Updates and DDOTS

[rere]

Dd got her internship in surgery at our hopsital for the summer. This should be a good indicator if she wants to work in surgery. It doesn't start until June. She will be home for the summer next week, so she called her old job at the bakery deli and will work there until June. She's all stressed about saving money to have spending money next fall because we don't want her working in nursing school. But it's not like we'll let her starve, but she doesn't want to have to ask for money for things like going out, concerts, extras.

Her home should be an adjustment. I already warned her Dh and I have been meal prepping and trying to eat better during the week, so she may not be on board with some of my new experiments in cooking. Plus, she's going to be 19. So we are all adults. I'll treat her with respect and vice versa. She's a good kid, but mom and dad aren't her roommates who like to wait out the dishes until everything is dirty until someone breaks down and does them.

[twinmomma]

I'm getting my tattoo today! I got the final design sketch from the artist and can't wait to see it come to life tonight.

I received my cap and gown in the mail yesterday, so that's exciting! It makes graduation feel very real. I am finishing my final capstone paper this weekend and then I'm done. I can't believe I actually pulled off getting an MBA while working full time with kids.

[supertrooper1]

Beau is anxiously excited for his granddaughter to get here. She's due in two weeks but everyone thinks she'll be early. He's been wearing his Apple watch religiously to make sure he doesn't miss the call since we'll be watching his two grandsons while they're in the hospital.

I finally caught up with DS's counselor and she made me feel a lot better. She said DS is twice exceptional with his anxiety and being gifted. She isn't a psychologist and can't diagnose him with autism, but after talking with her I'm not sure we need to go that route since he's getting what he needs from school without a diagnosis. I know I'm providing him with everything I can to help when he's with me, but I still think much of his anxiety triggers come from when he's at his dad's house.

[waverly]

After my user friend didn't invite me to an event (many events really), I decided to ask for reciprocity in carpool. So I sent a message asking if they could take some days. Initially she was supposed to volunteer days to help out but she never ever volunteered for my day, and did maybe 5 days of the other persons. I just counted up the days, and there are about 30 carpooling days. She did about 6 of them, other friend did 9, and I was on track to do 15.

[mommyatty]

supertrooper1, even if he’s generally getting what he needs, I would still go through with testing. There’s a lot of literature out there about kids who grow up undiagnosed neurodivergent and how it negatively impacts their mental health. Plus, their bodies (especially their brains) react differently to many meds, so it’s important to know for health reasons. Like DS has to be on an antidepressant but they started him at half the normal starter dose because neurodivergent brains just react differently to it and generally need a lot less to be therapeutic. And there are certain unusual disorders like Ehlers-Danos Syndrome and a lot of gut issues that are much more common among autistic people.

[campermom]

I heard back after our IOP intake and my child’s going to do 3 evenings a week of virtual. It’s not ideal. But it’s the only option besides one that is 1.5 hours away Monday-Friday that would leave me unpaid for 6-8 weeks. I’m praying for a solution. This has only been an issue for about 8 weeks

[186momx]

I got to watch DD's private lesson last night for the first time since winter break. OMG she looks like a completely different gymnast! All comp season I watched her do the same thing over and over and didn't really see any huge improvements and yesterday I saw where all her hard work has been going. She was working the level 6 vault and WOW it was pretty amazing looking. We won't know what level she will be competing next season yet and I'm so confused as she is working up skills above the next level.

I have my very first facial scheduled tomorrow. Anything I should know before I go?

[supertrooper1]

186momx, be prepared if they do extractions of clogged pores during your facial. They hurt. You can always ask them not to.

[k3am]

186momx, if your facial place is anything like mine, they will try to upsell you along the way. Especially if you've never had a facial before, just stick with a basic one and enjoy. And the extractions suck.

Oh and they may touch your feet. I was happily surprised at the foot massage.

[supertrooper1]

mommyatty, it's definitely something we need to consider. My dad of all people suggested anti-anxiety meds for DS. I'm not sure if they'd be right for him because I don't want to numb him. This is based on my own experience with anti-depressants for a few years, so I may be biased and clouding my own judgement.

His counselor made goods points of pushing him on his fears and comfort zone, but not too much to the point of breakdown or tears. For example, he was nervous around her therapy dog but he has improved since seeing her. His biggest trigger is time and being late, so I may start pushing that a little more. I can't relax much more than I already do with schedules.

[supertrooper1]

Apr 25, 2024 16:43:15 GMT -5 k3am said:

186momx , if your facial place is anything like mine, they will try to upsell you along the way. Especially if you've never had a facial before, just stick with a basic one and enjoy. And the extractions suck.

Yes!  They try to get you to walk out with $$$$ of new skin care products that you'll never use again.  

[dglvrk2]

Does anyone ever feel this way about work?

The more senior of my two bosses has a lot going on right now and seems pretty stressed. For the past week I've sensed they're frustrated specifically with me when what work I give them doesn't match they're verbally described vision. Ex: they wanted a "detailed" training plan on "table" format. I shared my draft. They didn't like what I shared, told me to "hold off" and grumbled that they had to do the work themselves. I felt pretty defeated. I tried my best to meet expectations, but....

We are rolling out a new protocol -eg. New this week - for folks from other departments to request support from our department. One problem is said boss, two other department colleagues and I the only people fully aware of this protocol at this time. A few people from other departments reached out to me directly for such support yesterday. They followed what they knew of the protocol. I honestly forgot the other components of the protocol for a few hours and agreed to assist them. As soon as I remembered what I'd forgotten - information given to me, but not them yet- I responded to them and their supervisor letting them know that the work is on hold until their supervisor can get full information about the new protocol. I just worry I could be toast forgetting this.
Big picture, I worry about my boss being frustrated with ne.. Wondering what to do next? Or am I just overthinking this?

[campermom]

I’m getting my son tested for pandas. This would make complete sense!!! 8 weeks of an extreme behavior shift, he started having throat clearing which I chalked up to mood stabilizer increase (tic)

He had strep Feb 9 when we all had flu. If treatment resistant, his aggression and dysregulation would time perfectly

My posts recently talk about the absolute upheaval and intensive outpatient program starting Monday

[rere]

dglvrk2 I'm kind of I'm the same boat. One aspect of my job is performance management. I hate these meetings. I go in, no one really contributes except the boss. One month he'll say one thing, I'll do it, next month when I report, it's either not what he wants, or it's like the conversation never happened.

So this morning I go up and ask how her thought performance management was going. He said good. I said I don't think so. When I explained, he said it's always been like that. Alrighty then.

[waverly]

campermom , DS has had strep with regular symptoms, but twice he had strep where the only symptom was throat clearing. So yes, I definitely think check for PANDAS and/or a current strep infection. The doctor thought I was crazy until the test result came back and she was like wow you really know your kid, and I was like all I know is that he cleared his throat a lot last time with strep.

[mae0111]

campermom - that’s a really good idea to test for PANDAS. I had DD1 tested a while ago because she has had so much strep and her erratic behavior started around age 5 after a couple bouts of rather resistant strep. Another friend did the same thing - her DS suddenly couldn’t really write anymore at around age 8 or 9, and drifted off a lot in class. Then he developed tics. He’s doing well now! Good luck!!

[campermom]

Not strep and the doctor was not in the pandas camp

I’m at such a loss. This behavior is such a drastic sudden shift and he is now unable to function in normal environments like school, sports etc

She referred to neurology but is doubtful that an MRI would be covered without any other symptoms

[mommyatty]

campermom, by “not in the PANDAS” camp, do you mean just not on board that this is a case of it, or doesn’t believe it exists? If it’s the second one, can you talk to his psychiatrist to see what they think?

[mae0111]

campermom strep is not the only cause of PANDAS/PANS.

pandasnetwork.org/pandas-biological-markers/

I also had DD2 tested after she was treated for Lyme.

I’m sending you a PM

[campermom]

mommyatty a skeptic. Many pediatricians are. Yes I’m going to bring it to them. He will have increased access to med management beginning this week too.

[sdlaura]

Even if it’s not PANDAS, I think there’s general medical agreement that strep can do some crazy stuff/have some really wacky side effects. One of our friends’ children went into serious kidney failure due to a case of strep and was hospitalized for weeks. Luckily she’s doing better now. I hope you get some answers/improvement soon campermom.

[erbear]

My daughter had PANDAS and holy hell was it shitty. I hope that’s not what’s going on.

[campermom]

erbear can you tell me more about your experience, results. Titers etc.

If this is what is happening, Id have an answer. We are getting in school suspensions and attack on student referrals several days in a row. Several students and it’s across settings at daycare and the gym.

I don’t take him to the gym anymore.

Which means I have no breaks.
No respite.
I’m either working and checking email constantly for referrals or managing him.
They go to dads in about a month.

The 3 months before this shift we only had two
Referrals that whole time.