I’m doing daycare pick up and drop off all week cause my partner is working out of town.
This morning after I woke our 18 month up and we were sitting on the bed in her room she said "hug" and leaned in to cuddle and then said "I love you!" 🥰 It was so cute. She’s never said I love you before. My cold dead heart about melted! This age is so fun.
I'M SORRY, MA'AM BUT I THINK YOU ADDED A 1 THERE. No damn way she is older than 8 months! That is WILD.
S was up from 1am-4:30 last night. He was miserable saying he wanted to sleep but just couldn't. His ear hurt. Etc. We did meds, we did melatonin. We read to him, sang to him, let him get up and shake his jitters out, etc.
emailed my work and his school saying we would both be in late and instead of getting up at 6 we got up at 8. He still complained his ear hurt so I took him to the doctor's just for them to say it was wax build up (they flushed it out) and on our way. I got to work at 11. I am exhausted.
Im at one of three women's luncheons I'll be attending this week, two with my mother. This is pretty much what she does all the time. How much chicken salad is there in the world?
I’m just exhausted, so much is going on and everything changes day to day.
My MIL is sitting shiva this week for my FIL but we can’t really go because of my dad’s situation. They still don’t know what caused his problems but he is doing a lot better and is in a regular room, and the goal after our big meeting Saturday is him to go to rehab so he can leave there and return to living alone but without having this big procedure done that may or may not help but would mean months of hospital stays.
Then this morning he tells me they keep asking him if he has help at home and I don’t think he understands what they are asking. Like he has an elderly neighbor who would let his dog out but obviously they aren’t going to provide medical care. He has no place for anyone to sleep overnight and he doesn’t live that close to us. He can’t stay here, we have a lot of steps and no guest room or place to sleep. I’m keep telling him to tell him you need to go to rehab!! Or they need to call me and I’ll tell them.
Plus these little things keep going wrong at home and some other things are just bad timing like doctor visits we’ve waited a year for, banking I have to do in person, I think I heard a mouse (sob), one of our dogs has been having bad allergies and needs to go in to the vet etc
Im at one of three women's luncheons I'll be attending this week, two with my mother. This is pretty much what she does all the time. How much chicken salad is there in the world?
Not gonna lie in my later life I would totally be down to be in the "ladies who lunch" crowd!!
I’m doing daycare pick up and drop off all week cause my partner is working out of town.
This morning after I woke our 18 month up and we were sitting on the bed in her room she said "hug" and leaned in to cuddle and then said "I love you!" 🥰 It was so cute. She’s never said I love you before. My cold dead heart about melted! This age is so fun.
I'M SORRY, MA'AM BUT I THINK YOU ADDED A 1 THERE. No damn way she is older than 8 months! That is WILD.
Im at one of three women's luncheons I'll be attending this week, two with my mother. This is pretty much what she does all the time. How much chicken salad is there in the world?
In good news, World Market has finally opened a location somewhat near us. This has been my dream since I went to one 20 years ago visiting a friend in Charlotte.
I’m just exhausted, so much is going on and everything changes day to day.
My MIL is sitting shiva this week for my FIL but we can’t really go because of my dad’s situation. They still don’t know what caused his problems but he is doing a lot better and is in a regular room, and the goal after our big meeting Saturday is him to go to rehab so he can leave there and return to living alone but without having this big procedure done that may or may not help but would mean months of hospital stays.
Then this morning he tells me they keep asking him if he has help at home and I don’t think he understands what they are asking. Like he has an elderly neighbor who would let his dog out but obviously they aren’t going to provide medical care. He has no place for anyone to sleep overnight and he doesn’t live that close to us. He can’t stay here, we have a lot of steps and no guest room or place to sleep. I’m keep telling him to tell him you need to go to rehab!! Or they need to call me and I’ll tell them.
Plus these little things keep going wrong at home and some other things are just bad timing like doctor visits we’ve waited a year for, banking I have to do in person, I think I heard a mouse (sob), one of our dogs has been having bad allergies and needs to go in to the vet etc
So much at once! Could your husband go be with your MIL and you stay home to take care of your dad? I fully admit, I'm not versed in sitting shiva at all, so I may be mistaken about what could work.
The issue is that my MIL lives 3-4 hrs away and if they suddenly discharge my father I would need him to physically help with that. I’ve also been getting migraines bad enough that I can’t drive so there’s that 😥
My guess is he will go up to some memorial later? We are kind of surprised she is doing this since they are not religious, but he was a professor and active in their community so I guess she wanted to for them? It sounds like it will mostly be people we don’t know. I don’t know; it’s all a mess.
Post by followyourarrow on May 7, 2024 12:55:09 GMT -5
I'm sorry tacokick, that's a lot. Does your dad have a case manager? I'd try to talk to them and be clear with what he'll have at home and the need for rehab.
tacokick, definitely see if you can explain to the doc that your dad has no help at home and needs rehab.
FIL had a partial knee replacement and had no help at home and then it fell to DH and BIL and my kid was like 3. It was awful with DH trying to split the time up with BIL and FIL being more useless than normal.
I'm sorry tacokick, that's a lot. Does your dad have a case manager? I'd try to talk to them and be clear with what he'll have at home and the need for rehab.
Supposedly but they haven’t called. I’ve been there almost every day for hours and keep telling everyone this. Next up is making a t-shirt that says “I want to go to acute rehab” and making him wear it lol
tacokick, definitely see if you can explain to the doc that your dad has no help at home and needs rehab.
FIL had a partial knee replacement and had no help at home and then it fell to DH and BIL and my kid was like 3. It was awful with DH trying to split the time up with BIL and FIL being more useless than normal.
I left a message for the new one. I think part of the issue is that the doctors we had been talking to don’t seem to be on this week (these few days?) and things keep moving forward more quickly than they expected.
That’s awful about your FIL. It really makes me wonder what people with no family do. The doctors really assume everyone lives with ample people willing and able to help at all hours of the day and night and neighbors willing to do medical care on the fly.
Post by maudefindlay on May 7, 2024 13:19:41 GMT -5
DH left for Mexico yesterday, so I'm flying solo with the kids this week. A realtor came yesterday and said we don't need to do anything to our house and that it will sell fast. We won't list until we are moved out, but good to know. We've met with one builder and are meeting with another next week just to compare as we like the first builder we met with. Then we need to decide which lot to buy.
DS1 has his last regular season track meet tonight about 40 min away, but severe weather is predicted so will likely be canceled and he'll just have practice, boo spring weather. Poor DS1 did his biology homework that took 1.5 hours and you could work with a classmate which he did. He and his partner turned their assignments in together. Partner got his back with an A+ and teacher tells DS1 she doesn't have his and that he has to redo it. Kid does not have time to redo a 1.5 hour assignment this week. Plus he has a terrible cough. Took him to pedi on 4/22 and was told no meds and just needs time. Returned today and got meds. At least it's 2 weeks today till last day of school!
I booked through Rover and she has good reviews, but apparently even though I specified "house sitting" in my search, she actually doesn't house sit!
ugh rover would make me rage over this, their search is so terrible. It would always show me people that didn't house sit, and didn't come to my area. And my dog is so anxious I needed someone in my house not dropping him off in a new environment. Anyways I'm sorry I feel your pain on this! I hope you're able to find someone.
My office is also ridiculously cold today. It’s always like this when they turn on the air conditioning. And then, those of us who have to wear hoodies and such (one lady wears a winter hat all the time) get teased. And I’m just sick of it.
I kind of want to file a complaint about it, because it boarders on disability issues so much. Like, thyroid issues are a check box on our disability forms. Also, so aspects of neurodiversity can make people over/under sensitive to temperatures. So, after the 5th time the asshole boss says something and I am sick of rolling my eyes at him, and snap back with something about my under active thyroid…. I just disclosed a medical condition to stop the teasing.
Really, I’m just sick of it. And it really is insensitive. And I just wish people didn’t use differences in anything as a reason to make conversation.
I booked through Rover and she has good reviews, but apparently even though I specified "house sitting" in my search, she actually doesn't house sit!
ugh rover would make me rage over this, their search is so terrible. It would always show me people that didn't house sit, and didn't come to my area. And my dog is so anxious I needed someone in my house not dropping him off in a new environment. Anyways I'm sorry I feel your pain on this! I hope you're able to find someone.
It's so dumb. Taking the dog to her house is not the same thing! I have no idea how my dog would do - we have only had him since January, but he was dumped at the shelter so I would worry he thought I dumped him again 😭 She did say she would mostly keep him at our house since we have a cat too
Nevertheless, I think I found a different sitter now. Since our original one didn't show up this morning, I contacted another person who I confirmed DOES house sit, and he is available. I think I'm going to cancel the original one. We are flying halfway across the world so we need to know whoever we hire is going to show up when needed!
tacokick, definitely see if you can explain to the doc that your dad has no help at home and needs rehab.
FIL had a partial knee replacement and had no help at home and then it fell to DH and BIL and my kid was like 3. It was awful with DH trying to split the time up with BIL and FIL being more useless than normal.
I left a message for the new one. I think part of the issue is that the doctors we had been talking to don’t seem to be on this week (these few days?) and things keep moving forward more quickly than they expected.
That’s awful about your FIL. It really makes me wonder what people with no family do. The doctors really assume everyone lives with ample people willing and able to help at all hours of the day and night and neighbors willing to do medical care on the fly.
I'm sorry you are dealing with all that.
Eta since I accidentally hit post way too soon - what would he do if you weren't around? I feel like there has to be some way that people without kids can do all this stuff - otherwise we need to look into adoption, lol. My sister has had a lot of home health aids come to help her with stuff, is that an option or does he need a higher level of care than that?
I am now sitting at the dermatologist, waiting to see her in a tiny paper gown. The little plastic tie is supposed to go around your waist, but I am too fat for that. I am a size 16 - the most common size in the US. Why on earth don't they have more size inclusive gowns? I think I suggested this at a previous visit, so I'm super glad they took my comment seriously lol
I am pretty sure I am switching to a new person anyway - I do like this doctor but in this area it seems silly that I have an hour drive each way for something basic like a skin check. There are tons of in network providers much closer to me. I used to work near here so it made sense when I started seeing her, but not so much anymore.
Eta since I accidentally hit post way too soon - what would he do if you weren't around? I feel like there has to be some way that people without kids can do all this stuff - otherwise we need to look into adoption, lol. My sister has had a lot of home health aids come to help her with stuff, is that an option or does he need a higher level of care than that?
In this case the answer seems to be acute rehab but they were pushing going home with “community help” aka me and his neighbors and having a physical therapist come in a few days a week.
He lived alone fine before but now he’s been in bed for two weeks so is too weak to fully care for himself. They think should eventually be back to normal? Normal-ish?
I keep repeating that he lives alone and they need to put him somewhere where he can get back on his feet. I just got off the phone with a doctor and told him this again and by the end he was repeating “release to acute rehab” to me.
It is sort of a weird situation where he has been living with serious heart issues for many, many years bizarrely well. The doctors keep saying most people with his heart function are basically shut ins and he normally is walking his 80 lb dog 2 miles a day so we don’t have any existing care set up.
If you can’t advocate for yourself (like my mom dealt with all health stuff for him and he can’t always hear and understand what they are saying) and don’t have anyone advocating for you, you are really stuck. They 100% would release him to live alone and have his neighbor check on him because when they asked “do you live near people who can help you” he said yes without the hospital explaining what that would actually look like and what the other people would be expected to do.
So befriend some younger people to help you as you age? Hope you check out before you get too bad? Move to a place that has increasing access to medical care and help? It’s rough out there.
DH left for Mexico yesterday, so I'm flying solo with the kids this week. A realtor came yesterday and said we don't need to do anything to our house and that it will sell fast. We won't list until we are moved out, but good to know. We've met with one builder and are meeting with another next week just to compare as we like the first builder we met with. Then we need to decide which lot to buy.
DS1 has his last regular season track meet tonight about 40 min away, but severe weather is predicted so will likely be canceled and he'll just have practice, boo spring weather. Poor DS1 did his biology homework that took 1.5 hours and you could work with a classmate which he did. He and his partner turned their assignments in together. Partner got his back with an A+ and teacher tells DS1 she doesn't have his and that he has to redo it. Kid does not have time to redo a 1.5 hour assignment this week. Plus he has a terrible cough. Took him to pedi on 4/22 and was told no meds and just needs time. Returned today and got meds. At least it's 2 weeks today till last day of school!
I belong to an all female comedy group; after searching for a very long time for a decent venue, we have been performing monthly shows at a funky little jazz club in town. It’s been going great.
Today, one of the members in the troupe shared a private message she received from a friend stating that the owner of the club is a “terrible misogynist who harasses women” and that she is “pretty sure he has been accused of assault.” This person says that for those reasons she never allows him into her own events and she urged us not to do any more events at his space.
Ugh. This definitely warrants discussion among our group, and I hope the person who received the message can tell us more. These are exceptionally vague accusations, although the guy does give off a weird old man, pervy musician vibe. (I had my own completely separate issue with the guy because years ago, he refused to pay my husband husband what he had promised to pay for a musical gig, but that’s neither here nor there.)
My kid's school has been including a paragraph in their weekly email since March saying "As we head into warmer weather, we ask that you please remind your children to be mindful of school dress expectations." That's it, that's the entire statement. But they have given zero information on what that means. There are entire stores selling tween clothing without a single non-cropped top in stock. If DD can't wear them, she can't. But please give more information?
They finally updated it this past week to include a second sentence that says "we ask the students to wear clothing that doesn’t distract from the learning environment. Clothing that is comfortable, yet appropriate for ages 5-12."
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN. I feel like they WANT to tell girls that they can't wear cropped tops or spaghetti straps, but know that they will be crucified. So they just keep sending vague bullshit that we ALL KNOW is not about boys clothing JFC.
My kid's school has been including a paragraph in their weekly email since March saying "As we head into warmer weather, we ask that you please remind your children to be mindful of school dress expectations." That's it, that's the entire statement. But they have given zero information on what that means. There are entire stores selling tween clothing without a single non-cropped top in stock. If DD can't wear them, she can't. But please give more information?
They finally updated it this past week to include a second sentence that says "we ask the students to wear clothing that doesn’t distract from the learning environment. Clothing that is comfortable, yet appropriate for ages 5-12."
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN. I feel like they WANT to tell girls that they can't wear cropped tops or spaghetti straps, but know that they will be crucified. So they just keep sending vague bullshit that we ALL KNOW is not about boys clothing JFC.
Is there a school handbook? That's where our dress code is spelled out.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on May 7, 2024 15:27:37 GMT -5
We got home from Spain today. And after a super tiring morning, 5 out of 6 of our bags didn’t arrive and were left in Spain. Including the baby’s car seat and stroller. So that was lovely. Really hoping we get it tomorrow or Thursday.
And my cleaner had someone help her clean while we were gone and she has moved everything slightly, which is irritating me. She also moved our rug from under the couch, dropped the power bar behind the couch, and somehow misaligned our couch. There’s also an extra basket here and things are all off. It’s weird.
So I guess tmr I need to do some organizing and get it back to normal.
My kid's school has been including a paragraph in their weekly email since March saying "As we head into warmer weather, we ask that you please remind your children to be mindful of school dress expectations." That's it, that's the entire statement. But they have given zero information on what that means. There are entire stores selling tween clothing without a single non-cropped top in stock. If DD can't wear them, she can't. But please give more information?
They finally updated it this past week to include a second sentence that says "we ask the students to wear clothing that doesn’t distract from the learning environment. Clothing that is comfortable, yet appropriate for ages 5-12."
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN. I feel like they WANT to tell girls that they can't wear cropped tops or spaghetti straps, but know that they will be crucified. So they just keep sending vague bullshit that we ALL KNOW is not about boys clothing JFC.
I’d 100% ignore it and then make them spell it out to your face if they say there is an issue with your daughter. This is nonsense. I’m sure you are sending her fully clothed and she is not disrobing at school so you should be fine.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on May 7, 2024 16:34:40 GMT -5
Such a bizarre turn of events. We got the house YAY!! I placed the order for the cashiers check, not exactly a small amount of money, for my half of the deposit. J texts me today that he doesn't even have half of it ?!? SHOCK You don't move forward with something like this and scramble to find the money for your half of the moving in costs.
I was financially abused during my marriage to Miss R's dad. I have all kinds of spidey senses going off right now - the biggest one being we can let the house go, we don't have the money for it NOW. There is no 'we have to move NOW' urgency as we both have plenty of time left on our leases and we didn't give 30d notice ... shoot I haven't even told Miss R yet. My take is plenty of homes come on the rental market, while this one would be nice, I'd rather do this without someone being stretched super thin to do it. The aftermath of financial trauma is no joke.