pinkdutchtulips, it sounds like there needs to be a LOT of communication before (and if!) you move in together. You’re smart to be wary. It’s kind of unbelievable that he’s pushing to move in together but doesn’t have the money. And I know rent isn’t cheap where you are, but it kind of means he has no savings and that is scary.
No he didn't but the truck he's been putting off selling is being sold (it's been sitting for awhile) which should make up the difference. Either way all kinds of spidey senses are going off.
Got some answers today from my doctor. She diagnosed me with reactive airway disease rather than listing asthma in my chart. I am on a very aggressive medication regimen and hope it helps soon. She also asked for a work accommodation so I can work from home until this is resolved. Send good thoughts!
pinkdutchtulips , it sounds like there needs to be a LOT of communication before (and if!) you move in together. You’re smart to be wary. It’s kind of unbelievable that he’s pushing to move in together but doesn’t have the money. And I know rent isn’t cheap where you are, but it kind of means he has no savings and that is scary.
He's got some savings and he told me that with the sale of the truck he won't have to touch his savings. A small comfort but yes I need to know more. I'm more than willing to let this house go, build up savings over the year and start looking this time next year.
The monthly cost of a decently sized 3/2 with a garage and yard is our existing apartment rents put together ... yay to being in the 2nd most expensive county in the country!
Post by maudefindlay on May 7, 2024 17:40:50 GMT -5
Roc A Bee ha, I didn't word that well. I kind of ran my randoms together. DH is in Mexico for work. We are building a new house in our city in the U.S.
pinkdutchtulips , it sounds like there needs to be a LOT of communication before (and if!) you move in together. You’re smart to be wary. It’s kind of unbelievable that he’s pushing to move in together but doesn’t have the money. And I know rent isn’t cheap where you are, but it kind of means he has no savings and that is scary.
He's got some savings and he told me that with the sale of the truck he won't have to touch his savings. A small comfort but yes I need to know more. I'm more than willing to let this house go, build up savings over the year and start looking this time next year.
The monthly cost of a decently sized 3/2 with a garage and yard is our existing apartment rents put together ... yay to being in the 2nd most expensive county in the country!
Ugh. I can relate. I was in the same position in my marriage and cannot go through that again. Make sure you find out all there is to know before you move in with him so there are no surprises.
Roc A Bee ha, I didn't word that well. I kind of ran my randoms together. DH is in Mexico for work. We are building a new house in our city in the U.S.
I’m annoyed at my SIl but not sure if I should say something.
SD was accepting to a program related to Dental Hygiene for her senior year next year and is interested in pursing it in college. Her aunt (my DH’s sister) ALWAYS mentions “oh you could be a dentist” anytime this has come up. Like at least 5-6.
It really dampens the vibe and her excitement because she’s always being told “oh but don’t you want to run your own business and be the dentist?!”
No she doesn’t! Ughh idk if I should say something to SIL. SD said something on her own to her but it hasn’t stopped.
Every time you post her age, I am in shock. In my head, you had her like a week ago, lol.
Haha I know. Time is weird! I don’t feel like it has flown by but the huge development that happens during this time makes time seem very weird. She’s such a person now!
I am now sitting at the dermatologist, waiting to see her in a tiny paper gown. The little plastic tie is supposed to go around your waist, but I am too fat for that. I am a size 16 - the most common size in the US. Why on earth don't they have more size inclusive gowns? I think I suggested this at a previous visit, so I'm super glad they took my comment seriously lol
I am pretty sure I am switching to a new person anyway - I do like this doctor but in this area it seems silly that I have an hour drive each way for something basic like a skin check. There are tons of in network providers much closer to me. I used to work near here so it made sense when I started seeing her, but not so much anymore.
I’m annoyed at my SIl but not sure if I should say something.
SD was accepting to a program related to Dental Hygiene for her senior year next year and is interested in pursing it in college. Her aunt (my DH’s sister) ALWAYS mentions “oh you could be a dentist” anytime this has come up. Like at least 5-6.
It really dampens the vibe and her excitement because she’s always being told “oh but don’t you want to run your own business and be the dentist?!”
No she doesn’t! Ughh idk if I should say something to SIL. SD said something on her own to her but it hasn’t stopped.
Yes say something. If your SD has said something and your SIL is still mentioning it, she needs another adult to step in. Ugh.
Post by maudefindlay on May 8, 2024 4:34:09 GMT -5
Roc A Bee if SIL says it again I think it would be good for you to pipe in and say "She knows that, but she has chosen to be a dental hygienist and we're so excited because she'll be a great one". Hopefully that shuts SIL down and shows your SD a show of support. If it doesn't shut it down then I think a private talk is warranted. If it's from your family you do it/if it's from your DH's side he should do that.
Roc A Bee , I'm so annoyed on your SD's behalf! My SIL who is ALWAYS in BEC territory does the exact same shit to my niece (not her daughter) and it pisses me off. Niece struggled hard in school and ended up dropping out in her senior year and worked a few low paying jobs that she hated but then a friend who is a Dentist brought her on as a Dental Assistant and she LOVES it and is thriving in it but my SIL is constantly telling her that she should go to school to be a Hygienist and then a Dentist - my niece keeps telling her that she isn't interested in that and loves what she is doing but SIL doesn't stop with her BS. JUST LEAVE HER ALONE!!
Thanks for the responses. This aunt is really awesome otherwise. But it is on my last nerve. I think I also have a complex because I’m stepmom and kids have a longer relationship with the aunt. But if she says in front of me, I’ll say something.