Wednesday Open Letters

[macmars45]

Dear autistic adhd DS(8),

It hurts my heart that your one friend seems to have abandoned you as he's in a different class and found different friends. I figured that would happen and I'm so sad for you. 

I hope you find a new friend.

Love you,

mom

Dear DS' 3rd grade teacher,

You are a breath of fresh air compared to his 2nd grade teacher! I can't express how happy I am to know he'll be better supported in your class this year. Thank you for everything you are currently doing and will do this year to help my DS be successful.

Grateful mom,

Macmars

[rere]

Dear people with whom I work.

My job is accreditation coordination. That means, I take all the work we do and make sure we have everything to be accredited. I realize this is not front burner for you, but I have a report due. And I need your information to complete it. And guess what. My give a damn is gone. So if you send me complete crap, that's what's getting submitted. I don’t have time to chase down information to fix your nonsense. And if you miss the deadline, it will be blank. My time is just as important as yours, so if the report comes back that we need some work, so be it. Maybe you'll do what is asked, since I gave everyone a month and sent 3 emails with tips and instructions on what was needed.

Signed, I can peace out of here soon.

[librarychica]

Dear rere,

As someone who works closely with our accreditation people, I sympathize. No one is listening? Why does no one listen? We don’t do this every year for fun people!

Sincerely,
Compliance-adjacent friend

Dear H,

I know you think I am hovering but I’ll be gone for two weeks and there is a lot going on during this time. And for some reason your phone number has fallen off of the school comms list. I want to set you up for success so you’re not calling me.

Love,
I trust you but you can’t be expected to manage everything going in blind!

[waverly]

Dear DH,
Thank you for the outdoor furniture for my early birthday present! It is beautiful.

Dear DS,
I'm not sure what you are doing, but you are acting shady, so I took away my computer. He wanted to make a power point on my computer, which he did, but he was also doing something else that he Xed out of quickly. I didn't see anything suspicious in the history, but I am suspicious.

Dear DD,

Wow you were crabby this morning. I was too tired to really challenge you, but even if tired, you still need to act appropriately. I will ask my therapist about it at my next session, but I think she would probably agree with me that you need therapy, and hopefully she will have a recommendation maybe?

Signed,
Mom

[sdlaura]

Dear librarychica,

I hope you get to go somewhere fun or at least do some fun things during two weeks away! That is a long time!

Dear friends and Babysitters,

Thanks everyone for your help over the next 36 hours. The logistics required for both DH and me to be gone for just one night are pretty crazy, and I really appreciate all the help and offers of help while I was figuring everything out (besides school/aftercare/preschool, and two babysitters, we also have two other moms helping get kids to and from soccer practices). Luckily DD can take herself to flag football tryouts tomorrow!

Dear DH,

You being out of town for a few nights (when normally you never travel without me) means I’ve realized you actually have some value around the house besides driving kids places when I tell you to i realized I don’t now how to adjust the pool equipment/pumps/filters, and never handle light fixtures that are on the fritz. It may not in any way compare to the mental load that I handle, but was a bit of a wake-up call for me that your value to our house and chores is more than I thought

[186momx]

Dear School
DD said the 1st day was an unorganized disastrous mess. District supplies the students with supplies but we have no supplies for the next 2 weeks because they ordered the wrong things. The district assigned lockers not the staff so 8th grade is mixed with the 5th graders? DD locker wasn't cleaned over the summer is damaged and has a slimy residue along with dirt in it? Her one class is called exploratory and is taught by the band teacher who told them that he can teach whatever he wants so they are just going to appreciate music for the term? Also 7th period has 3 different subjects being taught depending on the day of the week!
WTF is going on
8th grade mom who had to force her kid to go to school
PS there are 40 Fridays until summer vacation (yes DD is counting down)

Dear Jury Duty
You say if we can't make the assigned day to defer to a day that we already have scheduled vacation time. I reschedule myself from 10/21 to 12/23 as I have that time off. You deny my request because the courts will be closed during that time due to holidays and to please pick a day in early 2025. I'm just going to keep the 10/21 date as that is less crazy than January 2025
Reluctant jury who has to manipulate the whole schedule plus clients to make you work.

[twinmomma]

Dear DS,
I'm so sorry that this school year is starting off full of anxiety and upset. Just know that every single thing that mom, dad, and I are pushing you to do is for good reason and you're truly going to be ok. It's ok to be nervous, it's not ok to melt down and play the boy who cried wolf game with "illnesses" that would prevent you from doing things. Deep breaths bud, we are here to support you.
Love,
Stepmom

Dear DH,
I know that hearing about DS sitting alone at lunch is a major trigger for you and you're terrified that he's a loner with no friends. Please, please, please reach out to the guidance counselor for help! Don't just write them off, this is exactly the kind of stuff they're there for. They can help you and DS come up with a plan to make school a better experience. But I can't tell you this in person because you specifically asked me to not try to solve this problem, just listen. So I am biting my tongue and hoping for the best.
Love,
Wife

Dear DH's ex,
A fancy, expensive private school is definitely not the solution here. You're the one who has insisted on DS staying in your school district, even though DH and I have been telling you for years that it is not a good fit for DS's social-emotional wellbeing and personality. We know that our town's schools offer a much higher level of support and a much tighter knit community. But you didn't want to hear it because it's not a "rich" town like yours. Thank god you're finally seeing what we've been seeing all along. Maybe give our town a shot? I hate to say it but... Told ya so?
No Love,
The New Wife

[librarychica]

Dear Dr S,

Please quit harping on how “brilliant” DD1 is. Yes she’s bright, yes she’s a great kid but also she is lazy. I said it — I am her parent, I know her. I love her very much but she attended today’s coding club as a “favor” to me so I’d have eyes on her younger sister (less vivacious, much more interested and knowledgeable of writing code) and I’ll probably badger her in attending the next two so that H does not have to do two pickups while I am gone. I may bribe her with boba.

Anyway it’s just excessive. It’s literally every time. I cannot walk down the hall without hearing about my kid’s potential.

Sincerely,
Mean mom

And it’s not that she isn’t interested in code! It’s impossible to get her motivated to do anything, even things she says she wasn’t to do. I have poke and prod her to find out basic information about anything!

[supertrooper1]

Dear brother,

I already don't have a lot of respect for you due to your past actions. But this week was a new low. You don't visit our 81 year old dad that was in the hospital for 5 days, even though you were at the hospital twice, once to drop off your son and once to pick up your son. And then he needed help with hay and you don't show up. Beau and I drove 2 hours to help him and you're 5 minutes away.

Signed,
Disappointed sister

Dear programmers,

Thank you for creating a work around for us to fix the latest issue for our clients. But I find it crazy that you had to take time to program the work around instead of just taking the time to fixing the issue.

Signed,
Grateful but baffled employee

[dglvrk2]

@macmars45, I'm sending my best wishes to you and your DS. I'm so glad he has a caring teacher this year. Hopefully he's open to connecting with other kids and they see all the amazingness in your DS. The heartbreak we parents feel in these situations just sucks Hugs! dglvrk2

[librarychica]

sdlaura, it is actually just 11 days but covered two school weeks. My boss needed me in the Midwest, then I was going to be at a conference in the southwest, I live in the south so I thought “while I am on this side of the country I’ll just knock it all out and not travel for the rest of the year” and added on one more commitment. Seemed like a good idea at the time ….

I am going to see Phoenix and I’ve never been in a desert before but good lord it’s hot there.

[supertrooper1]

Dear Ticketmaster,

You suck. I had a presale code today, but you wouldn't let me select my own seats. I removed several tickets from my cart seeing if I could get better seats, but then tickets weren't available at all. I finally added some to my cart and purchased, only to check and see what would come up next, and they were 4 rows closer to the stage. Why couldn't I get the best seats in the first place? I'm guessing people had them in their carts and didn't buy, but it's still frustrating. And $125 service fees on top of the concert price for 4 tickets is too much.

Signed,
Disgruntled about your monopoly on concert tickets

[sdlaura]

librarychica that’s fun! I actually love the desert. And if you’re able to stay out of the sun it’s often not hotter than a cooler temp with humidity - there is some truth to ‘but it’s a dry heat!’ What are your plans in Phoenix? If you have time, Sedona and the Grand Canyon are not that far and will be cooler.

[186momx]

Dear DD
I'm sorry your friends who are in the other block of classes are blocking you from eating lunch with them because you aren't in the right class. I guess the silver lining is that you were able to eat all of your lunch as said friends didn't steal it.
Mom