Monday

[twinmomma]

How are we all doing?

[twinmomma]

DH started our morning off by picking a fight and throwing a tantrum about the girls' pet hermit crabs. The girls are not here all week and when he peeked in on the cage the food bowl had some mold in it so he flipped out that they are not taking good care of these pets. He went off on this whole rant about he made a deal with the girls that these pets were 100% their responsibility and they should be asking their dad to drive them over here to check in on them and take care of them. It was completely ridiculous and I pointed out that if either of our exes demanded that we give up some of our parenting time for the kids to go take care of pets at their other houses, we'd both be pissed that the exes are encroaching on our time. That was also never discussed as an expectation, ever. Our kids are only here 50% of the time. Obviously we are stuck dealing with these creatures the other 50%. That's just how our lives work. Not to mention, DD2 has been texting me daily for "crab checks" to remind me to go look at them and make sure they're ok, so she isn't just ignoring them even if she's not here.

PLEASE NOTE: I never agreed to get these crabs. DD2 has been asking for months. I kept saying no. DH promised her she could get them when she was in the hospital without consulting me first. So I'm definitely not interested in hearing his bitching and moaning about pets that I didn't want in the first place and that he brought into our home.

I'm on calls and busy for the next few hours, so I'm hoping he chills out and gets over it before I emerge from my office again.

[rere]

Good weekend. I had a super long baby shower yesterday, so that put me behind on prepping for the week.

I have my least favorite meeting of the day, performance management. I call it the meeting where I lead and everyone just stares at me. Plus our new payroll, account payable goes live to day. This has been the reason people have been blowing my stuff off for months. I realize it's important, but you can't just drop everything.

Plus, after months of reducing my carbs, losing about 7 lbs, watching everything I eat, they still tell me my cholesterol is high. When I look it up, it looks like my numbers are great, but my doctor has always been over the top. So now he wants me to take medication. How do other people function. I watch what I eat, workout daily, and am basically falling apart.

[mae0111]

It was a very long weekend, but we tried to have fun where we could!

No one was around to hang out on Friday, so I tried to pop in and play games with each kid individually in between meetings and working. We tried to take them out to dinner Friday night, but DD2 had a total meltdown over... I don't even know... so DH took DD1 out and DD2 and I stayed home. She fully expected me to take her to the restaurant when she calmed down, but I did NOT... and her whole attitude shifted and became MUCH more pleasant.

Saturday DD2 had a friend over and DD1 finished packing. DH and I just did errands and stuff around the house. Sunday DH took DD1 to sleepaway camp. Between DD2's pneumonia and my BIL's health issues, I didn't go. DD2 had a friend over to swim, and then I ran to my parents house while DH ran to the beach house to get a few things done.

DD2 is at a 1/2 day soccer camp today, and I'm half expecting to have to pick her up early. Her breathing still isn't great, but she wanted to see her friends. It's about 5 mins away so I can get there quickly.

BIL ended up having surgery on Saturday to remove a 5cm mass from his brain. He is doing quite well from what I hear - no weakness, some minor peripheral vision loss in one eye that will likely improve as the swelling in his brain reduces. The surgeon felt, and MRI confirmed, that the entire tumor was removed. We are still waiting on pathology. My parents are a complete mess, especially my dad. He loves BIL so much - they are extremely close. But so far, it's the best possible outcome... just hoping pathology comes back as benign...

[mae0111]

rere, it's genetics. DH has super high cholesterol. He does NOT have the best diet and doesn't work out a ton, but I largely control what he eats and we're pretty healthy. I've been dragging him out for an evening walk almost every night - 2 miles with the dog. If he's not on medication, his cholesterol is up over 300. Same with his mom and both brothers. My vegetarian DD2 who loves to have a plate of vegetables for dinner, plays soccer several days a week, constantly running, hates cheese, not at all overweight... has high cholesterol. My DD1 who eats literally NOTHING but cheese, won't work out, etc... does not.

It stinks. Maybe try fish or krill oil before you get on the hardcore meds? That helped DH, but not enough because his was so high. There are certain kinds that are "burpless"...

[k3am]

rere, I assume the doctor is looking at statins? If you think your numbers look to be in a good range, I would not agree to any medication without a second opinion. I refuse to take a medication just because.

[supertrooper1]

Beau's cardiologist told him that everyone should be on Atorvastatin in his opinion because of the benefits for fighting bad cholesterol and it supposedly doesn't do any harm if you don't need it.

Our weekend was ok. I've been stir crazy on the weekends with Beau's back not allowing us to do much together. I wanted to go on a road trip or something to get out of the house. My ideas were rejected by both Beau and DS, so we settled on trying a new to us pizza restaurant in the next county over on Saturday and we saw Inside Out 2 yesterday. We need to get back into camping on our weekends, but it's difficult in our state since most RV parks are booked in January and we don't plan that far ahead.

[librarychica]

rere, is your doctor looking at your chol/ HDL ratio as well? We may be in a similar situation. I have high total cholesterol, slightly high LDL trending up, but I also have high HDL and my cholesterol/HDL ratio has stayed under 3 for years. No family history of heart disease except for a relative that also smoked heavily, low blood pressure, healthy weight, moderately active. My mother (overweight, former smoker, average BP) has high cholesterol but her mother (healthy maybe underweight, vegetarian non-smoker, low BP) ALSO had high cholesterol. So family history has a role to play. FWIW, neither has/had heart problems. My doctor is willing to watch and weight since the ratios are good and she considers that a better indicator. I’d definitely get another opinion or two before going on statins if you’re otherwise healthy and low-risk.

[librarychica]

I am working on exercising more, drinking less, and sticking more fully to bean/lentil based dinners 3x a week, but I figure that is good for us regardless.

We had a nice weekend. Cleaned this house top-to-bottom, went to an Irish pub for a friend’s bday, H took the girls to a skating party. I didn’t get out in the garden because it was very rainy but otherwise, success.

[rere]

Jun 24, 2024 11:21:33 GMT -5 librarychica said:

rere, is your doctor looking at your chol/ HDL ratio as well? We may be in a similar situation. I have high total cholesterol, slightly high LDL trending up, but I also have high HDL and my cholesterol/HDL ratio has stayed under 3 for years. No family history of heart disease except for a relative that also smoked heavily, low blood pressure, healthy weight, moderately active. My mother (overweight, former smoker, average BP) has high cholesterol but her mother (healthy maybe underweight, vegetarian non-smoker, low BP) ALSO had high cholesterol. So family history has a role to play. FWIW, neither has/had heart problems. My doctor is willing to watch and weight since the ratios are good and she considers that a better indicator. I’d definitely get another opinion or two before going on statins if you’re otherwise healthy and low-risk.

My total was 180. The LDL,bad was 108, so that's why he thinks I should be medication. I'm just not wanting any weird side effects where the cure is worse than the problem, because I don't know that this is a huge problem.

[186momx]

DH was in a crummy mood all weekend so that made it a very long difficult weekend. He is helping a neighbor/friend redo her fence and she keeps changing her mind and is driving him bonkers while she "helps him". He went over Friday after work and didn't get home until 8, didn't eat dinner, and threw a fit that I had done his laundry and he had to put it away. He spent both Saturday and Sunday over there from 10-3 and came home a made DD and I walk on eggshells the rest of the day.

Saturday DD and I removed the wood paneling in her room that we added when we turned it into a nursery. Her room looks so much brighter without the panels. Wednesday I'm buying the paint with plans to paint this weekend. I need to prime the half purple walls and then 3 of the walls will be a silver/gray color and the solid will is going to be a blue/green color (think tropical water).

Busy week... DD has 3 dentist/ortho appointments on Wednesday and her well child visit on Thursday. I cancelled the vet appointment for today as the dog was running zoomies in the backyard yesterday which makes me think her hip is feeling better and she is just stiff and creaky after sleeping.

[sdlaura]

DH has high cholesterol and after years of trying to control it on his own, he finally gave in and went on statins. No side effects for him - he's happy he did it.

It really felt like summer here this weekend. Finally no more marine layer (I missed it this morning, though, when I went for a run and it took me longer than normal to cool down). DD's softball team got knocked out of contention for the state tournament, but also beat a team they'd never beat before, so that was exciting. Otherwise we ended up at three different pool parties this weekend (two of them sort of impromptu), including a grown up pool party for a child-free friend's birthday. Most of the time I do not wear a swimsuit to pool parties - the kids just swim - so it was strange to actually go in the pool myself.

I'm gearing up for a meeting in LA Thursday, a meeting in Boston Friday, and then getting from San Diego to Seattle Saturday. It will be quite a few days!