Is this weird? I went to a wedding over the weekend and splurged on a beautiful dress. I love it and I got so many compliments on it! I was talking to a neighbor friend yesterday and she mentioned that she's going to a wedding in July and sort of asked to borrow the dress (she saw pics on FB). I was taken off guard and then we got distracted by the kids so I never answered. I don't really want to lend out the dress, it was super expensive (more than I ever spend on myself) and while I currently don't have any plans to wear it again, I will if the opportunity comes up. Neighbor is super nice, but I'm not even sure we are the same size and we're not *that* close. I feel bad not wanting to lend it and I'm just hoping she never brings it up again.
If she asks again I would probably say something like, "oh, I love it too, let me send you the link so you can get one!"
Interesting! This was hotly contested in a conversation last night. Families divided, lines drawn.
Huh. It seems pretty straightforward to me since dogs have historically been used to hunt other animals and sometimes humans, but humans rarely hunt dogs.
Interesting! This was hotly contested in a conversation last night. Families divided, lines drawn.
Huh. It seems pretty straightforward to me since dogs have historically been used to hunt other animals and sometimes humans, but humans rarely hunt dogs.
tacokick , I may have missed an update, but I've been thinking of you and your family. Hope things are getting a little better.
fluffycookie , I should probably start a new thread for the Karen Read trial. Why are they ending so early, then taking a day off, then going back for another half day?! That's a good chunk of time for a case they say may take 7 - 8 weeks. Ugh those poor jurors, and the families etc. How does that even work with work too, can/do you go back the days court isn't in session? I'm glad for the jury they're not sequestered since it's going on so long, but gooood luck making sure everyone is really staying away from the media in between.
I saw something about tomorrow is law day, but I have no clue what that is.
I was watching the paramedic's testimony and in my eyes he lost all credibility because he claimed he heard her say I hit him several times at the scene, but never told the police on scene, the ER staff or the FF doing the report. And I am sorry, but if I had just found a body on the lawn I would be hysterical. The other two woman were totally calm on the dashcam footage.
I just got back from being a chaperone on DD’s class trip to the Boston Tea Party Ship and Museum. I’ve never been before and it was pretty cool! The bus ride home however, omg. So loud and bumpy!! We were back to the school by 12:15 so I let DD get dismissed and come home with me as a special treat.
That sounds so fun! We haven't been to that museum but we've seen them reenact throwing tea overboard from the nearby bridge. It looks cool! I wish our elementary school did fun field trips. My neighbor (different one LOL) is a teacher at my kids school and apparently the principal hates field trips and got rid of most of them the last few years.
Did I miss an update on the house offers? I hope it worked out the way you wanted it to!
DD got to throw some tea overboard, she loved it! It was really cool and definitely worth checking out sometime. It’s good to kill an hour or so. That’s a bummer about the field trips there! This is the first one for her that isn’t very local, last year they went to the Patriots Hall of Fame.
So we got way outbid on the second place that I looked at, but we are supposed to be signing the purchase and sale on the first place today, finally. Fingers crossed it goes through ok. it just feels like everything has been difficult with this transaction!
Clothing random. I think I’m switching to mostly biker shorts for summer. They may not be the most flattering for me but at least they don’t ride up while I’m walking. I give no Fs what people think anymore.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Apr 30, 2024 16:58:08 GMT -5
The last 24h at my house has been a complete nightmare complete with meltdowns, tantrums, police called, stuff thrown, gates ripped out, in addition to screaming, yelling, and carrying on ...
All over a request to look at a house .... to look
If she had a dad, i'd drop her at his door ASAP ... I just cannot with her anymore. She's refusing therapy and meds to add to the fun. Completely disregulated and pissed off.
She's not in regular school and her H&H teachers are flakey. So her wanting to stay to finish at her current school is baffling. She's home all day doing nothing except watch Netflix on her phone (taking away her phone is a non starter - the nightmare will be worse and the PD won't do anything).
I've come to grips with the fact that when she turns 18, that will be the last i will see of her. 3 1/4 years to go.
Holy crap. I have had 3 kids, 2 of them were natural, and they were a cake walk compared to what I just went through at the Gynecologist office. I went in for my long periods and they had to do a biopsy...of my uterus. I cannot put in to words how much that hurt, I literally started to pass out. Tell me again why women can't get any sort of pain meds or anesthesia for Gynecological Procedures???
ETA: This google entry was clearly written by a man.
This is the procedure I ended up going to the OR for, we then found out my anatomy was making things worse, but, HORRIBLE.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
pinkdutchtulips, has she been baker acted before? I know you and J want to move into together, but I do worry that there could be legal trouble for both of you if his child is involved in one of her episodes. These situations just get so messy when there are other kids in the home.
I think the best you can hope for these next years is court ordered residential treatment, and whatever education that provides. She is just so mentally unwell, and I know there's so little you can do about it. You don't deserve this. And neither does she. But she needs help, and she's not going to get it unless it's forced* upon her- and you need a motherfucking break.
*By the legal system, I know that's unfortunately not something you can do.
Post by litskispeciality on May 1, 2024 9:41:47 GMT -5
beerlover, I need to get some biker shorts because I get that bad rub between my thighs. I don't know why I never looked for ones to wear under dresses too, but I find the shorts are so long they hang out further than the dress.
Holy crap. I have had 3 kids, 2 of them were natural, and they were a cake walk compared to what I just went through at the Gynecologist office. I went in for my long periods and they had to do a biopsy...of my uterus. I cannot put in to words how much that hurt, I literally started to pass out. Tell me again why women can't get any sort of pain meds or anesthesia for Gynecological Procedures???
ETA: This google entry was clearly written by a man.
This is the procedure I ended up going to the OR for, we then found out my anatomy was making things worse, but, HORRIBLE.
Oh my, that is horrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't even imagine.
Post by lavenderblue on May 1, 2024 9:49:56 GMT -5
pinkdutchtulips, I'm so sorry for everything that you have been through with your daughter. I hate to say this, but is there any way to have her "institutionalized" (I don't know if that is the correct term) without her consent? Maybe being somewhere with unlimited access to medical professionals would finally give her no choice but to get on track with things. I don't know, just spit balling here.
beerlover, I almost exclusively wear biker shorts in the summer and gave absolutely zero fucks. I even wear them under my dresses to work.
beerlover , I need to get some biker shorts because I get that bad rub between my thighs. I don't know why I never looked for ones to wear under dresses too, but I find the shorts are so long they hang out further than the dress.
I think the ones I have are short enough to wear under a dress! Unless the dress is super short. They are Colorfulkoala brand on Amazon.
pinkdutchtulips , has she been baker acted before? I know you and J want to move into together, but I do worry that there could be legal trouble for both of you if his child is involved in one of her episodes. These situations just get so messy when there are other kids in the home.
I think the best you can hope for these next years is court ordered residential treatment, and whatever education that provides. She is just so mentally unwell, and I know there's so little you can do about it. You don't deserve this. And neither does she. But she needs help, and she's not going to get it unless it's forced* upon her- and you need a motherfucking break.
*By the legal system, I know that's unfortunately not something you can do.
PDQ
She's been 5150'd (harm to herself or others, forced minimum 72h hold, hers has been up to a week) 3x in the last year. I'm in CA where they will not do court ordered residential treatment bc the way the laws are written - everything is voluntary from being admitted to a residential facility to even taking meds starting at 13yo- which I feel takes ALOT of power away from well meaning, concerned parents and places it in the hands of a mentally unstable teenager who isn't capable of making a decision.
J and I both know she's mentally unwell, horribly so, and her reluctance to do anything about since its in her hands and hers alone is source of alot of frustration for both of us. We also realize that alot of this genetic from her dad. He had similar issues starting at roughly the same age and had a HARD life that involved bouts of homelessness, drug addiction, family intervention, getting clean and staying clean for a 15y span, then relapsing into addiction and homelessness until he committed suicide 2 1/2 years ago. Her gma (paternal) similar issues.
Post by fluffycookie on May 1, 2024 12:13:21 GMT -5
pinkdutchtulips, have you been in contact with her therapist and/or care team. Maybe they would have some suggestions. I know you talked about residential treatment before. Is that no longer on the table as an option?
pinkdutchtulips - I have been going down rabbit holes on ca law, and holy shit that's a mess. The balls on these people. You have 1 in 4 ER visits going to mental health issues, yet a 12yo can decide they don't want therapies for intense emotional behavioral disorders- and parents just have to sit and watch.
That is just not sustainable. I assume there's no way you guys can move out of state due to jobs/J's divorce? I am so worried about you, I know when she's out of control you're in danger. Are things better today?
Eta: I didn't quote, but if I've said too much in either of these posts I am more than happy to delete them, just holler. Definitely not trying to make things harder for you. <3
pinkdutchtulips - I have been going down rabbit holes on ca law, and holy shit that's a mess. The balls on these people. You have 1 in 4 ER visits going to mental health issues, yet a 12yo can decide they don't want therapies for intense emotional behavioral disorders- and parents just have to sit and watch.
That is just not sustainable. I assume there's no way you guys can move out of state due to jobs/J's divorce? I am so worried about you, I know when she's out of control you're in danger. Are things better today?
Eta: I didn't quote, but if I've said too much in either of these posts I am more than happy to delete them, just holler. Definitely not trying to make things harder for you. <3
CA laws don't make it easy for parents to treat their MINOR kids. I wouldn't have much issue with the laws as written if they did NOT apply to minors or made it a parental/judicial consent to treatment so there would be a bypass for kids who couldn't obtain parental consent. It's hard to sit and watch knowing my hands are tied.
Its not sustainable at all and sadly moving out of state isn't an option, at least not until his son is 18. We both have excellent jobs here (his comes w a pension SCORE!).
Like Scarlet said, 'tomorrow is another day' ... she's much more together today and yesterday she had a brief outburst but we were also able to talk calmly last night after I took a look at the potential rental.
pinkdutchtulips mentally disordered minors definitely are the issue here, I can support the idea that a mentally stable child should be allowed to refuse therapies that are harmful/that a reasonable adult would refuse. There are awful parents out there, for sure.
But to ecpect kids in crisis to make decisions about their mental health care is ludicrous.
I hope there are more good days than bad, and that something shifts and she decides she wants help. I know this has to affect a lot of families, make sure you tell her story to all the lawmakers you can get it to.
pinkdutchtulips mentally disordered minors definitely are the issue here, I can support the idea that a mentally stable child should be allowed to refuse therapies that are harmful/that a reasonable adult would refuse. There are awful parents out there, for sure.
But to ecpect kids in crisis to make decisions about their mental health care is ludicrous.
I hope there are more good days than bad, and that something shifts and she decides she wants help. I know this has to affect a lot of families, make sure you tell her story to all the lawmakers you can get it to.
I have an in w the governor thanks to my sister. I get an audience with him for this issue would be AMAZING! I know I'm not alone, but damn it feels isolating.
pinkdutchtulips mentally disordered minors definitely are the issue here, I can support the idea that a mentally stable child should be allowed to refuse therapies that are harmful/that a reasonable adult would refuse. There are awful parents out there, for sure.
But to ecpect kids in crisis to make decisions about their mental health care is ludicrous.
I hope there are more good days than bad, and that something shifts and she decides she wants help. I know this has to affect a lot of families, make sure you tell her story to all the lawmakers you can get it to.
I have an in w the governor thanks to my sister. I get an audience with him for this issue would be AMAZING! I know I'm not alone, but damn it feels isolating.
like for the first part, just big squeezey hugs for the second. You're really not!