I’d pick a man. Due to my weight, I seem to be either invisible or repulsive to most of them, so they probably wouldn’t even notice me! I am not sad about this.
I don't know WHY their ears look like that if they're not supposed to be scritched and pet. Why are they so cute if they're also going to be aggressive? It's so so annoying.
I feel this way about raccoons too. Like why with the cute little hands and masked eyes if I can't touch you?
AGREED. I had to have a very sad conversation with my stepdaughter about why she can't have a pet raccoon.
Because I DONT KNOW SD. I really don't! We SHOULD have one, and name him Winston or some kinda stuffy name so it'll be funnier when we tell him not to rummage through the trash.
I’d pick a man. Due to my weight, I seem to be either invisible or repulsive to most of them, so they probably wouldn’t even notice me! I am not sad about this.
No ma'am. You aren't allowed to talk about yourself like that. Knock it off. ❤️
Post by underwaterrhymes on Apr 29, 2024 12:06:30 GMT -5
I think it’s also worth pointing out if I am attacked by a bear in the woods, people are far more likely to believe me than if a man attacks me in the woods.
I think it’s also worth pointing out if I am attacked by a bear in the woods, people are far more likely to believe me than if a man attacks me in the woods.
I am LOLing (not really) bc I was listening to the most recent season of Up and Vanished (takes place in Alaska) and both an indigenous woman and a young man went missing in Nome and despite an extraordinary amount of evidence there had been criminal activity perpetrated against both of them (by, you guessed it, a MAN) authorities concluded they had BOTH been attacked/killed by bears. Despite there being absolutely no evidence or remains and the fact that there has literally been like 2 bear attacks in 50 years.
I feel this way about raccoons too. Like why with the cute little hands and masked eyes if I can't touch you?
AGREED. I had to have a very sad conversation with my stepdaughter about why she can't have a pet raccoon.
Because I DONT KNOW SD. I really don't! We SHOULD have one, and name him Winston or some kinda stuffy name so it'll be funnier when we tell him not to rummage through the trash.
My favorite video is where a woman has raccoons that come to hear window each night for treats, and she rates how they like one thing vs. the other. They are SO SO cute stuffing the food into their little faces!
I just want to go on record that while I appreciate discourse from all sides I am also 100% on board with this becoming a thread about adorable wildlife.
I’d pick a man. Due to my weight, I seem to be either invisible or repulsive to most of them, so they probably wouldn’t even notice me! I am not sad about this.
There is real strength in invisibility. I’ve been living this life for 38 years. I wouldn’t trade it.
I think it’s also worth pointing out if I am attacked by a bear in the woods, people are far more likely to believe me than if a man attacks me in the woods.
Yep. I made that point upthread. They'll see claw marks and be like, wow, you poor thing. No one would ask what kind of hiking boots I was wearing.
Now, there probably plenty who would blame the woman for being out in the woods (like what we you doing walking home from work at that time of night victim blaming), but they wouldn't doubt the attack actually happened.
krystee and Patsy Baloney - trying to explain to people that when you've been told you're fat and ugly for 99% of your life, the idea that someone is going to target you is basically zero in your brain. You are not the thin, blonde, woman on the missing posters by a long shot.
krystee and Patsy Baloney - trying to explain to people that when you've been told you're fat and ugly for 99% of your life, the idea that someone is going to target you is basically zero in your brain. You are not the thin, blonde, woman on the missing posters by a long shot.
They might be the ones who get the attention for going missing, but rape and sexual assault do not happen only to pretty or thin or “attractive” women. It’s about power, not attraction.
krystee and Patsy Baloney - trying to explain to people that when you've been told you're fat and ugly for 99% of your life, the idea that someone is going to target you is basically zero in your brain. You are not the thin, blonde, woman on the missing posters by a long shot.
They might be the ones who get the attention for going missing, but rape and sexual assault do not happen only to pretty or thin or “attractive” women. It’s about power, not attraction.
Yes. Violence can be perpetrated on anyone. And men are statistically dangerous to women.
But when your frame of reference is “invisible,” you don’t immediately jump to danger. At least I don’t. Does it mean I’m not aware of the harm that can come to me? No. But it’s not the first thing I think of.
Umm a man? I constantly come across strange men in the woods as men go in the woods for a walk just like me. A bear would be much more unexpected and terrifying.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
Genuine question: are the follow up sentences why it annoys you or is there something else? To me the interest of this question is not so much people's reasoned answers so much as their gut reactions. Does it bother you that women are answering bear?
It kind or rubs me funny too, and I think it's because it feels like fear mongering. Men are definitely the biggest predator for women - I would not argue that it's unreasonable to feel unsafe when encountering a random man in an isolated place. But the vast majority of men are not going to attack a random woman. It definitely happens, but implying that any man who comes across a woman is going to harm her is just creating even more fear than we already have in this world. I don't think it serves anyone to have to go through life feeling like your life is at risk at every turn.
This was probably already said, but just in case ...
The point is, you don't know if he's a good guy or not. So you're alone, you have to approach every interaction with a strange man as if he could be one of the bad ones.
They might be the ones who get the attention for going missing, but rape and sexual assault do not happen only to pretty or thin or “attractive” women. It’s about power, not attraction.
Yes. Violence can be perpetrated on anyone. And men are statistically dangerous to women.
But when your frame of reference is “invisible,” you don’t immediately jump to danger. At least I don’t. Does it mean I’m not aware of the harm that can come to me? No. But it’s not the first thing I think of.
I’m not caping for men, they suck.
QFT
It's about the emotional and mental thoughts. Not the actual safety aspect.
It kind or rubs me funny too, and I think it's because it feels like fear mongering. Men are definitely the biggest predator for women - I would not argue that it's unreasonable to feel unsafe when encountering a random man in an isolated place. But the vast majority of men are not going to attack a random woman. It definitely happens, but implying that any man who comes across a woman is going to harm her is just creating even more fear than we already have in this world. I don't think it serves anyone to have to go through life feeling like your life is at risk at every turn.
This was probably already said, but just in case ...
The point is, you don't know if he's a good guy or not. So you're alone, you have to approach every interaction with a strange man as if he could be one of the bad ones.
I guess I’m wondering what people think of as strange for their definition. I live in a city and I encounter strange people multiple times a day. Most recently a very strange one I’ve never seen before was this man dressed up as the devil and saying he was the devil, but not like in a mean/I’m going to harm you way. He was very strange but I didn’t feel any harm.
I think there’s a big difference between strange and a creep that’s making unprovoked sexual advances. Anyway, that’s how I interpreted it and my natural instinct is I def would freak out internally if I was in the middle of the woods with a bear since it’s not something I encounter on a daily basis.
There have been less than 200 fatal bear attacks in North America in the last 200+ years. Let's just say that the number of women raped and murdered by a strange man is significantly higher than that. I'll take my chances with the bear.
OMG thank you because people are really in here like "well what kind of bear?"
Post by starburst604 on Apr 29, 2024 15:43:14 GMT -5
Joking aside, I had to think about this from the perspective of my experience. I've been out on trails and have encountered a man or men who are unknown to me and no one else was around. As they are approaching (say coming from the opposite direction on the trail) I most definitely go on high alert, ESPECIALLY if I am with DD. I size them up, walk with confidence and make eye contact with them so as to not appear to be an easy target. If my dogs are with me, even better. Once they pass me I turn my head to make sure they keep going. Now, if we saw a bear, which in our area would just be a black one, I would certainly be caught by surprise and would quickly move away from it because wild animal, but wouldn't expect it to harm us. So, my knee jerk thought was that a bear would be more scary to see because I've never actually encountered one in the wild, but upon close reflection, I am actually more afraid of what men could do to me/us.
Post by killercupcake on Apr 29, 2024 18:56:49 GMT -5
I run the risk of being attacked by a man by purely saying “no” to them and I can probably scare a bear away by being loud and making myself look bigger according to Google so I’ll go with the bear.
Someone I know had a TT video go viral on this subject, actually. If you’ve seen the one about the monitor lizard… that’s her.
I run the risk of being attacked by a man by purely saying “no” to them and I can probably scare a bear away by being loud and making myself look bigger according to Google so I’ll go with the bear.
Someone I know had a TT video go viral on this subject, actually. If you’ve seen the one about the monitor lizard… that’s her.
I don't TT, but I'd be interested in the monitor lizard given they are a common local sighting (one even managed to get into an interior room somehow. Up through the toilet? Gah)
I run the risk of being attacked by a man by purely saying “no” to them and I can probably scare a bear away by being loud and making myself look bigger according to Google so I’ll go with the bear.
Someone I know had a TT video go viral on this subject, actually. If you’ve seen the one about the monitor lizard… that’s her.
I don't TT, but I'd be interested in the monitor lizard given they are a common local sighting (one even managed to get into an interior room somehow. Up through the toilet? Gah)
I spend a lot of time alone in the woods for work (both on and off trails). I carry a knife & bear spray, and I can tell you that's 90% because of men and not bears. I have hidden more than once from encountering men off trail, but would not do that for a bear.
Also asked my coworkers and my husband who do similar work and all said bear.
Bears are cool and incredibly unlikely to attack. Men? Who knows and I don't want to find out.
I don't TT, but I'd be interested in the monitor lizard given they are a common local sighting (one even managed to get into an interior room somehow. Up through the toilet? Gah)
I think the issue is that they're protected, not that they're bad eating (I've had gator, croc, snake, so it's probably similar) or they're automatically dangerous men. The lizards aren't really a threat to humans (mostly eat crabs and fish), so I don't know why it took 4 of them. I've often been within a foot of one.
The protection status is why there is a dedicated office here for animal removal, and they were at my house in minutes.