Post by mrsukyankee on Apr 22, 2024 3:02:26 GMT -5
I am tired. My husband keeps wanting to have all these serious conversations about our relationship, his own issues, etc. And half the time it's right as we're going to bed, so my brain is then wired. I get why, it's in the dark, it's more comfortable. I just need him to finally get off his tush and get a referral so that he can have a therapist of his own who is not me.
**** TW - talk of death ****
And on the way into work, on the bus, I got a call from my line manager because an ex-colleague of ours passed away. It's so sad because he worked here far longer than he ought to have, finally retired and on a big trip, fell and broke his back. And has not left the hospital since. He died peacefully this weekend, so at least he had that. He was a fabulous psychiatrist and person, who made me laugh a lot.
mrsukyankee, sorry for the loss of your colleague. I feel like it hits harder when you have coworkers that you wished had retired sooner and then that season is shortened for them.
It's Monday and I have a bunch of meetings and interviews today. We really try not to do interviews on Mondays, but the schedule is packed.
I am on my way to DC for a rally. The Supreme Court is seeing a case today that could criminalize sleeping on the streets - for people who have nowhere else to go. So being homeless could get you arrested. What a cruel thing to even be discussing - how about making laws about affordable housing or beds in shelters instead of creating fines and criminal records for people who have no options???
It is colder out than I expected so that's too bad, but at least it's sunny. I am going to be there among a bunch of people who probably slept outdoors last night so I can't complain too much.
I wanted to be there by 8:30 when it starts, but it's 8:27 and I'm on the train so lol, that won't happen. I'll miss one component of it but at least I'll be there for the rest.
Post by midwestmama on Apr 22, 2024 7:53:13 GMT -5
Weekend felt too short, as usual. I now have a regular 8:00 am meeting on Monday, which sucks. However, on the call is a colleague from India and one from China, so I recognize the meeting time is not ideal for them either.
I have an upcoming work trip to Brazil in a couple of weeks, so I am getting ready for that trip. I have never been to Brazil, so I always get a little nervous when I have to travel alone to a new country. I was supposed to travel there with my boss, but he is now going to be meeting me in Brazil due to needing to travel separately due to a family matter. Once we meet in Brazil, at least from there I will be with him and another work colleague who is traveling from Mexico to meet us.
I have a hell of a short week at work. Just lots of meetings, project deliverables due, presentations, etc. and then I'm off Friday through next week for London. Whew.
mrsukyankee, I had a co-worker pass last week, peacefully but suddenly, and it hit me harder than I expected. He was involved in a project I'm leading and I had met with him twice a week for the last few months, including the day before he passed. He truly was such a nice guy. Life is so fragile.
My whole department, nearly, at work is ready to walk out. We found out, in a meeting last week, that we won't even qualify for a raise until we've been here 2.5-3 years, based on our start date. I have NEVER worked at a company, ever, that didn't even offer the opportunity for a raise each year. Some of my co-workers already have interviews elsewhere. They are going to lose so many people all at once, that I don't see how the company can function. We are all part of the accounting department, of which there are only ten of us. Six are actively looking. I'm working, but no where near the pace I normally would. I just don't care now.
I have this issue where sometimes when I'm eating I feel like I can't swallow. Usually I just take a big sip of water and have to force myself to swallow to get it down. I wouldn't say it happens a lot, but often enough. Especially if eating something dry like chicken or bread. It happened last night while eating dinner while my Mom was over. It was probably the worst it's ever been. I ended up basically having to throw up because I couldn't swallow. I think I scared the shit out of everyone. I promised my mom I'd call my doctor. I was just there last month for my annual but didn't think to bring it up since it hadn't happened in quite some time. Ugh, I hate calling the doctor.
Besides that our weekend was nice, LOL. I just wish the weather would start warming up. It snowed on Saturday while I was out running errands.
My SD22 graduates college on Saturday. She has a limited number of tickets, and I don't get to go. It'll be her mom, H, SD21, her grandmother (moms side), her boyfriend, and then there's only one ticket left and there's me and DS so I said it was fine if it made it easier on her for me to stay home with DS so she invited her aunt. I've been bummed about it but it makes sense, so it's fine, whatever.
Then yesterday she asked if everyone can come here after for a small party so I'll be spending all week cleaning/doing yard work, and prepping food so my husband's ex wife and family can come here after. So that really rubbed salt in and I'm not in the best mood today.
This week is going to be SO BUSY. Dr/dentist appointments, work stuff, guitar recital, kid’s chorus recital, then an out of town soccer tournament (C’s first) next weekend. And we just found out C has a school project due on Friday and the only night we have to work on it is tonight. Add in a few early mornings/long days for work this week, and it’s going to be a long, full, week. But, well, it’s that time of year, and it’ll all slow down in a few weeks. Just gotta get to the other side!
My SD22 graduates college on Saturday. She has a limited number of tickets, and I don't get to go. It'll be her mom, H, SD21, her grandmother (moms side), her boyfriend, and then there's only one ticket left and there's me and DS so I said it was fine if it made it easier on her for me to stay home with DS so she invited her aunt. I've been bummed about it but it makes sense, so it's fine, whatever.
Then yesterday she asked if everyone can come here after for a small party so I'll be spending all week cleaning/doing yard work, and prepping food so my husband's ex wife and family can come here after. So that really rubbed salt in and I'm not in the best mood today.
Dude no. Her mom can take everyone to a restaurant or something.
Post by followyourarrow on Apr 22, 2024 8:28:59 GMT -5
This evening through Sunday I'll have the house to myself, well, along with 4 dogs and 2 cats. FI is at school and his daughter is babysitting her grandma's pets. I'm not sure what I'm going to do with myself! It's been forever since I've been home alone. I have a final on Sunday, so it mostly will be studying, but that's ok. FI's daughter doesn't eat red sauce, it causes bad indigestion for her, so I'm having a lot of Italian style food this week.
I have been a 34D for years. I just got refitted about a year ago. Right when I had my engagement ring resized because I figured maybe my bra size changed too.
I got these bras a couple months ago. Same bras I've gotten before (Natori). And they are SO UNCOMFORTABLE, wires poking me everywhere, and giving me double boob. I was firing up the ol' email to write and ask for an exchange because clearly I had defective bras. I had on my glasses, of course, and was holding the bras.
One was a 32D and one was a 34C. Which I never realized because I don't put on my glasses until after I get dressed. I must have picked up the wrong ones.
mrsukyankee I'm sorry for your loss. It's always really hard when you see someone with big plans for after retirement not get to enoy themselves. It just adds some bitterness to the loss, IME.
Post by lilypad1126 on Apr 22, 2024 8:33:52 GMT -5
I finally have a doctors appt later this week to see what's going on with my arm. Which means they'll tell me it's just a pulled muscle, lol. But I'm tired of it hurting and I don't want to make it worse if it's something more than a pulled muscle.
H woke up in a horrendous mood, in part b/c he needs to go to the DMV and he doesn't want to. Then he can't figure out how to access some banking website, and I wish he'd just get dressed and head out b/c the tension is real. I'm hiding out in my home office, but his random loud cursing is driving me nuts.
Post by emilyinchile on Apr 22, 2024 8:38:37 GMT -5
midwestmama where are you going in Brazil? I hope it's a great trip with easy travel for the part where you're on your own! I was just showing L some pictures this morning including some from past Brazil trips, and he asked if he can go to Brazil sometime - he must have picked up on how much H and I like it!
Post by emilyinchile on Apr 22, 2024 8:44:19 GMT -5
L discovered his wake up light has a little music option recently and has been insisting it playing while he falls asleep - which is fine. What is not fine is him hitting the button to turn the sound on in his sleep at 5:44 am. Thankfully he stayed asleep long enough for me to go turn it off, but I very much did not stay asleep or go back to sleep.
Our house is a disaster zone due to getting everything ready for this weekend's yard sale. DD found one of DS' old hoodies in the mess and put it on her giant stuffed bear and it's just adorable. Now the kids are fighting over who gets the toddler sweatshirt no one has cared about ever...
This weekend I found really cheap direct tickets to Iceland and now we're seriously considering going there this summer. I've been so bummed about with how our other travel plans for the summer are going sideways that now I'm obsessed with this idea.
H is off in CA for work this week and of course it is a super busy work week and the kids have multiple places to be.
It is nice to be able to blast my music again though, we both wfh and I like to loudly sing along to music while I work....which obviously doesn't work when he is home.
CurlyQ284, you are a good human. Every time you post about your step daughters, it's clear how much you love them and support them. I would be super sad to miss the ceremony too, but you are giving her a selfless gift by not forcing her to choose between loved ones.
I would definitely push her and your H to take on the lion's share of the party prep though.
My parents came to DDs play yesterday. My father is in the throes of Alzheimer's so outings can be tough for him. He did great, but my mom made an offhand comment that what she missed most about him was how funny he was. It broke my heart. My dad really was one of the funniest people I know. Humor is such an important part of a relationship and having someone who can make you laugh is IMO one of the best qualities, esp. if they can make you laugh during tough times. So my mom has lost that - and it is the toughest time of her life, I would guess. I'm kind of devastated for her.
My SD22 graduates college on Saturday. She has a limited number of tickets, and I don't get to go. It'll be her mom, H, SD21, her grandmother (moms side), her boyfriend, and then there's only one ticket left and there's me and DS so I said it was fine if it made it easier on her for me to stay home with DS so she invited her aunt. I've been bummed about it but it makes sense, so it's fine, whatever.
Then yesterday she asked if everyone can come here after for a small party so I'll be spending all week cleaning/doing yard work, and prepping food so my husband's ex wife and family can come here after. So that really rubbed salt in and I'm not in the best mood today.
Dude no. Her mom can take everyone to a restaurant or something.
What in the everlovingfuck?
She can't afford it, and she moved across the state so her place is 2.5 hours away. And I'm the stepmom, so any kind of "being difficult" is perceived way worse than if the "real" parents act like dicks. So here I go with another party. The high school grad party was ABSURD. I had SO MUCH FUCKING RAGE over that one because my H and her mom were total dick bags, at least this one is small.
It's really just that the patio is a huge mess, and I had plans to redo some things but was going to do it in 3 weeks, but now I think the whole project has to be scrapped until next year so it can be presentable for Saturday.
(Short version I hate my patio, it's flagstone pavers with this gravel in between, gravel is always everywhere, weeds everywhere. I was going to cover the whole thing with a tarp for a month to kill the weeds, then plant steppables in between the pavers to try to make it lower maintenance but I basically had to Round Up the whole thing so I can pull the weeds Friday so it would be decent for Saturday so I don't think I can plant anything now. The stones also have to be scrubbed. It's a MESS but everyone will be hanging out back there so this is the most obnoxious part.)
Post by fangoriagurkel on Apr 22, 2024 9:19:24 GMT -5
My stepmother passed away peacefully on Easter Sunday following a battle with Alzheimer’s. Her church held a service on Saturday and I wasn’t able to attend for health reasons and they couldn’t figure how to LiveStream so I brother and I were feeling very anticlimactic.
My Dad rang me this morning to let me know that he had sorted out some of her things and boxed up her large collection of brooches and was mailing them to me today. She and I were the only ones in our family that wore them and he said he knew that she would want me to have them. She was an amazing woman (was my father’s fifth wife, my stepmother for about 14-15 years) and will be missed.
Her birthday would have been this coming weekend and assuming the package arrives in time, I damn sure will be rocking one of her brooches.
I have this issue where sometimes when I'm eating I feel like I can't swallow. Usually I just take a big sip of water and have to force myself to swallow to get it down. I wouldn't say it happens a lot, but often enough. Especially if eating something dry like chicken or bread. It happened last night while eating dinner while my Mom was over. It was probably the worst it's ever been. I ended up basically having to throw up because I couldn't swallow. I think I scared the shit out of everyone. I promised my mom I'd call my doctor. I was just there last month for my annual but didn't think to bring it up since it hadn't happened in quite some time. Ugh, I hate calling the doctor.
I have that too. I believe the issue is a narrow esophagus with possibly weak esophageal muscles. I really try to focus on taking small bites, chewing well, eating slowly and drinking lots of water.
CurlyQ284 , you are a good human. Every time you post about your step daughters, it's clear how much you love them and support them. I would be super sad to miss the ceremony too, but you are giving her a selfless gift by not forcing her to choose between loved ones.
I would definitely push her and your H to take on the lion's share of the party prep though.
Or CurlyQ284 your H can take people out after so YOU do not have to do any of the work. No work for you.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Apr 22, 2024 9:39:49 GMT -5
We woke up to a messaging blitz from David’s school- no power, keep your gremlins home. He was psyched. H goes back to work tonight and his brother flew in from the Midwest (we live in Philly). He’s staying with the ILs and is going to help me with the kids after school-dinner-homework chaos.
But now FIL is sick, and it sounds kind of worrisome, maybe urgent care, maybe ER kind of situation. Always chaos. Always.