another Monday Monday

[dglvrk2]

How was everyone's weekend?  What is up this week?

[rere]

I'm exhausted. We camped, in a cabin thankfully, all weekend. It was so hot, but we had a great time as usual.

My morning kicked off with a Walmart delivery driver calling and hanging up on me 3 times. It was dds order 3 hrs away. He did not follow instructions to drop it in the parking garage. He made it all the way to her room and was very rude and almost didn't give her the groceries. I gave him a bad review and told what happened, but now I'm freaking out he knows where she lives. I also need to call the front desk and ask how someone got up on the floor. You have to badge in 3 different places to get to the apartment.

[mae0111]

The weekend was great! Dh and I went to our beach house Friday afternoon, and our former nanny came to stay with the kids. It poured Friday evening and all day Saturday, so our planned weekend of outdoor chores didn't work out as planned. A storm kind of stalled right over where we were, and our town ended up with over 6 inches of rain in about 40 hours. Saturday morning water started pouring down our chimney, so that's another repair that we have to research. We actually just had the flue repaired and a cap put on, but it was still coming in. So we lined up buckets and went about our day.

We went to another, more posh area near our beach house to design a carved wooden sign for our home there. My parents gave us gift cards to the shop for a housewarming gift, and it was neat to work with the carver and see it kind of come together in concept.

We came home yesterday afternoon and grabbed DD2 to head to her evening soccer game. It was a beautiful field literally right on the water - like, they almost lost a ball into Boston Harbor, but luckily landed on some rocks before it got into the water. But the spectators were rough, they kept kicking balls onto the field when our team had the ball. Ref did nothing, our coach got upset and tried to rationally address the ref, and he got carded and tossed. DD2's team ended up losing 3-1, but they did MUCH better than I thought they would, as this team has won their other games by at least 6 goals each. DD2 got decent playing time and hustled hard.

The next couple of weeks will be busy. DH is leaving Thursday very early AM to go to a board meeting until Saturday afternoon/evening. He'll dump out his suitcase and then leave again Sunday morning for an offsite, back late Wednesday evening. So I'm essentially solo parenting for a week. We have a few conflicts, so I'm hoping I can work those out. But there's a ton happening - homecoming, back to school night, soccer games... not great timing, but not really totally in our control...

[waverly]

We had a soccer tournament which took up our entire weekend. Saturday, we fried in the hot sun and about 90 degrees. Sunday it poured buckets. The pouring buckets was actually good because it hadn't rained in a month and the area needed it desperately. But we were all soaked, DD's soccer bag was soaked, everything in it.  I saw some teams had put their soccer bags in garbage bags to keep them dry which I thought was a good idea.  

I was late to work this morning because I was going through everything and drying it all off, cleaning the house, working out, taking a shower since I still had dirt on me from the rain etc. Then I get here and my boss is here, which was strange because she told me she had an appointment. Turns out she had forgotten it lol.

[mae0111]

waverly , when I saw the first part of your post, I was going to suggest garbage bags. I make DD2 keep 1-2 in her soccer bag just in case it starts raining during a practice or a game. It's not perfect, but it definitely helps!

ETA Also, do you know the newspaper trick to try out cleats?  Loosely stuff cleats with newspaper and they'll dry out (assuming you don't have a cleat/boot/glove dryer).  You have to change the paper out every hour or two as it gets wet, but it does work. 


Heat can shrink the cleats - we found that out when we hung DD2's cleats to dry in front of the fireplace once... couldn't get them on the next day...

[polecat8]

We had a fun weekend.
Community day was Saturday. My mom went with us to watch the parade. Then DS2 had a soccer game and we enjoyed the various booths and activities. It was a very hot sunny day, so we ordered pizza when we got home. We were able to do a little more planning for our Italy trip. It is so bittersweet planning this trip since it was supposed to be for my parents' 50th anniversary. My mom reminded me that 1 year ago on Friday was when my Dad had his surgery and never walked out of the hospital again.
On Sunday, I worked at the hospital and it was a quiet shift, which was greatly appreciated.
This week I need to get my butt in gear and start practicing my taekwondo form for competition next month. I know 75% of it and have been sporadic with practicing it. I really should be practicing every day but life keeps getting in the way. I'm also sparring as part of the competition (both as part of a team and as an individual).

[sdlaura]

I had a mostly "free" day yesterday, so I got a lot done around the house, but I'm annoyed at how many hours I spent doing housework vs. something fun. Washing/changing sheets on everyone's beds including bunk beds for our large family is a full-day activity. Our every other week housecleaner does my bed, but I'm not going to make her climb up on bunk beds. At least DH can't make any dissatisfied noises about me going out with my book club tonight to a wine bar vs. being home after all I did yesterday. He was at softball with DD most of the day.

Anyway, it was good otherwise. Lots of kids sports and birthday parties and then our neighborhood happy hour and date night Saturday night.

DD's new softball team is off to a bit of a rough start. They've just played some friendlies so far and the coaches have made clear that the goal initially is to move girls around and get a feel for their abilities in different positions and how they work together, vs. a winning score. But it's still no fun to lose by a lot. Luckily DD seems pretty unbothered about the losses.

[librarychica]

We had a lovely weekend. Yesterday was a highlight — at least for the DDs and I. We had a girls beach day at a state park.There was a king tide so not much swimming but lots of walking, reading, DD1 painted a picture on the beach, a picnic. H decided to stay home and have some quiet time and, bonus!, fixed my car’s AC.

Today’s been a quiet start to a busy workweek.

[sandandsea]

We had a crazy busy weekend with a school movie night Friday, 2 soccer game Saturday followed by a long drive to the racetrack, then a race Sunday for both Dh and ds and got home around 10:30 last night.

My mom is flying out this Friday for fall break next week and I’m so excited and feeling such relief that she’s going to be here a week. She’s a great helper and fun with the boys so a welcome treat!

[mommyatty]

It was busy but good. I’m traveling again this week. So I’m leaving tonight and coming home Friday morning. I have two short trips planned in October, one in November, and one in December. This month has been really hard. After basically not having to travel for work all summer, I am ending our fiscal year with trips every week in September.

DD was supposed to have a field hockey game this afternoon but it was rained out. I feel kind of stupid because I’m missing the first day of a conference so I could see her game. Oh well. It is what it is, I guess. At least I got to see my kids when they got home from school today before leaving for the airport.

[186momx]

We had our friends big birthday bash yesterday so spent the weekend at their house helping get ready. They have had rough health year so the extra hands were welcomed. I forgot how much I hate parties. I was very uncomfortable and felt out of place all yesterday afternoon evening. I knew 2 other couples out of 40 people. DH knew a lot more from paintball so it was just rough.

We all played hookie from work/school today so we didn't have to drive 3 hours home at 9pm last night. Just got home at 3 so doing all the unpacking and laundry.

[dglvrk2]

sdlaura, I feel your pain with housework. I do SO MUCH, I feel, on the weekends. I will say, I am picky enough about laundry and groceries that I'd rather spend the time on a weekend doing these myself than leave them to H and the girls, so...

We had a good weekend. DD1 and I visited my sister and her family yesterday while H and DD2 attended a birthday party. I ran 7 miles - the most I've ran in a long time - with a friend yesterday morning. Saturday evening, our family went to the Beatleguise movie, which was great! I had a Girl Scout leader training Saturday during the day. DD1 had a band event then went to our town's little Oktoberfest with friends.

DD1 is feeling more comfortable with her peers this year. One of the "friends" she spent time with on Saturday was one of the girls- I'll call her J - who maliciously dumped DD1 last spring. In March, J sent a slew of texts to DD1, telling her how she was mean, could never be forgiven for something she did - we still don't know what this is - and telling her she was not welcome to sit with the large group of girls at lunch she usually sat with. This caused a lot of heartache for DD1. Her confidence in making friends plummeted and she usually ate in a teacher's classroom the rest of the year.

The girl sent a few mean texts over the summer too - saying friends are "mad" at DD1 for various things beyond her control.

Basically big red flag.

Now the girls are texting a few times a week. Friendly texts. DD1 sits with a large group at lunch and J sometimes joins them or sometimes just sits with one other girl. Thursday, J texted DD1 asking if she could get a ride to this band event. J lives close to us. DD1 saw this as a way to mend fences, so to speak. She wasn't planning on hanging out more, just going to a school event with J.

H was very hesitant to take J with them. He's still mad at J for all she did. I certainly resent J, but she's a kid. She's from a unique family situation and has been respectful of DD1 so far this year. Perhaps she's growing up and changing for the better. The girls are part of a small class - fewer than 100 people - who will be together, with few additions, through high school. DD1 feels she needs to be able to get along with this girl because of the small numbers. Likewise, she has set boundaries well so far. J has now asked DD1 to do things outside of school twice and dD1 has politely declined because she's not ready to spend so much time with her. They had fun Saturday and DD1 says they're in a better place. I'm inclined to follow her lead. H wants more restrictions.

Anyone have advice or perspective?

[erbear]

Sept 23, 2024 18:44:21 GMT -5 dglvrk2 said:

sdlaura , I feel your pain with housework. I do SO MUCH, I feel, on the weekends. I will say, I am picky enough about laundry and groceries that I'd rather spend the time on a weekend doing these myself than leave them to H and the girls, so...

We had a good weekend. DD1 and I visited my sister and her family yesterday while H and DD2 attended a birthday party. I ran 7 miles - the most I've ran in a long time - with a friend yesterday morning. Saturday evening, our family went to the Beatleguise movie, which was great! I had a Girl Scout leader training Saturday during the day. DD1 had a band event then went to our town's little Oktoberfest with friends.

DD1 is feeling more comfortable with her peers this year. One of the "friends" she spent time with on Saturday was one of the girls- I'll call her J - who maliciously dumped DD1 last spring. In March, J sent a slew of texts to DD1, telling her how she was mean, could never be forgiven for something she did - we still don't know what this is - and telling her she was not welcome to sit with the large group of girls at lunch she usually sat with. This caused a lot of heartache for DD1. Her confidence in making friends plummeted and she usually ate in a teacher's classroom the rest of the year.

The girl sent a few mean texts over the summer too - saying friends are "mad" at DD1 for various things beyond her control.

Basically big red flag.

Now the girls are texting a few times a week. Friendly texts. DD1 sits with a large group at lunch and J sometimes joins them or sometimes just sits with one other girl. Thursday, J texted DD1 asking if she could get a ride to this band event. J lives close to us. DD1 saw this as a way to mend fences, so to speak. She wasn't planning on hanging out more, just going to a school event with J.

H was very hesitant to take J with them. He's still mad at J for all she did. I certainly resent J, but she's a kid. She's from a unique family situation and has been respectful of DD1 so far this year. Perhaps she's growing up and changing for the better. The girls are part of a small class - fewer than 100 people - who will be together, with few additions, through high school. DD1 feels she needs to be able to get along with this girl because of the small numbers. Likewise, she has set boundaries well so far. J has now asked DD1 to do things outside of school twice and dD1 has politely declined because she's not ready to spend so much time with her. They had fun Saturday and DD1 says they're in a better place. I'm inclined to follow her lead. H wants more restrictions.

Anyone have advice or perspective?

How old are they? This colors my answer.

[dglvrk2]

erbear they are 13 and in 8th grade

[erbear]

Sept 23, 2024 19:05:36 GMT -5 dglvrk2 said:

erbear they are 13 and in 8th grade

I say give her a chance. Kids change a ton between 7th and 8th (and 7th is the WORST). This is why I only ever teach 8th. Maybe this is all a ruse but more likely, J has grown up a bit. Your daughter should keep her at an arm's length maybe, but give her a chance. Kids do grow up.

[dglvrk2]

Sept 23, 2024 19:10:43 GMT -5 erbear said:

Sept 23, 2024 19:05:36 GMT -5 dglvrk2 said:

erbear they are 13 and in 8th grade

I say give her a chance. Kids change a ton between 7th and 8th (and 7th is the WORST). This is why I only ever teach 8th. Maybe this is all a ruse but more likely, J has grown up a bit. Your daughter should keep her at an arm's length maybe, but give her a chance. Kids do grow up.

That's whit I'm thinking. Thanks!

[k3am]

We have more online threats to our district. YAY! The districts messaging has been to report to the district and/or police, don’t let kids share with friends etc.. which is a good message. But another parent sent yesterday’s message to our group chat asking… HOW exactly are we supposed to report it?

At this point none of the adults are worried about a potential threat, they’re worried about how to avoid having the school devolve into hysteria again.

DH advised her to report it on FB (where she found it) even though it wasn’t the author posting it on FB because they’ll escalate to law enforcement (DH used to work in their legal group, so he’s my de facto expert), and a friend on PD is escalating to a task force.

I just hope they’re able to find the kids starting this drama and make an example of them so kids will learn that this isn’t cool. (I’m sure it’s an unpopular take to some, but sorry not sorry)

We’ve made it an hour into the school day so far, so hoping the calm continues.

[twinmomma]

I'm feeling really fried and exhausted. I had a migraine all day yesterday and just feel blah. So I am giving myself a semi day off today. I crawled back into bed and napped, ordered some food for lunch, answered some work emails, and now I'm ready to crawl back into bed again. I have no meetings today and no hard deadlines, so I'm giving myself grace and not stressing about being "on" for 8 hours straight. I feel guilty about it, but this is one of the perks of working from home, right? The flexibility to do what makes sense for me in the moment? That's what I'm trying to tell myself.

[sdlaura]

k3am , when I was a freshman in high school we had a bomb threat like every other day for a 3-month period. So we spent A LOT of time out on the football field, after they figured out that sending us home was rewarding the behavior  Obviously that was pre-social media days - it must be so tough to figure out whether threats should be taken seriously when anyone could submit one from anywhere, anytime.

[k3am]

sdlaura also the cellphones with the kids calling home and asking to be picked up. I remember being in lockdown in HS with SWAT running around fully geared and armed up and having NO IDEA what was going on, no way to call home, etc. My mom had no idea we had even been on lockdown until I didn’t get home in time to cook dinner because I was still locked in my 4th period class. (That was an active threat - the police interrupted an armed gang robbery at the nearby shopping center which turned into a shootout and they fled onto our campus)

I guess this is just training to desensitize the kids. I did not grow up in downtown LA, but I definitely grew up in an area where gang and criminal activity was common and my threshold for certain situations is definitely different than friends who were born and raised where we live now.

[waverly]

I was going to ask advice on a situation but it sounds like it resolved itself. Neighbor kid tried to download an inappropriate app, DS told me about it, this morning I circled back and he said that neighbor kid deleted the app. This kind of makes sense since it was an over 18 app that requires and ID and Credit card, so unless the kid stole those 2 things from their parents, then the app registration wouldn't go through anyway. So I am hoping that it is true that the app did not go through on the kids phone.

Parents, why are you not inacting parental controls- yeesh. This is blocked on DS's phone and mine since I have parental controls on my phone also in case a kid uses it.