Woooo Friday!

[mae0111]

How was the week? What's up this weekend?

[mae0111]

This week went by quickly! DH was extremely helpful since I doublebooked myself/the kids a few times this week, so it was nice not having to do ALLLL the things by myself. I even had time to cook a couple of decent dinners, which I thought was out the window based on schedules.

After Boss #2 was exceptionally shitty yesterday, I've decided to resign today. DH wants to hire me as an employee to take a lot of administrative things off of his plate, but I think it's better for me to remain an independent contractor for at least the rest of the year. It's a little awkward because I still plan to work with this team as our financial advisors, so I'm trying to debate if I should be honest about why I'm leaving.

We have a quiet weekend this weekend. DD2 only has one soccer game, and she's missing it for a birthday party. DD1 has one softball game tomorrow. The weather isn't looking great - cold, but not wet - so she'll definitely play. DH is heading to the beach house. He has a ton of work to do there. I tried to get a sitter for the kids, but our old nanny wasn't available. I think DD1 is heading to a friend's house to sleep over tomorrow night, so DD2 asked if she could have a friend sleep over too.

[twinmomma]

This is going to be a rough weekend. I'm solo parenting all three kids while DH is out of town for a giant catering job. It's a massive wedding that's an "all hands on deck" situation. I'm feeling pretty nervous about DS sleeping tonight and tomorrow with DH gone. He still can't go to bed without DH in the room with him until he falls asleep. I'm hoping that since DH in the room just isn't an option, he'll do better than if DH is around and tries to not go in. And to add to all that fun, DD2 is super sick. Again. She has a fever of 103+, vomiting, and the doctor yesterday said she has a double ear infection. So she's on antibiotics and just trying to get her fever to break.

I had hoped to take the kids to the pottery painting place tomorrow to help break up the weekend, but we'll be stuck at home since DD2 is too sick to do anything. I'm hoping the weather at least holds out so the other two can run around outside a fair amount.

[mommyatty]

twinmomma- have you guys tried melatonin for DS? We give our kids half a child’s dose of the melatonin plus calm (Natrol Kids), and it’s been great. Our pediatrician says it’s such a small dose that it won’t affect their ability to make melatonin on their own, even with long term use. I even take it, partly to help with anxiety. I just wonder if he had a couple of successful nights, if that could get you guys over the hump. Good luck and I hope sick DD feels better!

We just have sports stuff, ninja for DS Saturday and field hockey Sunday. We bought DD her own goalie gear this week. Half of it is here. We ordered half to make up for the crappy school equipment and planned to wait to order the rest. But that felt like being a little bit pregnant, so we told her the second half is her big birthday present early. She was okay with that, so long as she gets a couple of little things to celebrate the actual day.

[twinmomma]

mommyatty, His mom gave him melatonin for a while to help him sleep, but it almost ended up creating a bigger issue, because then he treated it like a required medication and refused to even try to sleep without it because he "needed his sleep medicine." I think if I just tell him it's lights out and time for bed, he'll eventually fall asleep without me in there. I could sit in the chair in his room for a bit, but I think I might just try to make him cold turkey the situation and see what happens.

[rere]

Praise be it's the weekend. The switch flipped for me yesterday from a ambitious, trying to improve the agency employee to a check the box to get just the requirements done. Basically, I was told for the second time to just maneuver around a difficult employee to avoid conflict. To all leaders, you may have avoided a fit, but while I'm not throwing one, I garentee it causes more damage to take a productive employee and make her just get the basics employee.

Tomorrow we are going to a Derby party. Sunday Dd and I may do some shopping for summer.

Dh leaves on a work trip Sunday and will not be back until Wednesday. I cannot wait. In his old job, his schedule varied, so I would get a few nights a month to myself. I like him with a consistent schedule, but I have had to get up 3 nights this week with his snoring. I'm going to drink wine Sunday and cook anything I want and whatever dd wants and sleep in my own bed the entire night.

[supertrooper1]

mae0111, I'm sorry you had a terrible experience with one of your bosses, but it seems like from everything you've told us about the job that it will be better leaving that place in the long run.

[supertrooper1]

Beau told me this morning that we're trying a new restaurant tonight and wouldn't tell me where. He rarely plans things like that so it was a pleasant surprise.

It's supposed to rain all weekend so we don't have much planned. If weather changes, we'll go riding. I'm getting a pedicure tomorrow. And I need to pack for my work trip next week. I'm not looking forward to having to get up at 2am to head to the airport 2 hours away. My coworker had plans to meet me at the airport, but yesterday she said her ride plans may have fell through and may need to catch a ride with me. I don't mind at all, but she probably won't know until Sunday night and it would be nice to know ahead of time.

[mae0111]

supertrooper1, that sounds like a nice surprise - enjoy!!

[waverly]

We are going to a podcaast show tonight. Tomorrow, I have a mom's night event through an organization. This will be my 3rd year attending. It is a good event, I think the first year was great and last year was more in the just OK vein. But it allows me to skip DD's soccer game and the professional game. This is a good thing because they both have back to back tournament weekends coming up. The following weekend is 5 soccer games, so yeah I am OK missing one.

[186momx]

DH is off at supergame paintball this weekend so we have girls weekend. Tonight we are doing pizza and fancy drinks after practice. Tomorrow is working on DD science project and she has a party to go to at 5. It's a dress up cocktail party for 13yr Olds and DD cant figure out what to wear. DD says Sunday is spa day.

[waverly]

186momx, DD went to a school dance a few weeks ago, and I feel like some of the girls were in styles like this www.amazon.com/blibean-Sundress-Outfits-Sleeveless-Clothing/dp/B0C2MMWD8M/ref=sr_1_58?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.khxOQSQh9SsM758Ml8RNaaL-ruIqvb60NM-Ea4sSGwReoJABZ6bCYLx2zjrioiN7OOQdXpjqDMatApxkMX2wdDOv7aD2uXbbIyrst9mSnDyl2dy0PMJvCKwg_mrzndDTnRKk8hLEei-w9R0tBtnYdqHfu0DdkAN-qo7oVuziJprGWOf5ulJSmwOqn4jzZyowN1aXD3znuo2hiOTu0J0KMESo9tDdy4NLkP4tmRel2QzXV40a3004A_GUbgblPyDeRtG3l7c3sxr0XoHbE2o55LEvQ4EtOf5Ec39O8f1Vejs.KBIzQvdm3RNaEshqsj0FK3wamJ6rmk0KWpIOabzNtsw&dib_tag=se&keywords=tween+girls+dresses&qid=1714754081&sr=8-58.

[librarychica]

May 3, 2024 11:28:26 GMT -5 186momx said:

DH is off at supergame paintball this weekend so we have girls weekend. Tonight we are doing pizza and fancy drinks after practice. Tomorrow is working on DD science project and she has a party to go to at 5. It's a dress up cocktail party for 13yr Olds and DD cant figure out what to wear. DD says Sunday is spa day.

My daughter doesn’t like dresses so she wore this Old Navy jumper with a pretty camisole to the school middle school dance. A lot of the girls were in sundresses, a few others wore jumpers, almost everyone wore sneakers. Lots of cute dress/sneaker combos.

oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=863516032&vid=1&tid=onpl000078&kwid=1&ap=7&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8vdCL4tOGodQHgEW5x5OJMO9&gclid=Cj0KCQjwltKxBhDMARIsAG8KnqW8TRXu4j0QEcbXMRlGvbfKcrnUY268_K2m_qDnfC9ymrRQxo1Y6igaAmbgEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

[librarychica]

This week has been rough. DD2 and I were sick with a stomach bug. I spent 2 hours this morning at the vet with my dog, who has either an injury to some kind of degenerative back thing. This was her second visit for this issue in a month and we will be going back Sunday for X-rays.

I cancelled all weekend things, except DD2’s piano lessons. We need a break, I need to catch up on work annd home things, and I want to keep an eye on the dog.

[mae0111]

twinmomma - the pottery painting place near me has take home kits - would that break up the weekend?

librarychica - I hope everyone is feeling better soon.

I spoke to Boss#1 today and resigned. I told him the truth - I did not feel that my opinion or experience was valued and I wasn’t the right fit for the role anymore. Boss #2 wants a yes person and that’s not me. I can disagree with someone and still be respectful, and Boss#2 is unable to do that. I don’t deserve to be told that our marketing efforts suck when I rebranded their whole freaking company BY MYSELF. I do not deserve to be snapped at when I’m trying to answer a question.

He didn’t try to talk me out of it. I’m sad but it’s the right decision.

[twinmomma]

Ugh. DD's fever has gotten up to 104 as soon as her meds even start to wear off. She was in tears earlier she was so miserable. Pretty sure we'll be taking a trip to the ER later, but right now she's feeling a bit better with Motrin and I'm waiting on a call back from the pediatrician.

[186momx]

I think she is leaning towards her black tshirt dress with her Jean jacket and birkenstocks.

We ordered a couple sundresses last night but it won't get here until next week. Hopefully one fits and that solves her banquet outfit for later in the month.

She is 5'5" tall and 100lb of solid muscle so needs adult sizes. She doesn't want flounes, flowers, or anything long but nothing super short. She isn't asking for a lot 🤷‍♀️.

[supertrooper1]

I'm terrible at saying no at work, but I did today and I'm over the guilt already.

A new coworker called me for help with her new client. This client already has two divisions assigned to me, but their new division is something I don't know a lot about, and new coworker is assigned to that team so she was given that part of their company. She tried to pawn them off on me and I told her I had too many clients already which is why the supervisor assigned them to her, plus it would be a good learning opportunity for her. She then has the balls to tell me she only has 12 clients and maybe gets two emails per week! I am slammed with emails all day long. When I started, I was given all of the clients from the person that I took over for when she retired, plus half of the clients of another rep that retired. I don't miss having to log my emails, but I would be curious how many of my coworkers don't have work to do like her and how many are slammed like me.

[waverly]

supertrooper1, I am auditing my department now to make sure workload is equal, but it wasn't already super unbalanced.

Not relating to work, but I am categorizing certain things in my life and somehow it turned into color coding my calendar, and I love it! I didn't realize I could do different colors for different events in Google Calendar. So now the kids sports teams are their team colors in the calendar lol.

[sdlaura]

Ugh twinmomma your poor DD. Do you have an urgent care option vs. full ER? Good luck with the kids being home and solo parenting.

Technically I can WFH every Thursday and Friday, but this is the first week it has actually happened in a long time (after I was on the road Monday-Wednesday in multiple states). Normally I end up having client meetings or travel or needing to be in the office for one reason or another on those days. So that has been really nice. Tonight DD has a flag football playoff game, tomorrow is closing day/end of season tournament for the softball rec season, and as team mom I have to have a team party ready to go for whenever DD's team plays their last game - but I do find it easier to just do it there at the fields (there are picnic tables and a playground) vs. a totally different event. I collected $ and bought coach gifts today, then I'll bake cupcakes, get some decorations together, and pick up pizza tomorrow.

Also tomorrow, DS2 has an arena soccer game, DS1 has a baseball playoff game, and DS2 has a regular baseball game. So it will be quite a sports day. DD is going to a pizza party and movie with basketball team friends tonight and DS1 has a friend bday party tomorrow night. Sunday DD has her first all-star softball practice in the morning and some acquaintances invited us over for a cinco de mayo BBQ. I'm not sure if it's just us invited or a larger thing? Not sure if I should outright ask or not. A friend of mine who lives in the bay area is going to be in San Diego for her son's water polo tournament this weekend. I'm going to try to drive down and meet her at some point.

[mae0111]

Just a quick update... I'd asked Boss #1 to let me speak to Boss #3 - he and I have a great relationship and work well together, and he was kind of the person that kept me there as long as I stayed. He was on the call when Boss #2 snapped at me.

He was not at all surprised. He said he assumed that's why I was calling, and that he didn't blame me at all for leaving. He also said he was really sad that it came to this, but he also didn't see an end in sight to Boss #2's behavior. He said that none of what was happening was fair to me, and that life is too short to stay.

So, still sad, but I feel better knowing that others saw what was happening and that I'm not crazy.

[mommyatty]

186momx- my DD is also 5’5 and around 105 lbs. but suuuuuper skinny. She is finally getting muscles from field hockey, but her coaches call her “Jack Rabbit Slim” because she’s super fast and a total string bean. She won’t wear anything girly, pink, flouncy, etc. We found really cute simple dresses at Marshall’s/TJ Maxx and since she’s a XS or a S, she found a ton in clearance that she loved. She loves a good sale! So maybe try there for future events.

[librarychica]

Update: H went out to play D&D with friends and usually when he does the girls and I would have a movie night or go to a park. Nope. We are having a screen evening.

I took DD2 to her kid yoga class and DD1 had a friend over to hang and do a history project. They got plenty of exercise doing a Just Dance game. When I came out of the kitchen 15 minutes ago and everyone is staring at their tiny screens? Fine. I have one too. Screen night!

[mommyatty]

librarychica, I’m in the bathtub with my iPad, reading my book on the Kindle app. And obviously checking WP! No idea where my children are. On a screen I’m sure.

[dglvrk2]

Holy Cow. What a week....
Monday morning, HR announced one of my bosses is on a personal leave and they have not shared when they will return. (I mentioned this earlier in the week.) I really hope they're taking care of things. Everyone in my department is doing their part to take on this person's workload, but we are are more concerned about their health than our added responsibilities. Ugghhh....

On a happy note, my sister's family, my family and my mom and dad celebrated my dad's 79th birthday together on Monday night. My parents live several states away, so any time we can all be together is a big deal. It was a fun night

I'm still recovering from hosting my parents and my and H's weekend get-away last weekend. Work was quite full this week and we had the normal kid activities. This weekend was supposed to pretty packed as well. Both girls were scheduled to have two softball games today, of course, in different places, about 30 miles apart from one another. There is a big rain storm coming in, supposedly, so all four games were cancelled. (Thank you!!) Last night, DD1 had volleyball scrimmages and we didn't get home until 9. DD2 slept over at a friend's house. This morning, H and I want to clean. H either wants something from me or realizes that our house is looking like the Kai Sigma Phis from the closest university just had a massive rager here because he's on board with cleaning/decluttering today. I think it's the former, but I'll take his conclusion. Tomorrow, DD1 has a volleyball tournament in a town about 50 miles away, so mini-road trip.

[waverly]

I’m making crazy amounts of dog treats for our Girl Scout Bronze award. Between that and the bake sale I’m mastering “domestic”. It’s not really my area of interest though and we are only half way done. I will have earned my mom’s night tonight after this.

I told DH to teach DS (13) how to mow the lawn and I can see that DS is struggling. He’s not very coordinated and holding the self propel bar down is hard in his hands. He lacks hand and arm strength probably but is a good soccer player because it’s all legs. It’s good for him but looks like a lot more work. ETA- both DS and DH said he did great but DH said he couldn’t mow in a straight line do that’s why he was walking with him 😂.

[186momx]

mommyatty, we actually tried a couple dress on at Ross and she found one she liked but the stitching was coming apart and I told her no. I don't sew and it was a material my mom wouldn't have been comfortable touching.

Update to the party: DD wore Birkenstock slides, a short summer dress that she borrowed from my summer dress collections with her jean jacket. She looked really nice and was very underdressed. After dropping her off I felt like the worst mom ever. The birthday girl had a full-on sequin dress on, and a bunch of other girls were in short sparkly prom dresses all in either sparkly high heals or converse. She hung with a couple of the more conservative girls on team who also had their only dresses on that aren't prom dresses.

WP question: Do your girls 12-15 own prom dresses? Do you buy special clothes to attend parties? I will buy jump socks and the trampoline places but I don't feel like we should go buy an outfit that will be only worn once to go to a birthday party.

[waverly]

I have an 11.5 year old and no dresses like that here. We do have some fancier dresses that the neighbors gave us as hand me downs but they are still in that business casual, sundress type category. Nothing prom dress- like. I typically do not buy special clothes to attend parties.  We have occasionally gone shopping but like you didn't really find something to wear, so we left empty handed.  This was a more casual party that they could wear the item again.  

[mae0111]

DD1 is 14.5 and DD2 is 11. They have a few sundresses and a couple of slightly nicer things (most of which were handed down from my niece). But nothing like what you're describing.

[twinmomma]

Definitely no prom dress styles here! I only recently bought the girls "fancier" dresses because we went to a wedding and they needed nice clothes. But even that was just Marshall's level of nice cocktail dresses, not prom dress level by any means. I don't think I could pay DD1 to wear something that fancy. She fought me on a sequin blue jumpsuit for the wedding. DD2 would wear a ball gown every day if I would let her.