Thank you She is 10, in 5th. I know this is juuuust the beginning with middle school around the corner
Good lord, isn’t 5th grade dramatic? And they’re all just a bunch of mean ol’ snakes.
I’m proud of your daughter. That takes a lot of guts. I hope she feels like she has a solid place in the social order with buddies sooner rather than later. It’s unfortunate that doing the right thing can often feel so isolating.
lol thank you for the laugh. I really hope today goes better, they had a sub yesterday so stuff probably flew under the radar but the principal knows what's going on.
This stage sucks but she is going to be such a badass when she is older!
Good lord, isn’t 5th grade dramatic? And they’re all just a bunch of mean ol’ snakes.
I’m proud of your daughter. That takes a lot of guts. I hope she feels like she has a solid place in the social order with buddies sooner rather than later. It’s unfortunate that doing the right thing can often feel so isolating.
lol thank you for the laugh. I really hope today goes better, they had a sub yesterday so stuff probably flew under the radar but the principal knows what's going on.
This stage sucks but she is going to be such a badass when she is older!
When I coached cheer, I had a jv team of 5-6 grade and a varsity of 7-8. I vastly preferred the varsity- they were still occasionally mean to each other, but they were less dramatic about it. And less obliviously cruel. I sat the jv down one time and said, listen, you’re in 5th And 6th, I know you’re trying to figure out where you belong and who your friends are but you’re REALLY BAD AT THIS MEAN GIRL CRAP and it ends now. They kept getting caught talking about Each other. Honestly!
I've been feeling very unappreciated and just sorry for myself lately.
My H and kids were being especially jerky to me last night, and I ended up leaving the house for a while. H and DD apologized when I got home, but I'm still salty and tired of putting so much thought into doing things for other people when it's never reciprocated.
I've been spending my morning planning a weekend of me-focused activities. I'm going to start by going to the zoo (by myself!) on Friday afternoon to see the Thomas Dambo troll exhibit before it leaves. Sunday is supposed to be beautiful, so I'm looking at good places for a long solo hike. Saturday is still TBD. It's not supposed to be great weather, and I don't like shopping. Maybe a museum? A movie? Taking myself to a restaurant that none of my family likes? Who knows, the world is my oyster.
I still haven’t gotten the podcast link and we were supposed to start in three minutes so I guess I’m not doing that? So weird to schedule something, send the questions (like 12 hrs ago!) and then flake. I didn’t ask to be on the podcast! I was just being nice.
And now my neighbor is mowing so it probably is for the best but I had other things I could have done this morning!
I think I know why teens are so exhausting. They are looking forward to weekends for all the stuff they want to go do/friends to go see. I look forward to the weekend to do nothing!
Thank you She is 10, in 5th. I know this is juuuust the beginning with middle school around the corner
On the other hand, assuming an influx of new people, middle school might be better and she can meet people who are nice and make new friends! Leave these mean fifth graders in the dirt!
I still haven’t gotten the podcast link and we were supposed to start in three minutes so I guess I’m not doing that? So weird to schedule something, send the questions (like 12 hrs ago!) and then flake. I didn’t ask to be on the podcast! I was just being nice.
And now my neighbor is mowing so it probably is for the best but I had other things I could have done this morning!
I've been feeling very unappreciated and just sorry for myself lately.
My H and kids were being especially jerky to me last night, and I ended up leaving the house for a while. H and DD apologized when I got home, but I'm still salty and tired of putting so much thought into doing things for other people when it's never reciprocated.
I've been spending my morning planning a weekend of me-focused activities. I'm going to start by going to the zoo (by myself!) on Friday afternoon to see the Thomas Dambo troll exhibit before it leaves. Sunday is supposed to be beautiful, so I'm looking at good places for a long solo hike. Saturday is still TBD. It's not supposed to be great weather, and I don't like shopping. Maybe a museum? A movie? Taking myself to a restaurant that none of my family likes? Who knows, the world is my oyster.
That's awesome! Enjoy your solo weekend plans.
I lost it on my family last night. The kids have had so much attitude lately. Backtalking and not cooperating and then melting down and sobbing over small things. Friday we got back from vacation together for 10 days where I planned every single activity and meal and pretty much took care of everything for everyone and I was OVER IT. They do not appreciate me. I realized while we were away that vacation with kids is not really a vacation since I still need to feed and entertain them. Sigh.
Thank you She is 10, in 5th. I know this is juuuust the beginning with middle school around the corner
On the other hand, assuming an influx of new people, middle school might be better and she can meet people who are nice and make new friends! Leave these mean fifth graders in the dirt!
Our kids go to a small K-8 Catholic school so nothing will really change. From what I am hearing though, mean 5th graders are everywhere
Just to add to this - because I think everyone is assuming it is the girls who started it - it was a group of boys! They were in a group chat saying how happy they were that one of the boys was out and made memes making fun of him and calling him fat. Aside from what my DD is going through, my heart absolutely broke for that boy.
Post by followyourarrow on Apr 9, 2024 11:15:56 GMT -5
jinkies, I'm glad you're prioritizing some self care!
I'm half way through a book and they've suddenly made it a religious book, quoting bible passages. Very weird and I don't like it, but I also feel oddly committed to finishing it.
I've been feeling very unappreciated and just sorry for myself lately.
My H and kids were being especially jerky to me last night, and I ended up leaving the house for a while. H and DD apologized when I got home, but I'm still salty and tired of putting so much thought into doing things for other people when it's never reciprocated.
I've been spending my morning planning a weekend of me-focused activities. I'm going to start by going to the zoo (by myself!) on Friday afternoon to see the Thomas Dambo troll exhibit before it leaves. Sunday is supposed to be beautiful, so I'm looking at good places for a long solo hike. Saturday is still TBD. It's not supposed to be great weather, and I don't like shopping. Maybe a museum? A movie? Taking myself to a restaurant that none of my family likes? Who knows, the world is my oyster.
This sounds wonderful! I hope you enjoy it.
I calmly sat down my kids over break and said they need to start doing things without me asking. Is the recycling full? Take it out. Laundry? Fold it. It’s a work in progress, but I need them to be more proactive. I’m tired of being the task master.
I've been feeling very unappreciated and just sorry for myself lately.
My H and kids were being especially jerky to me last night, and I ended up leaving the house for a while. H and DD apologized when I got home, but I'm still salty and tired of putting so much thought into doing things for other people when it's never reciprocated.
I've been spending my morning planning a weekend of me-focused activities. I'm going to start by going to the zoo (by myself!) on Friday afternoon to see the Thomas Dambo troll exhibit before it leaves. Sunday is supposed to be beautiful, so I'm looking at good places for a long solo hike. Saturday is still TBD. It's not supposed to be great weather, and I don't like shopping. Maybe a museum? A movie? Taking myself to a restaurant that none of my family likes? Who knows, the world is my oyster.
That's awesome! Enjoy your solo weekend plans.
I lost it on my family last night. The kids have had so much attitude lately. Backtalking and not cooperating and then melting down and sobbing over small things. Friday we got back from vacation together for 10 days where I planned every single activity and meal and pretty much took care of everything for everyone and I was OVER IT. They do not appreciate me. I realized while we were away that vacation with kids is not really a vacation since I still need to feed and entertain them. Sigh.
Sorry you are feeling this way too! Our vacation at the end of March was definitely a big factor in me feeling this way. I researched, booked, paid for, and completely coordinated a great vacation. Then i broke my elbow a week before we left. Not only were they all not particularly helpful as I recovered, but I ended up spending most of the vacation standing around while they did all the cool stuff I planned, which I couldn't do because of the injury. It was nice to get away, but not at all a vacation for me, and no one seemed to be appreciative at all. I'm hoping that taking this weekend for myself will help me get over it.
Post by exploding people on Apr 9, 2024 11:18:40 GMT -5
Our furnace isn't working. Uuuugh. We have a maintenance plan with the gas company so we won't have to pay for the repair, and they're able to come out today (plus the weather will be decent so it won't get too cold in the house), but the furnace is getting pretty old so I'm worried that instead of fixing it they're just going to tag it for replacement. We've been bleeding money these last couple months and we owe taxes on top of that, so FML.
Then I stepped in dog poo on my way out to my car this morning because some fool didn't pick up after their dog, so clearly I did not have a great start to my day.
Update: The furnace is fixed, no replacement needed. Hooray!
Thank you She is 10, in 5th. I know this is juuuust the beginning with middle school around the corner
On the other hand, assuming an influx of new people, middle school might be better and she can meet people who are nice and make new friends! Leave these mean fifth graders in the dirt!
meanie , 100% this. I've told this story before, but when David was in 5th grade he was at a sleepover where there was a bunch of totally inappropriate things going on- the biggest one was that someone found porn on their phone and was playing it and showing it to the other boys. Among other things. David texted us and we went and got him and let the parents know what was going on. Long story short- that entire friend group turned on him and I felt horrible for him. This was literally weeks before the pandemic hit so he was home from school for the rest of the year, then he switched schools in 6th and it all worked out.
Such a disappointing salad from the cute sandwich shop next to my office. It’s a California cob. Somehow asking if it comes with sliced turkey (it does) gets extra chicken on top for a hefty add-on charge. Fine, I got the extra chicken, so I’ll pay for it. But they wedged it into the same sized container, so there is less salad and the chicken is terrible, and about half the lettuce turned (old). So, it’s mostly a bowl of sliced turkey, salty chicken, and bacon. Not loving it.
Post by wanderingback on Apr 9, 2024 11:35:07 GMT -5
I do not have "baby fever" at all, but now that our daughter is almost 18 months I can understand somewhat the appeal of having another child. My memory for how much pregnancy sucked (and I had an easy and active pregnancy) is slowly fading haha. Thankfully my partner is 1500000% sure he doesn’t want anymore kids, so that makes the decision pretty easy because I’m fine with that. I think I’m going to get a tubal ligation since it can lessen risk of cancer and then won’t have to think about it ever again!
On the other hand, assuming an influx of new people, middle school might be better and she can meet people who are nice and make new friends! Leave these mean fifth graders in the dirt!
meanie , 100% this. I've told this story before, but when David was in 5th grade he was at a sleepover where there was a bunch of totally inappropriate things going on- the biggest one was that someone found porn on their phone and was playing it and showing it to the other boys. Among other things. David texted us and we went and got him and let the parents know what was going on. Long story short- that entire friend group turned on him and I felt horrible for him. This was literally weeks before the pandemic hit so he was home from school for the rest of the year, then he switched schools in 6th and it all worked out.
I feel like I remember this story, how awful for your son (and all the parents omg). It's so hard when our kids go through these situations, even when they are doing the right thing.
I still haven’t gotten the podcast link and we were supposed to start in three minutes so I guess I’m not doing that? So weird to schedule something, send the questions (like 12 hrs ago!) and then flake. I didn’t ask to be on the podcast! I was just being nice.
And now my neighbor is mowing so it probably is for the best but I had other things I could have done this morning!
That is so bizarre!
It really is! I emailed them and haven’t heard back. At least I was doing it from home and didn’t have to go anywhere.
FI got a tetanus shot yesterday. OMG the fussing about how much it hurts. I know it does, I've had one recently, but he's being more dramatic than when he cut his head open and had to get it glued shut a few weeks ago.
I am your H, I complained about that one for a solid 5 days last time 🤣🙈.
TR 🔥 if I had your legs I’d find more occasions to wear that! Ha
I am still recovering from last weekend! We have a team in a huge fundraiser for pediatric cancer. It’s a festival/cooking competition.
It’s a two day event, it’s kind of like having a restaurant? We had a huge tent setup, we have a chef working with us, etc. It’s pretty interesting working with friends in that capacity, I had some good laughs. Anyway, our team raised 76k and I’m so proud of us, but I am feeling old!
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
I feel like I remember this story, how awful for your son (and all the parents omg). It's so hard when our kids go through these situations, even when they are doing the right thing.
Right, it sucks when they do the right thing then get punished for it. Your daughter is very brave for speaking up for that other classmate!
Thanks y’all! I think it will be ok, I’ll just have to fight the Millennial urge of hands in the air for dancing 🤣 but I will be wearing my spanx shorts underneath juuuuust in case.
Thank you She is 10, in 5th. I know this is juuuust the beginning with middle school around the corner
If it's any consolation we found 5th grade to be the worst year. Later on the kids who have developed social skills tend to move on and drop the kids that are bullying due to a lack of social skills. For example, we had a girl who got really mad that DD had different friends. She talked about everyone behind their back meanly and with code names. Someone must have spoken to her about it whether a teacher, parent or friend, and she has stopped that behavior and accepted the situation. They are still "friends" but not in the same social group at school which is common. For most kids that get confronted/ in trouble in 5th/6th that sort of helps stop the bullying situation when they are older- not all kids obviously and depends on the school culture somewhat.
I live in a twin (shares a wall with my neighbors). They are older (maybe in their 70s), retired. I am so tired of them! We are so nice to them -- I grocery shopped for them every week for MONTHS during the pandemic because they were too scared to leave their house. I shovel the whole fucking driveway and their path when it snows because they are too cheap to pay someone (they can afford it). Hell, I even stopped the fire department from breaking into their house one time when they were out of the country and their fire alarm was going off!
We have a detached garage. Our garage is a little tight to get into and sometimes if I am only going to be a few minutes, I leave my car parked in front of my garage. It doesn't block their garage or path at all (though it makes it a little tough for them to get in their with one turn, but easily rectified by backing up once). Yesterday, I brought DD2 home and had to go back to school 20 minutes later to pick up DD1, so I parked in front of the garage. Right as I was getting ready to leave, I hear them LAYING on the horn to get me to move my car. 1) I'm in front of my garage, 2) you can still get in and 3) knock on the door or text me or call me, but hitting your horn for 5 minutes is not it, sis.
They are trying to sell their house and DH and I are scheming about ways to sabotage them (kidding. Kind of)
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I think I know why teens are so exhausting. They are looking forward to weekends for all the stuff they want to go do/friends to go see. I look forward to the weekend to do nothing!
LOL I keep saying that it's to prepare me for my kid to be driving. If you'd asked me a year or two ago about him getting his license, I'd have said he's so young and I worry about safety and I'm in no hurry.
We are now at t-minus 10 days to his 16th birthday and I am SO tired of driving him around! I can't wait for him to be able to just take himself places.
erbear , why would you sabotage them (I know you're joking of course) - you want them to live there forever?
LOL. They are definitely moving (they bought a new place) so I will see the end of them soon enough.
They are very BEC to me these days...they have priced their house at an absurd amount but have done absolutely nothing to make it look nice. The walls are red and orange, the yard looks like shit, their stuff is everywhere, their gate is broken. This doesn't impact me in any way except that I am super annoyed by all of it
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
jinkies, I'm glad you're prioritizing some self care!
I'm half way through a book and they've suddenly made it a religious book, quoting bible passages. Very weird and I don't like it, but I also feel oddly committed to finishing it.
I had that happen on a romance book once. I kept waiting for the good stuff, and they would hold hands. And then, about 2/3 through the overt religiousness came out. But closure. Dammit.
Thank you She is 10, in 5th. I know this is juuuust the beginning with middle school around the corner
On the other hand, assuming an influx of new people, middle school might be better and she can meet people who are nice and make new friends! Leave these mean fifth graders in the dirt!
Yep. Junior high has had its challenges but socially it’s been a billion times better. DD has found her people. I say it all the time but 5th was awful and peak mean girl crap.