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[186momx]

Anyone have anything?

[186momx]

DD gets her braces off on 11/6!

The spaghetti noodle water splashed all over me last night. It went through my pj pants, and I have a nasty burn on the inside of my left leg. You never heard me scream or strip so quickly. DD was very nice and got my dry pants and finished dealing with dinner while I iced my red welting leg. DH popped his head in from the garage and turned around went back to whatever he was doing. I didn't sleep well because my leg is throbbing.

[rere]

I had one staff resign this morning. It's not a bad thing. She's going through a lot and really can't produce everything needed at this time. But I'm really going to need my director to outline what he wants in this position. If I had my way, we would not rehire and would reformat and re title the entire job to what I actually need. But for some reason he really wants it like it is. Fine, then outline what you want done so I don't have to babysit and come up with work.

Plus, I worked from home yesterday to get my new internet installed. My current service is terrible. They text in the middle of the morning to cancel. Turns out the main line isn't even ready. I think you could have figured that out in enough time so that the entire neighborhood didn't stay home waiting for installation.

And my cabinet guy is now saying December. It was supposed to be before Thanksgiving. If they try to schedule when the kids are home and we are making all the Christmas things, it's not going to happen. I'll push it to January

I'm not a happy camper this morning.

[mae0111]

rere, I would 100% not try to do anything to your cabinets at any point in December. I feel like that stuff is never as easy/straightforward/on schedule as they say, no matter what. And if by some miracle they're able to keep to the schedule they promise, you'll still be stressed/worried that they won't (at least, I would be...)

Wait until January and just remove all that stress!!!

[k3am]

rere I agree, wait until after the holidays. You’ll have more than enough going on. …. So says the woman hoping to start a major renovation in late November.

TWERK: DD officially quit the sync team yesterday. I refrained from giving her coach any complaints we have and DD just said that a 4pm practice and the challenges of middle school aren’t compatible. Her coach said they’re going to change practice to 6:15 for a while, but DD was resolute, so I think she knows it was a convenient excuse.

[mommyatty]

I had a recruiter reach out to me about a job in Canada. It sounds really intriguing. It also sounds like they are being super picky and I’m not going to be the snowflake they’re hoping to find. So I’m kind of sad about that, even though honestly we can’t afford to live in Toronto anyway. But omg I would love to move to Canada.

[mae0111]

A bit of an update... DH has to go out of town again next week to deal with the mess he caused when he was out of town a few weeks ago. The impact of his stupidity and selfishness with definitely impact our family, but hopefully for not quite as long as we initially thought. Once he comes back, we will be sitting down with the kids to explain what he did, the result of his actions, and how that will affect them. I do not know how DD2 will react. DD1 will NOT react well because she will be probably more affected than DD2.

DH is incredibly remorseful and has committed to making big changes. But he hasn't spelled out his exact plan... because I don't think he has one yet. So I'm still not 100% convinced that this incident is going to change anything in the long run. I really, really want to believe him and trust him but I... don't. I will be very open with how I'm feeling, which means he has to understand that I'm going to question him and be worried. He understands and has answered all of my questions, canceled plans that I'm uncomfortable about, etc.

I'm doing OK. I've spent a lot of time gathering information for myself and for us. Lots of research. It's just a lot of wait and see right now. I'm planning to take some time to myself next weekend and go to our beach house alone, but that plan may have to be canceled depending on the result of DH's trip. If I try to push it of at all, even for one more week, it won't happen... possibly for like a year. So I'm really hoping it will be OK. I need to be away from the day to day noise to really think about things.

[twinmomma]

DH and I are leaving for vacation tomorrow morning! I am so, so ready for this break for us. We need a change of scenery to reset and relax. Of course, I'm in total vacation mode today and haven't accomplished much of anything for work. I haven't even started packing either, so my brain is focused on that and making panic lists.

[mommyatty]

I feel like I deserve a medal for this.

For 9 years, since DD was 3, we have given 5 figure donations to her school. Last year, when we wanted DS to return, they told us they “couldn’t support a child with his diagnoses.” Not that he couldn’t make it academically (he had for 5 years before we pulled him), not that he would have behavior issues (he never did), not that he would have issues socially (he still hangs out with friends from that school). But basically that they were choosing to discriminate against a disabled kid based on his diagnoses.

This year, we are now in the annual fund drive. I chaired the drive for DD’s class for 4 years. I’ve gotten 4 texts, multiple emails, and two messages through Facebook Messenger. I have not responded to a single one with, “Hahahahaha, no.”

And I am beyond thrilled to see they’re rocking a 26% participation rate among families. Which includes all the teachers who are forced to contribute. Sucks to suck, I guess!

[librarychica]

There was a hurricane. We are fine with only minor damage. I’ve very tired of hurricanes.

[sdlaura]

mae0111 I don’t mean to be nosy, but have you shared what happened? Of course you don’t have to, just curious. I hope you continue to deal as gracefully as you have seemed to with the fallout of whatever it was!

[waverly]

Oct 10, 2024 15:19:37 GMT -5 librarychica said:

There was a hurricane. We are fine with only minor damage. I’ve very tired of hurricanes.

I was thinking of you today. Glad the damage is minimal.

[k3am]

I don’t hate not working. DH’s salary can cover us and I’m not sure how DD could be doing this well in middle school if I wasn’t home when she got out of school.

I have only been casually job shopping. My former mentor gave my name to a couple people before he even knew I was being laid off. I’ve followed up to be polite. It wasn’t the best fit, but the guy liked me for another role they’d have down the road. I’ve done a couple informal interviews and now they finally have the job posted. I left at an SVP level, this would be VP level, and the posted salary range is 55-85% of my prior base. I’m not sure how hard (or if) I want to pursue it, or even what their wiggle room would be. It’s also posted in two locations - my VHCOL area and one of the country’s cheapest. I just want to be independently wealthy and a lady of leisure!!

[mae0111]

sdlaura, I haven't said specifically what happened. Just that it's a mess and it will be with us for a long time to come. He wants to keep it quiet. That will be impossible since I'm going to have to reach out to people for logistical help since he won't be able to do anything. Also there's the was a newspaper article about the incident, but luckily it didn't happen local to us.

mommyatty, I LOVE your response and your attitude toward the fundraising! At the kids' old school, we gave what we could our first year there, but DH's fledgling business was really just getting going. And then the nightmares started... and that coincided with DH's business taking off. So I like to think that the principal choked just a little when she found out that we were pulling out kids and sending them to a school that was $$$$... and that we had SO MUCH POTENTIAL to donate to OldSchool... but we didn't give a dime beyond what was required. They tried to solicit donations a few times after we left, and I told them plainly and bluntly that they needed to remove our names from their lists immediately.

[mae0111]

k3am, I feel exactly the same as you about not working. I'm working PT right now and have been for the past 7 years, and it's been really helpful for our family to have someone really focused on our neurodivergent kids. There is no way in the world that I could have managed everything that we've endured with schools, learning differences, social issues, etc., if I was working FT at my old company. That place was the worst as far as work/life balance. Truly terrible. Working a very flexible PT schedule has been incredibly beneficial.

Is there any opportunity for consulting with your skillset? Or PT as a contractor? If your DH can carry the insurance, there's a ton of upside to a setup like that...

[k3am]

mae0111, my industry doesn't have much in the way of consultants, unless you want to be on the business development side, which I don't. There is a lot of regulatory/compliance issues/hoops to jump through. (I've actually *never* heard of a consultant in my line of work, even temp workers aren't a thing.)

I put the application in today. On the plus side, the commute would be ~25 mins vs. 45 mins compared to what I was doing (although compared to the 0 that I'm doing now...) Best case scenario, they come up in salary (I don't care about title so much), worst case scenario, I tell them no.

I had lunch with my old boss who accepted the offer with the subsidiary (the only one of us who did so).. he said if I want to run out the clock on my severance and explore working there again, they'd all love to have me back. The big boss there has texted a few times as well. Just a matter of if it's something I'd actually want to do or not... there's a reason I took the severance vs the job offer, after all.

[mommyatty]

I went to the gym this morning. I didn’t do a ton, mainly just walked on the treadmill and lifted the 10 lb medicine ball in different ways. But I feel so accomplished just having gotten out of my house in my exercise clothes and having done something. 

[mustardseed2007]

mommyatty, I joined Orange Theory a couple weeks ago. I really used to feel like it was so over priced for what it is. It probably still is overpriced for what it is but it's the perfect level of gym interaction for me right now and really boosts my day when I go.

[sdlaura]

mustardseed2007 I’m an orange theory addict. I’ve done CrossFit, kettlebell, regular gym stuff, etc, but have never found such a good total body workout in one hour as orange theory. I love that there are studios nationwide too for when I travel, and they all have showers. I have to stop myself from doing it everyday because I have such an endorphin high when I’m done (but I know I’d injure myself if I did). I think I pay $189 a month and do it 3-4x a week, so works out to pretty cheap per class.

[mustardseed2007]

Yeah it’s much cheaper than personal training too which is nice.

[dglvrk2]

Oct 10, 2024 11:08:16 GMT -5 k3am said:

rere I agree, wait until after the holidays. You’ll have more than enough going on. …. So says the woman hoping to start a major renovation in late November.

TWERK: DD officially quit the sync team yesterday. I refrained from giving her coach any complaints we have and DD just said that a 4pm practice and the challenges of middle school aren’t compatible. Her coach said they’re going to change practice to 6:15 for a while, but DD was resolute, so I think she knows it was a convenient excuse.

What is sync team? Whatever it is, sounds like your DD made the right move

[k3am]

Oct 14, 2024 8:14:03 GMT -5 dglvrk2 said:

Oct 10, 2024 11:08:16 GMT -5 k3am said:

rere I agree, wait until after the holidays. You’ll have more than enough going on. …. So says the woman hoping to start a major renovation in late November.

TWERK: DD officially quit the sync team yesterday. I refrained from giving her coach any complaints we have and DD just said that a 4pm practice and the challenges of middle school aren’t compatible. Her coach said they’re going to change practice to 6:15 for a while, but DD was resolute, so I think she knows it was a convenient excuse.

What is sync team? Whatever it is, sounds like your DD made the right move

Synchronized skating. She’s been doing it for 3 years now and loved it until maybe April or May of this year (only two months into this season).