Wedding update long rambling

[litskispeciality]

Thank you for the insight Patsy Baloney,, I wasn't aware. I've edited my post and removed the tag.

[momof2]

Sept 4, 2024 10:12:30 GMT -5 Patsy Baloney said:

litskispeciality I believe momof2 has a child with profound disabilities. I think she shared a different take than many, and maybe worded more straightforward/directly than some would like, but it’s not because she doesn’t understand the caretaker’s role.

This is true. I wasn’t trying to be callous or blame MIL. I have dealt for many years with accommodating a disabled child in a world not built for her. The reality is that a niece and nephew in a first marriage that are relatively young likely have little experience with thinking about old people. MIL is likely newer to this world than I am so I apologize for seeming callous. I spend a ton of time thinking about and asking lots of questions to figure out how a venue might work (or not) for my kid.

I deserve the flames. I should have been more thoughtful in saying what I really meant.

[lillaguma]

Sept 3, 2024 7:47:21 GMT -5 tiki said:

That would hard for me to forgive, but it definitely happens. The photographer at my sister's wedding was so wrapped up in getting artistic shots of the wedding party that they took no photos of *her immediate family* at all. There is no photo evidence that me, my husband, or my brother were even there. I can't remember whether there are any pro photos of my sister with our parents. I can't be mad at my sister because asking a bride to keep track of what photos have been taken is unrealistic. So I'm just mad at some random unknown photographer forever.

This is me with a random videographer from my brother's wedding. I think he actually was a friend of someone in SIL's family, but their entire wedding video is just her family. None of any of the groom's side- not my parents, none of me or my siblings, none of my 3-year-old daughter dancing with him for ages at the reception, which was darling and attracted a crowd to watch them. It's like we just didn't exist. I never said anything much about it though because it's not my wedding and what was done was done, but still can't believe he just ignored everyone else there.

[googled]

Awful. I’m so sorry. I hope someone gives her the apology she deserves.