Wednesday Letters

[waverly]

Dear "friend",

You and your other friends exclude my son from the room for the school trip with a mom's group text message.  But now you want to act like you never did that and carpool to the trip meeting.

I've started therapy for other issues, and one of the things we have planned to talk about it boundaries with you.  Yes you, because it is constant manipulation, and I don't like being manipulated.  But yet because of reasons- 1. Husbands are friends, 2. Sons are besties, 3. Proximity, I have to pretend that I'm all cool with the constant manipulation or else I blow up my son and H's friendships.  

P.S. look around, none of the other mom's had a group chat.   The "normal" moms allowed their teenagers to choose their own rooms like they should because they are TEENAGERS.  They are old enough to make their own decisions and manage their own friendships.  

Update: I talked to DH and he helped me set the boundary. 

Signed,
Tired of the manipulation

[mommyatty]

Dear Family,

I’m about to have to travel four weeks in a row. So I’m really going to need you all to step up, okay?

DS- Please don’t pull your usual and completely fall apart. I’m hoping your new medicine helps with this.
DD- Please actually help. Put your own stuff away. Clean up after yourself. Do your homework.
DH- For God’s sake, you’re going to have to parent in the evenings. No, you don’t need to eat your frigging trail mix on the couch for an hour while you watch television. You need to get DS off his screens 30 min before bedtime, give him snuggle time, and make both kids go to bed on time. Eat your stupid trail mix AFTER the kids are in bed.

Signed,
Tired of pulling more than my own weight and stressed about not being here

[186momx]

Dear Ostrich Client
Wake UP! You buy a restaurant for your son and neither of you have restaurant knowledge. Don't listen to our advice and then blatantly say the rules don't apply to you. You report tips to payroll so it shows up on your W2. Waitresses don't self-report tips on their personal taxes. Stop saying I need to give your son lesson as he won't listen. Just close the place down and pay the 6k a month of rent it will be cheaper than plugging in money each month to make it float.
Accountant
FYI having more $$$ out on payroll than you have in sales is a huge red flag

Dear back to school/meet the teacher night
Please don't be crazy tonight. I just don't want to deal with utter chaos. Also, district nurse I have to see tonight can you please work with us. The admin is working with us.
Signed I can't update her allergy stuff because we don't know what is causing it.

Dear mom
I don't really want to come over for desert before dinner.
I really want to have a large glass of wine after meet the teacher and watch mindless TV.
Daughter who will be peopled out by late afternoon

[rere]

Dear self,

You've jumped on to totally gutting the kitchen. You're going to be insane until it's done. That's how it works. And you hate waiting and picking out things. So that should be great.


Ps..all people involved, get going I want it done yesterday.

Dear mom,

Quit calling me and telling me to look what you posted on Facebook. There's a whole live world outside of Facebook. The point of Facebook is for me to look at it when I feel like it. And you ask if I have seen your post,4 minutes after you posted it.

Signed. I don't care about your 15 daily post.

[dglvrk2]

Dear Neo Nazi,
I had to drive past your huge, parked truck -which may or may not be indicative of the size of your manhood - four times this evening. Each time, the Neo Nazi flag hoisted in the bed of your truck ignited a little anger in me. I also noticed your headlights were on at each drive by, over the course of nearly four hours. I'm smiling thinking of your racist bu** getting back to your truck only to find you have a dead battery. Good luck getting someone to jump start your truck with your racial inclinations waving in the evening breeze.

Signed,
This lady who has no use for racists

[mae0111]

Dear DH -

You have known about this orientation for months. I put it on the calendar at the beginning of July. And then I reminded you. And reminded you again. And again. And then you'd ask what we had planned yesterday afternoon, and I'd tell you again. And then you'd forget, so I'd tell you again.

So I'm WICKED SORRY that you didn't understand that after all of the times that I told you that the orientation was August 28th from 2-4, that you didn't understand that the orientation yesterday went from TWO TO FOUR. Leaping out of your chair at 340 and declaring that you didn't need to be there and needed to go was NOT acceptable behavior. Getting angry with me because you didn't listen or look at the calendar is NOT acceptable behavior. And BTW - DD1 was off at a different orientation elsewhere on campus, also from 2-4, also on the calendar... was your plan just to leave us both there?

I get that you're busy. Stop being ridiculous. She's your daughter and you need to do certain things for her. I didn't want to go either. I absorb like 90% of these things. So when I ask you to go, shut up, clear your calendar, and go. And don't yell at me because you can't manage your workload.

Love,
Wifey

Dear Kids -

After last night's display, I have no desire to be in a smaller beach house with you, listening to you fight over everything. So instead of enjoying your last weekend of summer riding bikes, playing mini golf, going to the beach, going shopping and getting ice cream, you'll be doing hard labor here at home. So fun right? Yeah. I'm excited too.

The Management

[twinmomma]

Dear daughters,
I appreciate that you're heading into 7th grade feeling on top of the world and extremely mature. You have grown a lot in the past year! But give all of your parents a chance to catch our breath and come to terms with it before you start asking to go "hang out at the pond with some random kids from the bus" after school. I'm not sure you're THAT grown up. Also, maybe sell it a bit better with actual names of people you'd be hanging out with? The high schoolers go drink at the pond at night. I don't think you're trying to do anything like that, but it does make me hesitate! It's hard navigating this level of parenting, give me a break!
Love,
Worried mom who doesn't want to over protect

Dear DS,
Day 1 in the new school seems like it was a little rough. The earlier start time made you overtired and I think you were completely over-stimulated when you got home, hence the total meltdown tears. When we tell you to go to bed earlier, it's for your own good! You're going to feel so much better if you go to sleep at 9 instead of 11! Why do you fight this so much?! And maybe just talk about what happened at school with us a little bit? Dad and I are here for you, but you have to speak up a bit first.
Love,
Stepmom who wants to help

[mommyatty]

Dear School,

I still think your out of uniform day rules are sexist bullshit, and I’m not going to stop saying that out loud.

Signed,
Parent of a Girl Whose Body is NOT “a Distraction”

[186momx]

Dear School
Why did you alienate DD from all of her friends for 8th grade? On the drive home DD said she is stuck with 3 furries, 5 kids who are so engrossed in anima they will only answer in anima. My kid already doesn't like going to school because she is bored and doesn't learn anything new. I told her I won't call the school and ask as I've already felt like I'm battling with the district over allergy stuff and that she has to suck it up for the 1st week before asking the counselor/admin WTF.
Mom who will be dragging her kid kicking and screaming to school for all of 8th grade

mommyatty, I'm right there with you and we don't have a uniform. DD is so paranoid about wearing shorts/tank tops to school because people will comment on her muscles and therefore, she will be distracting everyone. I keep telling her to be proud of her muscles and not to let others make her feel bad.

[sdlaura]

Dear babysitters,

Please come through with availability so that DH can go to his aunt's memorial service next week in Indiana while I fly to New York for another new business pitch.

Signed, also please don't let this new schedule snafu stress me out enough to continue the shingles

[erbear]

Aug 29, 2024 10:11:12 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

Dear School,

I still think your out of uniform day rules are sexist bullshit, and I’m not going to stop saying that out loud.

Signed,
Parent of a Girl Whose Body is NOT “a Distraction”

Hoo boy. I’m about to start fighting this fight at our school too, just as soon as they send out the dress code (we got rid of it for this purpose years ago and suddenly, it gets mentioned today…4 male administrators on the committee…hard pass, boys. I’m not enforcing this, for my kids or my students 🤷‍♀️

[mommyatty]

erbear- our headmaster told me the girls can’t wear leggings because they are “distracting.” DD was a prepubescent 5th grader. When I asked if it would be better to perhaps teach boys not to be pervs instead of policing girls, he said, “I’m not talking about students” to which I replied, “Then quit hiring pedophiles.” I caused a keruffle in the middle school parents FB chat by reiterating that if they wouldn’t hire pedophiles, my kid could wear whatever she wanted. I still stand by that.

[erbear]

Aug 29, 2024 18:09:09 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

erbear- our headmaster told me the girls can’t wear leggings because they are “distracting.” DD was a prepubescent 5th grader. When I asked if it would be better to perhaps teach boys not to be pervs instead of policing girls, he said, “I’m not talking about students” to which I replied, “Then quit hiring pedophiles.” I caused a keruffle in the middle school parents FB chat by reiterating that if they wouldn’t hire pedophiles, my kid could wear whatever she wanted. I still stand by that.

😳😳😳

What an odd response.

[mommyatty]

erbear- I think my mouth fell open. I think he was trying to duck calling his male students pervs and didn’t realize he had just indicted his staff.

[waverly]

Wow.

We as a family have rules as far as what is loungewear/ home wear and what is school wear.

But when a school does it- let’s be honest old white men targeting young girls the look it very ick.

[k3am]

Dear ragweed,

You can kindly sod off.

Signed,
Afflicted.