Tomorrow we are celebrating DH's birthday by renting a boat at our local lake. It seats 16 and we'll have a full boat. We are supplying bottled water for everyone and will also have some alcohol, but people on their own for snacks and other drinks. We will also have extra sunscreen, towels, paper towels, garbage bags. The boat comes with a sound system. It's a double-decker so there is plenty of shade on the main deck, but I'm planning to bring a couple of umbrellas in case anyone wants to sit on the upper deck but not completely bake.
Is there anything else we should bring for the group?
You aren't providing any food at all? Maybe I'm alone in this, but I can't imagine inviting people to a 7 hour activity and not feeding them. That said, I provide food for pretty much any/all events, so maybe I'm the outlier.
ETA: I see this has been discussed, but I'd personally still provide food.
Yes, I would expect a meal if an outing was over a 7 hour span (even if there was an option to leave at some point) If it was clearly stated that no food would be provided, then I guess that is fine, because I would pack more than just snacks. The sunscreen, towels etc. are thoughtful, but I'd rather be provided food and worry about those other items myself.
Sound like a fun way to celebrate a birthday though!
Hmmmm. See, if I have a party I provide a large amount of food as well. I enjoy it, actually. However, if I was invited to a party on a boat and it said to bring your own food/lunch, I wouldn't think it's that big of a deal? Idk.
I'm one week into my new job and I really like it so far. It certainly is a different vibe than the athleisure retail market but the responsibilities and duties are remarkably similar. I don't want to count my chickens before the hatch but it seems as though this is a really good fit for me.
As for the boat, I would most def. have food. Even if there are ports I think I would be surprised that there was nothing provided. Are you in a soft pretzel region? A big tray of that would be good, possibily a fruit or veggie tray.
ETA: NM, if the invite said to bring your own food
But... that's still snacks and not actual food. Was your invite verbiage "snacks" or was it "food"? Because those are two different things. If the invite said snacks with a 7 hour span, I'd expect a food or meal from the hosts.
ETA: I'd send out a clarification txt or email saying that a meal is not being provided and to plan accordingly. That way there's no confusion.
The invite says, "Bring your own lunches/snacks."
I think you're good then. As long as people know that they're on the hook for their own meal. You might still get people who didn't read the invite all the way through, or are told the details by a spouse who misses the BYO-lunch bit, but it's hard to account for those.
Hmmmm. See, if I have a party I provide a large amount of food as well. I enjoy it, actually. However, if I was invited to a party on a boat and it said to bring your own food/lunch, I wouldn't think it's that big of a deal? Idk.
same - I'd pack my drinks of choice and my pringles and grapes and wraps
Post by NewGirlNic on Jun 28, 2024 11:22:01 GMT -5
I just realized I have not paid our city "user fee" (garbage/recycling) since May of 2022! I do not know how they did not call/mail something as a reminder, shut off our service or threaten collections or something. I am signed up for electronic invoices and I didn't realize it was going to an email address I don't really use (an old yahoo email that I just give for marketing/discounts etc.) I was just paying some bills and had to pay our water bill (quarterly invoice) and it made me think about the garbage bill, since that is also quarterly, and how I don't remember getting an invoice or paying it for a while. So many of our bills are auto debited and if not, I have a spreadsheet of all the monthly bills, amounts and due dates. Those 2 quarterly ones aren't listed and I just pay them when I get the notice. Almost $500 later, we are all caught up, updated my email address and I signed up for automatic payments so that doesn't happen again. LOL
ETA: On a totally opposite side of the bill paying spectrum- I realized I double paid the electric bill at our cottage last month. I scheduled a payment on the due date (and forgot), then paid it again a couple days before it was due. So now next month we'll have a credit at least. Which is good, because we'll be spending a lot of time there in July and the AC will be running more often.
Post by definitelyO on Jun 28, 2024 11:22:53 GMT -5
so random - cleaning out a closet and confirming that "fashion" scarves are so done, right? I have about 30 that I just need to clear out of the closet to get rid of stuff I don't use/wear.
Tomorrow we are celebrating DH's birthday by renting a boat at our local lake. It seats 16 and we'll have a full boat. We are supplying bottled water for everyone and will also have some alcohol, but people on their own for snacks and other drinks. We will also have extra sunscreen, towels, paper towels, garbage bags. The boat comes with a sound system. It's a double-decker so there is plenty of shade on the main deck, but I'm planning to bring a couple of umbrellas in case anyone wants to sit on the upper deck but not completely bake.
Is there anything else we should bring for the group?
Maybe pool noodles or floats if you think people will hang out in the lake
I don’t want to go to any party for any amount of time that doesn’t include food. Like real food. 7 hours in the sun is draining. I need food even if it’s just pizza.
Tomorrow we are celebrating DH's birthday by renting a boat at our local lake. It seats 16 and we'll have a full boat. We are supplying bottled water for everyone and will also have some alcohol, but people on their own for snacks and other drinks. We will also have extra sunscreen, towels, paper towels, garbage bags. The boat comes with a sound system. It's a double-decker so there is plenty of shade on the main deck, but I'm planning to bring a couple of umbrellas in case anyone wants to sit on the upper deck but not completely bake.
Is there anything else we should bring for the group?
That sounds like a wonderful birthday celebration! Yaay for summer birthdays. - I’d check requirements and availability for PFDs (life jackets) - like, if kids have to wear them while in the boat. (Probably not). Very young kids might & they should bring their own. - Is there swimming off the side of the boat, and if so, are there floats like noodles? (Or just down the slide & then out) - is there a big cooler to store the food folks bring or are they bringing coolers & if so, is there enough room for the extra coolers?
lust2hart, I personally think that since you put on the invite that you should bring your own food/snacks, you are fine. If you want to provide food then sure, go for it - but I imagine renting a boat that size wasn't cheap and I'd just be grateful that I get to spend the day on a boat that I didn't pay for so I wouldn't think twice about the BYO part. I do not come from a place where fully hosted pricey parties are the norm, with most family/friends I would expect to contribute if I was going to an activity or restaurant or basically anywhere other than the host's home for a celebration.
definitelyO I have the same problem. I have a ton of scarves and rarely use any of them anymore. I have a couple that I've thrown on as a shoulder wrap here and there but it's been a while since I've worn one around my neck or any of my infinity scarves. I have a lot of pretty ones though and some that have been given as gifts, so I hate to get rid of them all!
so random - cleaning out a closet and confirming that "fashion" scarves are so done, right? I have about 30 that I just need to clear out of the closet to get rid of stuff I don't use/wear.
so random - cleaning out a closet and confirming that "fashion" scarves are so done, right? I have about 30 that I just need to clear out of the closet to get rid of stuff I don't use/wear.
I cleaned at least half of mine out a year ago. I kept the ones I like most, just in case they come back into fashion at some point, but I am also planning to do a closet purge soon, and some of the ones I kept may be on the chopping block again.
Post by notsopicky on Jun 28, 2024 12:06:33 GMT -5
I took the English certification exam this morning and based on the unofficial score reporting, I'm pretty sure I passed. Last night I was throwing the prep book at my computer, swearing all the while that I was going to fail, fail, fail (this is typical last-minute panicking for me, lol), but that was just hyperbolic nonsense. 🤣🤣
It was easy and hard at the same time (WTF?). And praise be that I passed, because JFC, I never want to take an exam like that again.
I have no plans to teach English, but in order to be eligible for some specialist roles in the county you have to have a core certification and I didn't. Now I will...yay me!
lust2hart , I personally think that since you put on the invite that you should bring your own food/snacks, you are fine. If you want to provide food then sure, go for it - but I imagine renting a boat that size wasn't cheap and I'd just be grateful that I get to spend the day on a boat that I didn't pay for so I wouldn't think twice about the BYO part. I do not come from a place where fully hosted pricey parties are the norm, with most family/friends I would expect to contribute if I was going to an activity or restaurant or basically anywhere other than the host's home for a celebration.
If anyone is inviting me on a boat for the day, I'm definitely not anticipating that they will be providing anything! We had a boat growing up and guests typically covered lunch. That marine gas doesn't come cheap!
I'm irritated that they haven't sent out any of the info for my kids' camps that start on Monday. I just called and they said that they would send it out sometime today and the lack of info is irking me. I'm really annoyed because DS' camp has really good hours and DD's camp has shitty hours. I'm hoping that they will let her sign herself out (she's 12, it's at a neighborhood park where she routine is without adult supervision), but I'm almost certain I'll have to pick her up according to her shitty schedule. I'm not mad about it, I just need confirmation.
so random - cleaning out a closet and confirming that "fashion" scarves are so done, right? I have about 30 that I just need to clear out of the closet to get rid of stuff I don't use/wear.
Yes, I think this trend is over. Even so, I personally still have three - one neutral and two more colorful. But I've noticed that I don't wear them as accessories anymore - I wear them in the winter as an actual lightweight scarf.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Jun 28, 2024 12:26:54 GMT -5
I'm cautiously optimistic that Miss R and I turned a corner - time will tell. We had some incredibly productive conversations last night. She's getting more excited about the move, still incredibly scared and nervous about a new school (she hasn't had a 'normal' school schedule since the end of 5th grade, she starts 10th in the fall). She told me some ideas she has about her new bedroom - from white/gray to a more rustic wood theme. All more and more positive.
lust2hart , I personally think that since you put on the invite that you should bring your own food/snacks, you are fine. If you want to provide food then sure, go for it - but I imagine renting a boat that size wasn't cheap and I'd just be grateful that I get to spend the day on a boat that I didn't pay for so I wouldn't think twice about the BYO part. I do not come from a place where fully hosted pricey parties are the norm, with most family/friends I would expect to contribute if I was going to an activity or restaurant or basically anywhere other than the host's home for a celebration.
If anyone is inviting me on a boat for the day, I'm definitely not anticipating that they will be providing anything! We had a boat growing up and guests typically covered lunch. That marine gas doesn't come cheap!
Hahaha yeah. We’ve spent weekend on a family friend’s boat, we were early 20-somethings to their 50+ - basically like their kids - so the rules didn’t really apply, but they did mention when they took their friends out, generally the friends bought the meals and/or gas.
On the food and parties thing, I am annoyed that I’m going to a potluck backyard adult milestone birthday party/picnic tomorrow. The hosts are providing cake, burgers, and soft drinks, and the invite said to bring an app and beer to share. And call it an age thing or ML influence, but that style party worked well when we were all broke 20-somethings and lived within 10 minutes of each other. Compounded by the fact I have a bazillion things to do between now and Sunday, so I don’t have time to make anything. Sure, I can pick up something, but if I’m going to potluck, I want to make something nice. Obviously, I could just not go, but two of my oldest friend. And I won’t say a word, just bitching here. And I feel like a brat in my annoyance.
OTOH, maybe I’m just as bad, as I’m planning a party that runs 4-7pm (so dinner time) and my food options will likely be more luncheon level, but enough to count for a meal.
She is providing a fun day on what is probably a very expensive boat rental, she definitely doesn't need to provide food for everyone! Also the logistics of everyone bringing food for themselves is much easier than OP trying to bring/store/serve some kind of group meal on a boat.
Post by 1confused1 on Jun 28, 2024 12:45:51 GMT -5
We’re still on our vacation, but the baseball tournament is over. I wish we could change our flight to come home earlier, but it would cost over $1200 ☹️
First world problem, I was woken up by some very loud housekeeping staff cleaning the room next door.
July 18th will be the 3yr anniversary of my brother's passing. I opened up my amazon picture roll and it gives me picture memories every day of "this day of the prior years."
3 years ago today is the last time I hugged my brother. No wonder I saw a dragonfly this AM. It was his way of saying hi.
If anyone is inviting me on a boat for the day, I'm definitely not anticipating that they will be providing anything! We had a boat growing up and guests typically covered lunch. That marine gas doesn't come cheap!
Hahaha yeah. We’ve spent weekend on a family friend’s boat, we were early 20-somethings to their 50+ - basically like their kids - so the rules didn’t really apply, but they did mention when they took their friends out, generally the friends bought the meals and/or gas.
On the food and parties thing, I am annoyed that I’m going to a potluck backyard adult milestone birthday party/picnic tomorrow. The hosts are providing cake, burgers, and soft drinks, and the invite said to bring an app and beer to share. And call it an age thing or ML influence, but that style party worked well when we were all broke 20-somethings and lived within 10 minutes of each other. Compounded by the fact I have a bazillion things to do between now and Sunday, so I don’t have time to make anything. Sure, I can pick up something, but if I’m going to potluck, I want to make something nice. Obviously, I could just not go, but two of my oldest friend. And I won’t say a word, just bitching here. And I feel like a brat in my annoyance.
OTOH, maybe I’m just as bad, as I’m planning a party that runs 4-7pm (so dinner time) and my food options will likely be more luncheon level, but enough to count for a meal.
I think you are very generous. I've only been to one birthday party hosted by a friend, ever, that was fully hosted for food/beverage and at a venue type place. I would say anyone that I'm friends with at this point has some level of affluence that we didn't have when we were in our 20s, but even so I would never expect someone to cover the cost of a day/evening out. Heck, when my H and I go out for a meal and get a couple of drinks it easily costs over $100 these days and multiplying that however many time really adds up! I would think a lot of people just wouldn't be able to have a party if they had to pay for the whole thing.
I think a backyard 50th should provide all the food and the majority of the drinks, though. I don't think I'd be offended to be invited to one, especially if I knew it was someone who maybe didn't have as much flex in their budget, but I think I'd plan to provide everything if I were hosting. Then again, I'm perfectly happy to BYO when I go to any other casual get together so I don't know why a birthday is all that different I guess?
IDK I am maybe the minority but I'm just happy to be invited to hang out and have fun and celebrate! Also nobody ever asks me to go on a boat, lol.
If anyone is inviting me on a boat for the day, I'm definitely not anticipating that they will be providing anything! We had a boat growing up and guests typically covered lunch. That marine gas doesn't come cheap!
Hahaha yeah. We’ve spent weekend on a family friend’s boat, we were early 20-somethings to their 50+ - basically like their kids - so the rules didn’t really apply, but they did mention when they took their friends out, generally the friends bought the meals and/or gas.
On the food and parties thing, I am annoyed that I’m going to a potluck backyard adult milestone birthday party/picnic tomorrow. The hosts are providing cake, burgers, and soft drinks, and the invite said to bring an app and beer to share. And call it an age thing or ML influence, but that style party worked well when we were all broke 20-somethings and lived within 10 minutes of each other. Compounded by the fact I have a bazillion things to do between now and Sunday, so I don’t have time to make anything. Sure, I can pick up something, but if I’m going to potluck, I want to make something nice. Obviously, I could just not go, but two of my oldest friend. And I won’t say a word, just bitching here. And I feel like a brat in my annoyance.
OTOH, maybe I’m just as bad, as I’m planning a party that runs 4-7pm (so dinner time) and my food options will likely be more luncheon level, but enough to count for a meal.
As long as it's a meal you will be fine. I always, always provide food and very rarely if ever ask people to bring something. I think it's two things for me, one - I can't have gluten, so by providing all of the food myself, I know that there will be plenty for me to eat, and two - I am just too much of a control freak LOL
Hmmmm. See, if I have a party I provide a large amount of food as well. I enjoy it, actually. However, if I was invited to a party on a boat and it said to bring your own food/lunch, I wouldn't think it's that big of a deal? Idk.
Ditto. It's not like people are being invited to come sit in their backyard but bring your own sandwich. The invitation is the cool, expensive activity. Bring your own sandwich!
And also because I am my mother's daughter, I would have enough snacks to feed an army and count as a meal.
July 18th will be the 3yr anniversary of my brother's passing. I opened up my amazon picture roll and it gives me picture memories every day of "this day of the prior years."
3 years ago today is the last time I hugged my brother. No wonder I saw a dragonfly this AM. It was his way of saying hi.
🤗 🤗 When I see a butterfly around me, I know it's my Grammy saying the same. She always comes around at the just-right moment.
July 18th will be the 3yr anniversary of my brother's passing. I opened up my amazon picture roll and it gives me picture memories every day of "this day of the prior years."
3 years ago today is the last time I hugged my brother. No wonder I saw a dragonfly this AM. It was his way of saying hi.
🤗 🤗 When I see a butterfly around me, I know it's my Grammy saying the same. She always comes around at the just-right moment.
A dear friend just lost her mother and I told her that you can't look for signs from your loved ones because you will never see them at those times when you want to. They appear when you need them.