Monday Randoms

[ssmjlm]

My FB reels (shutup) kept showing some Turkish soap opera type show.

Did I track it down online to watch it with english subtitles on my phone. Yes, I did.

I am embarrassed for myself, we'll see if it's any good. Although I'm wondering if they're pushing it to have Amazon or Netflix pick it up like Maxton Hall and My Fault.

[followyourarrow]

FI goes back to work today after a few weeks off. They broke his boat while he was off though, so he'll be at dock and can come home on weekends, so that will be nice. We had a lovely weekend away and it was hard to come back. Pretty much the second we opened our house door, craziness started again and I was ready to go back to the lake.

[buckeyegirl]

If anyone remembers my mom had emergency surgery for a foreign object in her body. It does look like it was a grill brush tine. She is fine and home relaxing now.

Now I have been homebound since Thursday because my neck and upper arm are killing me. I can’t walk or sit. The only comfortable
Position in lying down. I have been to urgent care, the ER, and a chiro and now I am going for an MRI, but the chiro thinks I have a herniated disc in my neck. This sucks!

[bbdoll]

I tested positive for Covid on 8/30. My cough continues to get worse and this morning I coughed up some blood. Not a ton, but noticeable. I don't think I'm ever getting rid of this.

[emilyinchile]

Omg bbdoll. I feel like coughing up blood means you need to go back to the doctor. That sounds so awful, I'm sorry.

buckeyegirl neck pain is so debilitating. Have you been given any meds or treatment of any kind beyond just lying down? Massage, heat, anything?

If any of you work in marketing in wine and spirits in the US and are open to it, please PM me I'm trying to set up some meetings with US companies to reactivate our business there, and so far no one answers my emails. Which is fine, and part of the process, but I figured I'd throw it out there just in case one of you is secretly my ideal client!

[bcv513]

bbdoll, I would call your doctor. I feel like coughing up any type of blood is serious.

There is a new girl on C's cheer team this year. She's two years older but has really bonded with C. I was talking to her mother at the football game yesterday. She was saying how they are so happy to be living in this town now, and they really had a hard time finding a house to buy. She said the people they bought the house from got divorced and how obvious it was that they loved the house. My spidey senses were tingling, so when I got home I googled the mom. Guys. It's my house. I'm freaking out at the thought of the girls becoming besties and C being invited over there.

[bcv513]

Also, it continues to amaze me how many people in my town also grew up in town and have never left. There are definitely two "groups" of parents. One that moved to town as adults and another that has always lived there, their parents live there and are friends, etc. It's intimidating.

[emilyinchile]

bcv513 WHAAAAAT THAT IS WILD!

[candreco]

We made it through the handfasting/wedding weekend, it was mildly bonkers but overall fine? Definitely some WTF moments, like the Friday evening meet-up and dinner that SIL didn't know how many people were coming for (because they specifically didn't ask for RSVPs); she just made a reservation for herself and MIL/FIL, and everyone else was welcome to see if the restaurant had space. Like not even her fiancé was planning to join them? No idea what happened with that because we bailed to go feed ourselves rather than get caught up in that drama. But we got to go to a goat farm (OMG, delicious cheese) and a lavender farm while we there, so that was cool. So glad to be home.

Could not face getting back in the car this morning though, switched to telework. It's raining and gross out, so feeling even better about this choice. Hoping to get caught up on email, and maybe get some chores squeezed in that of course didn't happen over the weekend.

[ssmjlm]

bcv513, wow that seems like something that would happen in a abc family show. Crazy how small life can be.

[expectantsteelerfan]

bcv513, that is a crazy coincidence! I wouldn't be able to keep that to myself...I'd tell your DD in private to prepare her (just that they bought your old house, not that she might someday visit C there), and then let C and her mom know. At least they said positive things about the house so far...it could be more embarrassing if she was complaining. But if you think it would really bother your DD, I think it's also fair to say you'd prefer to do get togethers with the girls somewhere other than their house/your old house because it'd be weird for your DD.

[bears]

DS bought a drone on Saturday and lost it in the woods behind the house on Sunday. The battery promptly died, then it rained all night. We walked the woods, but no idea where it ended up. I'm pretty sure it's in a tree somewhere.

I had offered to take DS to the school so he can practice flying it in a big field first, but he was too impatient. Poor kid learned an expensive lesson.

[heygrey]

bcv513, rather than letting that play out, I would tell the mom that I later realized they bought our old house. She's said only positive or factual things about the previous buyers. Better that she know now before she sticks her foot in her mouth or there is an awkward moment where you have to explain it to your daughter in front of them.

[Wallflower]

Sept 30, 2024 8:42:22 GMT -5 bears said:

DS bought a drone on Saturday and lost it in the woods behind the house on Sunday. The battery promptly died, then it rained all night. We walked the woods, but no idea where it ended up. I'm pretty sure it's in a tree somewhere.

I had offered to take DS to the school so he can practice flying it in a big field first, but he was too impatient. Poor kid learned an expensive lesson.

My brother lost a drone in the trees a few years ago and once the leaves dropped, it was much easier to find. He found it several weeks later, with all kinds of weather in between, and it still worked. So, all may not be lost for your DS.

[lavenderblue]

I hit 199.8 over the weekend. I have not seen a weight that started with a "1" in over 6 years and even then, it was only for like 5 minutes LOL Thanks to Perimenopause I'm working twice as hard for half the reward, but I'll take it. I cannot explain how it felt to see that number. ExH liked me bigger so would always sabotage any weight loss efforts I made (found out he did this to the girlfriend after me as well). Thank goodness he is out of my life.

[pandora89]

PDQ

I haven't spoken to or seem my dad in nearly 3 months. We used to visit my parents every weekend with the kids so this has been quite a change. This isn't our first time cutting him off but we thought he turned a corner. Obviously not. Long story short, he has been literally calling whomever will listen (family/family friends) to tell them that H & I are unemployed freeloaders (we are neither), that he has been footing ALL our bills including our mortgage bills, our kids private school fees AND that my H has been having an affair with my MOM whom he is still married to.

I wish I was kidding and obviously PDQ

[blondemoment123]

It's a virtual learning day for our county since so many are still without power. My mom "came out of retirement" to help DS with it so I could go to work.

S/O work, someone wrote a company wide email about how poorly they handled things during the storm so it's about to get interesting.

[midwestmama]

bbdoll, agree with others, coughing up blood sounds serious, so hope you are able to talk with your doctor soon/get an appointment to be seen (or go to urgent care).

bcv513, I live in a town where parents of my kids' friends grew up here and are now living/raising a family in the same town. Actually, it's true for DH, and even his parents graduated from the HS here. DH was not in favor of living here, since he went to school here/grew up here, but I really like the area and the school district, so DH was willing to concede. I do see now some of the concerns he shared when we first moved here, but I think no school district is perfect, so we'd deal with issues of some kind anywhere.

A big org announcement went out today (someone got promoted and someone is leaving), with completely unexpected news (at least, to me). I do have some extra work this week as the change impacts my work to a small degree. However, I am happy overall about the news, and I believe the vast majority of employees are as well.

[TR]

pandora89 - that just kept getting worse and my mouth dropped open at the last one. That is a WILD accusation and I have to assume people are side-eyeing him big time.

[heygrey]

pandora89 , I am so sorry you're dealing with absolutely unhinged behaviour. What does your mom say in all of this? Surely she doesn't like the implication that she's doing this, too??!

[lavenderblue]

pandora89, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I don't know your backstory, but is he unwell? Those accusations are seriously unhinged.

[cville]

Jose Andres gives me hope for humanity.

[beerlover]

I'm just feeling so overwhelmed.

I've posted ad nauseam about my cats and their fleas so I apologize. They have been treated with Revolution Plus from the vet on 9/19 and every time I comb them I'm still finding a couple of live ones. Is that because they're still in the environment and will eventually die after biting the cat or is the medication not working? I called the vet last Thursday, and he said that it might be because they are still the environment, but to call back Monday if there were still live ones on them. So, I just called and let them know, and now I'm waiting for a reply. I have an exterminator coming tomorrow so hopefully that will take care of the environment. But now, I have to move everything up off the floor so they can do their thing, and I'm just so tired of cleaning and moving things, and I'm going to be doing a lot of it myself because I'm here all day and I don't want to wait until 5pm when H gets home, but I also have my own job to do. I kind of just want to curl in a ball and cry.

[wildrice]

buckeyegirl, I'm glad your mom is doing well! I hope you feel better soon, too.

bcv513, what a crazy coincidence! I bet that feels really weird, though hopefully comforting to know that the people who live there now love it so much?

pandora89, that is so unhinged. I am sorry your dad is acting like that. I am glad you cut him off

[maudefindlay]

@pandora89 that last part would be the thing that made this a permanent cut off, unless it later turned out he has dementia or a brain tumor or a mental health crisis that could ex0lain this. Where is your Mom in all this? Is she safe?

[maudefindlay]

It's my birthday! We celebrated yesterday though, because today is colonoscopy prep for tomorrow, hello 48 you sexy bitch!

[midwestmama]

pandora89, I'm sorry to hear about the craziness with your dad. I don't recall if this is a pattern with him, but I agree with others - could there be something else going on such as dementia or a brain tumor? I have also heard that UTIs in elderly people can cause hallucinations.

[wildrice]

My sister's kids started at a new school this year. There was a major drama last year because they were being switched away from a "good school" that was highly rated and had a lot of resources, and moved to a low rated title 1 school. I mostly talked with my mom about it but tried many times to point out all of the flaws that tend to be in those ratings and that the kids would be fine either way. But it was very upsetting to my family and they were super stressed about it for literally months and pushed back hard on the powers that be to stop this move.

I am happy to report an "I told you so" on this, lol. The kids are doing great and it sounds like some of their teachers are better than they were at the last school - like they hated music class (what kids hate music class?) and now they like it with the new teacher. I am really glad they are doing well, but not surprised.

We are in the thick of performance evaluations at work, and as the main owner of the process/system, I am so over it. It's a giant administrative hassle and people always just treat them like a punishment instead of an opportunity to provide/receive useful feedback.

[pandora89]

PDQ

heygrey - my mom has put up with several years of abuse (physical, emotional etc) and my sister and I have begged her for YEARS to leave him. I think it is a bit of Stockholm syndrome and also cultural issues but she has not. We do not know if he actually believes this story or it is just something he has created. This isn't the first time he has accused her of having an affair (she has had none). There was one time he strongly believed she was having an affair with a very gay coworker of hers. He spiralled and was harassing her at work to the point where she had to take a leave of absence from work. Work was very understanding and realized she was having some issues at home.

lavenderblue midwestmama wildrice ,maudefindlay he has severe mental health problems which I am sure has been made worse by his severe alcoholism. He has spent the entire 35 years of my parents marriage being abusive in every way. Controlling who my mom can/cannot see etc, she can't leave the house without him and if she even does to go to the mall or whatever he will call constantly until she is home then will argue with her about how long she was gone for/why she didn't pick up all his phone calls etc. This current issue started because we all went on a trip together several months to an AI where my dad became belligerently drunk and was being verbally abusive to my mom at the resort in the middle of the day in front of everyone and tried to assault her at one point. My H got in the way and tried to talk him down. When he did not my mom walked away and got security involved but obviously to him, since my H stopped him from hitting her it must mean they are sleeping together lol.

She ended up going home my dad after we begged her not to but he has spent the last 3 months berating/abusing her about the "affair". We haven't seen or spoken to my dad since then and he refused to let my mom see us. It all came to a head this weekend and she finally left and has been staying with my sister since and he has been spiralling. He will not stop emailing/calling her and anyone and has escalated in the lies he has been spreading about me and DH because this is "all our fault" according to him. His side of the story is that DH and my mom were sitting next together at a table, DH had his arm around, and my dad came and asked if he could sit beside his wife and my H said no and went my dad asked again he went and got security LOL.

So obviously not the first time but it has been escalating every year. If it's not an affair he is harassing her about, it something my mom's sisters or parents did or didn't do. It's how my mom responded to him, how he ignored him, how he didn't do something exactly the way he wanted. He will latch onto whatever "issue" it is for months until he has moved onto the next issue. I don't want to armchair diagnose but we strongly believe he has narcissism as everything is about him and he truly does not seem to have any genuine feelings about anyone else.

[bex1973]

My weekend was a nice balance of activities, chores/house stuff and relaxing. We were going to go to an orchard as a family yesterday but kid couldn't find a friend to go with us so didn't want to go so we scrapped the idea and honestly I'm not sad about it. I was ok with going but wasn't looking forward to how crowded it was probably going to be.

I need to branch out my new found appreciation for exercise. I'm walking regularly and lengthening the walks and upping the number of steps I get in each day and I like that but I feel like I want to do more. I think I'm going to rejoin the gym to help with that. It'll also be a way for me to keep up with my walking during the winter.

I love that my kid is able to be involved with multiple activities but right now I feel spread thin. Thankfully cheer only has a little over a month left and that will bring some relief - especially since the coaches keep calling extra practices at the last minute and that's annoying. Come on November LOL