Update: New dog question (anxiety)

[scm1011]

And now groomed! He smells much better and now we can see his little face!

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[cjcouple]

Give it time. Same thing happened to me only I was crying nonstop over it and almost returned my dog!

I'm so glad I just wanted it out. He is an amazing pup.

[isabel]

I felt this exact same way and felt so fucked because I just knew we had made a horrible mistake and now I was going to have to live with it for the next decade and a half.

It passes. I could not be more obsessed with our puppy now. She brings only joy, no anxiety.

[scm1011]

cjcouple, isabel, thank you. I definitely cried yesterday and felt the same way. He's such a good boy too so it makes me feel extra guilty.

[TR]

omg he’s so cute! I love the shih-tzu underbite.

[isabel]

Literally right now. Woke up early to play with her in the yard because she was adores our quiet solo morning play sessions.

This dog is my everything. I hope she lives forever.

Give it a few weeks. And work on training. It’s wonderful for bonding. ❤️

[catpants]

You should google the dog adoption rule of 3- at 3 days, everyone is anxious and overwhelmed- many people have adopter’s remorse here. At 3 weeks, your dog’s real personality starts to show as they get comfortable and open up. At 3 months, everyone has settled into a routine and things are much easier.
We adopted a dog last Saturday and I totally get the anxiety!

[googled]

I’ve had five dogs in adulthood and have felt this way with literally every single one of them. It does go away, though. It’s definitely the newness of it. Once it becomes routine and things settle down, I guarantee you’ll feel better.

[loira]

Totally normal. I get a lot of anxiety about making sure I'm a good pet parent. I also have a "nurture limit" so it takes me awhile to adjust to taking care of one more creature (I cannot have houseplants for this reason). But soon you'll get into a routine and it won't feel so overwhelming.

[scm1011]

Sept 4, 2024 11:42:22 GMT -5 loira said:

Totally normal. I get a lot of anxiety about making sure I'm a good pet parent. I also have a "nurture limit" so it takes me awhile to adjust to taking care of one more creature (I cannot have houseplants for this reason). But soon you'll get into a routine and it won't feel so overwhelming.

I think this is part of it. The dog follows me EVERYWHERE and its all a bit much. I feel like I just got to the part of parenting where my kids are fairly independent (5 & 7) and now I have this needy creature up in my grill at all times and its spiking my anxiety. 

[brooke77]

He’s adorable! I’m sure it’s a big adjustment and will take some time to settle in.

[luckystar2]

I legitimately felt like I had PPD when we got our dog. I grew up with dogs. Always had a dog until I was living on my own. We already had 2 cats. So I am definitely a pet person! But omg I was soooo depressed after getting our dog. She was 1.5 years old so I thought I would avoid some of the puppy issues but nope she was terribly behaved and had so many issues. That didn’t help! My dd was 3 at the time so I felt like I had finally gained a little freedom with her only to feel very confined with the dog. But we found our rhythm and routine. And she was definitely not an easy dog. However she’s 13.5 years old now and I’m so incredibly attached it’s ridiculous! While she’s been a pain at times I can’t imagine life without her!

[tiki]

Sept 4, 2024 13:11:43 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

I think this is part of it. The dog follows me EVERYWHERE and its all a bit much. I feel like I just got to the part of parenting where my kids are fairly independent (5 & 7) and now I have this needy creature up in my grill at all times and its spiking my anxiety. 

I totally get this as we also ended up with a velcro dog who follows me everywhere. She's anxious and is best calmed down by me, so I sometimes do feel like I have a toddler all over again. She's cute, though, which helps! Getting to know her personality has also made it more rewarding even when I feel like I can't get any privacy. 

[lightbulbsun]

Your new doggie is so cute!

I've adopted two dogs and am on my 6th foster, and I always have a lot of anxiety when I get a new dog in my home. Usually it gets better after the first week or two, once we get into a routine. I wasn't even sure I wanted to bring out current foster in, and now I love him like all the others. You can do this!

[fluffycookie]

He is so cute! We have adopted two dogs and both times it was super stressful in the beginning, but everything worked out and I couldn't imagine not having either of them.

[cjcouple]

He's so adorable!

[scm1011]

update in OP

[isabel]

I'm so glad you're feeling more settled. I suspect you'll continue to feel better with more time. The potty training will get better. That was the main thing that had me spiraling, but we have very few issues now.