Post by followyourarrow on Apr 25, 2024 8:34:39 GMT -5
FI has his final exams today for a Coast Guard certificate he's working on. He's trying to be the tough, oil field guy and tell me it's all fine, but I know he's nervous. He has dyslexia and struggles with written tests. Some of the other guys at the class went out partying last night and two of them didn't make it back to the school's dorm. One didn't make it in time for his test this morning. When you get this certification, your pay will about double, plus there's so many more job opportunities. FI has had 3 jobs offers contingent on passing this class. I can't imagine risking all that to go out drinking, but I also know these guys tend to be young.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Apr 25, 2024 8:42:56 GMT -5
I hope he passes with flying colors! What a great opportunity!
My H has been laid up with strep this week and this morning he was finally feeling well enough to make breakfasts/pack my lunch. He usually does this every day for me and I was STRUGGLING having to feed myself. What do you mean I have to spread my own peanut butter on my toast?! ðŸ˜
It wouldn’t be awful if we got up at normal times, but DD’s school starts at 7:30 so I get bounced out of bed at the crack of dawn.
I posted asking for recs on lip stains a bit ago. Tried the Sacheu and Wonderskin. The Sacheu just took too damn long to set so I abandoned that one. I'm loving Wonderskin though. The colors don't show on my lips the way that I expect them to but I've found a few I like anyway. You don't have to leave it on long to get the stain and then you just wipe off the purple and go. I get color for a good long while without any bleeding into the lines around my lips!
In other random news, Fiance and I are slowly discussing a wedding date. He suddenly feels like he wants to do it sooner rather than later. I'd originally thought outside on the beach sounded perfect but we live in Florida so if we do it soon, that ain't happening unless we do it in the next few weeks.
I'm sitting at the dealership getting H's car inspected and "working" aka responding to emails and dicking around online. I am so uncomfortable in this little chair and wish I had a coffee but I'm afraid if I go get one, the car will be done.
I did end up getting some pants yesterday at Gap Factory. They were cheap AF because they were doing a 60% off Spring sale. I'm talking like 8 dollar khakis. I hope they look half decent.
I've had way too much interaction with other people (aside from work) this week lol. Between DS's baseball games and practices, dentist appt. for DS yesterday, car inspection today, my cleaning lady coming who is always chatty, and tomorrow we're getting the house pressure washed, it's a lot of talking to random people. That sounds ridiculous. We also have a charity gala Saturday night but at least I'll have alcohol to facilitate some of those interactions haha. Definitely looking forward to not doing much tomorrow evening.
Tonight there is a presentation at my grad school that my former supervisor organized, and one of my coworkers will be a panel member for. I am actually looking forward to it - not the panel itself as much as seeing a few other people I haven't seen recently and I'm glad I can go support my colleagues. I'm also meeting up with my bestie from my Italy study abroad trip for dinner beforehand, and really looking forward to catching up with him. Now if only I didn't have to drive an hour to get there, lol. I had originally hoped to also go to the bookstore before all that and buy an alumni t-shirt, but I am in a meeting until 3:30 so there just won't be time for all of that before 6pm.
I can't believe we are leaving for vacation in only 3 weeks. I really need to get on top of finishing planning, meeting our dog sitter, and a few other random things before we go. I just got home from my study abroad thing a month ago so this feels like so soon to be traveling again! It has kind of snuck up on me because of that.
Started off the day badly. DH has been struggling with his mental health and has basically been shut down and not at all helpful the past week. I've been running the whole damn show. He has been playing video games and doing Lego for 8 hours a day after he finishes work.
Last night I wanted to frame an artwork but between making and cleaning up from dinner, managing homework, doing two bedtime routines, and doing a science experiment with DS I didn't have a chance. I then tried to frame it this morning quickly so I could take it to the office and get it out of the way but I need to cut down the poster to fit the frame. I also wanted the poster to lay flat for a day since it had been rolled up. I left it in the middle of the living room floor since I could finish it when I got home tonight.
He lost his shit on me. Called me a child who couldn't clean up her mess. Informed me that he was planning on running the robot vacuum today (only after the passive aggressive yelling had started).
I love him but I hate him so much. I have spent about 2 hours in the past month engaging in my own hobbies. He has completely checked out of our lives other than to criticise and complain. He has nothing pleasant to say. He is waiting on counseling with a specific therapist that treats neurodivergent patients but the wait is another 6 months.
I desperately want him to leave his job. If you are in breakdown then take a fucking break. Because what he is doing right now is breaking both of us.
I looked at next year's school calendar and there is a long fall weekend now, so I think I'm going to talk to DH about maybe a trip to Charleston. I haven't been there since high school and I think we could enjoy a long weekend there.
DH also wants to go on a cruise for spring break, but the itineraries for our preferred ports are meh.
I tried to purchase something on line this morning and my credit card wouldn't go through. Apparently someone stole my Amex info so my card was flagged for fraud. That's the second credit card in less than 6 months. This is getting ridiculous.
Started off the day badly. DH has been struggling with his mental health and has basically been shut down and not at all helpful the past week. I've been running the whole damn show. He has been playing video games and doing Lego for 8 hours a day after he finishes work.
Last night I wanted to frame an artwork but between making and cleaning up from dinner, managing homework, doing two bedtime routines, and doing a science experiment with DS I didn't have a chance. I then tried to frame it this morning quickly so I could take it to the office and get it out of the way but I need to cut down the poster to fit the frame. I also wanted the poster to lay flat for a day since it had been rolled up. I left it in the middle of the living room floor since I could finish it when I got home tonight.
He lost his shit on me. Called me a child who couldn't clean up her mess. Informed me that he was planning on running the robot vacuum today (only after the passive aggressive yelling had started).
I love him but I hate him so much. I have spent about 2 hours in the past month engaging in my own hobbies. He has completely checked out of our lives other than to criticise and complain. He has nothing pleasant to say. He is waiting on counseling with a specific therapist that treats neurodivergent patients but the wait is another 6 months.
I desperately want him to leave his job. If you are in breakdown then take a fucking break. Because what he is doing right now is breaking both of us.
That sounds so hard and heartbreaking. Mental health is such an energy suck, for all parties involved. Have you talked to him about how you need some time of your own? I struggle with depression and anxiety and my DH has had to sit me down a few times and be very blunt about what he needs as well.
Just an update, my dad was admitted and will be there a at least two nights. We haven’t gotten a good grasp on what is going on exactly—the doctors weren’t available and they hadn’t finished the tests when we went last night. And my dad’s hearing aid stopped working and he can’t hardly hear anything over the hospital noise so he’s not super clear on what’s going on either.
My husband spent the night at his house with the dog so that took care of one night. He lives in a rural area and I was having a hard time finding a pet sitter that would work at such short notice. He doesn’t live super far away but too far to go there ourselves multiple times a day.
My FIL is now in hospice so having my dad at the hospital at the same time is a lot.
Plus other dumb stuff like someone has to be here to sign for the missing grill parts which are supposed to be delivered today but it’s not clear they are on the truck yet?
Oh shit, aprilsails, I am sorry. That is so unfair and infuriating. I hope he gets the help he needs and I really hope you can find some ways to take care of yourself, too.
aprilsails I’m so sorry! That sounds really awful. At this point, maybe any therapist available might be better than nothing as a stop gap? You can’t live like this for six months.
lavenderblue, I got a text from my CC/bank last night about my card being used on GrubHub, 4-5 times in a row which then flagged it for fraud. I'm thankful that there is someone out there watching this stuff, but it's a PITA to be without a card. (I do have a debit card I can use as well though...) The person at the CC was able to see that my card was stored in someones digital wallet, so she was able to remove it from their wallet and then cancel the card. Apparently a lot of credit card companies now just update your card number on places that you have it saved (like Amazon) I had this card from last night replaced a few months ago from fraud, and she was able to see that the person also had my previous card which was then automatically updated when the new card was activated.
((( tacokick))) that’s a lot. I hope it’s something minor and is only the 2 day admit.
Also, I called the place you recommended, and they got me in May 10. I was expecting a months long wait. I was actually doing a two prong approach, and had an appointment with a psychiatrist yesterday that went… less than ideally.
DD has her final dance show tonight, the teacher only does dance up to 5th grade. Every show she has been annoyed we didn't bring her flowers so DS will have some flowers and cake pops for her tonight.
2 more days until H is back home from his work trip. I miss him but the house has stayed so clean with him gone!
I had my first PT appointment this morning after breaking my elbow last month. It didn't hurt but after the therapist messed with my arm for a while, I started to feel sick and like I might pass out. I ended up having to lay down for a while with a cold cloth.
I am picking up DD early from school because she is having friend problems and I just wanted to give her a break. I'm hoping we can go out to lunch and just have a nice afternoon.
Post by dancingirl21 on Apr 25, 2024 10:17:47 GMT -5
I'm sorry for everyone going through tough things right now.
I had COVID 2 months ago. Some might remember that I had been dealing with what I think are long COVID symptoms - dizzy/vertigo, heart pounding, anxiety, etc. It got better the end of March/early April, but last week it started really bad again. I was sitting at my grandfather's funeral and felt such a rush to my head and became instantly lightheaded and thought I was going to pass out in a church pew. I didn't, but have felt dizzy and off since. My brother also passed recently and I think that is contributing to me feeling bad.
I saw my doctor on Monday and she thinks there is a good chance I had a sinus infection along with COVID that was never treated and is contributing to the dizziness. I'm on antibiotics and feel maybe slightly better with that. She also prescribed Xanax for when I'm feeling anxious. I took one on Tuesday night and I do think it calmed me down, but then 24 hours later (last night), I felt really terrible. Super jittery, anxious, body was buzzing, insomnia, very horrible intrusive thoughts about how I was probably dying, etc. I sent her a message today asking if this could be the Xanax leaving my body and what else we can try instead. My sister in law said she's on Zoloft and it just takes the edge off a bit. I've never experienced anything like this and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I feel fully unhinged and like I'm having a heart attack every night right now. My doctor ran all the blood work and everything came back normal. I have a follow up appointment in 1.5 weeks and if I don't feel better with the dizziness by then, we start running all the big tests.
The roof of my car spontaneously cracked - the repair from the tree falling on it 2 years ago failed. I’m relieved it’s nothing I did to cause more damage but I’m concerned it’s going to keep happening. Luckily it’s covered by a lifetime warranty from the body shop but I am still displeased. I’m grateful we have DDs car and it’s still the school year (she’s not allowed to drive in until Jr year ) so at least I don’t have to deal with the hassle of rental.
Last night I walked through my kitchen, past the kitchen window, and freaked myself out so badly by my own shadow/reflection. I had a hard time getting my heart rate to slow down, so then I had fitful sleep all night.
I'm sorry aprilsails, that is a lot. Is there anyway you can get away with the kids or send him somewhere? Maybe just the separation would help the mental load because then he's physically gone since he's not helping anyway.
Also, I have had the worst exp with a poshmark buyer that was so annoying, I ended up copying the listing of the item and deleting the original.
I accepted her offer, but her payment method was bad. So it took 2 days of explaining that. Then she cancelled the offer I had accepted and wants me to send another offer except poshmark says you have to reduce shipping, so I told her she could buy it or send me another offer, but I am OVER IT. I'm not giving it away, buy it if you want it.
Post by midwestmama on Apr 25, 2024 10:39:52 GMT -5
Hugs to those going through hard things right now.
DS passed his written Segment 1 driver's training test yesterday. He has 3 more observed drives next week, and as long as he does fine on those, we'll be able to take him to get his learner's permit. Crazy to think I already have one child who is of driving age.
I'm sorry aprilsails, that is a lot. Is there anyway you can get away with the kids or send him somewhere? Maybe just the separation would help the mental load because then he's physically gone since he's not helping anyway.
I'll be taking the kids to my Mom's cottage this weekend for the better part of two days. It's supposed to pour rain the whole time so now I need to come up with activities.
He's not this bad all the time and I know something at work has him down but it's been a lot of me taking the kids away to give him space and reset for the past six months and I don't feel it has gotten us anywhere. I could have written this exact same post in October. My ability to empathize with his struggles is dwindling as I feel myself being buried alive.
My mom died 8 years ago today. There's nothing to be done, but it would be nice to just let the day come and go quietly. I've come to hate the endless parade of Miss Congeniality perfect date memes that make it harder than usual to forget what day it is.
OMG the grill parts arrived and are just some random screws and nothing we need. I am so tired of this. It is a very expensive grill that was supposed to be a fun treat and it already has been nothing but trouble.