Monday

[rere]

Happy Monday

[rere]

It was a pretty low key weekend. Dh is a planner for a company that makes cable for power lines, so he had to be on call for storm orders from the hurricane. He can do it from his laptop, but it's much easier for him with his 3 monitors he has set up downstairs, so we stayed close. They were really ramping up Sunday when people were able to access the extent of the damage.

It rained all weekend, so we just set up everything to can tomato juice in the garage Saturday. Sunday I made a big pot of Spaghetti and meatballs for this week. I also tossed a bunch of old pans, cups, junk from the kitchen to get ready for the remodeling. Our football team won Saturday, so dh and I bought tickets for the next home game before they shot up, so we will go up in a couple of weeks and tailgate with dd.

My annual check up with the cardiologist is today, which I hate. I'm taking the rest of the day off and looking for some Judy Bloom jeans and some local boutiques.

[twinmomma]

This is going to be a crazy busy week. I have a new hire starting today so I'm in the office all week to onboard her. I've also got a quarterly planning meeting that will take up an entire day in the mix. DH is booked solid with catering events this week too so we're both going to be running on fumes by the end of the week. And I think DD2 has to be off book for play rehearsal by this weekend so I'm going to have to help her run lines like crazy to accomplish that.

Somehow I didn't accomplish anything of substance during the kid free weekend, so the house is still a mess, laundry still needs to be done, and I need to prep some food for myself for the week. I honestly have no idea what really happened this weekend. We had some small plans here and there, but it just got away from me. I'll be catching up like crazy tonight while DH is at work.

[mae0111]

It's been a crazy few days. DH dropped a bomb on Friday morning, and I'm reeling. Friday evening was just me and the kids, and I went to bed at like 9pm with a killer migraine.

DD2 skipped her 8am soccer game after falling down the stairs at school and messing up her leg. Nothing torn or broken, but a huge painful bruise that makes running difficult. The kids and I went to homecoming at their school, then I came home early and went back to get them later. DD1 had a friend sleep over Saturday night while DD2 went to a pro soccer game. Sunday they both had friends over while I did laundry and some work.

DH and I were able to talk a bit, but I'm still having a lot of feelings. We tried to come up with a plan before he left yesterday. We spoke to a lawyer a few mins ago. And now I'm super angry all over again.

And in other weird things that happened this weekend, I found out that my ex-FI passed away last week. We were not in touch, it was a terrible breakup, I wished him ill for a long time. But with some distance, I realized that he was a product of a really horrible upbringing, and his death was a sad situation. I have no feelings about it other than feeling sorry for his wife, who is also ill, and their teenage DD. It's just... weird.

[waverly]

Good weekend here. DD and her friend wanted to go to the HS football game, so the whole family went. The 3 of us sat together while DD sat with her friend. Kids in middle school are not allowed to be droppped off.

Saturday, I had a massage. It was nice, but I am still sore from the dentist visit last Tuesday. They tortured me with X-rays for about an hour. And sitting on the bleachers is bad for my back. I need one of those bleacher seats for my old body.

I called my sister, and she talked for about an hour. Basically, nothing we need to do about mom's health right now but a watch and see type situation.

Sunday, DD and I went to the cute fall market downtown, and then DH and I had friends over for a patio drink. DH made a charcuterie board that I requested which was amazing. I had my reasons for having them over, mostly to catch up, but also we got a lot of inside scoop on the high school that DS will be going to next year.

DH and I had a terrible time sleeping. The interwebs had rumors of layoffs in his company, and sure enough DH's boss was let go. It was the right move, and DH had seen the writing on the wall since April. But basically, the guy was a micromanager that made DH do all his work. He didn't even run his meetings, DH had to run them, and anything the guy should have said, he would make DH do it in the meeting, so that this guy wouldn't be the "bad guy". He basically did nothing. DH even wrote his emails for him. Did all of the powerpoints as a group etc. Even so, it is a bit shocking. DH already is running 3 projects and operating a level above, he also had a position created for him in another group, so DH probably will be moving over there. Possibly some restructuring.

[erbear]

mae0111,I hope everything is ok <3

[sdlaura]

Working parent win - I was able to schedule both elementary schoolers' fall parent/teacher conferences back to back.

This weekend involved a lot of running from one event to the next. Saturday was soccer games then hosting a playdate (went to library and playground) then elementary school movie night. Yesterday was two sets of soccer pictures (running behind so it basically took my whole morning), then community Oktoberfest, then first grade birthday pool party. I missed the dog training class yesterday because I couldn't find childcare and that would have meant leaving the bday party early.

DH and DD were 1.5 hours inland yesterday for a 1-day softball tournament. She's on this new team where a dad is the manager and the coaches are two current college softball players. We generally love this set up and the coaches are awesome and running really athletic college-like practices. But yesterday DD was the only kid who wasn't in the line-up to hit for the first two tournament games. DD and DH and I were really confused and wondering if she did something in practice to get singled out? She is generally really coachable and a good sport and teammate, so that would have been out of character. After lots of back and forth between DH and me by text, we decided that I would text the manager to ask. The text was mostly crafted by DH and said "we have noticed that DD is the only player who hasn't batted today. We are wondering if there was an issue you and the coaches want us to address with her, or if there was some other reason she was the only player held out of the lineup? We would just like to be on the same page as you guys." He immediately responded that it had to be an oversight and the coaches were still getting used to some specific tournament rules about how many players can bat and when there's an ability to "flex" etc. So then they put her in the line-up for the third game and she gets up to bat with bases loaded and hits a triple and drives in 3 runs to tie the game. I wish she had more opportunities to bat yesterday just for her development, but was so thrilled that she delivered after we made an issue of it. I think DH and I are less vocal travel softball parents than most about playing time - but DH's position is that she just needs to keep practicing and get better so she's so good they won't be able to forget about her

[dglvrk2]

mae0111 sending you hugs and good vibes

Saturday was rather intense.DD2's soccer team won their first game of the season! Unfortunately, there's only two games left, but hopefully they can continue this streak. My sister was really ill on Saturday. Her motor skills have taken sharp decline in the last couple of weeks. We're not sure if there is any tumor growth in her brain (brain cancer) or if this is a response to her chemo meds. Nevertheless, she could barely get out of bed Saturday. We should have some more answers this afternoon, once she and her husband meet with her oncologist. It was a pretty big damper though... DD1's volleyball team did not do as well as they wanted to in their final tournament. Apparently dd1 made some sloppy mistakes as did several of her teammates. Needless to say, she was tired and unhappy after the series of games. As this was all happening, I received a text from one of my high school besties... It was the obituary for another girl with whom I was close in high school. Apparently she died in an accident last week. It was just shocking and added to and all around emotional overwhelm.

Yesterday was much better, thank goodness! I ran 8 mi in the morning, longer than I've run in over a year. The girls both cleaned their rooms really well. DD1 bounced back from tournament letdown. She baked some amazing desserts and dd2 and I went on the most beautiful fall bike ride. We finished the day with my sister's birthday party. While weak and quiet, She still enjoyed having everyone around and was really appreciative of her gifts and the good food.

This week is starting off well. I'm knocking on wood. One moment at a time 😜

[186momx]

Weekend was full of grocery shopping, laundry, cooking/meal prepping, and trying to finish up some outside projects before the weather turns.

I'm busy at work this week. We have a new mail carrier, and we haven't been getting mail or having our mail picked up at work. I complained last week after not receiving 1 piece of mail in over 7 days. We've gotten 3 pieces of mail since then but in our mail slot that is used when we are closed. We've had outgoing mail 3 times and have had to take it the half block to the post office which isn't the end of the world but dude the guy walks right by our door. When I was complaining 3 other people were also complaining about not getting mail/packages, so I didn't feel as bad.

I 100% hate home access to check on grades. I finally got the district to unlock me from 2 years ago when teachers really started using. But I don't get how the teachers grade or why some classes it looks like she got 80% on the only assignment but has an A+? Also why did the teachers stress that we log in to review grades if all the classes only have 1 assignment done in a month! I would think by 8th grade they should have more graded work than 1 quiz.

[mae0111]

dglvrk2, I'm sorry... that's a lot. I hope your sister is feeling a little bit better...

[erbear]

Mondayiest Monday. DD2 jumped off a swing at recess and fractured her elbow. Guys. She’s 13. Why?!

[mae0111]

erbear - omg! But 100% something DD2 would do. I hope she is feeling better soon!!

[mommyatty]

erbear- oh no!!!

I had a nice weekend. I’m decompressing from the extreme travel the last few weeks. So a little sleep disturbance and 3 am freak outs over all the things I need to do for work and home. And I woke up at 3 this morning with significant migraine. I didn’t puke, but I thought I was going to for a while.

DD had a good practice yesterday followed up by a good practice today. So field hockey is going well. DS and his Fortnite team kick butt at their Tuesday night scrimmages but kind of bite the dust at Saturday games that count. So that’s a head scratcher. His BFF ends every Saturday game with a crying meltdown. His parents think he is autistic. I’m not sure if he’s been officially diagnosed. But he’s definitely got something going on, because he is generally the sweetest, most polite, loving kid.

DD has 2 games over the next two days. And DS has his Fortnite practice. So it’s a busy week for us in terms of after school things.

[waverly]

Hugs mae0111. I'm sorry to hear about your DD's arm erbear.

[waverly]

I have to vent for a minute. This summer, I invited an acquaintence to a neighborhood party. They made it VERY clear that they were only coming because they wanted to borrow an expensive item for their vacation. They then tried to get out of the party, take the item and leave. They brought nothing to the party even though they ate and drank, and the invite said BYOB. 

They acted very strangely, but they had a schedule issue with their work. Behavior was bizarre, and then later on they complained about the day because of their schedule stress (not us). The schedule was all work related or decisions that they made because they had to buy and install something that day in order to borrow the item. This was all on them, I had no idea they wanted to borrow the item until the day before, and I had no idea of their work schedules. We were entirely flexible time wise because we were just hanging out at the party all day. DH helped with installation.

Then time came to return the item, they did manage to do that, but again we hosted this time at our house. Again they brought nothing, no drinks, dessert, but did contribute a small amount when the guys went to the grocery store. We even provided toys to their toddler because they brought nothing.

3 weeks later, I get completely ignored on my birthday even though this person is constantly on social media. After we hosted them twice and let them borrow an expensive item. I get they went from friend to acquaintence because of their behavior during the last 3 years, but even acquaintences say happy birthday. I set a big boundary with them, and I only let them borrow the item because DH said oh just let them.  I don't know how to set more boundaries when my boundary is already very strict, only invite once a year.  Maybe the boundary is don't invite them to anything in two years (ever?).  After they got what they wanted, they went right back to ignoring us which is their MO.  They invite us about once a year, usually when they know we are on vacation, and one year they threw a huge guilt trip that we couldn't make it. I've been baffled by their behavior for a long time.  But the ties are already so loose between us, I don't know how to cut ties even more. 

[supertrooper1]

mae0111, I hope you're doing ok. erbear, hopefully it's a quick heal! waverly, I would probably drop them as friends. Sounds like they just take advantage of you.

The weekend was ok. Saturday I had a bunch of stuff planned but woke up nauseous and dizzy. I think it was a migraine without the headache. I had to cancel all of my plans and stayed in bed half the day. Beau and DS were so sweet checking on me and making me food that I unfortunately couldn't keep down. I was back to normal Sunday so we went to the Halloween store like I had planned on Saturday and picked up dinner to take to my parents.

[waverly]

supertrooper1, Yeah they already aren't even friends. I thought that I could invite someone as an acquaintence, but I probably won't invite them to the neighborhood party again or anything else for that matter.