It’s Monday again

[mommyatty]

Ugh…. I don’t feel like I had a weekend. I want a do over.

[mommyatty]

I came home from a business trip on Saturday morning, after a business dinner Friday night. My flight landed at 11:15, and I had a hair appointment at 12:30. I was home a whopping 10 minutes before I headed to the hair appointment. Then I had to ensure DD was fully packed for camp.

Sunday morning was calm until lunch time. Then we started loading DD’s stuff in the car to head to camp. It’s about an hour’s drive. We got about halfway there and I realized her melatonin and daily mail were still at home. So yippee… turned around, making a one hour journey a two hour journey. Then another hour home after standing in the medicine drop off line for over an hour. I didn’t get to say goodbye because her cabin took off from the unloading area in the time I was standing there waiting to drop off melatonin.

A rant. The camp doesn’t do a great job of explaining or communicating changes. Last year, we were given blister packs and had to put the meds in a blister pack before we left. Which honestly was a pain in the ass. This year, they didn’t do that, which would have been an awesome improvement except they didn’t tell us. They just said all meds needed to be in a plastic bag in the original bottle. I followed those instructions but most people didn’t because they assumed we would have to do blister packs. So the line was mainly people who 1) had a gazillion meds for their kids, and 2) had them already separated out in pill pack things (those old people things with compartments for pills), and 3) didn’t bring the original bottles even though we always had to show the original bottles before separating the meds, and 4) didn’t have a ziploc bag for their stuff and 5) hadn’t filled out their forms online, which they were supposed to do two weeks ago. So the camp didn’t communicate well and the parents ignored what little communication there was. When it was my turn, it took me like 10 seconds. “What’s the child’s name? Which cabin? Oh, you wrote the instructions in the system like we asked and on the plastic bag? Great, you’re good to go.” The lady ahead of me took over 10 minutes and was going to have to come back with a prescription bottle because she didn’t have it. Really, lady? You thought these people were going to administer a pill without knowing what it was.

[rere]

Such an exhausting weekend. Got up at 6 to get wedding ready and drive 2.5 hrs for a noon wedding. Had to find somewhere to hang out till we could check into the hotel and then the reception at 5. Woke up yesterday and traveled back. But it was worth it. It was a small wedding and our friends seemed so happy that we all traveled to support them.

By the time we got home Sunday, I meal prepped, and we just hung out and grilled. Dh had to have a nap.

This week should hopefully be fairly calm. I'm off Friday and just have some catching up to do.

[mae0111]

It was an up and down weekend after a really crazy busy week. Friday I took DD2 to a friend's house near my parents, and then took DD1 to my parents' house to help with my nieces. They live about 10 mins apart, but about 35 mins from me. Raced home, worked for like 90 mins, and then back to pick everyone up.

After expressing a LOT of opinions about how I pack for camp (loudly and repeatedly), I turned packing over to DD1. By Friday evening at around 9pm, she broke down and asked me to go through every item and determine if she needed or not. I said I was not doing that right then... I was absolutely exhausted, didn't feel up to a fight, so I said I would help her in a few days.

Saturday we got up early and picked up DD1's friend, and then headed to the beach house. DD1 and her friend biked all over while DD2 and I worked on cleaning out our planter boxes. DH was working on his new office - running network cable and setting up security cameras for the property. The planter boxes were a huge job. Two boxes that I'd guess are 2x6, and then a third L-shaped that are about the same size in either direction. I pulled most stuff out, but left some great strawberry plants (that I think will continue to spread now that I cleared out the junk) and some garlic plants. The worst part was that one of the boxes was overrun with dill... I hate dill so very much... blech

Came back yesterday and met my whole family (parents, sisters, BILs, nieces and nephews except for one nephew) for dinner to celebrate my nephew's college graduation. We had a great time!

We had a lot of struggles with DD1's behavior over the weekend, which ended in a huge blow up before we went to dinner last night. There is constant complaining, even about the best, most fun things. So she had a friend come and stay at the beach house, and she did all kinds of things... but focused on the fact that I didn't take her to *one certain arcade* (she had already gone to a different one). We decided to order dinner, but DD1 and her friend just wanted pasta with butter... I didn't want to pay $15/plate for pasta with butter, I told them I'd make it for them at our house... friend was perfectly happy, DD1 complained... Things like that happened all weekend... it just beats you down after a while...

[twinmomma]

DH and I had a fun, impromptu adventure day on Saturday. The weather was beautiful, so we hit up a market day festival on the seacoast and wandered around outside in the sun. Then we randomly hit up the casino in the area for something random to do. And on the way home googled a restaurant that had gluten free fried seafood in a dedicated fryer so no cross contamination! We were so excited that I could eat all the things that we didn't look up any other reviews. Got there, and it was the most hilariously townie bar ever! Live music, lots of boomers singing along to Billy Joel songs, and such a fun atmosphere. We were definitely some of the youngest ones in there. We kept laughing that it was exactly what hanging out with my parents is like. It's their dream spot. It was supposed to just be an afternoon outside, but turned into a whole day and we didn't get home until around 8 PM.

Yesterday we just lumped around the house, did laundry and exercise, and I read a bunch of my book. Now we're back to the grind this week. DH has to work a bunch of events and it's the last week of school so we'll be busy.

[supertrooper1]

We had beautiful weather this weekend. We had a mix of relaxing at home and visiting with relatives. Saturday, DS and I went to a local strawberry farm for strawberries and ice cream and then picked up lunch on the way home. My mom really wanted us to come out and visit them at their campsite with my cousins, so we spent the evening with them. Sunday was a high school graduation party for Beau's DIL's cousin.

This is DS's last full week of school. What I'm most excited about is Wednesday will be his last extra afternoon with his dad during my week. It was written into the PP that ex-H would keep DS after school until 4pm on Wednesdays through 5th grade and that is finally coming to an end.

[186momx]

Weekend got turned around. My dad cancelled DD's family dinner at his house because of my mom's attitude. Mom is having some health issues and is choosing to ignore doctors because they don't know anything and is pulling stunts that are making things worse. Dad called her out on it last Tuesday and now we all hate her. DD and I drove up to my sibling's town and meet up with my sister. My brother decided it was better to hang with mom and that I was being immature and selfish and making things worse by not coming over. Us girls drove over to the coast and had a 3-mile beach walk in really nice weather and then DD picked Mexican for dinner before we drove home. DD said it was a fun afternoon and was better than having to visit and listen to grandma talk. Sunday was gymnastics banquet and DD spent most of the day making Dutch apple pie. DD got most improved for the compulsory group.

DD turns 13 tomorrow and I'm taking the day off work. I will pull her from school to take her to lunch and then I will take her back. They are launching rockets and have the color fun run in the afternoon so the day is fun and not work. I'm also taking Wednesday off just because and I'm going to take my paddle board out for a morning exercise paddle. I think I may take a bunch of random Wednesdays off this summer as they tend to be slow days at work and it is a day DD doesn't have gym so we could go off and actually do something.

[sdlaura]

It was a fun but exhausting weekend. Friday night DS1 went to a women's pro soccer game with a friend, and we got a babysitter for the other three kids while DH and I took my parents out for my mom's 75th bday. We had a nice dinner. Saturday DD had two softball games and we hosted 25 kindergartners and lots of parents for DS2's 7th birthday party at Sky Zone. And DH's cousin who lives in Phoenix was in town for the first time in over 5 years with two of his kids. It's the first time we'd seen him since he and his wife got divorced. So they all then came over to our house after the party.

Yesterday DD had more softball, I took DS2 to another of his kindergarten classmates' birthday parties, and then our whole family including my parents went to the Padres baseball game. It was a beautiful day and we waited around after so the kids could go down on the field and run the bases (they do that after some Sunday afternoon games). It was a loooong day.

We didn't have a bday party for DS2 last year because we went to Disneyland, so he was pretty thrilled to have a real big party this year and to get tons of presents. Of course now my house is overrun by his gifts. I need to put some of the stuff like Lego sets aside for when he gets bored later.

This week is nuts between end of school stuff, DD's promotion ceremony, and a work trip for me to Texas on Thursday/Friday, which means I miss DS2's real 7th birthday Friday. I'm pretty annoyed to have to present in a place that's hard to get to on a summer Friday afternoon. Oh well. Then next Saturday is a good friend's bat mitzvah. So another crazy week and weekend

[186momx]

sdlaura, our minor league team does that too. They also let the kids run from the leftfield outfield to the rightfield outfield during the 7th inning stretch with the mascot. Mascot gets a head start and it is hilarious to see the kids try to beat him or he will just stop and skip and dance with the littles across the field. I never could get DD to do it.

Dad called me at 8:10 on his way to the ER because he sliced his finger dealing with dishes this morning and needs stitches.

[sdlaura]

186momx, my like is for the kids on the baseball field, not for your DH needing stitches - oof!

[k3am]

DD's sync team got their costumes. They are.. Horrifically ugly. Lke.. WTF were they thinking? They're so bad. At least on the little girls, they're somewhat tolerable, but on the girls who are even slightly developed? Yeeks. It's REALLY bad.

So bad that even though I'd ordered DD a skating dress from ebay that I planned to stone for one of her solos, I ended up spending more than I wanted to on one that's pre-stoned because the girl deserves some bling. (I'm also not sure the custom made one from China that I ordered will come with enough time for me to stone it). She is in love. She weirdly loves the sample model of the one from China more though and is adamant she'll wear it at some point.

I am still waiting to hear what work will have on the table for me, but I am not optimistic and my heart is not in it.

[k3am]

I find out tomorrow. DH’s friend is an amazing recruiter - not in my industry - but told me to pull my job description and he’d help me revamp my resume just in case. Fun story? They don’t have a job description for me. The one I signed in 2015 is super dated and not my job position today. Doubt they’ll put one together for me at this point.

[rere]

My biopsy came back benign!!!! Much better start to this week. Now I can concentrate, because for the last week I could not really keep my mind on anything.

And my nurse thinks I'm nuts because I told her this is my 4th scare and these boobs are defective, I have no use for them and would like them gone.

[mommyatty]

Yay, rere!

[mommyatty]

I’m trying really hard to get up for an interview for a job at my company that I have in an hour and a half. I’m annoyed I’m even having to interview considering I am offering to take on that role on top of my current role for no more money. So I’m feeling very shitty about whether my company values me at all. Which is making me feel very petty. So I’ve spent the morning sending emails to all the people in charge of our webpages asking them to please put my name on their webpages with my role since, you know, it’s kind of important that people know who I am and what I’m doing here.

I need a new job.

[eport]

Jun 10, 2024 11:55:39 GMT -5 186momx said:

sdlaura, our minor league team does that too. They also let the kids run from the leftfield outfield to the rightfield outfield during the 7th inning stretch with the mascot. Mascot gets a head start and it is hilarious to see the kids try to beat him or he will just stop and skip and dance with the littles across the field. I never could get DD to do it

Worked for a minor league team in college. My favorite promotion involved women running on the field called the diamond dig. Prior to the game, the general manager buried two items on the field, a pair of diamond earrings and a diamond ring (ok, versions without the stone, the real ones were in the office). The first 500 women at the game all received a sandbox type toy shovel. Post game, line women up on the baselines. First to find the items without the stone wins the real one.

It was so funny and everyone seemed to have a good time. Reminders were it wasn't buried too deep so don't destroy the dirt field. Then hints that it was not on the base path or the pitchers mound as he didn't want it kicked up by accident during the game. One poor lady sat and digged all around her. As soon as she stood up, someone found the ring where she was sitting.

[mae0111]

k3am, any news? I've been thinking of you.

[k3am]

mae0111, another hour and a half until the meeting. Not that they've explained what the meeting is. And I can't imagine they go into too much detail, since it's a division wide meeting with HR.

[k3am]

Nothingburger. I know severance will be ~ 2 weeks per year (so 4.5 months) and they'll cover their portion of benefits during that period. That's it.

I no nothing about what potential role there will be. I had been told by our EVP that he envisioned me working with the subsidiary, but he had no idea of what capacity of what that would look like. Now I'm told to reach out to HR to see about applying to open roles. My speculation is that it's to avoid paying unemployment.

ETA: HR scheduled a call for tomorrow to discuss options. Called my EVP who says a new job offer is coming, likely this week. Role will need to be posted. It's annoying because you legally have 21 days to respond to the severance option, but I don't have any information necessary to make any decisions. 

[librarychica]

k3am, I haven’t commented yet but I just want to say I am so sorry you are dealing with this nonsense.

[mommyatty]

k3am,sending hugs and good thoughts.

[k3am]

The severance option isn't bad. I'd get 4.5 months of pay and benefits, and then I have quite a bit of vacation banked (41 days, to be precise).

As much as I didn't like how it was handled, the EVP is making good on his offer. I have a job description for a new role at the subsidiary - same pay, new incentive structure, similar role but different product set. I'd keep my years of seniority. They wouldn't be telling my portfolio that anything has changed - they'd get new people managing their day to day, but I'd be responsible for stepping in if anything comes up. I 100% need more clarity on what the role looks like though, what I'd actually be doing, and how I'd be measured. Boss would move into a BDO role and I'd continue working with him.

It is a big decision. On one hand.. having that offer there is very nice. It's a position created specifically for me. But if it then doesn't work out, severance isn't on the table. On the other hand.. the severance sounds nice too. But I can imagine myself getting to November and still not knowing what I want to do next. If I do end up taking the job, I think I'll try to blow through a large portion of my banked vacation before officially starting.

I'm currently strangely at peace with it. But yesterday a Florence + the Machine song came on, and the lyrics were so true... "fallings not the problem, when I'm falling I'm at peace. It's only when I hit the ground that causes all the grief." I'm currently in the falling stage. (Also apparently in that middle school phase where song lyrics really just hit differently. Me and DD both.) Once the decisions are made, I'll likely be a ball of anxiety again. 

It also helps that DH has been out of town this week for work. My days are starting at 5am and ending at 9 - we've chatted for 5-10 minutes a day, but the kids have been around, so it wasn't about anything important, so he hasn't been able to voice any opinions.

DH's work bestie is a recruiter and is apparently AMAZING at it. Wrong industry, but he's going to help me revamp my resume and see what we can make of it. I don't anticipate that being done before the 7/1 deadline though.

[k3am]

And not related, but related to the song lyric situation.. DD didn't pass her skating level. Again. It's her 4th time. She has one move that she hasn't mastered. She was devastated. I'm talking ugly crying while shoving french fries in her mouth ugly crying. And blasting the song that goes... "All that work and what did it get me?!?!" I told her that just like when work told me no more job, she gets one night to mope and moan and then she has to start making tough decisions... does she repeat the course again and work on that last move in her private lessons? Does she decide to quit? The choice is hers. She woke up grumpy, but in a much better mood. But we both decided it would be fun song to skate to once she's a little faster.

[sdlaura]

k3am - that’s great news. I’m so glad you have the option of keeping your job remaining at the same pay level. Personally, I would never feel comfortable turning that down in the hopes that I find something new by the time my severance runs out - unless my family didn’t need my income. I’m just too risk averse.