Tuesday Vents

[waverly]

I have some vents so I decided to start a thread.

First vent: DD threw a temper tantrum because her brother took her soccer shirt.  He did not take her soccer shirt, he opened his package of his new kit for their soccer camp this week and put that on.  Her soccer shirt was caught on something in the laundry chute.  That really set me over the edge because she was yelling and screaming, and we were the ones that had to find it for her.

Second: People are on my last nerve.  I said it in another post about a guy coming in and making coded racist comments.  Then today, I had a lady come in grab something with someone else's name on it and demand to know where her hold is.  If it has a complete other person's name on it then it means it is not for you.  Things labeled with other people's names are for the person whose name is on the label.  Did you know that?

Then I had a lady demanding that we do some work for her and then asking how long it will take.  Um, you chose to proceed in this fashion.  I can do something but it will be on my timeline because we are extremely busy so we will get to you when we get to you.  So you can wait or not wait.  

Then we had the 3 ladies talking by the desk for 20 minutes and refusing to move.  

Dear people, please go away.  Thanks- Service worker.  

[librarychica]

Due to a series of extremely dumb decisions on the part of state/district/administration DD1’s 7th grade teachers were allocated no planning period next year. All but 1 quit or transferred or retired. So 7th grade next year will be brought to you by a bunch of brand new teachers, most new to teaching as well as to the school, who won’t have a planning period.

This is a recipe for disaster. I am not happy.

[186momx]

waverly, I'm also over people and I have a few clients right now that I 100% just want to fire. I won't but I'm on edge and they are just being extra right now. I'm taking Thursday off. I told dad it was to paint DD's room but really I just need to be away from work. I want to figure out some more days because I'm burnt out and the 4-day holiday weekend just proved how burnt out I am.

DH is driving us bonkers. He was a PITA all weekend and continued last night. I was out watering plants, and he came out to stand and watch me water. I asked if he was going to be outside if he could water the front yard plants and he got all huffy/stompy about it because it was hot out. I told him fine I would ask DD to do it in the morning. Jeez if you were hot then you should have stayed inside instead of coming out to watch me.

[waverly]

186momx , I think I am extra cranky because my period is coming. DH is doing yardwork, but just leaves everything everywhere. Tools on the front porch, wheelbarrow tipped over which I did that so it doesn't collect water, grass seed machine just sitting there, pieces of the hammock that DD put together improperly and then just left. DH says to me why did you let DD do that, IDK becuase I can't cave to her every demand and help her with everything. I was doing a bunch of other things at that time.

The lady from the camp called me twice for forms. #1 this is the first I am hearing about it, why isn't there an automated email. #2. She called me twice in 30 minutes. I asked where to log in on the website and instead she insisted on reseting my password. I don't want my passwod reset because I have it saved on the computer, but they had hid the log in at the very bottom of the page. I said, oh I found it, and she still reset my password.  They switched to a new system, and I don't think they have it set up right if it doesn't alert you to fill out the paperwork.  

I really need to not talk to people today but unfortunately I had signed up for charity work tonight. It is training on the community shopping closet for DV or those in need. But I am not going to be in a better mood at 7pm.

[rere]

Oh, I have a list, and some are pretty petty.

1. I was invited to a strategic planning meeting at a nice hotel downtown. Most of the day, lots of community leaders are invited, flying in a consultant. This particular hotel has a very nice upscale seafood restaurant, a high end boutique, several very nice restaurants around. They are providing lunch, of pizza. Now I'm trying to watch my carbs, so I'm not going to have my high carb meal on inferior, chain pizza, I will do that Thursday with Dd and Dh at a local, delicious, pizza place with fresh dough and extra mozzarella. So now I will have to go to one of the restaurants and find my own lunch. And you'd think as much as I've been hyped about this meetingand how important it is, they wouldn't be feeding us like a bunch of 9th graders who won the canned food drive.

2. Dh has a cold. And of course it's 1000xs worse for him, because "it gets down in my chest". I'm pretty sure based on anatomy, your body is no different than anyone else, and a cold is the same for you. This is every time.

3. Ds is applying to school next year as part of his exit from the army, which I'm thrilled. However, knowing the army and Ds, there is a high probability that this will be screwed up somehow.

[mae0111]

I’m so incredibly grumpy.

We are on vacation and I’ve been planning/coordinating/executing on everything. I swear DH and DD2 would just sit and stare at each other all day if I didn’t push them to move and do anything. Yesterday we spent the day with DD2’s friends and families and had a blast. Then DH picked a fight and no matter how much I tried to reason with him, he just continued to be a snarky dickhead until I finally went to sleep. He was shitty ind full of criticism about how he’s not getting enough attention when all he wants to do on this vacation is sit in a chair and drink while I cater to him.

So I woke up in a garbage mood today. One group has already cancelled for the beach fire tonight. Another said they don’t want to go at the agreed upon time. DH has no idea why I could possibly be annoyed with him.

I’m ready to cancel everything tonight and DD2 burst into tears when DH suggested just that.

So once again, my comfort and wants and mental health needs will take a back seat and I will do whatever everyone else’s wants/needs.

Every year I think it’s going to be better. It never, ever is.

[librarychica]

rere I legit LOLed at 9th graders who won the canned food drive.

[rere]

mae0111 this has been why Dh and I have been taking some trips by ourselves. No kids, no other couples. Usually between the 2cof us, we are pretty much on the same page, so I get to do what I want, eat what I want.

When we go with the kids or other couples, I spend all my time either going along, or planning what I think people will like, I end up getting frustrated and feeling unappreciated. We have a trip with the kids next month, but I had my me vacation already, so I should be good.

[sdlaura]

This week my kids are doing surf and swim camps and getting them out of the house every morning with wetsuits, swimsuits, sunscreen on, boogie boards, lunches, change of clothes etc. is a daily struggle. I can barely make it to 9 am work meetings on time. Especially since we were on vacation last week and they got used to sleeping in. I’m very lucky they’re in full day camps that they enjoy, but wow are summer mornings so much tougher than school ones.

[librarychica]

My petty vent: where is my umbrella? I live in a very wet place — why are they always disappearing? Where do they go?

[mommyatty]

When we are on vacation, everyone in my family but me turns off their brains. So much so that I had to TELL THEM TO PUSH THE ELEVATOR BUTTON. No shit, going to the Admirals Club in the airport, sitting in the elevator, not moving, until I said “Can someone within reach please push the button next to the word ‘club’?”

We are now back and I’m trying not to kill anyone I work with.

[erbear]

This isn’t really a vent, just frustrating. DD2 (going into 8th grade) is a really good student. Very studious, very smart. She worked her tail off to get into the enriched math class last year (it doesn’t come easily to her and she really worked. She got a B+ for the year and was really proud of herself.

I was working on the schedule today (I work at the school) and was entering the class lists for her grade. There are now four math classes, two standard and two enriched, in 8th grade. However, the enriched classes are tracked — it’s the same class on paper but they have definitely pulled out the top 14 kids from her class last year, leaving her and 4 other kids in the second level with some kids they moved up. Some of the kids in the higher class struggled last year (I do learning support so I know the kids and their grades).

It doesn’t matter — it’s an enriched class and she’ll stay in that track in high school where it actually matters — but it’s an odd placement and k want to ask why but I’m not going to because it’s all weird.

Also I never care about stuff like this and this is a weird feeling more me, lol.

[erbear]

Jul 9, 2024 12:53:02 GMT -5 librarychica said:

Due to a series of extremely dumb decisions on the part of state/district/administration DD1’s 7th grade teachers were allocated no planning period next year. All but 1 quit or transferred or retired. So 7th grade next year will be brought to you by a bunch of brand new teachers, most new to teaching as well as to the school, who won’t have a planning period.

This is a recipe for disaster. I am not happy.

That’s crazy and definitely illegal. Why didn’t they change it?!

[sdlaura]

mommyatty, I would actually take everyone in my family forgetting to hit the elevator button, since I’m at the kid stage of 3 boys fighting to press every button and then hitting each other over it 🤣

[campermom]

My vision is getting worse and I’ve been to the dr twice in the last 6 months. It’s just one eye but it’s really affecting my life satisfaction. I’m getting PRK done next week with my kid free week. I heard it’s bad but I had to take that slot right then and there or I’d have to wait until next summer. I’m bummed that I’ll be in pain during my break but I really need Robbie able to see.

[twinmomma]

DH is in peak "woe is me" mode right now and I'm ready to kill him. We are all sick with the same covid and very mild symptoms. He is definitely not dramatically sicker than anyone else. We all have bad cold symptoms and that's it.

Add to that, he's moaning and whining that DS is missing out on a full second week with the cousins because he's at his mom's house this week. The only reason the cousins are still here is because we all have covid, they couldn't leave and travel like planned. The girls were supposed to switch houses on the same day as DS, but they tested positive before the swap so we didn't want to spread illness to another household. We did not willingly plan more family time that excludes DS but DH is acting like it's this major tragedy that DS isn't here and is just moping about it. I lose patience with his "I miss DS" moping sometimes because he agrees to schedule swaps with his ex that lead to longer stretches apart and then gets super depressed and whiny about how he hasn't seen DS is so long. Just force her to stick to the legal schedule then! Also, I don't think it's healthy that he gets so upset when DS is gone for a long stretch. It feels like after 7+ years, maybe he should have some coping skills by now. (Thankfully he's starting therapy in a few weeks, so that's a damn miracle and I think will hopefully help a lot)

[waverly]

I got 2 more cranky public emails. It must be a full moon plus Venus is in the house of Saturn or something.

I love the ones that demand answers about their job application because they have another offer. This is the second one that I saw. The first one demanded answers and then still didn’t take the other job offer.  I explained the interview process to them.  Contact, schedule, interview.  This process takes time.  Facepalm. 

[k3am]

One of the moms at skating texted me last night to ask if I was there or not. I said yes, in the bar. She asked if she could get me a drink. I had no idea where it was going, but I know another mom has been bitching about DD to anyone willing to listen, so I assumed she wanted to broach that, so I said sure, told her where I was sitting, and Venmo’d her $15. 20 mins later, she’s still not there. Then I hear her laughing and head in that direction. I get a dead stare from her, a “did you need something?”

She thought she was texting the mom who’s been bitching about DD. She apologized and I asked her to Venmo me my money back. It was weird. Even weirder, she Venmo’d me back only $14.56.

[waverly]

k3am, That is the weirdest story that I have heard in a while. She didn't realize who you were when you texted back? And why Venmo money without seeing her or the drink?

[mustardseed2007]

k3am, omg b*tch

My vents are all hurricane related. We're so lucky right now, though. We have power but of course it means we have a full house. Trying to manage work without power.

There's more with a key leader in our company leaving with only 2 weeks notice...which of course is her right to do so but we were in a funny moment where there really isn't anyone on her own team who can manage her role right now and it complicated my life and lots of other people's life. And now a hurricane. Bleh.

[mommyatty]

I’m supposed to be in Houston next week with DD so she can do a camp. But they may not have power and I don’t know if we will be able to get a hotel. So that’s so exciting. Also DD’s birthday is tomorrow and she hasn’t given us any ideas. So she’s probably getting a Visa gift card to go buy her own dang present.

[k3am]

Jul 10, 2024 10:33:39 GMT -5 waverly said:

k3am, That is the weirdest story that I have heard in a while. She didn't realize who you were when you texted back? And why Venmo money without seeing her or the drink?

I could see her ordering it at the bar when I Venmo’d her. I really thought it was going to be a soft attempt to lead into a conversation about what this other mom is saying about DD, so I figured I’d be annoyed but I also didn’t want to owe her anything if that was the case.

FWIW, I know this woman (not the drink lady) has approached DH about… something DD did, but he wasn’t able to make sense about her ranting. I asked her husband when I saw him, but he was super vague (and said his kid needs to not be so sensitive). I know she’s gone to the coaches to complain, and they all told her they have no flipping idea what she’s talking about, DD’s coach specifically told us she has no idea and that she didn’t see the things that other mom claims happened while coaches were watching… though we’re not sure what it was. I have reached out to her TWICE to try to figure out what she thinks DD did, and she just ignores the texts.

[polecat8]

I have no more patience left for my coworker.
She has been with the company for almost 4 years now and still doesn't understand the basics of the system she is testing or shown any initiative to want to learn more. I can't give her important things to do because she'll screw them up (like passing a test when it actually failed, which was acknowledged by her in the test!). I've told my boss that I am over it and coworker is not making my life easier, in fact, she is making it harder. He told me that she was dinged on her performance review for some stuff without getting specific. Boss is too nice to fire her so I think he is trying to get her to quit. I'm sick of correcting her errors and answering the same questions over and over again!

[waverly]

Jul 10, 2024 11:25:08 GMT -5 k3am said:

Jul 10, 2024 10:33:39 GMT -5 waverly said:

k3am , That is the weirdest story that I have heard in a while. She didn't realize who you were when you texted back? And why Venmo money without seeing her or the drink?

I could see her ordering it at the bar when I Venmo’d her. I really thought it was going to be a soft attempt to lead into a conversation about what this other mom is saying about DD, so I figured I’d be annoyed but I also didn’t want to owe her anything if that was the case.

FWIW, I know this woman (not the drink lady) has approached DH about… something DD did, but he wasn’t able to make sense about her ranting. I asked her husband when I saw him, but he was super vague (and said his kid needs to not be so sensitive). I know she’s gone to the coaches to complain, and they all told her they have no flipping idea what she’s talking about, DD’s coach specifically told us she has no idea and that she didn’t see the things that other mom claims happened while coaches were watching… though we’re not sure what it was. I have reached out to her TWICE to try to figure out what she thinks DD did, and she just ignores the texts.

It sounds like no one including her husband can make sense of her ranting.  She certainly has told a lot of people. 

We have this at work though, the complaint disappears when we ask them about it or ask them to pass it on to their manager when it is about a different department. They don't like passing it along to the their manager because it was a very small/ petty complaint so they realize oh hey this really isn't worth reporting and then it magically goes away and everything is fine.  Because it was fine all along.  It was a non issue that they were complaining about.  And it isn't that managers are unapproachable because they do routinely bring bigger problems to us.  

[k3am]

Jul 10, 2024 12:43:53 GMT -5 waverly said:

Jul 10, 2024 11:25:08 GMT -5 k3am said:

I could see her ordering it at the bar when I Venmo’d her. I really thought it was going to be a soft attempt to lead into a conversation about what this other mom is saying about DD, so I figured I’d be annoyed but I also didn’t want to owe her anything if that was the case.

FWIW, I know this woman (not the drink lady) has approached DH about… something DD did, but he wasn’t able to make sense about her ranting. I asked her husband when I saw him, but he was super vague (and said his kid needs to not be so sensitive). I know she’s gone to the coaches to complain, and they all told her they have no flipping idea what she’s talking about, DD’s coach specifically told us she has no idea and that she didn’t see the things that other mom claims happened while coaches were watching… though we’re not sure what it was. I have reached out to her TWICE to try to figure out what she thinks DD did, and she just ignores the texts.

It sounds like no one including her husband can make sense of her ranting.  She certainly has told a lot of people. 

We have this at work though, the complaint disappears when we ask them about it or ask them to pass it on to their manager when it is about a different department. They don't like passing it along to the their manager because it was a very small/ petty complaint so they realize oh hey this really isn't worth reporting and then it magically goes away and everything is fine.  Because it was fine all along.  It was a non issue that they were complaining about.  And it isn't that managers are unapproachable because they do routinely bring bigger problems to us.  

I have known this woman for almost 7 years.. I like to describe it as she doesn’t talk in straight lines. The only thing I got out of her husband is that the kids anxiety is so bad that she doesn’t want to skate anymore. (She has anxiety in general, but apparently DD is triggering it.. a few months ago, the anxiety was so bad she was hurting herself, couldn’t be in another persons car, etc.. mom was still talking to me and said it was school related). I’ve asked DD, but she has no idea. DD has asked the girl if there was something she said that upset her, and the other girl said yes, but it was months ago and she doesn’t want to talk about because “the past is in the past.” (It is NOT in the past if mom is saying it’s an issue from June.)

The whole situation frustrates me. I know DD is no angel. If she is doing anything to cause anyone harm, I’d like to be able to talk to her about and help her avoid doing so. But I’m not going to do any kind of sweeping intervention based on no information and vague complaints. I have tried to address it with them directly and they refuse. But in the meantime, I know she’s talking to other coaches at the minimum and likely other parents. I haven’t talked to anyone other than DD’s coach.

[dglvrk2]

k3am , Wow! Seems like this mom is provoking her daughter's anxiety as much, if not not more, than any other factors. Good for you for being vigilant. That being said, monitoring our kids is a lot like monitoring our cars. We don't just take our cars to the repair shop if we don't see or hear anything that causes a concern. Likewise, we can't do damage control if we don't know what damage our child is causing.

My petty vent: I live in a touristy town. The population practically triples in my town between the end of June and the end of August. Everyday, I see a car decked out for a birthday, bachelorette or bachelor party. Many of these have Venmo handles written on the windows so one can Venmo the celebrated person money for drinks. Just seems really tacky.