TGIF randoms

[tennisgal]

TGIF indeed!

Busy weekend ahead as it is our city's festival weekend.  DS is walking in the parade tomorrow and DD and I will go watch.  Then there are a bunch of activities throughout the weekend that we'll try to get to.  Weather should be beautiful, so here's to a great weekend!

[scm1011]

My DD started kindergarten this week and her BFF who she is OBSESSED with (and it was mutual) has suddenly dropped DD this week in favor of another kid. DD is DEVASTATED and its so heartbreaking. She had to be pealed off me screaming this morning to get into school while her (former) BFF refused to even look at her. I cried the whole walk home. And then another parent who already drives me crazy called while I was walking home and left a VM saying "just so you know, DD was having a REALLY hard time after you left". THANKS THAT MAKES ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.

Also the new dog keeps waking up barking earlier and earlier (4:45am today) and I'm exhausted. I haven't stopped crying since drop off and feel like I'm about to have a nervous breakdown.

[sometimesrunner]

scm1011, ugh thats so hard. And WTF to the other parent telling you that!

I'm looking forward to a night with no activities. I've played two tennis matches this week, then last night we went to the VB game. Tomorrow night is the FB game and Sunday we're trying to get a few girls together for a swimming party. Whew. I'm going to savor relaxing tonight!

[Patsy Baloney]

Hi, all I do is bitch about volunteering.

I’m facilitating an archery session this weekend and was informed yesterday that half the targets are down and can’t be used. “It’ll be ok, just shoot 2 on a target.”

No. You know we’re coming, fix the targets. There’s a full-time groundskeeper - reprioritize his time to getting the targets back up. What’s wrong with them? Can I come out and help? Can I send troop parents out to help? I really don’t want a bunch of kids sitting around (fucking around) waiting for their turn on an archery range.

It’s $10 per kid for us to use the range, and I’ll be goddamned if I’m paying that fee.

[nicolewi]

Sept 6, 2024 8:44:59 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

My DD started kindergarten this week and her BFF who she is OBSESSED with (and it was mutual) has suddenly dropped DD this week in favor of another kid. DD is DEVASTATED and its so heartbreaking. She had to be pealed off me screaming this morning to get into school while her (former) BFF refused to even look at her. I cried the whole walk home. And then another parent who already drives me crazy called while I was walking home and left a VM saying "just so you know, DD was having a REALLY hard time after you left". THANKS THAT MAKES ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.

Also the new dog keeps waking up barking earlier and earlier (4:45am today) and I'm exhausted. I haven't stopped crying since drop off and feel like I'm about to have a nervous breakdown.

Aww, that really stinks for your DD AND you!!! It WILL get better. Hang in there. 

[maudefindlay]

I'm meeting up with some friends at my alma mater to tailgate and watch the football game, should be a nice and cool evening out. Ready to wear a sweatshirt and jeans!

Tomorrow AM DH and I will be volunteering at DS1 and DS2's home cross country meet. Our high school (DS1's team) holds this meet annually and there are even races for middle school (DS2's team) and elementary. It will be a long morning and afternoon, but the high is only 70 so excited to be out in that weather. This meet is named after the former longtime high school coach and our current coach keeps calling it the John Doe Memorial....except John Doe is not dead, he is a volunteer assistant coach now and usually standing next to head coach when he calls it that.

Sunday no plans, yay!!

[cmeon]

DS (17, my senior) decided to take the SAT again last summer, and picked August. He had a perfectly fine mid-1400s from the first time he took them (last spring), but he really wanted to break 1500. Then he got busy this summer, and he did absolutely nothing to prepare for it. Best laid plans!

Regardless, he thought it had gone well, and yeah, scores are out today. He went up 90 points, well into the 1500s. That kid! 🙃

[followyourarrow]

An update to my boss that needs to retire - upper management clearly talked to him because boss talked to me this morning. He's blaming me for not teaching me stuff. He said it's because I'm too busy with getting married and working on my MBA. I've repeatedly asked him for more to do and for him to teach me things. Any wedding or school stuff is done after work on my own time and I clearly have time and space to take on more work stuff. Unfortunately all my requests to take over more stuff have been verbal, so I don't have email back up.

TGIF! FI and I were planning to go tubing this weekend, but with all the rain we got this week the water is too cold and probably too high, so we're pivoting. We're still trying to figure out plans, but should have fun.

[Aloe Vera]

I finally have a diagnosis for the excrutiating pain on my left thumb. 4 FREAKING YEARS of living with excrutiating pain, made worse by the cold and who knows what.
It all started in 2020 after my first was born. I saw a neck surgeon who did X-Rays and MRI and everything looked normal. He told me to see a hand specialist but I didn't go because I thought they wouldn't be able to figure out what was wrong.
I did PT, Chiro, massages...Nothing helped.
August 2024. I have enough of this pain. It's keeping me up at night and has negatively impacted my life. I go back to where I went 4 years ago and see a hand surgeon this time. He asks me questions, looks at my hand/thumb (they look totally normal) and is struggling to figure out what is wrong. I feel defeated inside until he starts to shout "I know what this is!! It is a glomus tumor!!" and he calls his team to quizz them about it because it's rare and they get 1 case/year. The surgeon was like a kid who found a bucket of candy lol. MRI confirmed the tumor and I will have surgery to remove it.
I am so relieved I could cry.

[tacokick]

Today I have to put together some ikea furniture. I hauled it outside so I can do it on our outdoor table vs crawling on the ground so fingers crossed that’s not a mistake. I did this with my spinning wheel and it worked well but this is a lot bigger.

I’m watching the neighbors (the landlords?) getting their house planted and they went with a creamy blue! It was sad sack grey so what an upgrade.

[blondemoment123]

scm1011 My heart hurts for her. Who knew this friend drama started so early.
And that mom sucks. 😡

[tacokick]

Sept 6, 2024 8:55:46 GMT -5 Patsy Baloney said:

Hi, all I do is bitch about volunteering.

I’m facilitating an archery session this weekend and was informed yesterday that half the targets are down and can’t be used. “It’ll be ok, just shoot 2 on a target.”

No. You know we’re coming, fix the targets. There’s a full-time groundskeeper - reprioritize his time to getting the targets back up. What’s wrong with them? Can I come out and help? Can I send troop parents out to help? I really don’t want a bunch of kids sitting around (fucking around) waiting for their turn on an archery range.

It’s $10 per kid for us to use the range, and I’ll be goddamned if I’m paying that fee.

I don’t know how you do it. I’d be so mad. I don’t understand why/how places are so blasé about things like this. Actually I do, because people let them get away with it. I’m glad you don’t!

[cmeon]

scm1011 thats such a tough moment for you both, but she's going to be better than fine- she will find new friends.

That other parent sucks, I can't imagine a situation where I'd think that was remotely useful information for you!

[scm1011]

Sept 6, 2024 9:09:53 GMT -5 blondemoment123 said:

scm1011 My heart hurts for her. Who knew this friend drama started so early.
And that mom sucks. 😡

It was a DAD! (tiki 2 guesses who =P). And I know. My poor baby who at 5 is already on Prozac for anxiety. I'm just so sad for her. 

[NewGirlNic]

Day 2 of a new school for DS and he's texting me telling me he hates it and wants to go back to his old school (it was his choice to go to this new school, which is a great school and he had to test to get in). He's complaining about homework (he never had any at his old school) and that they can't carry their backpack and he has to use a locker. These are completely normal things and I told him he just needs to get used to it and he'll be fine. I really, really want him to find his way in this school. Yesterday he told me he didn't talk to anyone and doesn't care about making friends. It breaks my heart. 

[tiki]

scm1011 , Ohh no, I'm so sorry - for you and your DD! And yes, just the fact that he *called* pretty much tells me who... 

[mrsukyankee]

I'm heading to the London Whiskey Festival tonight (well, in 20 min). Very excited about trying some new to me whiskies. I'm going on my own which is a bit intimidating but I made a decision to step outside my comfort zone this year, so here I am. I'm also going to be VERY mindful about how much I drink so that I can make it home easily on public transportation.

H is in a better place now, in some ways, around his job loss. He's spoken to a HR consultant and is talking to a lawyer just to cover his bases. He's already started his resume (and being frustrated by it) and is working on putting together a presentation around some IT case studies. We're going away on holiday in a week, so he just wants to feel he's gotten things started, closed the chapter on his old job and then he can fully relax on holiday. He's been very good about thanking me for supporting him and acknowledging that he's been a bit difficult in the not so distant past (which were partially driven by not being able to handle what was going on at his old job).

[lavenderblue]

I mentioned the other day that I recently cleaned out my closet to get rid of some of the larger sizes since I have lost weight. I also was able to go in to the "too small" side of my closet and bring over a bunch of shirts that haven't fit for a very long time. A few were out of style, but most are still okay. Those items paired with a few things that I've bought recently, and I have an obscene amount of shirts. The fact that I literally only have 1 pair of dress pants and 3 pairs of jeans that fit is actually comical compared to the number of shirts that I have. I'm very "chesty" so the shirts should fit while I go down another size or two in pants, but still. 

I'm ordering sushi for lunch and am counting down the minutes until 10:30am when I can finally place my order online.

[mcppalmbeach]

Our longtime neighbors are moving out of state. They have a son in between my two older kids’ ages. They haven’t been as close in the past year, but they used to be at our house all the time and they are still friends. my h and I are friends with the parents and it’s really the only couple friends we have. I feel heartbroken, I’m surprised it’s hitting me so hard. It’s really sad that we no longer have a neighborhood group of kids. I really don’t know why the boys haven’t been as close, but I suspect it’s because of phones. My middle son is the closest to him and I worry for him. He has two longtime besties and this kid he hangs out with. It’s always been so nice to have a friend across the street to fish with or shoot hoops. Ugh I hate this.

[bears]

To add to the saga around DD's volleyball tryouts...She made it to round 2, then was cut. She seems happy that she tried at least and is asking about other opportunities to play more volleyball.

I'm a bit bummed--I think it would be really good for her to be on the team. She's very slow to warm up to other kids and it would have been a very good avenue for her to make friends. I'm second-guessing not encouraging her to try out for soccer (which she also loves) instead, since it was apparently less competitive.

followyourarrow I had a similar experience with a former boss. I was supposed to be trained to do something and he kept on procrastinating on sharing the relevant files with me. About a month later, we had a meeting to discuss the project with another team and he said it would take a while because "Bears is about to go on vacation." Of course he never shared the files before or after that vacation! I ended up going on vacation and, while I was away, I found a posting for my current job and never looked back. Former boss was later "retired" when a new CEO came on board.

[eddy]

This week absolutely did not feel as if we had a day off. Really busy work week and several evening commitments. Tomorrow we have a XC meet for our oldest.

On Sunday we are meeting his new girlfriend's family for lunch. We actually met them at back to school night, but it will be nice to sit down and talk. My first impressions is they are as lovely as their daughter. This is his first serious girlfriend and they are spending a lot of time together. Learning her parents are also pretty normal helps ease my mind quite a bit.

And my youngest is just along for the ride. He is doing so well with the transition to junior high. He isn't in any activities at the moment which is helpful since his brother is taking up a lot of our time. :-) I keep having to remind myself to check in with him as he is going through a big transition in school. But all seems well. He is content.

[rubytue]

I got a new boss about a year ago, he’s a first time supervisor and I was hoping by now he’d figure things out. But all he does is remind us to do things. Like, basic, it’s part of our job things. “Remember to do [task x], it’s in our performance plans” shit like that. One staff meeting, we counted, and he brought up the mandatory training, which we get multiple email about, 5 times in 30 minutes.

This random brought to you by getting another task put on my calendar for training, with a reminder to do it *before* the due date and to let him know when it’s complete. But yet, letting him know won’t take you off the reminder list. He will still email everyone twice a week and 5 times in a staff meeting.

[cville]

The handsome short king contractor at my house is married and has kids. I'm disappointed because I wanted to fix up my beautiful short queen Spanish-speaking friend with him.

Why must marriage stymie all of my matchmaking plans?!?!

[macmars45]

Work has been so busy and it's so fucking hot outside (I am outside daily for almost 2 hours of my work day) that I am ready for the weekend. It's a high of 99 today!

Tomorrow H and I head to Seattle to meet up with friends for a day trip. That will be nice.

[cville]

Sept 6, 2024 9:12:32 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Sept 6, 2024 9:09:53 GMT -5 blondemoment123 said:

scm1011 My heart hurts for her. Who knew this friend drama started so early.
And that mom sucks. 😡

It was a DAD! (tiki 2 guesses who =P). And I know. My poor baby who at 5 is already on Prozac for anxiety. I'm just so sad for her. 

This confirms my firm belief that the worst part of parenting is other parents. Go to hell, dude.

[Susie]

I had my annual with my gyn today and told him about my issues with tampons (suddenly can no longer use due to irritation) and frustrations with finding a silicone cup that fits comfortably and doesn't leak.  He didn't have advice on cups/discs, but suggested switching to Lo Loestrin Fe in hopes of reducing/eliminating my period entirely.  If just switching alone doesn't do it, he suggested using that pill instead but taking it continuously and skipping the iron pills.

I'm switching from a generic of ortho tri cyclen lo, which has otherwise been good for me.  I've been on it a long time, with a normal, predictable 5 day period that is totally manageable apart from the new inability to use tampons.  Before that I've done well with Ortho Tri Cyclen (but not Ortho Cyclen and not Yaz).  Anyone have any good/bad/ugly with Lo Loestrin?

[gretchenindisguise]

Two of my best friends are really struggling with their families. I wish I had a magic wand and could just fix it for them both.

It is hot here and getting hotter this weekend. We have no ac - so it was 82 in our house yesterday. Can't wait to see what it gets up to on Sunday 🤦‍♀️😱

I have washed my face 3 nights in a row and stretched 3 mornings in a row. This may be a new record and I'm proud of myself.

I had to rework our budget yesterday. That was rough.

[gretchenindisguise]

Sept 6, 2024 9:46:44 GMT -5 Susie said:

I had my annual with my gyn today and told him about my issues with tampons (suddenly can no longer use due to irritation) and frustrations with finding a silicone cup that fits comfortably and doesn't leak.  He didn't have advice on cups/discs, but suggested switching to Lo Loestrin Fe in hopes of reducing/eliminating my period entirely.  If just switching alone doesn't do it, he suggested using that pill instead but taking it continuously and skipping the iron pills.

I'm switching from a generic of ortho tri cyclen lo, which has otherwise been good for me.  I've been on it a long time, with a normal, predictable 5 day period that is totally manageable apart from the new inability to use tampons.  Before that I've done well with Ortho Tri Cyclen (but not Ortho Cyclen and not Yaz).  Anyone have any good/bad/ugly with Lo Loestrin?

My 15 year old is on it and takes it continuously to skip her periods. It's brilliant for her.

[mysteriouswife]

I have a final interview on Monday! They contacted my references yesterday. This means I’m getting the job, right? I’ve been unemployed since June. Fingers crossed and good vibes appreciated.

[emilyinchile]

WTF scm1011! I have texted other parents before to let them know their kid calmed down right after they left because I know that even when you know that always happens it sucks to have to leave your sobbing child. I cannot believe someone would do the opposite. I'm sorry your girl is having such a hard time, I hope she makes some awesome new friends soon.