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[rere]

How was the holiday?

[rere]

It was a glorious weekend. Saturday we went shopping for appliances. I actually found what I wanted within the budget in my head. We went to dinner and then brought a TV out on the porch and watched football.

Saturday a neighbor had a shooting tournament. Several of us just sat under a tree and enjoyed the beautiful day.

Yesterday my friends had one last girls day at the pool. Such a nice time hanging out. Dh grilled later.

The only annoying thing is we need rain badly. And it rained all around but about 4 drops here. My water bill is going to be outrageous because I'm watering the landscaping daily.

[mommyatty]

It was a nice weekend. I was a little under the weather, which forced me to take it easy, which is exactly what I needed. Yesterday I got a ton done. This Friday is “Feel Good Friday” at DS’s school. So I made each of his three teachers a mug rug (bigger than a coaster, smaller than a placemat, to put your drinks on) and got them a $20 Amazon gift card. I made a little bag for a co-worker’s daughter and filled it with books and crayons. The co-worker is having a baby later this month (well, his wife is), and I made a baby quilt for our group to give him. I hate leaving the older kids out of the excitement, so I made her a busy bag to take with her when they go out.

It was nice to create things this weekend. I need to do more of that.

[twinmomma]

The weekend started out a bit rough, but ended up good overall.

On Friday DH went out with friends. He was adamant that he wouldn't be home too late and didn't want to drink too much and feel like crap the next day. That morphed into him not coming home and calling me at 6 AM on Saturday to apologize for his behavior and let me know that he was on his way home. He had crashed at friend's house after drinking too many IPAs. I was very much NOT pleased when he rolled in the door and proceeded to sleep all day. On top of that, while DH was out drinking, I was sitting at a birthday party with exH and the girls. I had gone to keep the mom company because it was a drop off party and we are good friends. And ExH decided to also stay and just chat with us the whole time. Ugh.

We headed up to stay at the lake with my family later in the afternoon on Saturday and spent the rest of the long weekend sitting at the lake relaxing. I got in a ton of baby snuggle time with my cousin's three month old and it was great!

Yesterday when we got home I did a deep clean of my car to give it a reset after sandy, messy summer and kid crap that had accumulated all over the back seats. It feels so nice in there now! And then on a whim, DH and I went to go see the Wolverine and Deadpool movie in theaters. I loved it! I'm a huge Marvel fan, so even though DH isn't a big movie theater guy, I think he offered to go with me to continue to make up for his mistake on Friday night.

[supertrooper1]

Friday night, DS and I went to visit my dad in the hospital while Beau and his grandson stayed home and gamed. Saturday, we took Beau's grandson back to school shopping and then we stopped by to see my dad again at the hospital. His heart rate had finally flipped back to sinus rhythm from afib, so he was released on Sunday after 5 nights in the hospital. We had a free night at a local casino hotel, so we took DS and Beau's grandson swimming and got room service on Sunday. We didn't stay the night but the boys had a blast and swam for almost 5 hours while I enjoyed the sauna and hot tub.

Monday we were woken up to a text from Beau's son that he didn't have water again. They have a lot of issues with the well at Beau's house. It's a shared well with the neighbors and it is overused. The pump had gone out, so Beau's son picked up the parts and we left earlier than we had planned so Beau could help him fix it. We were supposed to help my parents put in hay, but a rain shower that wasn't in the forecast ended up hitting their hay so it wasn't ready. We ended up just having dinner with my parents but will have to go out to their house again this week to help them put up the hay.

[mae0111]

Weekend was OK. DD1 and DH went to the beach house, and DD2 and I stayed home. I could not take them fighting all weekend in a small space. It was unpleasant for both of them - no friends Fri-Sun, both did a lot of chores. My anxiety is through the roof for some reason - my stomach is a mess, I'm not eating much, I'm not sleeping. Maybe back to school stuff?

DH and DD1 came home on Sunday late afternoon, and I was looking forward to spending some time with Dh on Monday. He worked all day. Again. I even stopped what I was doing to help him with a few things and I thought we finished everything. I left to bring DD2 to a friends house like 5 mins away while he grabbed lunch... came home and he went right back to working. So I texted my mom and DD1 and I went to visit my parents. When I let DH know, he was like, "Oh... I mean... did you want to do something?" Well... yes... but you said you had to go back to work so I made other plans. "I'll stop working!" Um... too late?

Today we met with DD1's 9th grade advisor to just kind of learn a bit about what to expect this year. DD1 has been digging in her heels about this school year. She doesn't want to participate in anything. I've tried lots of different approaches, but finally said that if she chooses not to participate in all that this school has to offer, I'm going to choose to withdraw her at the end of the year and she can shift to a less expensive school with limited options. It was very matter-of-fact - we are paying to give you opportunities, if you don't want said opportunities, we shall stop paying for them. She ran into her field hockey coach from last year that really encouraged her to try out this year... so I'm hoping that will change her mind... It was the tail end of a number of frustrating conversations, mostly around how she deserves to be paid minimum wage for household chores... I am not giving you $15/hr to pick up your shoes, dear...

School starts tomorrow and I think everyone is ready. Sort of. I mean, no one wants summer to end, but everyone needs a schedule - especially me. The whole fall will be super busy, but it's ok - I'm ready for it!

[waverly]

I worked Saturday. We have season tickets, so we went to the professional soccer game. Sunday we had people over for pizzas in the pizza oven, and Monday, DD wanted jean shorts so we went to the outdoor mall. I spent too much money on the dumb shorts, but she is happy, and we got to leave the mall and get ready for the week, so whatever lol. I just wasn't expecting them to be $60.  

[librarychica]

Everyone in my family is sick. DD2 and H were very sick over the weekend so we did a lot of nothing. I did some crocheting, some cleaning, some meal prep. We all did a lot of laying around.

Of course I hope we are done with germs but it was kind of nice to have an excuse to cancel all plans and lay around.

I am so scrambled today. Seriously I planned an extra dinner this week bc I thought yesterday was Sunday.

[sdlaura]

I think my shingles is officially gone, even the lingering fatigue - yay!

We had a pretty nice weekend - had friends over almost everyday to go in the pool and hang out. DD had some softball practices, DH and DS1 went to the driving range Sunday morning.

We have a bit of a rough week this week. DH left yesterday morning to head to his Aunt's 2-day funeral services in Indiana. He made a stopover on the way in MD to pick up his dad, who isn't up to traveling alone. He comes back Thursday night. I also have a work trip to NYC tomorrow to do an important presentation Thursday morning. So we have an overnight babysitter tomorrow night, and then another babysitter Thursday evening until we both hopefully get back that night. I need to organize a lot of the logistics for when I'm gone. DD has flag football tryouts today and Thursday and DS1 has his first night of a baseball "academy" Wednesday night - and he is not thrilled about the idea of a babysitter taking him instead of me or DH.

[waverly]

Random question for you. If you have kids, and go to someone's house, do you bring something to entertain your kid?

I know some people mentioned not bringing stuff if the other person had kids.

But I have teens/ tweens, so I had to dig out some old trucks for someone's toddler, so it isn't like they were kids of the same age. This happened twice where they came over with no entertainment, hence why the second time I dug out some toys.

They were covered on all the other supplies, so I was just confused why they didn't shove a toy in their bag.   I guess I will keep stuff around and not get rid of it in case they come over again.  I have a couple of shelves of stuff, so I may organize them a bit better (sports equpment, board games, toddler stuff).  

[polecat8]

We had nothing really scheduled for the holiday weekend, but we ended up doing a lot.
On Friday, DS1 had a friend over for a sleep over. We went out for ice cream to celebrate the first week of school. Then the boys entertained themselves until I made them go in DS1's bedroom at 11pm. They say they went to bed at midnight.
On Saturday, I took DS2 to soccer appreciation day. There was a bounce house, food, and soccer skills challenges. Then we went to DS2's friend's birthday party, while DS1 then went to his friend's house to swim. We met my mom for dinner and then headed home.
Sunday was a lazy day. We had to go to Target for a few missing school items.
Yesterday my brothers and I met at my mom's house for dinner and to make some plans for our upcoming Italy trip in November.

[mae0111]

waverly, I always tried to bring things if the host didn't have kids or the kids were a different age.

I actually kept a lot of my kids' things for when my nieces visit (they're almost 4 and 2). Our massive collection of Thomas the Train things came in really handy when the 2 year old pitched an absolute fit leaving my house over the summer. One in each hand for the ride home got her quietly into the car.

I also grab those crayon/sticker/coloring book kids that are at the dollar spot at Target. I keep some at my house and some in my bag, especially if I know we're meeting a family with younger kids. They're easy and the kids seem to love them... I remember feeling like nothing was better than new crayons and a coloring book when I was a kid. Any small things that you keep will be SO AMAZING to a visitor because they will be brand new!

[waverly]

mae0111, ooh good idea! I thought my remote control cars would be fun or laser tag, but I think they are both out of batteries.

[186momx]

1st day of school and beginning of the month over here and I'm buried and frazzled.
One of my payroll clients fired me this morning because it is too hard to pay their payroll taxes and they want a company that does it all. I'm fine with that as they 100% expected me to be available 24/7. Just got off the phone with my ostrich client and he is no longer being an ostrich and has kicked son out of the manager role!

Weekend was busy with meal prepping for school. We also did the BBQ/concession for the concert yesterday as a gym fundraiser and it was kind of a bust due to weather. High temp was 68 and overcast and people just didn't come out for the concert this one is always smaller and we always buy less food but it was just a big bust. We all bought a lot of half priced chicken, pork, and noodles to cover the cost of the leftover food. I probably have 15lbs of cooked teriyaki chicken.

[186momx]

waverly, I have a couple IKEA cube boxes full of old toys that are good for the younger age set. We only know a few families that have little kids but most of the time they are traveling and just have a few toys with them, and they are boring as they have had them for the long drive. Have something "new" makes it a lot easier for us moms to visit.

[waverly]

186momx, good point that even if they brought a car toy then that might be considered boring once they are at my house.

[mommyatty]

I’m annoyed. So putting it here so I can stop being annoyed (I hope). Tonight as I was falling asleep (I’m on a business trip), I get 4 texts in quick succession. So I woke myself up. It’s another mom who I adore but who is a total flake. She never knows if it’s an out of uniform day or what time the science fair is or whatever. She’s just sort of clueless. And she kind of acts sometimes like I’m her executive functioning assistant. Tonight it was “can you send me the field hockey email because I didn’t get it.” So I sent it and let her know. (And thinking about it, I don’t know how she knew there was an email if she didn’t get it.) Before school started, I asked if she wanted me to send DD’s extra shin guards and stick for her daughter. As of the day before school started, her daughter had not decided what sport she was playing. Ok, fine. Whatever. But the last text she sent me was that she hasn’t gotten her daughter anything for field hockey. No cleats. No shin guards. No mouth guard. You guys. Their first game is TOMORROW. I think she expected me to say I would swoop in and save her, but another mom asked me if they could borrow DD’s extra shin guards, so I told her yes since we hadn’t heard back from this mom. And I’m like 2000 miles away.

[waverly]

mommyatty, can you at least set a boundary of hey I can't get texts after 9pm because I go to sleep early.

I don't know what to do about spacey people because I get a few dumb questions and then when I reach out to them for something they don't know anything, so it's like OK, lets just all take a minute and figure it out because reaching out to you for reciprocity clearly isn't working either.

[k3am]

mommyatty schedule your phone for do not disturb for everyone other than close family and friends you would WANT to be disturbed by. I surely don’t want to be bothered by a random person. My FRIENDS aren’t even on my allowed list.

[mae0111]

Sept 4, 2024 9:29:50 GMT -5 k3am said:

mommyatty schedule your phone for do not disturb for everyone other than close family and friends you would WANT to be disturbed by. I surely don’t want to be bothered by a random person. My FRIENDS aren’t even on my allowed list.

THIS!! I have DDs on my list.  Not even DH because he texts me at random times about nothing, just when he's thinking about it.  I do the same to him, but not to anyone else!

And mommyatty - I am that person for 3 other moms that DD2 hangs out /plays soccer with.  They never know where the games are, or practices, or which color jersey, what time to leave for the games.  One mom drove DD2 to practice one day, and took them to the wrong field.  DD2 was like, "Um... we don't practice here anymore..." We had a tournament and the team manager only put 3 games on the schedule, because the 4th was determined by the first 3 game results.  But there was definitely a 4th.  NO ONE knew that there was a 4th game but me, the coaches, and the manager... because I RESEARCHED it and found out.  So people were thinking they were heading home after a 1pm game, only to find out that there was a 430 game...

They all call me the "Team Mom" and thank me profusely... but OMG figure it out!

[sdlaura]

I think I would never sleep if I didn’t have my phone on silent/no notifications ever My company is based on the east coast and I live in the west coast, so it would be almost everyday that someone called me early enough to wake me up. The only time I ever allow calls or notifications at night is if one of my kids is at a sleepover.

[twinmomma]

Do not disturb works great for me, but I had to remove MIL. She was one of my few people allowed through in case of emergencies. But she has a bad habit of waking up at 4 AM to catch up on life admin, which includes texting us all of her thoughts and to-dos. At 4 AM. No way lady!