Monday Randoms

[mrsukyankee]

pandora89 , that's a lot for your family and your mom to deal with. Hugs.

jamaicam, sending tons of hugs. So sorry for your loss.

[TR]

Sept 30, 2024 13:18:47 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

TR have you or any doctors explored any mental health reasons for your GI issues? There are a lot of connections between the mind and gut. Not everyone feels anxiety or depression with their mood fully/only, it can be felt with change in appetite, digestive issues, nausea, etc.

It was suggested I was just an anxious kid and I won’t deny being an unchill person. But the weird thing is that during periods of obvious anxiety in my life, it hasn’t bothered me. And it has popped up when circumstances are otherwise going very smoothly. So it has never felt like very much of a direct correlation to me. But I would honestly be willing to try just about anything at this point lol

[ssmjlm]

I am in Virginia, but amazon thought it was a good idea to get me a package from California. It's now "lost" and I can't request a refund until October 2.

I really wanted to try out my new electric salt and pepper grinders over the weekend. Our old ones are dying a slow death, new batteries didn't do anything.

[pandorica]

I need to vent.

Tried to schedule my kids for their flu/covid shots with the pediatrician today (they are 5 and 2, so I think they're still too young to go to CVS etc, at least around here?).

Well, our pediatrician only does flu on Monday/Thursday, and only does covid on Fridays. I'm pissed! My DD1 has a severe needle phobia, and now I need to take her to two separate appointments (both of which require her either going to school late or picking her up early) where she will freak out for both.

Luckily I guess, I scheduled the twins' annual visit for a Friday, so they can get their covid shots then. But not flu!

So now I have to take kids to the pediatrician 3 times in October. Gah!

[spindle92]

Today is day 54 of my mom being away from home (hospital and now rehab) and her and I have become regular watchers of "Let's Make a Deal". It is so dumb that it's funny. We laugh so hard.

[expectantsteelerfan]

Sept 30, 2024 10:44:54 GMT -5 janegold said:

Sept 30, 2024 8:23:46 GMT -5 bcv513 said:

Also, it continues to amaze me how many people in my town also grew up in town and have never left. There are definitely two "groups" of parents. One that moved to town as adults and another that has always lived there, their parents live there and are friends, etc. It's intimidating.

My town's like that too. Well, actually, it's not that one group never left but that everyone left and then came back to raise their families.

I'm in a weird in-between because my H is one of the ones who came back, but he doesn't really care about hanging out with people for the most part.  Meanwhile, I moved here barely knowing a soul and although everyone is friendly, it's intimidating trying to break into a social circle of people who have been friends for decades.  I wish H would be more motivated to be social sometimes, but then I remind myself that we have tons of competing priorities right now between little kids, two full time jobs, aging/dying parents - it's okay if socializing isn't a top priority.

My town is similar.  Dh and I both grew up and left, but came back.  I NEVER would have imagined moving back (and we did move to the town next to where we grew up, but it's not much different), but after moving around for the military, it was the best choice for us.  I HATE seeing people I knew from high school but wasn't friends with, but I did reconnect with people I had been friends with, lost touch with during college, and also moved back.  

I would like to meet more people that I haven't known basically my whole life, but I'm also grateful for the group of friends I have.  I like to think we are welcoming to newcomers, but I also get that it's hard.  We are in a book club together, and when new people come and they're like, how did you all meet each other? And several of us are like, oh I've known so and so since we were kids, which I imagine can be off-putting, but we also aren't going to lie...

[renna]

livinitup

Didn't want to reboot the Random from last week but I am so glad your college tour with your child went well! I hope the narrowing down is easy and as painless as can be.

[renna]

Sept 30, 2024 9:34:16 GMT -5 beerlover said:

I'm just

((((beerlover))))

This is very normal for what you are going through. IT IS A LOT. I am sure there are many of us who can tell a similar story, or know someone who can.

We got bed bugs one time after my husband's business trip. It has been 5 years now but I can relive it easily. It was exhausting physically and mentally. 

Our exterminator (randomly chosen) turned out to be an angel in disguise. I hope yours is, too!

Just please know that people get it. Whatever exhausted or worn them down? The women here get it. I hope it wasn't some kind of bug in their home, but I believe the women in here care about each other and that we see how wearing this is whether we have been there or not.

Believe it or not, with each flea gone you are closer to the end. And it WILL end. It just is taking all you have. I'm sorry. HANG IN THERE!

[SwimDeep]

Sept 30, 2024 13:47:11 GMT -5 TR said:

Sept 30, 2024 13:18:47 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

TR have you or any doctors explored any mental health reasons for your GI issues? There are a lot of connections between the mind and gut. Not everyone feels anxiety or depression with their mood fully/only, it can be felt with change in appetite, digestive issues, nausea, etc.

It was suggested I was just an anxious kid and I won’t deny being an unchill person. But the weird thing is that during periods of obvious anxiety in my life, it hasn’t bothered me. And it has popped up when circumstances are otherwise going very smoothly. So it has never felt like very much of a direct correlation to me. But I would honestly be willing to try just about anything at this point lol

Anecdota, but I have noticed that in the midst of a stressful time period my body has no issues. Sleep and other functions feel normal. But after the stress ends, even up to a month after, my GI goes bat crap crazy. I think during the stress it goes into survival mode. Then after it just falls apart 🙁
I have been diagnosed with CPTSD, and multiple therapists have told me that the body remembers. I'm also extremely disconnected from my body, though, so it's really hard for me to make connections between a bout of GI issues and past stress (or upcoming stress 🤷‍♀️).

I'm thinking about starting a spreadsheet on myself. 🙃

[dontlook]

Sept 30, 2024 13:47:11 GMT -5 TR said:

Sept 30, 2024 13:18:47 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

TR have you or any doctors explored any mental health reasons for your GI issues? There are a lot of connections between the mind and gut. Not everyone feels anxiety or depression with their mood fully/only, it can be felt with change in appetite, digestive issues, nausea, etc.

It was suggested I was just an anxious kid and I won’t deny being an unchill person. But the weird thing is that during periods of obvious anxiety in my life, it hasn’t bothered me. And it has popped up when circumstances are otherwise going very smoothly. So it has never felt like very much of a direct correlation to me. But I would honestly be willing to try just about anything at this point lol

I’m sorry about your ongoing issues. I want you to know that I will now be referring to myself as an “unchill person”. Thank you for giving me that gift lol!

[TR]

Sept 30, 2024 18:09:24 GMT -5 dontlook said:

Sept 30, 2024 13:47:11 GMT -5 TR said:

It was suggested I was just an anxious kid and I won’t deny being an unchill person. But the weird thing is that during periods of obvious anxiety in my life, it hasn’t bothered me. And it has popped up when circumstances are otherwise going very smoothly. So it has never felt like very much of a direct correlation to me. But I would honestly be willing to try just about anything at this point lol

I’m sorry about your ongoing issues. I want you to know that I will now be referring to myself as an “unchill person”. Thank you for giving me that gift lol!

lol I hate to say “anxious” just because I don’t always FEEL anxious, but I am certainly not chill. I envy chill people. See also: “not adaptable” lol

[dontlook]

Sept 30, 2024 18:10:46 GMT -5 TR said:

Sept 30, 2024 18:09:24 GMT -5 dontlook said:

I’m sorry about your ongoing issues. I want you to know that I will now be referring to myself as an “unchill person”. Thank you for giving me that gift lol!

lol I hate to say “anxious” just because I don’t always FEEL anxious, but I am certainly not chill. I envy chill people. See also: “not adaptable” lol

I always say I hate transitions which is very true. Not adaptable is good too. I have zero chill in me. Just always wound very tight and ready to explode. Zoloft helps a smidge lol.

[minzy]

Thinking of you jamaicam. I am so sorry for your loss. 😢

[erbear]

My daughter (13) fractured her elbow today jumping off a swing at recess. 8th grade. What are you thinking, child?!

[beerlover]

renna, you're always so kind. Thank you so much <3

[beerlover]

Well, as if things could not get worse.

H and I are moving stuff up off the floor for the exterminator and I'm like oh, better go check the basement b/c it's been raining (lightly) for several days. Sometimes our submersible sump pump is a little wonky, and occasionally requires a jiggle to get going. I believe someone here told me I should probably get that checked out, and then I didn't, because it didn't rain for months. Well, that was a mistake, it's not functioning, I think the float is broken, and I have an emergency person coming out now. Just put it on the credit card and I'll deal with it later, sob.

I am having a bourbon and trying to calm down. Why is all this bad stuff happening??

[countthestars]

Hugs beerlover

[maudefindlay]

beerlover I hope you can get some sleep tonight. You've been thru it lately, but it won't be like this forever. I think the exterminator will be that extra piece you need and hopefully the basement is an easy fix. I bet by this weekend things will be looking up.

[beerlover]

maudefindlay , I am going to the PSU game this weekend (kid free) and I am going to have a GOOD TIME. lol. Just gotta get through the week. I also have a day off on Thursday for Rosh Hashanah so that will help.

Watch, one of us will get sick or something and not be able to go. lol. That's how down about everything I feel right now. :/

I will hopefully get some sleep tonight in my (hopefully not flea covered) sheets. Sob

[wanderingback]

Sept 30, 2024 15:12:52 GMT -5 expectantsteelerfan said:

Sept 30, 2024 10:44:54 GMT -5 janegold said:

My town's like that too. Well, actually, it's not that one group never left but that everyone left and then came back to raise their families.

I'm in a weird in-between because my H is one of the ones who came back, but he doesn't really care about hanging out with people for the most part.  Meanwhile, I moved here barely knowing a soul and although everyone is friendly, it's intimidating trying to break into a social circle of people who have been friends for decades.  I wish H would be more motivated to be social sometimes, but then I remind myself that we have tons of competing priorities right now between little kids, two full time jobs, aging/dying parents - it's okay if socializing isn't a top priority.

My town is similar.  Dh and I both grew up and left, but came back.  I NEVER would have imagined moving back (and we did move to the town next to where we grew up, but it's not much different), but after moving around for the military, it was the best choice for us.  I HATE seeing people I knew from high school but wasn't friends with, but I did reconnect with people I had been friends with, lost touch with during college, and also moved back.  

I would like to meet more people that I haven't known basically my whole life, but I'm also grateful for the group of friends I have.  I like to think we are welcoming to newcomers, but I also get that it's hard.  We are in a book club together, and when new people come and they're like, how did you all meet each other? And several of us are like, oh I've known so and so since we were kids, which I imagine can be off-putting, but we also aren't going to lie...

It’s not off-putting to know people have been friends for a long time. It’s not like something you can help nor would I think anyone would need to lie about something trivial!

[fangoriagurkel]

I just screamed “Pick

[beerlover]

Sept 30, 2024 10:44:54 GMT -5 janegold said:

Sept 30, 2024 8:23:46 GMT -5 bcv513 said:

Also, it continues to amaze me how many people in my town also grew up in town and have never left. There are definitely two "groups" of parents. One that moved to town as adults and another that has always lived there, their parents live there and are friends, etc. It's intimidating.

My town's like that too. Well, actually, it's not that one group never left but that everyone left and then came back to raise their families.

I'm in a weird in-between because my H is one of the ones who came back, but he doesn't really care about hanging out with people for the most part.  Meanwhile, I moved here barely knowing a soul and although everyone is friendly, it's intimidating trying to break into a social circle of people who have been friends for decades.  I wish H would be more motivated to be social sometimes, but then I remind myself that we have tons of competing priorities right now between little kids, two full time jobs, aging/dying parents - it's okay if socializing isn't a top priority.

My town is a bit like like this too. I'm not from here, and I feel like most of DS's peer group in school all are at least 5 years younger than me and all went to HS together, so of course they want to all get their kids together and stuff, and they all have history together, and he's left out of things sometimes. It is what it is, I guess.

[renna]

Sept 30, 2024 20:56:33 GMT -5 beerlover said:

Well, as if things could not get worse.

H and I are moving stuff up off the floor for the exterminator and I'm like oh, better go check the basement b/c it's been raining (lightly) for several days. Sometimes our submersible sump pump is a little wonky, and occasionally requires a jiggle to get going. I believe someone here told me I should probably get that checked out, and then I didn't, because it didn't rain for months. Well, that was a mistake, it's not functioning, I think the float is broken, and I have an emergency person coming out now. Just put it on the credit card and I'll deal with it later, sob.

I am having a bourbon and trying to calm down. Why is all this bad stuff happening??

Oh no! Just what you didn't need. I am so sorry.

I feel like sometimes things just stack up like that. I am sure it's common, but when it hits YOU it is such a huge pain! 

I had to call my bank recently (returning their "Did you buy this?" call) because someone got my credit card number and bought themselves something pricey at Apple! I don't even have a cavalcade of terrible sufferings right now and I was thinking REEEEALLY? 

I remember the exhaustion from dealing with bugs in the house. It really, REALLY is not for the faint of heart. I promise you it WILL come to an end at some point and they will all be gone but it is so taxing going through it (and everything else!)

Here's to a better tomorrow for you!

[beerlover]

On the plus side, H never gets to usually be here when service people are here, and I've sent him to the basement to explain everything to this guy while I sit on my laptop drinking bourbon. #winning

[renna]

jamaicam, I am so sorry for your family in the loss of your father. I hope your travels go smoothly and your time with your mom and family in the UK help salve your wound. ((((hugs for you))))

[renna]

Sept 30, 2024 21:45:39 GMT -5 beerlover said:

On the plus side, H never gets to usually be here when service people are here, and I've sent him to the basement to explain everything to this guy while I sit on my laptop drinking bourbon. #winning

This scene is exactly as it should be. ^^^

[beerlover]

So busy selfishly posting about my own woes, that I didn't read the entire thread yet - jamaicam I'm so sorry for the loss of your father.

[tacokick]

I’m sorry so many are having a rough time! I feel like the board had been going through it lately between family death, pestilence, unruly children and parents, pets! Natural disasters!

Hopefully everyone struggling can turn a corner soon.

[beerlover]

Our sump pump has been rigged with some kind of pool noodle situation to get us through the night (the float is not working, or something IDK, but the noodle situation is helping it), and we're getting a new one in the morning. Between this, the exterminator, and some boiler repairs that we are getting soon to the tune of 1K, RIP my wallet.

[emilyinchile]

Sept 30, 2024 21:31:45 GMT -5 fangoriagurkel said:

I just screamed “Pick

I'm a little worried that something from a horror movie happened, and as you were telling us how you screamed but got away (or so you thought) the monster came back and got you.