I have an interview today at noon. I'm nervous. I've been doing desk jobs my whole life. I need something different, so I applied to be an assistant manager at a convenience store chain. I think it could actually be fun, but I have zero experience, so I really need to sell myself, which I'm not great at doing. I have very low self esteem.
Pretend you are a mediocre white male. If they can do it, anyone can.
I'm not actually kidding. But what I would focus on are the skills you learned in your jobs - think of key words that might work with the key words for an assistant manager job. And remember - they are interviewing you because they see something positive. And then just fake it. That's what a lot of us do. (I pretend I'm the most amazing person ever but also humble, so I feel really good about myself but I only slightly brag about my skills...acting for the win!).
My kid is taking the 9th grade? PSAT tomorrow. She has ADHD and other issues and has been a huge jerk to me this week so she seems to be overall a wreck. As far as I know, they have done no prep and possibly not even talked about it? in class because other than it being on the school schedule tomorrow she seems to know nothing about it and neither do I.
I am on an all day client call that is draining the life out of me. I didn't have to be there in person because my dad is in surgery, I don't know how my boss is making it through.
If I have to hear someone say "controls" or "growth" again......argh
I was up till 2am last Tuesday after the Pink concert then had to get up at 6 to make sure DS was up and off to school. Sunday we drove 4 hours, had brunch, tailgated (I didn’t drink much) and went to the Steelers/Cowboys game that didn’t end till 1 and didn’t go to sleep till 230 and still woke up at 730 and drove four hours home yesterday….well rode. DH drove. Regardless I think it is going to take me all week to recover from two nights in a week of staying up that late.
How do you handle grief in a family across multiple developmental stages? As I shared in yesterday's randoms, our dog passed away yesterday.
My 5 yo DS is speaking very bluntly and matter of factly about it, loudly and to everyone he encounters. I know it's normal, and DD did the same thing when our last dog died when she was 3. She also spoke the same way about my mom, who died when she was an infant, but she "experienced" the loss later when, as a toddler or preschooler, she realized that her paternal grandparents came in a couple and on my side there was just one, where was the missing one? Anyway.
DD is now almost 9, and is taking Marcy's death predictably hard. It's exceedingly difficult for her to hear how DS talks about her. It's hard for me too, but at least I have the perspective to know he isn't trivializing it, and he's not being mean, it's just where he's at developmentally.
Apart from separating them via activities as much as possible outside of school, what do you do to get everybody through it intact? The big feelings are not surprising, but they are grinding our house to an absolute halt at all times. I hate how much harder DS's experience is making DD's.
I didn't get more than two minutes of the interview. She asked about management experience and I told her I didn't have any. She cut me off and said I had to have management experience. I tried to tell her of my over 25+ years professional experience, but she wouldn't listen. What really ticks me off is that the job posting made no mention of needing experience. I told her they need to put that in the ad, so as to not waste people's time. I'm so, so discouraged. I hate my current job and I can't even get a call from anyone.
I came in the office to get my flu shot today (we have a clinic every year) and to move into a newer, smaller cubicle. I personally don't really care because I only come in a few times a week but a lot of other people are annoyed.
However, someone took my two monitors and my internet connection does not work. And my arm hurts already from the flu shot.
Today was treatment #2 by the exterminator for our flea issue. Ever the professional I am, I told him to please "spray the shit out of my bedroom" because we're still seeing some in there.
This situation has really put into perspective how much I actually do at home (aka, basically everything), since I WFH and it's just easier and more convenient for me to do. Yes, my job's pretty easy and flexible and we outsource some things like the lawn and cleaning every 2 weeks, but I still take care of arranging EVERYTHING including car maintenance, all the routine house maintenance/service, just...everything, if I can't say that enough, lol. Like this morning, I had to make sure everything was up off the floor, everything was vaccuumed, the cats were in the garage, communicate with exterminator dude, oh and I also had to work and get ready to leave for 4 hours etc, while my H just gets to work, and that's it. And then tonight he has his doctoral class so I will be stuck putting most things away unless I want to wait until after 8pm. I feel like something needs to change or I need to have him take "something" over, IDK what though. But then I have to be OK with him doing it on his timeline and not being naggy and I don't know if I can do that, lol.
I'm sitting up at a friend's now using her wifi and then taking myself to lunch.
Post by lavenderblue on Oct 8, 2024 12:55:25 GMT -5
I just realized that when I got home from the office yesterday and removed all of my jewelry, I forgot to take out one of my earrings. I can't wear anything other than gold or titanium for longer than a few hours, so that explains why my ear has been so itchy today. It was just a stud earring, so all the times I scratched my ear even I didn't notice that I was wearing an extra earring still. Whoops.
My kid is taking the 9th grade? PSAT tomorrow. She has ADHD and other issues and has been a huge jerk to me this week so she seems to be overall a wreck. As far as I know, they have done no prep and possibly not even talked about it? in class because other than it being on the school schedule tomorrow she seems to know nothing about it and neither do I.
David's taking the PSAT at the end of the month. The school told us specifically not to prep for this. This is to get a feel of where you're starting from, what your strengths/weaknesses are, etc. I told David not to stress over it and just do his best.
Welp, we just an email from the high school about those taking the PSAT being required to complete a 'digital readiness check' tomorrow during a certain time frame, so now I feel more confident that that is all the preparing he'll need to do. Now to keep fingers crossed he actually does it.
I think he's a sophomore, right? He's probably taking the PSAT10 or the NMSQT psat, but the latter is only a qualifying test when taken in 11th grade. So yes, just a practice test.
FYI- the scoring scales are lower on the PSATs than the SAT, so the scores themselves are not super predictive of later scores. The percentiles can be, with the caveat that the tests are designed for a very specific math progression (the actual SAT assumes students have just completed Algebra 2 and started precalc).
We put our "tough" hurricane shutters up yesterday when we had a break from the rain. We will do the rest tomorrow morning (because yes- it makes the house so dark).
I actually took a nap today (I haven't been sleeping well) and it was super nice with the panels on our windows. So dark! I would consider keeping them up in the bedrooms if that wouldn't be weird (it would, lol).
All the parents of HSers with accommodations for their kids- it is a whole process to get accomodations* on the SAT/ACT. I don't know exactly what has to happen, but i know that if parents wait too long it doesn't happen- so please ask early.
Post by maudefindlay on Oct 8, 2024 13:16:43 GMT -5
DH left for Mexico yesterday. All 3 kids had events going on last night at the same/overlapping times, but we all survived. DD had her fall concert and all of the band directors from each elementary school took turns directions songs, so each took a minute to introduce themselves and share a little something. By the 5th director the kid behind me yelled "Oh come on!" We all feel you kid.
DS1 is taking his PSAT right now. I'll ask him how it went, but there was no prep. He attended a meeting last week where they talked thru how it would all work, but that's it.
DS2 got his 3 best friends as roommates on his school DC trip which is in 2 weeks.
I met with our builders this AM. The HOA approved our plans, they just want our house moved back 15 ft on our lot, ok. Digging to begin the week after next. I changed colors, but I think now all the big exterior decisions have been made.
I tried the "cool girl" wave again this morning with much more success! Woohoo! Progress!
Also, someone please take my credit card away from me. I apparently have zero willpower.
I'm old. What's the cool girl wave?
Essentially it's using a flat iron to add waves to your hair. I follow Ashley Streicher on Insta and now on substack; she's a celeb stylist who posts both life stuff and tutorials. I don't know if she coined the term, or if everyone calls it that.
How do you handle grief in a family across multiple developmental stages? As I shared in yesterday's randoms, our dog passed away yesterday.
My 5 yo DS is speaking very bluntly and matter of factly about it, loudly and to everyone he encounters. I know it's normal, and DD did the same thing when our last dog died when she was 3. She also spoke the same way about my mom, who died when she was an infant, but she "experienced" the loss later when, as a toddler or preschooler, she realized that her paternal grandparents came in a couple and on my side there was just one, where was the missing one? Anyway.
DD is now almost 9, and is taking Marcy's death predictably hard. It's exceedingly difficult for her to hear how DS talks about her. It's hard for me too, but at least I have the perspective to know he isn't trivializing it, and he's not being mean, it's just where he's at developmentally.
Apart from separating them via activities as much as possible outside of school, what do you do to get everybody through it intact? The big feelings are not surprising, but they are grinding our house to an absolute halt at all times. I hate how much harder DS's experience is making DD's.
I think it's ok to tell your son that speaking so directly about Marcy right now is hard for his sister. Emphasize that he isn't doing anything wrong but sometimes when people are sad they need some time to process before they are comfortable talking about it. I would also maybe read him the book, "Ida, Always." In it, Gus is at first very upset when Ida dies but slowly comes to realizes she lives on in his heart and memories.
Essentially it's using a flat iron to add waves to your hair. I follow Ashley Streicher on Insta and now on substack; she's a celeb stylist who posts both life stuff and tutorials. I don't know if she coined the term, or if everyone calls it that.
Essentially it's using a flat iron to add waves to your hair. I follow Ashley Streicher on Insta and now on substack; she's a celeb stylist who posts both life stuff and tutorials. I don't know if she coined the term, or if everyone calls it that.
Post by EvieEthelGarland on Oct 8, 2024 15:20:36 GMT -5
A few weeks ago I had to call search and rescue for my son while we were hiking. Everything ended up fine, but since then he got his license and is running all over the Cascades before the weather gets too bad. I loved having an outdoorsy kid when he was 8 but 16 is killing me. I'm trying to keep my anxiety in check, but it's hard! And I'm not feeling confident in my ability to be reasonable. How did my parents let me out in a car without air bags? Without a cell phone?
After 4 hours waiting in queue yesterday and a half hour today, my core college friend group scored tickets to the Turnpike - Cross Canadian concert. We cannot wait to relive the college days for a weekend. I'd prefer to see them again in a dance hall with a $10 cover, but the stadium will do.
A few weeks ago I had to call search and rescue for my son while we were hiking. Everything ended up fine, but since then he got his license and is running all over the Cascades before the weather gets too bad. I loved having an outdoorsy kid when he was 8 but 16 is killing me. I'm trying to keep my anxiety in check, but it's hard! And I'm not feeling confident in my ability to be reasonable. How did my parents let me out in a car without air bags? Without a cell phone?
Oh man, my outdoorsy kid gets his license in less than two weeks, and I see this as my future.
He already has Life 360, but I'm already worried about him crashing while mountain biking alone, and it hasn't even come up yet.
Last year DS took the PSAT 10, he did one practice test at home before it just to get a feel for the questions, format, etc. He really, really surprised us with his score (in a good way lol) so this year DH had him do 2 or 3 practice tests since the score counts for something this time around. His first language/reading one was fine so he only did one practice for that. Math he had clearly forgotten some basics of algebra so it's good we did the practice. I mean, he missed problems 47 year old me still remembers how to do lol. So hopefully tomorrow goes smoothly and he remembers how to find the angle of a triangle lol.