I guess if no one got sick it all worked out, but I would have told.
I’m surprised no one got sick. Are you sure the timeline is correct since you heard about it third hand? Maybe the person they told misunderstood something?
Personally I would be glad they didn’t tell me. It would save me the week of worry/wondering if we caught it.
I could kind of see this, but what if someone from OP's family did get sick shortly after? We are currently out of at-home Covid tests, and my first reaction is not to go out and test ASAP whenever we get cold symptoms anymore, but I def. would have wanted to test if I knew I had been around someone who tested positive recently, so as not to keep passing it on to people who might be more vulnerable than us.
I guess if no one got sick it all worked out, but I would have told.
I’m surprised no one got sick. Are you sure the timeline is correct since you heard about it third hand? Maybe the person they told misunderstood something?
I'm sure of the timeline. I know because of several reasons. They also cancelled another thing we had planned (minor) two days later because they were too busy, but now I know that wasn't the case.
I guess if no one got sick it all worked out, but I would have told.
I’m surprised no one got sick. Are you sure the timeline is correct since you heard about it third hand? Maybe the person they told misunderstood something?
I'm sure of the timeline. I know because of several reasons. They also cancelled another thing we had planned (minor) two days later because they were too busy, but now I know that wasn't the case.
This is even worse because they should have told you when they canceled but instead lied and said they were busy.
I work in healthcare and need to report direct exposures like this to work, so yeah, I would be upset. I think it is common courtesy be it a cold, flu, covid or a stomach bug to share that info with those you exposed.
I guess if no one got sick it all worked out, but I would have told.
I’m surprised no one got sick. Are you sure the timeline is correct since you heard about it third hand? Maybe the person they told misunderstood something?
I'm sure of the timeline. I know because of several reasons. They also cancelled another thing we had planned (minor) two days later because they were too busy, but now I know that wasn't the case.
Ok THIS would piss me off. So they lied? I think that's another level beyond "oh we didn't think to let you know".
I'd give the benefit of the doubt that he didn't feel sick when he decided to come over - everyone gets COVID differently so maybe he didn't feel sick until he got home or even started to feel crappy while he was there. I think this current strain seems to come on pretty rapidly like that.
I work in healthcare and need to report direct exposures like this to work, so yeah, I would be upset. I think it is common courtesy be it a cold, flu, covid or a stomach bug to share that info with those you exposed.
Really, still? H and I don’t, at this point, there is zero policy about it. I can’t imagine having to report an exposure! Honestly, I don’t remember that ever being a thing.
Mine doesn't require exposure reporting (we'd have to close!) but we do still require 10 days out of the building with a positive test, which I think is wild, especially since we only offer 5 sick days per year. You can WFH but that's pretty limiting for some positions. We do work with a high risk population so I'm sure that's why, but it still seems very conservative.
Also, this dude 100% didn’t feel well when he got there if he tested right when he got home. That dumbass knew it was a possibility and waited to test because he wanted to party. 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻
This is the part that would upset me most. If he tested positive that night, he felt like crap and didn't care about infecting others.
I'd be pissed. But I also recognize that I have a pretty narrow zone on this, which may not align with others', and I get annoyed in both directions -- over- and under-sharing this kind of info.
On the other end of the spectrum, we were recently away on vacation. On day 6 of our vacation, a neighbor texted to tell me she was so sorry to give us bad news, but her DD (who is friends with mine) has head lice. I'm genuinely sorry for them that they are dealing with that, but my DD cannot possibly have seen her DD in at least a week, because we'd been away for 6 days, and I know for sure that the day before we left, my DD was with us all day, attending DS's pre-k grad and packing, so we're easily 7+ days clear from the discovery of lice. With odds of sharing so low, I really wish she hadn't introduced that thought into my mind.
I would be angry. I think people are far too flippant about COVID. If you have been around me and you test positive and you don’t share? You’re an asshole. You’re also an asshole if you test positive and you go about your life like it’s just a cold. It is not just a cold. (I understand if you have to go to work, but wear a mask, at least.)
This is what I was getting at with my post. I'll never be flippant. My healthy 47 year old cousin has long covid and can still barely function after 3 years.
ETA:
People don't die from the common cold. Obviously RSV and the like are in a different category. The colds we all get multiple times a year are not the same as covid.
I took my kid to science club and wasn't feeling awesome, so I put on a mask (it was at someone's home). I felt progressively worse throughout the day and tested positive that evening. It sucked, but I immediately contacted the two families that were there and let them know.
Another anecdote: I just had surgery two days ago and they barely asked about covid, which surprised me.
It was shitty of them to come over while they weren’t feeling well (I don’t really believe that they went from feeling fine to testing positive in the course of an evening) and to not tell you later. I’d be extra pissed because I see my mom nearly every day and she’s high risk due to age and health issues. So I could have been potentially exposing her when I’d have stayed away for a few days if I had known.
I would be angry. I think people are far too flippant about COVID. If you have been around me and you test positive and you don’t share? You’re an asshole. You’re also an asshole if you test positive and you go about your life like it’s just a cold. It is not just a cold. (I understand if you have to go to work, but wear a mask, at least.)
This is what I was getting at with my post. I'll never be flippant. My healthy 47 year old cousin has long covid and can still barely function after 3 years.
People don't die from colds either.
Just want to clarify that people do die from the viruses that cause colds like RSV.
So in general it is a good idea for people to be cautious re: infectious illnesses, especially around the young and old and people with immune system problems. And in general to be a courteous human being about illness!
Hearing the things come out of people’s mouths re: Covid was def a reminder about the lack of knowledge people have about illness and health! From both extremes- that Covid is no big deal to Covid is the worse thing ever and the only infectious illness that will kill you. It’s been a wild ride!
I would give a heads-up if we came down with COVID, a stomach bug, flu - basically anything more than a cold.
Our friend group is very illness-adverse for lack of a better term, we all have kids and no one wants to deal with a house full of sick people. If someone has the sniffles they loudly exclaim that it's just allergies because otherwise you are an a-hole.
This is what I was getting at with my post. I'll never be flippant. My healthy 47 year old cousin has long covid and can still barely function after 3 years.
People don't die from colds either.
Just want to clarify that people do die from the viruses that cause colds like RSV.
So in general it is a good idea for people to be cautious re: infectious illnesses, especially around the young and old and people with immune system problems. And in general to be a courteous human being about illness!
Hearing the things come out of people’s mouths re: Covid was def a reminder about the lack of knowledge people have about illness and health! From both extremes- that Covid is no big deal to Covid is the worse thing ever and the only infectious illness that will kill you. It’s been a wild ride!
Yes, you're right about RSV et al; I forgot about that. I should clarify the cold people get a few times a year which seems to be what people are equating covid to. The stuffy nose, headache etc people complain about on the regular.
I used to be an extreme covid is the worst thing but I could barely function so I went to therapy and got on lexapro and I'm much less extreme. Thankfully.
I work in healthcare and need to report direct exposures like this to work, so yeah, I would be upset. I think it is common courtesy be it a cold, flu, covid or a stomach bug to share that info with those you exposed.
Really, still? H and I don’t, at this point, there is zero policy about it. I can’t imagine having to report an exposure! Honestly, I don’t remember that ever being a thing.
I should have been more clear; it is not policy to report an exposure. It is an unspoken rule for our department to be up front about exposures so our team is aware. We craft the policies and want to be as up front with our teammates as possible and lead by example.
I guess if no one got sick it all worked out, but I would have told.
I’m surprised no one got sick. Are you sure the timeline is correct since you heard about it third hand? Maybe the person they told misunderstood something?
I'm sure of the timeline. I know because of several reasons. They also cancelled another thing we had planned (minor) two days later because they were too busy, but now I know that wasn't the case.
Okay, this part is 100% unacceptable, and I'd probably be either reconsidering the friendship or needing to have a serious conversation with them about why they decided to lie to you instead of just saying, "Hey, H came down with Covid so we can't come." They clearly knew they were wrong not to tell you if they made up a story like this, and to me that goes to their character far more than not reporting the initial infection/your exposure.
chickadee77, also anecdotal, but I was very surprised that at no point during my pre-op or on surgery day did they run a Covid test.
It was shitty of them to come over while they weren’t feeling well (I don’t really believe that they went from feeling fine to testing positive in the course of an evening) and to not tell you later. I’d be extra pissed because I see my mom nearly every day and she’s high risk due to age and health issues. So I could have been potentially exposing her when I’d have stayed away for a few days if I had known.
It happens. 2 of the 3 times I've had covid, I went from feeling fine to having a minor headache to having intense body aches in 5 hours.
I would be pissed. MH and I would have to set up a backup caregiver for MIL if we have a likely exposure, and test every day, to make sure we are not able to give it to her.
It was shitty of them to come over while they weren’t feeling well (I don’t really believe that they went from feeling fine to testing positive in the course of an evening) and to not tell you later. I’d be extra pissed because I see my mom nearly every day and she’s high risk due to age and health issues. So I could have been potentially exposing her when I’d have stayed away for a few days if I had known.
It happens. 2 of the 3 times I've had covid, I went from feeling fine to having a minor headache to having intense body aches in 5 hours.
Oh ok, good to know! I’d probably still suspect this dude though, since we know he withheld information at least once.