How would you feel? - Covid related

[missva]

So we had friends over a week ago. We were inside, sharing appetizers, etc. I just found out our 1 friend felt bad when he got hom the night of our gathering and tested positive that night for COVID. They did not tell us, and I found out through another friend yesterday. None of us got sick, and DH thinks I'm over reacting, but isn't it still; common courtesy to tell someone who was close to you about this? I would still tell someone if we any contagious illness, but maybe I'm too conservative. Thoughts? 

[VillainV]

Yes, I would be annoyed. It’s common courtesy to let someone you had close contact with that you became ill or tested positive for an illness, especially with COVID, but with any contagious disease.

[starburst604]

Yes I think it’s common courtesy to let people you’ve been around know. I also would let people we’ve spent time with know if someone in our family came down with flu, stomach bug etc.

[erbear]

I'd be annoyed

[cjcouple]

I mean, I'd be annoyed that someone didn't tell they weren't feeling well but to be completely honest, I'm not worried about covid any more than I am worried about getting the flu or a stomach virus.

I think common courtesy is that if you feel lousy, you don't go to social events. Even a bad cold is miserable to catch.

Confession? I don't even test for covid any longer. I just stay home if I don't feel well, and I wash my hands well and follow normal sick procedures.

[mokes]

Yeah I think this is kind of wild because he was at your house and then tested positive right after. It's not like he tested days later and thought maybe he wasn't positive when he was around everyone. (Still should say, but my point being this is like the most cut and dried the situation could be.)

AND if I were him and I wasn't going to let you know, I'd keep my mouth shut to our other mutual friends, too. So he's a dumb dumb on top of it lol.

Glad you didn't get sick!

[sunshineluv]

Personally I would be glad they didn’t tell me. It would save me the week of worry/wondering if we caught it.

[slbride2003]

Jul 7, 2024 19:54:29 GMT -5 mokes said:

Yeah I think this is kind of wild because he was at your house and then tested positive right after. It's not like he tested days later and thought maybe he wasn't positive when he was around everyone. (Still should say, but my point being this is like the most cut and dried the situation could be.)

AND if I were him and I wasn't going to let you know, I'd keep my mouth shut to our other mutual friends, too. So he's a dumb dumb on top of it lol.

Glad you didn't get sick!

This 100%. I think he should have shared, but if he wasn’t going to share with you he should not have told anyone.

[SusanBAnthony]

Jul 7, 2024 19:56:24 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

Personally I would be glad they didn’t tell me. It would save me the week of worry/wondering if we caught it.

At first I thought I would be mad, and we probably should expect as a society that we communicate these things, but I think my honest answer is that I would be glad I didn't know.

[mcmel]

I’d be annoyed

[mala]

I'd be pissed. Big Kid developed a fever 12 hours after a sleepover. I immediately texted the other mom and gave Big Kid a covid test. I feel like it's common courtesy. (Big Kid did not have covid. She threw up dinner, and was fever free by morning. Kids, man)

[missva]

Jul 7, 2024 19:56:24 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

Personally I would be glad they didn’t tell me. It would save me the week of worry/wondering if we caught it.

I mean maybe, but I found out after the fact so now I know that I didn’t know. So I’m kinda pissed. I’d also want to know if someone had the flu while they were at my house. And these are close friends so it sucks.

[macmars45]

I'd be pissed. My friends and I always share if we aren't feeling well immediately after hanging out with each other. It's called common courtesy.

That tracks that people (in general) aren't even testing anymore. My red city is convinced covid is a cold so obviously they aren't testing. I'm guessing most of (the general) you who aren't testing wouldn't stay home for a headache and stuffed nose. That was my last covid. And that's why it spread like wildfire through my workplace. *hits head against wall*

[Bad Dingo]

They suck. If they had reason to test that night either because they felt sick or knew they were exposed, they never should have been around you in the first place.

[skidunks]

I would be annoyed. I would want to know!

[sandandsea]

Jul 7, 2024 19:22:42 GMT -5 missva said:

So we had friends over a week ago. We were inside, sharing appetizers, etc. I just found out our 1 friend felt bad when he got hom the night of our gathering and tested positive that night for COVID. They did not tell us, and I found out through another friend yesterday. None of us got sick, and DH thinks I'm over reacting, but isn't it still; common courtesy to tell someone who was close to you about this? I would still tell someone if we any contagious illness, but maybe I'm too conservative. Thoughts? 

I’d be annoyed they didn’t say anything but I also operate under the assumption we are constantly exposed to COVID and millions of other germs and viruses on a daily basis and that it’s just part of life now.

[mags]

Yep, I'd be pissed. Anything contagious should be passed on to someone you could have infected.

[cmeon]

I would be disappointed that they told someone and it wasn't us.

[wildrice]

I would probably be a little annoyed, but would try not to hold it against them. Maybe they just weren't thinking, especially if they felt crappy.

I had covid a few weeks ago and it occurred to me days later that I should have let the person I sat next to at a professional thing (and who I have an actual relationship with, she wasn't a random) the night before I got sick know. I felt totally normal at the time I saw her, but was sick within 24 hours. I honestly just didn't think about it though. I felt pretty shitty and wasn't thinking about much.

I also am kind of of the mind that we are all being exposed regularly at this point too.

[beerlover]

Jul 7, 2024 19:56:24 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

Personally I would be glad they didn’t tell me. It would save me the week of worry/wondering if we caught it.

Yeah, I kind of think this honestly. I probably would rather not know so that I don't overanalyze every tickle in my throat. If the situation were reversed though and I had Covid, I would tell because I feel like it's the right thing to do. which I'm sure makes little sense lol.

[beerlover]

I do think it's a little sketchy that he tested positive that night, I mean obviously he wasn't feeling well when he went to your house then, right?

Though I will say, when I had Covid I felt like it came on really suddenly, so maybe that was his situation? Like, I felt absolutely fine in the morning and then went to a Labor Day BBQ at lunch and started getting really sneezy while there, and chalked that up to allergies because there were dogs there, but then the next morning was still feeling bad so I tested.

[namasteak]

I would be more annoyed they came over not feeling well.

[mysteriouswife]

Annoyed.

DS has been sick and needed a round of antibiotics. I asked the doctor if we should cancel our plans for the 4th. She said he was fine as long as fever free. I still have warning to the host and asked if they wanted us to stay home. (She is a nurse and is not afraid to tell us to not come) we also had plans at our house yesterday. Sent a text to everyone invited. 2 families with small babies opted to not come. It’s what you do if someone in your family is sick! This is why germs spread

[mrsukyankee]

I'd be annoyed that they fell ill later on that evening and didn't say anything, regardless of whether it was Covid or not. I do the same at work, so would do it with friends.

[al dente]

Jul 7, 2024 20:45:10 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

That tracks that people (in general) aren't even testing anymore. My red city is convinced covid is a cold so obviously they aren't testing. I'm guessing most of (the general) you who aren't testing wouldn't stay home for a headache and stuffed nose. That was my last covid. And that's why it spread like wildfire through my workplace. *hits head against wall*

but also jobs don't care about positive covid tests anymore. I recently had COVID and my job said if I didn't have a fever (not even fever free for 24 hours) I should work. I had a couple sneezing fits but otherwise felt 100% fine. Idk I struggled with it lol because morally I felt like I shouldn't be going out at all knowing I had COVID, but nothing really calls for quarantining anymore if you don't have a fever (which I never did) and jobs don't accept it.

[underwaterrhymes]

I would be angry. I think people are far too flippant about COVID. If you have been around me and you test positive and you don’t share? You’re an asshole. You’re also an asshole if you test positive and you go about your life like it’s just a cold. It is not just a cold. (I understand if you have to go to work, but wear a mask, at least.)

[underwaterrhymes]

Also, this dude 100% didn’t feel well when he got there if he tested right when he got home. That dumbass knew it was a possibility and waited to test because he wanted to party. 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻

[Patsy Baloney]

Yuck. Having just gone through covid and being someone who benefitted greatly from paxlovid, I think it’s common courtesy to let someone know they’d been around you in a pretty intimate and germ-sharing situation when you may have been very contagious. Acting quickly with an antiviral can help a ton.

I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he wasn’t feeling bad when he went. Covid hit me like a truck. I was working in my garden in the morning. At lunch time I had a 105 fever. But you should be kind and let people know that hey - if you start feeling bad, it’s a high probability covid gotcha.

[sadlebred]

I would be upset.

[trytobearunner34]

It would not bother me, but if I was the one who tested positive for Covid I would have let the host know.