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[DotAndBuzz]

My oldest is going to college in a year and a half. I was thinking about this today, and I think I’m going to ask her pediatrician, and ob/gyn (we have a peds one because of other issues she’s dealing with) about sending her with an IUD.

Obviously she’d be 18 when the decision would be made, so it would be hers to make, and I will encourage condoms as well, but am I insane for thinking that? Like, an IUD at 18? Our state currently has abortion protections in place, but who knows where she’ll end up, or what’s coming in the next 4 years…

[penguingrrl]

I just had that conversation with my 17 year old. I trust them to make safe choices, but they can’t fully prevent being raped. They agreed it’s a good idea to get an IUD just in case, so we’ll be making an appointment soon.

[Saudade]

I got my first mirena IUD at 19, which was almost 20 years ago.

Highly recommend

[macmars45]

You aren't insane; I would definitely look into it.

[Tacocat]

Yep I would 100% do it if my daughter was that age. I’ve had an IUD since right after my daughter was born and never regretted it. She is only 12 though and I hope she still has choices at 18 😭

[gummy]

14, 15 & 16 year old girls get IUDs. It's a form of birth control that removes user error, it's not radical.

[luckystar2]

When we started looking at colleges this summer I already had the conversation with her about states she would want to avoid. I’m not sending my 18 year old daughter to a state without access to reproductive healthcare. She is devastated today and we had a talk again about it. I don’t know what national things might happen but I want her to consider these things when deciding on where to go.

As for IUD, I will definitely talk with her about it but I have a feeling she won’t want to go through the procedure. She is currently on bcp for health reasons not for birth control reasons. But who knows if that will be an option down the road. An IUD at 18 is definitely not insane. It’s a valid and viable option. But just knowing my kid I just don’t know that she will want to have it done.

[leahcar]

My older girls have implant BC. It removes the chance of them forgetting a pill. I am glad they have it.

My 16 yo (lesbian) DD has asked about BC for similar reasons. That breaks my heart a little- but I will 100% support her starting a long term form of BC.

[cmeon]

DD (barely 15) is getting one ASAP. She's currently on a birth control pill, and not yet SA- but we don't know how long we will have options. We're seeing a pediatric CNM, she's supposed to be great.

[gretchenindisguise]

It is a conversation we will have for L too. She is currently on continuous bcp, but I worry about her forgetting in college. She is also lesbian so less chance, except assaults.

We also started talking about states to avoid, which unfortunately means she shouldn’t even think about our family’s alma mater.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I’m going to get one for Lucy. She’s 16, she’s been on continuous BCP. She sees an adolescent medicine specialist now, but if they can’t get her in, I’ll try planned parenthood.

[Saudade]

For anyone who’s kids are on oral birth control for non-contraceptive reasons: you can still get an iud and use both

[InBetweenDays]

I don't see why that would be insane. DD is 18 and was going to get an IUD because she was getting serious with her boyfriend. They then broke up but she's still planning to get one somewhat soon.

[jayhawkbecca]

Also might want to consider the arm implant, not nearly as invasive, barely felt anything and so simple! Nexplanon.

[cmeon]

Nov 6, 2024 22:02:11 GMT -5 Saudade said:

For anyone who’s kids are on oral birth control for non-contraceptive reasons: you can still get an iud and use both

Hey, cool! I bet we'd know that if we'd already had the appointment- but I do appreciate learning earlier! Thanks!

[Saudade]

Nov 6, 2024 22:10:03 GMT -5 cmeon said:

Nov 6, 2024 22:02:11 GMT -5 Saudade said:

For anyone who’s kids are on oral birth control for non-contraceptive reasons: you can still get an iud and use both

Hey, cool! I bet we'd know that if we'd already had the appointment- but I do appreciate learning earlier! Thanks!

Plus now you know in case they don't mention it and you can bring it up!

[mysteriouswife]

Nov 6, 2024 22:22:16 GMT -5 Saudade said:

Nov 6, 2024 22:10:03 GMT -5 cmeon said:

Hey, cool! I bet we'd know that if we'd already had the appointment- but I do appreciate learning earlier! Thanks!

Plus now you know in case they don't mention it and you can bring it up!

I will ask her doctor too, but do you know the risk of blood clots with IUD? DD has a history and needs to be monitored for clots. She also has PCOS.

[Saudade]

Nov 6, 2024 22:29:28 GMT -5 mysteriouswife said:

Nov 6, 2024 22:22:16 GMT -5 Saudade said:

Plus now you know in case they don't mention it and you can bring it up!

I will ask her doctor too, but do you know the risk of blood clots with IUD? DD has a history and needs to be monitored for clots. She also has PCOS.

Hormonal IUDs such as Mirena, Kyleena, Skyla, Liletta contain progestin, not estrogen so the risk of blood clot is not elevated like it is for estrogen-containing options.

Paragard IUD is copper. No hormones at all. 

[Beeps (WOT?*)]

My granddaughter went with injected BCP when she was 16 (Norplexan or something like that? I'll have to see if I can find the card if I still have it.) She didn't want to go through the process of getting an IUD and figured the injection would be less painful and just as effective.

[starburst604]

I think it’s a totally reasonable thing to bring up with her and help facilitate if she’s on board with it.

[underwaterrhymes]

I think that’s very wise.

On a related note, we will also be asking if there are any vaccinations we can do sooner rather than later. (Not ahead of schedule- just earlier than a birthday physical.)

[devonpow]

I live in MA with a senior in high school (boy). Every single one of my friends with a daughter applying to college has conversations/took into account/limited where they applied based on abortion laws and red state politics in general. With my son we basically told him he needed to make a really good argument for applying to any schools in states like this and limited where he could look at applying. Also a ton of my friends’ kids applied to schools in Canada and the UK. I think there’s going to be an interesting shift in applications and where kids go out of state going forward.

[erbear]

My sister is an ob-gyn and she has suggested the same thing — IUDs for teenagers, a supply of Plan B at home. This certainly dictates where I will allow my daughters to look at colleges. This sucks.

[wanderingback]

No you’re not insane. Teens get IUDs all the time. There are a lot of birth control methods, nexplanon, depo, the ring, etc. So I don’t think you need to "force" an IUD but having the conversation is a good idea and helping her find a good fit. This is a good website to explore options - www.bedsider.org/

Can also let her and her friends know they can get abortion pills by mail in all 50 states before they’re pregnant to keep on hand. Here is a link with info - www.plancpills.org/pills-in-advance

[calamity]

My DD wants to go on BC because of her awful periods. I am absolutely on board.

I told her that she cannot attend colleges in certain states. I don't know how long that will matter anyway before all her rights are stripped away.

And then we had a conversation about 4B and she was like "I totally get that"

[melmaria]

My SD got Mirena at 18 for awful periods, and the birth control aspect was an added bonus. I was relieved to have her on longterm, “set it and forget it” (for years, anyway) birth control, given everything going on.

[raleighnc]

I have always wanted both of mine on some type of LARC. The only reason I didn't have an IUD before kids and after my first was because it was so damn expensive pre-ACA. At least $700. Even if it goes back to being expensive, I will pay for it for them, but I know that's a luxury.

[Doggy Mommy]

Nov 6, 2024 22:29:28 GMT -5 mysteriouswife said:

Nov 6, 2024 22:22:16 GMT -5 Saudade said:

Plus now you know in case they don't mention it and you can bring it up!

I will ask her doctor too, but do you know the risk of blood clots with IUD? DD has a history and needs to be monitored for clots. She also has PCOS.

Of course talk to her doctor, but my sister and I both have 2 blood clotting factors and both have hormonal IUDs. I've never had a blood clot, but my sister has had 2 very serious ones and is on medication for it, and her hematologist was fine with her getting an IUD. 

ETA: Also, this thread is terrifying. It's smart of you all to think ahead here, but heartbreaking that you have to do so. 

[styme46]

Not insane at all. We attempted one for oldest kid at 17, but it hurt her too much, so she got the arm implant instead. Of course, that was for a much different reason (mental health associated with gender) but it still isn't insane. 

[sugarbear1]

I think that makes a lot of sense.

I only have sons, but we have already discussed college options and I've asked them to weigh women's access to health care when they consider where to go.