Weekend randoms

[sunnysally]

Nov 3, 2024 13:05:33 GMT -5 SusanBAnthony said:

Nov 3, 2024 12:52:39 GMT -5 childofhiphop said:

I am feeling the itch to redecorate my living room.

I’m thinking about a modern curved sofa (not sectional) to add some pizazz/umph. DH is stuck on a standard sofa from Costco with the lounge and does not understand that having a chaise doesn’t make it “jazzy”.

This is cracking me up, it 100% reminds of me and h. I would want the curved sofa and he would be completely baffled that we ever need to redecorate the living room between when we bought the house and when we die.

You will not be shocked to hear that both his parents (divorced so two households) both have time capsule houses where nothing has been changed for decades because it's "still perfectly good".

Hahaha, this is me. I don't feel the need to redecorate and will only get new stuff when the old is worn out. Furniture is expensive and it isn't something that brings me joy.

[lostrn]

Nov 3, 2024 13:27:01 GMT -5 sunnysally said:

Nov 3, 2024 13:05:33 GMT -5 SusanBAnthony said:

This is cracking me up, it 100% reminds of me and h. I would want the curved sofa and he would be completely baffled that we ever need to redecorate the living room between when we bought the house and when we die.

You will not be shocked to hear that both his parents (divorced so two households) both have time capsule houses where nothing has been changed for decades because it's "still perfectly good".

Hahaha, this is me. I don't feel the need to redecorate and will only get new stuff when the old is worn out. Furniture is expensive and it isn't something that brings me joy.

Ditto. And a significant portion of our furniture is hand me downs or craigslist finds lol

[momin2013]

Nov 3, 2024 13:27:01 GMT -5 sunnysally said:

Nov 3, 2024 13:05:33 GMT -5 SusanBAnthony said:

This is cracking me up, it 100% reminds of me and h. I would want the curved sofa and he would be completely baffled that we ever need to redecorate the living room between when we bought the house and when we die.

You will not be shocked to hear that both his parents (divorced so two households) both have time capsule houses where nothing has been changed for decades because it's "still perfectly good".

Hahaha, this is me. I don't feel the need to redecorate and will only get new stuff when the old is worn out. Furniture is expensive and it isn't something that brings me joy.

This is also me! Much to my DH’s chagrin, I have no desire to redecorate ever and will keep the same furniture as long as it’s still good.

[tennisgal]

It’s that time of year….i was in our basement utility room yesterday and saw a mouse. Dh set a bunch of traps and caught a bunch 🤢 He then cleaned those and reset more and caught a few more. Gahhhh. If you need me, I will NOT be in our basement!

[ny96]

H and I currently have two arguments going on. The first one is that we both filled out our mail in ballots this weekend. I dropped mine in the ballot box at the library while he dropped his in the regular mailbox. I maintain this is a poor choice so close to the election.

The other argument which has been going on for a while and was heightened on Halloween is around dog training. We have a two year old dog who is extremely gentle with the kids, but is harder and harder to manage around other people. She is fine when she’s in the house and ok on walks with just me or H, but anytime we walk together as a family she gets super anxious and pulls at the leash to try to keep up with the kids making walks miserable because of her behavior and the endless arguments we have with the kids about not taking their bikes or scooters. Her worst behavior is at home when we have guests or someone comes to the door. She barks, snaps, and has bitten a child. And then Halloween happened. She was totally fine trick or treating with us last year, but this year she freaked out, barking and snapping. I put her on a short leash and took her home immediately. For now our remedy that we don’t have kids over anymore, the kids can’t walk her on their own, and we don’t take her on family walks anymore, but I hate that (although H doesn’t like kid chaos so he’s happy to have a reason not to have kids at our house). All that to say I’m heavily arguing for hiring an animal behaviorist to help with training and H doesn’t want to spend the money, stating that her behavior is never going to change enough to see a drastic improvement and so it’s a waste. I just want to scream.

[scm1011]

Is there anything more miserable than family photo shoot day? DH acts so put out. My 7 year old DS lost his mind that I made him wear :gasp: pants with a button. DD tried to stick her tongue out in every photo, and the dog was overstimulated. Here’s hoping we get one good shot for a holiday card.

[gretchenindisguise]

I am so annoyed. We finally decided to tackle our primary bathroom. We bleached the mildew, scraped the old cracking paint, primed with kilz mildew primer, and have done 2 coats of marquee behr paint. I try to exclusively use Benjamin Moore, but by the time we got our acts together yesterday, our local place was closed and I was at home depot anyway, so I grabbed a gallon of the “better” behr paint. It has been over 2 hours since our last coat and it still looks blotchy as hell.

H is telling me to wait 4 to see if it gets any better. If it doesn’t, I am going to be so pissed.

[deadwing]

Nov 3, 2024 15:39:43 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

I am so annoyed. We finally decided to tackle our primary bathroom. We bleached the mildew, scraped the old cracking paint, primed with kilz mildew primer, and have done 2 coats of marquee behr paint. I try to exclusively use Benjamin Moore, but by the time we got our acts together yesterday, our local place was closed and I was at home depot anyway, so I grabbed a gallon of the “better” behr paint. It has been over 2 hours since our last coat and it still looks blotchy as hell.

H is telling me to wait 4 to see if it gets any better. If it doesn’t, I am going to be so pissed.

I will never use behr paint again after pulling the tape off pulled huge swaths of paint off the walls. I hope you have a better experience!

[TR]

Nov 3, 2024 15:11:35 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Is there anything more miserable than family photo shoot day? DH acts so put out. My 7 year old DS lost his mind that I made him wear :gasp: pants with a button. DD tried to stick her tongue out in every photo, and the dog was overstimulated. Here’s hoping we get one good shot for a holiday card.

I would love to get a holiday card with one of the kids sticking their tongue out haha

[dcn]

Nov 3, 2024 15:11:35 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Is there anything more miserable than family photo shoot day? DH acts so put out. My 7 year old DS lost his mind that I made him wear :gasp: pants with a button. DD tried to stick her tongue out in every photo, and the dog was overstimulated. Here’s hoping we get one good shot for a holiday card.

The year ds2 was 2, he just would not smile even a little for our family photos. He is pouting or giving side eye in every single shot. I love them haha!

[gretchenindisguise]

Nov 3, 2024 16:07:33 GMT -5 deadwing said:

Nov 3, 2024 15:39:43 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

I am so annoyed. We finally decided to tackle our primary bathroom. We bleached the mildew, scraped the old cracking paint, primed with kilz mildew primer, and have done 2 coats of marquee behr paint. I try to exclusively use Benjamin Moore, but by the time we got our acts together yesterday, our local place was closed and I was at home depot anyway, so I grabbed a gallon of the “better” behr paint. It has been over 2 hours since our last coat and it still looks blotchy as hell.

H is telling me to wait 4 to see if it gets any better. If it doesn’t, I am going to be so pissed.

I will never use behr paint again after pulling the tape off pulled huge swaths of paint off the walls. I hope you have a better experience!

Oh god. I just pulled off the tape 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I usually don’t use it but H did. Yay for retouching! 🤬

[momin2013]

gretchenindisguise, ack! Did you pull it all off yet? A good trick is to use a razor blade or sharp knife to score along the edge before pulling the tape off…

[scm1011]

Nov 3, 2024 16:17:29 GMT -5 TR said:

Nov 3, 2024 15:11:35 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Is there anything more miserable than family photo shoot day? DH acts so put out. My 7 year old DS lost his mind that I made him wear :gasp: pants with a button. DD tried to stick her tongue out in every photo, and the dog was overstimulated. Here’s hoping we get one good shot for a holiday card.

I would love to get a holiday card with one of the kids sticking their tongue out haha

Well happy to put you on my list because it’s high likelihood that DD will be tongue out lol

[scm1011]

Nov 3, 2024 16:26:57 GMT -5 dcn said:

Nov 3, 2024 15:11:35 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Is there anything more miserable than family photo shoot day? DH acts so put out. My 7 year old DS lost his mind that I made him wear :gasp: pants with a button. DD tried to stick her tongue out in every photo, and the dog was overstimulated. Here’s hoping we get one good shot for a holiday card.

The year ds2 was 2, he just would not smile even a little for our family photos. He is pouting or giving side eye in every single shot. I love them haha!

We have daycare holiday photos where 2 year old DS is holding a wood sign saying “Joy” over a hysterically crying infant DD. I made it into an ornament lol. It makes me laugh so hard.

[bsp36]

We alternate holidays-this year his family Thanksgiving. I had told my H we could have his mom, brother and aunt/uncle over. Today he laid the groundwork-she is cooking and having other son, aunt & uncle over. Sooo we are off the hook for holidays with his family? I offered if it fell through we could have people. Ok. So she knows we are in town. I am not mad about this just a little WTF. Especially how much he helped her with her chemo appointments and canceled a vacation so he could help her move. He is already looking at Hyvee to order.

[deadwing]

Nov 3, 2024 16:40:20 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Nov 3, 2024 16:07:33 GMT -5 deadwing said:

I will never use behr paint again after pulling the tape off pulled huge swaths of paint off the walls. I hope you have a better experience!

Oh god. I just pulled off the tape 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I usually don’t use it but H did. Yay for retouching! 🤬

I'm so sorry. This was how I learned tape should be removed while the paint is still wet. I wish I had a picture of how bad it was.

[emilyinchile]

ny96 I am fully team professional help and hope you can convince your H. In the meantime, something that is helping Cookie's anxiety is to take food/treats on walks and throw her little pieces when I see a "threat" coming. Just having that as a distraction to break her concentration has made such a difference, and you could do it at home too when you have people coming over. She is the least food motivated dog I've ever known (she rejected a piece of ham the other day?!), so hopefully if your dog is more normal in terms of liking treats it might be an even more effective strategy, and at least it's something free to try!

[eb777888]

Nov 3, 2024 17:34:58 GMT -5 deadwing said:

Nov 3, 2024 16:40:20 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Oh god. I just pulled off the tape 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I usually don’t use it but H did. Yay for retouching! 🤬

I'm so sorry. This was how I learned tape should be removed while the paint is still wet. I wish I had a picture of how bad it was.

I've pulled it off wet, too and it was also an issue for me. Maybe I wasn't doing it right. I prefer to use an angled brush to do edges, no tape. It's so much less touch up for me in the end. 

[beerlover]

ny96, I'm sorry that happened to your son. I would have been crushed by that too

plutosmoon you're right about small towns being challenging. I hope DS finds his people. He's friendly with enough kids (as in, if we run into a kid somewhere, they seem happy to see him and play with him), he gets invited to some bday parties, has some neighbor friends he plays with, but he isn't like, getting invited to some of these sleepovers and other smaller gatherings. I know he's only in 2nd grade and friendships change all the time at this age, too. It just feels like because maybe he isn't the sportiest, it might be harder to find his friend group. IDK I'm just rambling. I hate worrying about this.

[beerlover]

Lord, last night I ended up going out with a friend. I had 2 smallish glasses of wine at the house, and then we walked to a bar and I had two cocktails. For some reason, I was ROCKED (and I have a pretty good tolerance!). My friend said she held onto my arm on the walk home b/c she thought I was going to fall, lol. And then I went to bed in my makeup and without brushing my teeth, which I never do. Gross. I will have to be more careful there in the future.

We mainly just had a lazy day besides a 40ish minute hike this afternoon, some laundry, and grocery pickup. I'm feeling very tired right now. I can't believe Election Week is upon us.

ETA- DS made a video of himself pretending to open a door and missing, a la Trump and the garbage truck. It's pretty hilarious

[mrsukyankee]

Nov 3, 2024 14:45:20 GMT -5 ny96 said:

H and I currently have two arguments going on. The first one is that we both filled out our mail in ballots this weekend. I dropped mine in the ballot box at the library while he dropped his in the regular mailbox. I maintain this is a poor choice so close to the election.

The other argument which has been going on for a while and was heightened on Halloween is around dog training. We have a two year old dog who is extremely gentle with the kids, but is harder and harder to manage around other people. She is fine when she’s in the house and ok on walks with just me or H, but anytime we walk together as a family she gets super anxious and pulls at the leash to try to keep up with the kids making walks miserable because of her behavior and the endless arguments we have with the kids about not taking their bikes or scooters. Her worst behavior is at home when we have guests or someone comes to the door. She barks, snaps, and has bitten a child. And then Halloween happened. She was totally fine trick or treating with us last year, but this year she freaked out, barking and snapping. I put her on a short leash and took her home immediately. For now our remedy that we don’t have kids over anymore, the kids can’t walk her on their own, and we don’t take her on family walks anymore, but I hate that (although H doesn’t like kid chaos so he’s happy to have a reason not to have kids at our house). All that to say I’m heavily arguing for hiring an animal behaviorist to help with training and H doesn’t want to spend the money, stating that her behavior is never going to change enough to see a drastic improvement and so it’s a waste. I just want to scream.

We hired a behaviourist and put our dog on Prozac. While he still barks sometimes and he still doesn't like people in the house, he doesn't and won't bite. We've seen huge changes in his behaviour. We had to both be on board with her suggestions and put them in practice all the time. And continue until he dies. It's not easy and not fun and it's worth it.

[beerlover]

scm1011, my son also loses his mind when presented with the idea that he has to wear a pant that buttons. Or a shirt that buttons, for that matter. It's tiring. All of our "nice" pants right now are Target or Old Navy with the drawstring waist. At least that seems more like a sweatpant then.

[scm1011]

Nov 4, 2024 7:37:59 GMT -5 beerlover said:

scm1011 , my son also loses his mind when presented with the idea that he has to wear a pant that buttons. Or a shirt that buttons, for that matter. It's tiring. All of our "nice" pants right now are Target or Old Navy with the drawstring waist. At least that seems more like a sweatpant then.

Ha DS won't even do those - joggers or bust. I generally don't care but c'mon kid, give me an hour in a pair of corduroys and a button down so I can get a nice photo. 

[nancybotwin]

Nov 4, 2024 8:33:55 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Nov 4, 2024 7:37:59 GMT -5 beerlover said:

scm1011 , my son also loses his mind when presented with the idea that he has to wear a pant that buttons. Or a shirt that buttons, for that matter. It's tiring. All of our "nice" pants right now are Target or Old Navy with the drawstring waist. At least that seems more like a sweatpant then.

Ha DS won't even do those - joggers or bust. I generally don't care but c'mon kid, give me an hour in a pair of corduroys and a button down so I can get a nice photo. 

DS is turning 11 (today!) and it’s only been in the last 2-3 months, maybe, that he will wear pants with a button. I used to prepare him for MONTHS about upcoming events at which he’d need to dress nicely. It helped that he knew an event with “fancy clothes” was coming. By fancy clothes I meant…a button.