quit track on day one of time trials! And H says I cannot make her pay us the sport physical copay back because “that would be very weird, hon.”

SIGH.

[k3am]

Feb 26, 2024 18:34:42 GMT -5 librarychica said:

My child quit track on day one of time trials! And H says I cannot make her pay us the sport physical copay back because “that would be very weird, hon.”

SIGH.

The copay for the doctor? I was going to say it isn't weird, but then I realized I think it's for the doctor vs. some school to the fee.. If it's the doctor, I'd say at least she got a check up out of it and you know she's in good health?

At least she quit (hopefully) before you invested in cleats and a ton of gear?

[librarychica]

Feb 26, 2024 18:59:15 GMT -5 k3am said:

Feb 26, 2024 18:34:42 GMT -5 librarychica said:

My child quit track on day one of time trials! And H says I cannot make her pay us the sport physical copay back because “that would be very weird, hon.”

SIGH.

The copay for the doctor? I was going to say it isn't weird, but then I realized I think it's for the doctor vs. some school to the fee.. If it's the doctor, I'd say at least she got a check up out of it and you know she's in good health?

At least she quit (hopefully) before you invested in cleats and a ton of gear?

Yeah I’m not really going to dock her the Dr fees. Our district requires a “sports physical” and since she wasn’t due a regular physical yet there wasn’t a way to combine. Oh well.

Mostly I’m annoyed because this is all I’ve heard about for weeks, including the nagging about various things the school hasn’t communicated well and had to be hunted down and it was giant PITA.

[erbear]

This week is insane. DD2 is in her first (hopefully last) show at school and it’s tech week. She’s there Monday - Wednesday until 8, then shows on Thursday and Friday. This means I can either stay at school until then, or drive 25 minutes home, hang out for an hour or so, then turn around and drive back. It’s exhausting and it’s only Monday.

[dglvrk2]

twinmomma, a board game bar sounds like so much fun!

My weekend was good. We had friends in town - two staying with us and two other families in a nearby house - from our old city. It was great to catch up. We skied both days. DD1 got second holes in her ears yesterday. She was really excited

This week will be...this week. H has a ton of work commitments, including one very high stakes meeting tomorrow morning. I am facilitating a few trainings for work, so my days will be full.

My sister returns home from a post (brain) surgery rehab center Wednesday. She's three weeks out of surgery today. The results from her tumor biopsy came back today. They're what we expected and treatment will be a very long road. It's a drag, but she's in the care of some of the best oncologists and surgeons in the country, so I really have to count these blessings.