Thursday Randoms

[maudefindlay]

Yesterday and today DH hopped out of bed and took DS1 to his early AM CC practices. He also made lunches and took DS2 to school and encouraged me to sleep in. Great starts two days in a row.

Going to get a long walk in soon before the heat is too much. I've done treadmill the past 2 days and I miss my fresh air walks.

[ssmjlm]

Today is my Friday. School is out tomorrow, so we're heading to the beach tonight for a long weekend.

A coworker has been sick since last November and we heard that he has declined significantly in the last 2 weeks. He's tried to keep working from home off and on the whole time, but I honestly hope he can recover, retire, and focus on his health.

[lavenderblue]

I was cleaning out my jewelry box last night because I got a new one. In doing so I realized that I am missing 2 necklaces and a bracelet. These were special occasion jewelry pieces which is why I didn't notice until now. These also happen to be the only pieces of jewelry that exH ever bought me. Given that my family diamonds disappeared from the safe that only he had the combination for, I'm pretty sure that he might be responsible for all of my missing items. I don't know what to do with this information. I can't prove that he took them, but I know he did. I know for a fact that he stole items from his 1st wife including her wedding set, and the gf he had right after me said that she was missing a bracelet and the last time she saw it was the day he moved out. I'm sure I can't do anything, but I'm feeling all kinds of something right now. Ultimately I don't care that much about the stuff he bought me, but the diamonds and a charm that was on one of the missing necklaces were family heirlooms that can never be replaced.

[holly116]

Well, DH was just laid off. He's in consulting and his now prior company has been a bit of a train wreck for a bit and he's hated it there for about a year.

Last week his boss tipped him off that layoffs were coming, but she assured him that she and he were not on the block.. and then she "resigned" Monday. So this is not entirely a surprise, but it's still sort of a surprise since he has been billing a ton of profitable work and everyone cut up until today was heavy on overhead.

He's been toying with the idea of going out on his own so I guess we'll put that plan into action immediately. Gaaah.

[starburst604]

lavenderblue that is so, so shitty of him!! He's not just a dick, he's a common thief. If it was stolen more recently I'd suggest checking pawn shops in the area and they might even have him on camera, but sounds like it may have been a while.

[litskispeciality]

((( lavenderblue,))) I wish you were closer because I want to give you a big hug, and then have my H have a little "chat" with the bad person in your life. I truly hope you're safe and can finally get as much of a break as legally possible (with kids).

((( holly116,))) I hope in the end it's a blessing, but it's very scary in the moment.

wildrice I'm late, but I'm glad you had fun at Jodi Picoult. I feel like I need you (and TR, lol) to plan me fun events and/or travel if/when I finally can, because you (two) do the coolest outings and trips!

[maudefindlay]

starburst604 were you the one who mentioned watching The Accident the other day? I just watched it this week and it reminded me of The Slap, but as a soap opera with more violence.

[macmars45]

Going back to school wipes me out! I took a 20-30 minute nap last night at 5pm (and I rarely nap). I love seeing the returning students and getting to know the kinders though. It's been great!

[litskispeciality]

I went to a Neurologist yesterday to see if they can do any checks based on everything going on with my family. The doc was nice, but seemed a bit annoyed. By the end they said "you're doing the right thing", but it just felt off. We've been lucky my dad's Neuro is so much more warm and fuzzy I think I just wanted that. Anyway, the doc had me name off some current national or international news and I had to laugh because I watch so little news that I talked about the recent RNC and DNC's then said "oh and there was just a big trial for a woman (KR)"...like really, you don't know anything else going on lately? I later brought up Ukraine and Israel and Palestine, but it was getting in to territory of what side I stand on, rather than I know something's going on so I'm still in the present.

My friend is doing a diet, wellness challenge (75 something.) She posted a screen shot of the first day requirement and one of the items is to read 10 pages of a book. It motivated me to make sure I read, and I got close to my internal 30 pages a day goal I haven't been hitting most of this year. I give her a lot of credit with this challenge as you have to do 2 different 45 minute work outs (one outside, one inside or outside) and drink a gallon of water.

[starburst604]

Aug 29, 2024 8:45:19 GMT -5 maudefindlay said:

starburst604 were you the one who mentioned watching The Accident the other day? I just watched it this week and it reminded me of The Slap, but as a soap opera with more violence.

YES! I didn't watch The Slap but I'm aware of it. The comparison to a soap opera is so on point and I wanted to stop watching but I needed to see how it ended. I just couldn't with how all the adults were like MURDER!!!!! It was a negligent accident for sure, but they acted like whoever didn't put the last stake in was intent on killing the kids. 

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I saw a genetic counselor this morning and now I’m a little freaked out. I’m going to have to get some more life insurance before I get tested bc they can deny me if I get positive results. Ughhh. I’m not really ready for this yet. And my mom’s early breast cancer and my early kidney cancer could be linked. I think o want to test. I guess? Ugh man I don’t know.

[rosiebear]

Lots of hugs going out this morning. I’m sorry many of you are having a rough go of it.

[candreco]

There's supposed to be a boosters' tailgate tonight before the HS football game for all activities to recruit/promote, and I am desperately hoping it gets rained out. I really appreciate that the athletic boosters are making an effort to include non-sports activities (I'll be there helping to represent theater arts), but I don't wanna go set up a pop up tent, drag tables around, and stand outside in the gross humid heat for two hours. They've got one scheduled for next week's game too, which seems like enough....

[pixy0stix]

Aug 29, 2024 8:35:09 GMT -5 lavenderblue said:

I don't know what to do with this information. I can't prove that he took them, but I know he did.

Have you checked the local pawn shops? He most likely stole them and pawned them right away. I can't imagine a scenario where he'd keep them. You can also file a report with the police with the descriptions of the jewelry and your suspicions. That way a description will be given to the pawn shops to watch for the items should they turn up. He might never be arrested, but you might get your items back.

[wildrice]

Aug 29, 2024 8:45:14 GMT -5 litskispeciality said:

((( lavenderblue ,))) I wish you were closer because I want to give you a big hug, and then have my H have a little "chat" with the bad person in your life. I truly hope you're safe and can finally get as much of a break as legally possible (with kids).

((( holly116 ,))) I hope in the end it's a blessing, but it's very scary in the moment.

wildrice I'm late, but I'm glad you had fun at Jodi Picoult. I feel like I need you (and TR , lol) to plan me fun events and/or travel if/when I finally can, because you (two) do the coolest outings and trips!

I would be happy to! I love finding cool stuff to do and planning fun trips and activities. For real, PM me if you ever want help!

[wildrice]

lavenderblue, I'm sorry he is such a dick. I am guessing the stuff he gave you won't be stuff you really want anymore anyway - but that's a shitty way to go about getting rid of them! And the family stuff is just beyond the pale for him to take.

holly116, I'm sorry your DH got laid off. Even if it's for the best in the long run, that's a tough thing to have happen by surprise!

I am going for a follow up mammogram in a bit. I am not particularly worried about it - it doesn't sound like they are either, it's more of a precaution - and I just saw my gyno last week and he didn't feel anything either. But I'm salty that I have to pay almost $300 for more pictures of the same test I had just a few weeks ago. I wish they would have just taken more then! The only real concerning thing about being called back is that I've had 5-6 previous mammograms with nothing concerning so whatever this is might be something new. Fingers crossed it's nothing.

I went to a book club at our local bookstore last night and the author of the book was there! She was super sweet and likeable so now I want to read more of her books. I don't think I'm a great person to be in a larger book club like this - I tend to just stay silent in discussions with 20+ people. But I guess it's interesting to hear what others think, even if I'm not contributing anything lol.

[hermione]

I am so sick of work. For no reason. Nothing is wrong. I just don't want to be here. I know my attitude will change when the weather turns a bit chillier but for now...just BAH!

[midwestmama]

Today is my Friday and I'm so glad. I am volunteering (mandatory) at the concession stand at the HS varsity football game tonight. It's the first game of the season/home opener, and it is going to be a madhouse. I have never worked the concession stand before, and I'm sure it's going to be super busy, and I will come home and go right to bed. So I'm glad I can sleep in tomorrow.

DS and his football team won their first game of the season/home opener last night, so that was exciting. They played a good team, and won by one touchdown and extra point. DS was pretty excited that he was put in all the offensive plays, and almost got a touchdown.

lavenderblue, so sorry to hear that your family heirloom jewelry/diamonds were stolen by your exH. I have no idea if this is something you could even pursue, but I wonder if you could file a police report to report them stolen. Maybe you could check with your attorney on that.

holly116, sorry to hear about your DH's layoff. I imagine that it hurts a bit more since his boss assured him he was fine. Hoping he finds a better job/work situation soon.

[ellipses84]

I’ve had such a busy week! We had visiting family for several days, I dropped them off at the airport and had to head to the office for a client meeting on Tuesday. I’m still mostly unemployed and looking for a new job but I’m doing some part-time consulting work in the meantime. Yesterday I had a zoom interview I was nervous about so I tried to clear my schedule a little but it ended up being a busy day and after the interview I was triple booked with “mandatory” school and kid sports meetings. Since I’m not working as much I volunteered to be a team parent and I’m already regretting it because the league is a hot mess. The interview went ok, IDK… the vibes seemed off at first, although I think it improved as the interview went on. I hate video interviews! I was peopled out and fell asleep when I put DS2 to bed at 8:30. More work came out of my client meeting so I have to go into the office again today, even though I rarely go there.

[lavenderblue]

Aug 29, 2024 9:04:32 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Aug 29, 2024 8:35:09 GMT -5 lavenderblue said:

I don't know what to do with this information. I can't prove that he took them, but I know he did.

Have you checked the local pawn shops? He most likely stole them and pawned them right away. I can't imagine a scenario where he'd keep them. You can also file a report with the police with the descriptions of the jewelry and your suspicions. That way a description will be given to the pawn shops to watch for the items should they turn up. He might never be arrested, but you might get your items back.

Selling the stuff isn't his MO. He keeps it like trophies. When I met with his ex-GF for lunch this past weekend she returned to me a coffee creamer from my China set that he had apparently stolen and just slipped in with her stuff. 

I think I'm going to email my lawyer and see what he says. I should add that my family is really pissed about the diamonds, because they weren't "mine". I was holding them, but I have a sister and nieces and they were going to be divided out which obviously won't happen now. 

[holly116]

wildrice, midwestmama, thank you <3

It'll be fine, I find change exhilarating. We're already brainstorming names for his LLC and it's our anniversary so we're keeping our dinner plans. This is an opportunity.

[wildrice]

Aug 29, 2024 9:25:07 GMT -5 hermione said:

I am so sick of work. For no reason. Nothing is wrong. I just don't want to be here. I know my attitude will change when the weather turns a bit chillier but for now...just BAH!

Liking in commiseration. I feel like this a lot these days!

[fangoriagurkel]

I woke up craving watermelon gazpacho and hot wings. No chance I’m pregnant, as I’m on my ladies’ days, but now nothing in my house sounds delicious.

[mrsukyankee]

I'll join holly116, as a person whose husband has been made redundant. He's been hating his job and expecting that this would come at some point, though it was VERY unexpected to happen today. He's been working there for 10 years, so he does get a payout, but the timing is awful for a 50+ year old in technology. He's already freaking out about money and this won't help. (note, we have no reason to freak out about money as we have a solid savings in place and we'll have plenty from his payout) He's already asked to cancel our dog walker/daycare, so I've done that (after their 2 week notice period). I honestly make enough to pay for our bills, so it just means we won't be saving money and we won't go out as much.

[emilyinchile]

It sounds like a rough day for so many! I'm sorry to everyone dealing with job stresses and health worries and just LIFE - hope you all find positive resolution soon.

[calamity]

My DS15 ended up quitting football after the first week. We are out $175 but honestly I don't care one bit. I am so relieved that he is not playing this year. He really needs to focus on his grades after a rough freshman year - and he recently lost his friend to suicide.

He's learning to play guitar and says he can pick up some lifeguarding hours in town.

I wish I could just hug him tight forever and protect his heart (I know I can't). Trying my best to help him cope with the loss.

[jane6672]

@@@ Total AW

I wanted to do maternity photos, but after hunting for photographers in budget, the ones I contacted were being super flaky or totally non-responsive. 

I was thiiisclose to giving up, but H mentioned he knows somebody that's a photographer, and we booked a shoot, and it was so good. The photographer was really great and made it fun and comfortable, and the photos are so amazing. I'm really, really happy.

[maudefindlay]

jane6672 you are gorgeous!

[sofamonkey]

My program director is leaving. Also, our campus director is leaving. We found out yesterday that we’ll get interims for both, and I like both of them! It’s bittersweet for both, but it’s time. I’m looking forward to change. I did ask my boss to chat about a few clinic things, and some personal career path things. Specifically, I’d either like a title promotion, or to drop my duties to just what I’m doing. If that doesn’t go very far, I’ll chat with the interim. Either way, I’m tired of doing way more work because one person isn’t pulling their weight (our clinical director).

Also, I need a mammogram. I keep getting email reminders. I’ve called, and it reiterates the emails note to request an appointment from the online portion. Except, I’ve request an appointment like 4 times, maybe more. No call. I’m so frustrated!! I need to go in every year because of history and dense breast tissue. I’m really just ready for a preventative mastectomy, but I can’t talk to anyone about that until after my mammogram. :/

[jane6672]

In less fun news, it took 18 months for H to find a new job, and 2 weeks ago they ended the contract early.

Sooooo right there with you all :/

PDQ