Post by supertrooper1 on Apr 22, 2024 10:40:02 GMT -5
Beau went from not being able to do anything physical because of his lower back to now he can't do anything physical because he can't move his neck, so we didn't do a lot this weekend. We were feeling cooped up from our colds all last week, so we decided to go for a drive Saturday and ended up at an outlet mall and lunch. Sunday morning we went out to breakfast with his family. We stopped by his son's house to spend time with the grandkids after breakfast.
This week seems like the calm before the storm of activities in May.
I had a mellow weekend. Friday, I had my annual first Friday after tax season lunch with DD except the school doesn't allow parents to have lunch with their kids so I had to pull her from school over the intercom to eat lunch on the bench outside the office. Last year DD didn't have school on my first Friday off so we spent the day together. I've had this tradition with her since she was a baby because I haven't seen my kid other than a few minutes in the car for weeks. On a plus my old 6th grade teacher was subbing so DD went back inside to find her so I she came outside to say hi.
Saturday I ran some errands and had a very lazy day. I fell asleep on top of the covers before 8pm. DH did some yard work since I was home and could give him instructions. Sunday was the dog Rylee's 15th birthday, DD and I drove over to the coast and she did a beach walk and then DD made her strawberry banana frozen treats. I actually decorated more for Rylee's birthday than I did for DD's last year. DH wasn't interested or excited about us making a big deal over Rylee's day.
I had a nice weekend. I went to our beach house on Thursday morning and stayed until yesterday afternoon. It was a nice balance of relaxation and projects around the house. This was the first time since we got the dog 3.5 years ago that I haven't been responsible for another living thing. It was glorious.
DH seemed to do OK managing everything here, but he was absolutely exhausted when I got home. DD1 did some of her laundry, but nothing else got done. Takeout or dinner out every night. DH went to the grocery store and only bought things that he eats. So I'm definitely digging out in between catching up on work and running around. But the kids seemed better than they have in a long time, which made me happy and sad - happy that they seem happy, but sad that it took me leaving for a period of time for this improvement to happen. We have a lot we need to work on as a family.
This week is crazy. Everyone has a million practices, games, appointments, and birthday parties, and a lot of them conflict with each other. DH is jumping in to drive where he can, but since I didn't do any meal prep on Sunday, dinners will be a bit of a mess this week. It will all be fine, but goodness the calendar is full!
ETA: I needed to find something funny to watch over the weekend during my down time, so decided to rewatch Derry Girls. OMG it was even funnier the second time around. If you are looking for something to watch, I highly recommend it.
I got back from my girls trip in the early afternoon on Saturday. I left the trip pretty annoyed at my friends because when we got back to the house Friday night after a full day of wine tasting and dinner, they all decided they wanted to take earlier flights home on Saturday. I get the motivation, since we had no plans Saturday morning, and we all had really busy weekends with our families. But taking the earlier flights meant we had to get up when it was still dark out at 6 am and leave the house by 6:30 am. There was no earlier flight for me to take, and it didn't make sense to not ride with them since the airport was an hour away and we were sharing a rental car. Plus we were sharing rooms, so it's not like I would have been able to sleep through my friend that I was sharing with getting up and ready and leaving. I had planned to sleep till I woke up, go for a quick run, and then head home (being able to start the weekend with good sleep and a workout). I ended up keeping the rental car after dropping them off and went and found a gym before I flew out. I was stewing over it but eventually convinced myself to try to let it go. Generally we travel really well together otherwise.
Anyway, we went the Padres game Saturday night with DD's softball league, yesterday was the baseball home run derby fundraiser for the two older boys, we had twins who are in kindergarten with DS2 over for a pool playdate, and then DD went to a beach birthday party for a classmate who invited the whole grade. And I did probably 20 loads of laundry yesterday as I washed everything and changed all sheets and combed through everyone's hair again to make sure no more lice. Luckily I didn't find anything on anyone. I reallllly hope we're done with that.
I am super excited at the prospect of a normal crazy week this week, unlike the past few weeks which involved COVID and lice. I'm in the office today and I have a to-do list a mile long, both work and personal stuff, and I'm excited to get stuff done.
Glorious weekend with both kids and a bonus kid. We had a great party Friday with a mix if Dss friends and our friends who are like a bunch of bonus parents. About 30 or more people. Great weather so we were outside in the garage and around the fire pit. Saturday, lunch, some shopping, we bought him a phone for his birthday and dinner at the local bar and grill where everyone had to come say hello. Sunday out to dinner. Dd had to go back. But ds and girlfriend went with friends for a bit, but then asked if Dh and I would hang out by the fire, of course.
Buuuuutttt....we left at 4:45 for a 730 flight with about 1 hrs 15 minutes drive to a small airport this morning and missed the flight due to stalled traffic in 2 places for I don't know why. So now they are not getting back until late.
And...I have about had it with my mom. She has always been self absorbed. Dd and Ds went with me to see her, and she spends the entire time talking about herself. She's obsessed about the good old days when she owned the bar. I even mentioned 3 times about Dss birthday, nothing. The kids even notice it now. Ds said, I wasn't expecting a present, but she could at least said happy birthday.
rere, my mom has now reached the stage where she is either traveling or too ill to visit us. So we have to visit her, but we can't because the kids are in sports every weekend. Ugh.
I thought when she retired she might help out more or when my sister's kids got older, but she has basically not done much at all in terms of the kids. And when she is here visiting it is a lot of complaints.
I would envy my friends parents, but they are all reaching that downhill stage of health also right now, so it all sort of sucks for most everyone with older parents.
We froze a lot during soccer games this weekend, but it was sunny. Overall a good weekend, but not that excited to be back to work. Kids are off today for teacher institute day.
Post by librarychica on Apr 22, 2024 15:13:42 GMT -5
We had a nice weekend, pretty quiet. Some socializing Saturday, met my best friend and her H for a bday food truck rally. We left the big one in charge of the little one and that went well.
Sunday was laundry and some work in the sprinkler system. DD2 had a friend over. DD1 got in trouble for improper use of her phone (getting up after we told her to go to bed and staying up messing around online until 3am and then lying about it) so she is on restriction.
This should be a pretty typical week at work and home. Nothing unusual going on.
I got all my payroll quarterly reports finished but 1 and that one I need more information on. I got them mid-quarter due to their payroll person passing away and I thought I had everything but I'm missing one W4 from a 1/4 payroll. This takes a huge weight off my shoulders having them all basically finished.
rere, I think it is okay to let your kids stop their relationship with grandma. I was 19 when I cut off "grams" mom's mom from my life by that point I could see through all the BS and how everything had to make her the center of attention. It did help that she lived in Indiana and we lived in Oregon so visits were far and few. I was polite and nice and let her meet DD the last time she did a sister's trip out here. Again she gushed to her sisters on how adorable and smart DD was but never called DD by name and DD wouldn't go near her. Now gram's sister from Florida DD was all chatty with but then she talked to her and asked her questions and being 3 DD was fascinated that one of them lived with Mickey (nowhere near Disney but in Florida).
I've done the same thing with DH's family. They have no interest in DD and I've stopping making DD try other than being polite if they mail her a gift. I 100% believe that you can make family out of strangers and those are sometimes more precious than the ones that you share blood with.
186momx, Happ birthday to your pup! We love celebrating our pets' birthdays, especially since neither are close to any of our birthdays.
mae0111, I'm so glad you got away. Don't feel badly about the kids being settled when you got home. Families need breaks from each other from time to time. We are going out of town without kids for the first time in over a year. Both of my girls are excited to have a "break" from me and H.
We had a really nice weekend. Saturday, our whole family skied then went hot tubing/swimming with a couple other families. It's that magical time of year when there's still snow on the mountains but warm off the mountains.
Sunday H ski, patrolled and dd1 had a volleyball tournament. It was her first tournament of this nature and she felt pretty good about how her team did.
I hate using the term busy to describe myself but this week is... Well just that. H had to make an emergency trip for work to San Francisco. He will be there all week. My mom and dad arrive in town tomorrow night. They were initially supposed to help my sister and her family for the week (sister undergoing chemo treatment and having a very difficult time), but my mom is actually a lot to put on my sister, so they're staying with me. (My dad is super chill and helpful.) They will be helpful. However, hosting my mom is a lot of work on my end. I'm up to my ears with cleaning, meal prep, and packing for my weekend away. Work is a lot right now to, so...
My kid got into a fist fight at school today. Thankfully no suspension. I would like to hire someone better at parenting than me to handle the fall out. Any takers?
k3am -I’m just about the very last person you’d want to help parent any kids since we had a massive screaming match in my house tonight over a… BAGEL. But I’m sorry this happened and I hope you got some reliable details about what happened. And that your kid (wasn’t sure which one) is ok physically and emotionally.
k3am my DS1 got into a fight in first grade. Seems like he took the brunt of it and the kid he got into it with had had issues with other kids too. The school handled it really well I thought - they spent the rest of the day with the principal and wrote apology letters. We discussed with him and he knew it wasn’t ok and has never happened again (he’s now in 4th grade). I think it’s a good thing for stuff like this to happen in elementary vs when they’re older. Is he ok?
k3am, I'm so sorry and I hope you got the full story, you and your DS can reflect on what happened and put stops in place to prevent this from happening again.
I might be able to mitigate fist fights better than verbal ones....Like mae0111, my DD's got into a shouting match yesterday. It was over DD2's softball mitt size. Me saying that DD2 just needs to find a mitt SHE feels good using and not worry about a number/size would not shut them up, no matter how loudly or aggressively I said it!
It was DD. This is her THIRD time attacking another child at school. (Once in kinder, once in second, and again in 5th). Twice she went after boys. Someone hurts her feelings and her immediate response is to hit them.
OH and the insult? Former BFF told her to "go cry some McDonald's tears." The agony. Former BFF walked away. The boy that was friends with both of them (but really with former BFF) said something to stick up for former BFF and DD punched him, so he punched her back.
According to DD, former BFF has been "bullying" her. She told the principal. According to her, because the bullying is happening on a phone, the school can't step in and she needs to call the police. Which.. #1, wrong. #2.. she is not bullying her. Former BFF may not be saying nice things, but it's a far cry from bullying. And DD isn't exactly innocent herself.
We have talked to former BFF's mom who had no idea there was bad text exchanges going on, but "if it happens again, there will be punishment." Mom also told DH not to worry about DD, since when she was a kid, she said way worse things and got into "tons" of physical altercations. I had to point out to him that THAT IS NOT NORMAL.
I also texted the om of the boy to apologize for him getting caught in the crossfire. School hadn't even reached out to her. I let her know that I don't expect that he'd sit there and let her hit him. But I did want to give her a heads up to go through his messages as well.
FWIW, we saw terrible text messages between the girls (on both sides) that DD had tried to delete a couple weeks ago. We discussed it, she was punished, the girls made up. Then I saw it happening again, so she's been blocked from texting/calling anyone other than DH and myself, and her phone does nothing but tell us where she is and let her take pictures.
She's on a path towards earning it back over time, but we'll be putting Bark on it vs. just relying on parental controls and DH's tech savvy, and former BFF and her victim will continue to be blocked.
All technology is now severely restricted, and I now have a new house servant who will be responsible for starting and moving household laundry to the dryer (vs just her own) daily and vacuuming the entire downstairs. We have to pick and chose our restrictions with her, she thinks it too harsh, but we think it's not harsh enough. And I don't have to worry about grounding her from friends because... she has no friends.
k3am I think this age is so tough for social stuff, especially for girls. Last week is when DS1 told DD's BFF that DD had lice, and then BFF told the whole school. They seem to have made up a bit this week. My DD is very physical with her brothers, but luckily hasn't lashed out physically at school (yet).
Also I agree with you about not being nice vs. bullying. I think kids (and some adults) sometimes tend to throw out the word "bullying" for things that don't qualify as targeted/long-term harassment. Of course unkind behavior should still be dealt with. I think that's an overall positive that the parent of the boy didn't hear about it/wasn't making a big deal about whatever happened? Sorry you have to spend all this time and mental energy on dealing with the fallout.
186momx, school sent her to the counselor to talk about her feelings. (DD likes hanging out there anyways, so she didn't care. My guess is that the principal is using the phrase "punched" the same way DD is using "bullying" and exaggerating or using a different meaning than I typically think of it. If I had to guess, someone got slapped.
Taking away something for a week is virtually impossible. She either doesn't care about it being taken away, or it's something that she cares about so much that she's willing to burn the world down over.
k3am, ugh, I also have a DD who doesn't care about things being taken away. The only thing that has any affect is taking the Libby App away but then I feel like a miserable person taking away reading. DD loves her e-books and audiobooks by taking away libby I took those away and she acted like I took all reading away when I just took the app.
sdlaura, Did you eradicate the lice? DD's K-8 now has reports of multiple cases in each classroom including a number of staff. We are taking all the extra precautions at our house.
186momx yes we did. But it is still going around at preschool, and we just got a notification today that a kid in my 4th-grader’s class had lice (ironically, 4th grader was my only kid who didn’t have lice, so I don’t think it came from us).
I did the initial treatment/cleaning last Tuesday, then I combed through everyone’s hair and re-changed all sheets and towels Sunday, and didn’t find anything. I did it again with my hair yesterday just in case and again no signs. So I’m cautiously optimistic that we took care of it the first go-round 🤞🏻
186momx yes we did. But it is still going around at preschool, and we just got a notification today that a kid in my 4th-grader’s class had lice (ironically, 4th grader was my only kid who didn’t have lice, so I don’t think it came from us).
I did the initial treatment/cleaning last Tuesday, then I combed through everyone’s hair and re-changed all sheets and towels Sunday, and didn’t find anything. I did it again with my hair yesterday just in case and again no signs. So I’m cautiously optimistic that we took care of it the first go-round 🤞🏻
After dd had lice and anytime there was mention of lice, I put that lice free spray in her hair and pulled it back in a braid or bun for weeks. I hate crawly bugs that are a pain to get rid of and don't want to go away.