Post by Leeham Rimes on Apr 27, 2024 19:59:37 GMT -5
I’m sorry for your loss. Honestly I think little kids get a pass on having to have nothing but black or whatever. I mean, I may not dress my kids in rainbows but the last funeral we went to, the kids were toddler/preschool age, so we did khakis and a dark blue polo bc that’s what we had. If people had anything to say, I didn’t know about it.
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The cat dress will be fine. The first time I went to a funeral was when I was 8. It was for my great aunt Rita. It was a couple months after Christmas. My Christmas dress was a pale solid green. My mom had me wear that because according to her, Aunt Rita wouldn’t want you in black and green was her favorite color. Turns out my mom didn’t want to buy a new dress for me and my other aunt told her that my green dress would work. Lol.
As long as they aren’t in a sparkleprincess costume complete with tiara and loud plastic dress up shoes, they’ll be fine (and maybe even in something like that if grandma liked to see them dress up). Young kids at a funeral are a promise of the future and the legacy your grandmother leaves so I wouldn’t worry if their clothes reflect that.
I find black is for the people between 20 and 60 who have the clothes and aren’t going to many funerals. The older adults often are more likely to wear something else.
As long as they aren’t in a sparkleprincess costume complete with tiara and loud plastic dress up shoes, they’ll be fine (and maybe even in something like that if grandma liked to see them dress up). Young kids at a funeral are a promise of the future and the legacy your grandmother leaves so I wouldn’t worry if their clothes reflect that.
I find black is for the people between 20 and 60 who have the clothes and aren’t going to many funerals. The older adults often are more likely to wear something else.
My husband's grandmother specifically said that she didn't want people to be dressed all in black at her funeral. I wore a peach colored blouse and a black skirt with white polka dots with a black sweater at her funeral. I wore the same outfit to to my mother-in-law's funeral and to my own mother's funeral.
Post by sandandsea on Apr 28, 2024 20:50:03 GMT -5
I’m sorry for your loss. I think it 100% depends on your family and I’d probably ask others what they’d prefer. MIL and DH had strong opinions on attire for FILs funeral. We bought black dress pants, white collared buttons ups and black/white ties and black belts for both of our boys.
I’m so sorry about your grandma. Your kids can wear whatever they want. At my dad’s and my uncle’s funeral, my kids wore dark bottoms with white or plain-ish tops. But honestly the kids were more ignored than probably any other time in their lives—the adults really just want to talk with each other.
Last funeral I went to, the person died while we were OOT and I couldn't go shopping. I didn't have black/gray/navy summer clothes for my baby/toddler at the time so I went with something as neutral as possible. My baby wore a light pink dress and my toddler wore a light green dress. I think whatever your kids wear will be fine.
I remember as a kid, being taken to shop for something funeral-appropriate when each of my grandparents died. But I think norms have relaxed a bit. The funerals I've been to over the last couple years have been less strictly black than I remember. I just wear work clothes that are reasonably somber/neutral, but often it isn't black. Kids get a total pass. As long as it is appropriate to the formality of the venue (e.g. funeral home, church, anywhere a luncheon afterward is hosted, etc.) I think it's completely fine.
When I've been really close to the person who died (e.g. my mom), I was happy to have people come as they are and when they could to remember her. What they wore, and specifically whether it was black, was not something I cared about.