Monday!

[twinmomma]

How'd the weekend go for everyone? How's the week looking ahead?

[twinmomma]

We had a really rough weekend. I took DD2 to the ER on Friday night. We got there about 6:30 and didn't get seen in a room until 3 AM. It was awful. I took her to that specific hospital because it has a specialized pediatric ER. But apparently that closes at 11PM and if you're not seen by that time then you're just dumped in line with all the other ER people. Poor DD2 was vomiting, crying, just completely miserable and we couldn't get her seen. Eventually we got a room and they gave her fluids and ran a bunch of tests, but no one can figure out what it is. They told us to come back in if she gets worse. So Sunday morning we went back because she was just miserable again. And we got the "it's just a virus and has to run its course" answer. Her fever is consistently 104 without meds and her lymph nodes are so swollen that you can see her neck is puffy. I'm feeling really frustrated and stressed about what to do next.

So in the midst of all that, DS ended up just going back to his mom's for the weekend since DH had to be out of town for work. And DD1 got shuffled back and forth between me and her dad in between hospital visits. It's been a mess.

[waverly]

twinmomma, since it’s Monday can you take her to her regular pediatrician?

We had a good weekend. I made dog biscuits that the Girl Scouts are selling to raise money to donate supplies to an animal shelter. That was a lot of work because of the large quantities.

Then I had a mom’s night in which is a program I go to annually now. This is my 3rd year. There is introductions, chatting, games, self care, keynote speaker and dinner and then I headed home to relax while DH and the kids were out.

Yesterday we had 2 soccer games.
We have our regular practices this week plus an art show and glow party. It’s Monday and I still don’t know if DS is in the upcoming tournament and if so the schedule. I’m annoyed that tournaments only give you 1 week notice if that.

[mae0111]

twinmomma, I'm so sorry. I hope she is feeling better soon, and that you get some answers today!

It was a whirlwind of a weekend, but it was nice. DH went to the beach house and did house work and work work all weekend. I stayed with the kids. Friday evening DD2 and I went shopping while DD1 tore her room apart trying on all of her summer clothes. I was so wiped out Friday evening after an emotional 24 hours with my work stuff, so I promised her I'd wake her up early to help her put it back together. So we started at 9am (early for her), worked until 11, I drove her to softball, then we picked it up after her game and worked for another few hours. I took 4 bags of her clothes and mine to a clothing drive for an apartment building fire (too old for sprinklers, so a total loss). DD1 slept at a friend's house while DD2 had a friend sleep over.

Sunday was a ton of laundry, driving friends home, picking up DD1, and then DD2 had a birthday party 45 mins away at 4pm on Sunday. Not ideal, but I was able to meet up with a former work friend that I haven't seen in a few years. It was so nice to catch up.

This week is our normal May craziness with a few extras. DD2 has a mid-week make-up soccer game, but that just replaces a practice. Friday is the final Arts Night at the kids' school, but DD1 has her last school softball game before that. It's an away game so I will be scrambling a bit to get there. So we have DD2 game Wed, DD1 game Thurs, DD1 Game Fri, DD1 game Sat AM, DD2 game early Sat PM, DD2 game Sun AM. And other activities sprinkled in between.

[186momx]

Girls Weekend was busy. Saturday DD did her science experiment for her science project. She started at 9am and was finished at 3:30. I was her lab partner and spent so much time washing the same handful of dishes over and over again. Taking photos and luckily, she voice-typed on the laptop so she just talked out what she was doing and the data result. Jelly spheres aka homemade boba is a PITA. She did get some spheres, they tasted okay, and her hypothesis was wrong which is okay. Her teacher wants her to do the experiment the day of the science fair so the judges can taste test and I told DD no. The only way it would work is if she didn't go to school for the day.

Updated about the birthday party in the Friday thread. Sunday we had a pj day and sat on opposite sides of the couch and read on our screens. I also did some flat surface cleaning in my room. I can see the top of my dresser and nightstand!

This week is crazy as I have 21 hours of tax school starting Thursday afternoon. The amount and planning that it takes for me to not be home is crazy and DH is 100% oblivious to it. I left a detailed day by day to do list for him including how much to feed the dog, what time and where to pick DD up and a remind on how to run the dishwasher. Truthfully if it wasn't for the senior dog I would just have DD stay at grandma's house while I was gone as it would be easier.

Doggy had her yearly wellness exam and I have a very healthy senior dog who is loosing her hearing, eyesight, but all her lab work came back in the normal range. They made her bleed during the blood draw and she came back to the exam room with her leg wrapped in red tape. The tech didn't listen when I said nail trims are a two-person job one to hold her up while the other one does the work.

[dglvrk2]

It was a good weekend for us too.
H and I did a lot of clean up/decluttering on Saturday. We saw a movie Saturday afternoon and went to the end of season ski patrol party Saturday night.

Sunday DD2 skied with a few friends and H ski patrolled.

DD1 had a volleyball tournament in a nearby town. She plays for a club team. She's not one of the top six players ...At the last tournament, the team had a substitute coach who gave everyone decent playing time. They did really well. Yesterday, their main coach was back and pretty much played the top six players the entire time....for SIX games. They were tired. The other girls were not warmed up and they did not go as well. DD1 knows she's less experienced than many of her teammates and hasn't let her lack of playing time get to her...yet. She is also balancing volleyball and softball, has issued some volleyball practices because they conflict with softball and accepts that she may not get the playtime in games that others who have better practice attendance get. Still, it could have been more balanced..

[sdlaura]

Ugh I'm so sorry twinmomma. Your experience is awful and why I have never taken my kids to the ER (after one awful experience when DS1 was a baby). I got no real answers or improvement from going, plus lose a needed night of sleep. I really hope your DD improves soon!

[rere]

twinmomma hopes for healing.

Great weekend. We had a great time at the Derby party and got home fairly early. Dd and I spent Sunday at church then some lunch and shopping. Dh left for his work trip, so I hung out on the back porch with a glass of wine and grilled for meal prep while dd played pickleball.

I had the entire bed to myself, so of course I woke up at 2 am wide awake and not able to go back to sleep. I'm dragging today.

[sdlaura]

DD's team won their flag football playoff in a tight game Friday, so that was exciting. They finished 2nd out of 14 teams (all girls grade 5/6) in the regular season. They have a shot at winning the playoffs. Saturday we had four sports games and I hosted the softball end-of-rec-season party.

One of my good friends whose husband went to grad school with DH was in town from the Bay Area with her 14-year-old son for a water polo tournament yesterday. We had time, so I took two of my kids and drove 35 minutes to see her and watch her son's game. It was fun to see a new sport for us. Then we grabbed food and went to the mall. I feel like I spent my tween/teen years at the mall, but 11-year-old DD had never been to the big mall here before. Her top request was to go to American Eagle/Aerie and she loved getting to buy a few things. I feel like she's sometimes kind of an entitled kid, but she was so sweet about thanking me multiple times for taking her to shop, so that was nice. I told her we'll go back sometime when we don't have 6-year-old DS2 complaining about how he wants me to buy him toys the whole time.

DH's birthday is tomorrow and Thursday night we're going to go stay at a nice hotel a couple hours away for that. I booked us massages and we'll have a nice dinner and sit by the pool. I got the hotel using points, so paying a babysitter from 5 pm Thursday to 8:30 am Friday will be the main outlay for that.

I'm stressing about DD's sports conflicts for Friday. She has a regular season basketball game at 3:15 pm, and has missed the last two basketball games for flag football (the basketball team has won without her, so at least that's been fine). She has her second flag football playoff game/the semi-final for the championship at 6:50 pm - she really shouldn't miss that, since she is vital to the team as the quarterback, it's an important game, and her coach is the coach at the middle school she'll be attending next year. She hopes to make the team there, so she doesn't want to leave the team high and dry for a big game. But Friday will also likely be the first game of her all-star softball season. She hasn't played all-stars yet with this particular team and is middle of the road in terms of her stats for the team, and doesn't always get the playing time that she'd like/she probably should based on her stats. So she wants to get off on the right foot for them. I think the best case scenario will be if she has say a 4:30 pm softball game, then can still make it to football. I'd feel bad about her missing basketball again, but that's the least important of her games. ETA - football isn’t till 8:30. Normally I’d hate such a late game but that might mean she can do all 3 if she wants….

I know that our sports conflicts are a total high class problem vs. a lot of what everyone is dealing with! I need to stop devoting brain space to it.

[librarychica]

We had an awful weekend. I spent 3 hours in the vet’s office with no X-rays ever taken for a variety of reasons. I’ll need to go back there Thursday before work.

We had kid drama. I’m super behind on work and I didn’t have the focus to catch up over the weekend.

Just, blah.

[dglvrk2]

librarychica I'm sorry. I hope today was calmer. Do you know what is going on with your pet? Has the kid drama simmered some?

[mae0111]

twinmomma, How is your DD feeling? How are you??

librarychica, I hope your week calms down. That sounds like a lot.

sdlaura, logistics for sports/activities is one of the most anxiety-producing things in my life. Between not wanting to disappoint my kids if I can't get them there, or I can't be there; and not wanting to annoy the coaches that spend so much time with our kids... ugh. I already stressed about an upcoming tournament over memorial day because DD2's coach also coaches 3 other teams, and they're all playing AT THE SAME TIME ALL WEEKEND. He has no assistants. His kids play on 2 of the other teams. So DD2's team is likely going to be left without a coach. Stressful!!

A silly work update... I think that someone said something to Boss #2, because we had a meeting yesterday and he was very complimentary of all of the work that I'd done to date, how much time and effort I put into everything, and that we just need to supplement our efforts because I don't have the bandwidth to do more. This is vastly different from "our marketing sucks" (yes, that's a quote from several meetings). As nice as that was, I'm now feeling a little... gaslit, I guess? Like he's trying to backtrack and act like he wasn't saying awful things to and about me?

Also, they want me to stay on to complete a project that I just started... that will likely go through SEPTEMBER. Ugh.

[rere]

I forgot the most important update from the weekend. Dd found out she made all As! So a 4.0 grade average! Now we are just holding our breath that she gets into the nursing program in the fall, and hopefully all her friends too.

[twinmomma]

mae0111 , She's the same Fever is still raging, her neck and throat still hurt, and she's generally just miserable. I feel so bad. We gave her the choice to just stay here or change houses like the normal schedule. She decided to swap to her dad's house last night like she normally would so she could have a change of scenery and snuggle her cats while she's in bed there. We have an appointment with the pedi tonight. They want to see her since the fever still hasn't broken.

ETA - oh, and screw their project. See ya later!

[186momx]

mae0111, screw the project. Boss #2 will just come back and tell you to scrap it in September as it isn't what they want. Send them your final bill!
rere, Congratulations to your DD!
twinmomma, someone I know here kiddo seems to have the same thing your DD has. She was super sick for 8 days straight and then woke up Sunday morning with no fever and was back to her normal self on Monday. They were in the ER Saturday because her fever was 105 and the ER docs said it was just a virus that had to run its course. Hopefully your DD gets feeling better ASAP.

[librarychica]

mae0111, I echo “screw the project!” You have given notice. Go forth, be free.

My dog continues to be in pain, but the meds are helping her some. The kids have thankfully returned to their usual selves. Thank you all for the well-wishes!

[sdlaura]

mae0111 agreed! I hope the Memorial Day tournament game times work out so your coach can be at all their games!

I think most people would look at our Friday conflict and think DD is overcommitted and just shouldn’t do so many sports - but other than a couple weeks in the fall and a couple weeks in the spring, we don’t typically have conflicts because her sports are mostly different seasons. We’re just in that weird period where the seasons overlap. In two weeks she will be down to one sport again!

[macmars45]

Stay on until September?! F that noise mae0111! They made their bed. Too bad they don't like it.