Friday Randoms

[maudefindlay]

((macmars45)) A good friend of mine was in your situation last year. Based on watching how things happened for them I recommend you start looking into local IP facilities and what your insurance would cover so you can be ready. He went from no meds to IP pretty quickly. She actually drove him to one in the middle of the night. She was scared to death, but it was so good for her and the kids to have him out of the house and getting help.

[ssmjlm]

Thinking of you macmars45.

Sending hugs to all having a rough Friday.

[expectantsteelerfan]

Nov 8, 2024 7:55:50 GMT -5 lavenderblue said:

My one cat decided last night to sneak out the back door when I was letting the dogs in. I didn't realize it at first and didn't notice she was missing until I went to feed the cats and she didn't come running. I went to look for her and heard the faintest little meow and realized she was sitting on the step right outside the back door. I almost had a heart attack. Thank goodness she wasn't feeling adventurous and she stayed right outside the door.

One time one of the kids left our basement door open when our old dog used to sleep in the basement.  I went to let her up in the morning and I saw the door standing open and got so worried and woke everyone up and was about to go out to look for her, when I opened the front door and saw her sitting there waiting to come in.  She was a beagle, so no idea if she had wandered overnight and come back or what, but I was so relieved.  

[cmeon]

Oh, macmars45 watching someone you love in crisis is a truly special misery. I'm so sorry, I hope the conversation tonight goes well.

[TR]

(((macmars45)))

[TR]

I’m flying to Charleston today for my friend’s bridal shower tomorrow. I wish I felt more celebratory. I just feel exhausted from all of the anxiety and stress and sadness of the week. I had been so excited about sporting my Madame President hat at the airport. Sigh.

[expectantsteelerfan]

macmars45, I agree with pp that you should start researching inpatient programs right now and I'd go so far as to say actually call. I wish there wasn't a stigma for those programs, and that people saw them more as resources as opposed to 'life or death' only option. If he's in crisis, which it sounds like he is, he probably needs more help than you or a therapist can give him. Thinking of you.

georgeharrison, I rarely don't have a wrapper for SOMETHING new to put the used item in. If by chance I don't, I might use a small piece of tp, but it's rare.

[eb777888]

Nov 8, 2024 11:31:57 GMT -5 TR said:

I’m flying to Charleston today for my friend’s bridal shower tomorrow. I wish I felt more celebratory. I just feel exhausted from all of the anxiety and stress and sadness of the week. I had been so excited about sporting my Madame President hat at the airport. Sigh.

I feel so bad for your friends who planned the trip to the inauguration. Are they able to get any money back?

[TR]

Nov 8, 2024 11:37:23 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Nov 8, 2024 11:31:57 GMT -5 TR said:

I’m flying to Charleston today for my friend’s bridal shower tomorrow. I wish I felt more celebratory. I just feel exhausted from all of the anxiety and stress and sadness of the week. I had been so excited about sporting my Madame President hat at the airport. Sigh.

I feel so bad for your friends who planned the trip to the inauguration. Are they able to get any money back?

They both travel a ton so I think they’re just cancelling and getting flight credits that they’ll definitely be able to use so they’ll be ok. And one works for Marriott so she’ll be able to cancel that penalty free.

[lavenderblue]

Nov 8, 2024 11:22:55 GMT -5 expectantsteelerfan said:

Nov 8, 2024 7:55:50 GMT -5 lavenderblue said:

My one cat decided last night to sneak out the back door when I was letting the dogs in. I didn't realize it at first and didn't notice she was missing until I went to feed the cats and she didn't come running. I went to look for her and heard the faintest little meow and realized she was sitting on the step right outside the back door. I almost had a heart attack. Thank goodness she wasn't feeling adventurous and she stayed right outside the door.

One time one of the kids left our basement door open when our old dog used to sleep in the basement.  I went to let her up in the morning and I saw the door standing open and got so worried and woke everyone up and was about to go out to look for her, when I opened the front door and saw her sitting there waiting to come in.  She was a beagle, so no idea if she had wandered overnight and come back or what, but I was so relieved.  

Oh man, I can only imagine how freaked out you must've been!!

[noodleoo]

Nov 8, 2024 9:54:39 GMT -5 rosiebear said:

Oh man, emilyinchile, it can only get better, right?

My poor H is so depressed by the election. He says he feels stupid for having actual hope. I have no answer for him, and it breaks my heart.

This is me. I feel like such an idiot for believing it would be different than 2016 and thinking we might actually elect a female president. It’s worse the second time around. And when Biden dropped out I thought we were fucked, but I let myself get caught up in the optimism and I’m mad at myself for being so naive.

At least I’ve stopped crying multiple times a day.

[tacokick]

My husband is having some outpatient surgery today and they are running way behind so we’ve been waiting around for hours. We have already spent so many hours at hospitals this year, it’s like awful deja vu. Hopefully it goes well and quickly?!

[Susie]

On top of everything this week has delivered, my kindergartener has Lyme disease.  Yesterday he was seen at his pedi for what grew to be about a 4"+ bullseye on his back, and he started a 10 day course of doxycycline.  He woke up today with a 101 fever, so he's home from school.  I feel so bad for him.  We never even saw a tick.

[shauni27]

Nov 8, 2024 9:53:59 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

PDQ

I went through this with my H over the summer. It was all consuming and so upsetting. A few years ago it was the opposite and I was the one who was scared for my own survival  if I did not call 911; it was one of the scariest times of my life.

Sending you so much love.

[shauni27]

Nov 8, 2024 12:22:05 GMT -5 Susie said:

On top of everything this week has delivered, my kindergartener has Lyme disease.  Yesterday he was seen at his pedi for what grew to be about a 4"+ bullseye on his back, and he started a 10 day course of doxycycline.  He woke up today with a 101 fever, so he's home from school.  I feel so bad for him.  We never even saw a tick.

ughhh, I am sorry to hear that. Poor buddy.

Living where we live (not too far from you, in the scheme of things), we see so much Lyme. In the last 3 years 5 friends of ours got it--all kids! The good news is that the Doxycycline works wonders. Hugs!

[underwaterrhymes]

macmars45 - sending big hugs your way. I’m so sorry. It’s so anxiety producing and I hope you are being kind to yourself.

[underwaterrhymes]

Holy FUCK Susie! Poor guy.💙

[cmeon]

Wow, that picture, Susie !! Poor little guy! It does sound like you caught it early, though, and as I understand it, that's very promising. I hope he feels better very soon.

[wildrice]

macmars45, I'm so sorry your H is going through that (and by association, you too). I hope things improve quickly for him on meds.

tacokick, I hope all goes well with the surgery today!

Susie, that picture is horrifying! I am so glad you know what it is, though, and can get it treated so he won't have any lasting effects.

Hugs to everyone else who is having a rough day/week (I guess that's everyone)

[Scout'sHonor]

macmars45, I have been through that with my H, please PM if you ever need to.

Susie, that is the most Lymey rash I've ever seen! Poor dude.

[wildrice]

My ADHD task paralysis is at an all time high this week. I mostly just want to be on the internet and sleep. It's been really hard.

I was up late watching football last night, and it turns out the college team we usually watch has a late game tonight too. WTF. I do not want to watch football again tonight. So I'll probably skip most of it, but that's something my H and I usually do together so I feel kind of bad skipping out on it. I do have to get up tomorrow morning though.

Tomorrow I am volunteering at a mock interview event with a professional organization. It's through a local HBCU and I guess there will be community members and veterans, in addition to students. Should be kind of fun! I am trying to channel some of my desperation about the state of the world into finding more ways to serve the community. I am not as interested in organizations where I have to give a specific number of hours per week or month, so this kind of one-off volunteering is perfect!

I'm meeting a friend to see a play immediately after that, so it should be a busy day. Given how exhausted I've been this week, I'm not sure that's a good thing. I also have a weird cough/throat thing so I guess I should take a COVID test first as a precaution. I don't feel like I'm sick, but I sound kind of bad!

[blondemoment123]

We're holding a baby shower for my coworker and the office is decked out in baby decorations and gifts. Think, lots of diaper boxes unwrapped etc.

A woman walked by and said "Oh! Congratulations to the bride!".


Ma'am.

[pinkdutchtulips]

Thank god its friday .. this week has been so draining. I worked in the city all week dealing w 3h of commuting daily. R made it to school 2/5 days this week. I just felt that I was spread super thin. Next week I'm working from home, ZERO commuting. 

eta: Living w someone again has only reminded me how much of the mental load I carry now for 3 people. J's off today (9 on, 1 off) and I had to work in the city so I sent him a text of some of things I needed to remind him of - make sure the dog is let out post landscapers, here's where you can pick up my glasses and since R forgot her key, please leave a key under the mat for her in case you're not home when she gets home. I'm not reminding him about dinner bc he has dinner duty tonight. 

[fluffycookie]

macmars45, - hugs!!! I am sorry you are dealing with this.

Susie, That is crazy looking! I hope the meds help and he feels better.

[abs]

To top it all off the weather this week has been real disrespectful. Nearly 90 in NOVEMBER is so beyond dumb.

[brooklyn]

Nov 8, 2024 11:16:43 GMT -5 mrsslocombe said:

georgeharrison, I just use the wrapper for the new one I'm using. And if its visible to H, he can deal.

I went to see Ragtime last night and oof...we were all going through it with the cast. I've never cried so hard at a show, the end of Act 1 everyone was just sobbing. It was cathartic, in a way.

I saw Suffs last night and saaaame. 😭

[mrsslocombe]

Nov 8, 2024 14:53:25 GMT -5 brooklyn said:

Nov 8, 2024 11:16:43 GMT -5 mrsslocombe said:

georgeharrison , I just use the wrapper for the new one I'm using. And if its visible to H, he can deal.

I went to see Ragtime last night and oof...we were all going through it with the cast. I've never cried so hard at a show, the end of Act 1 everyone was just sobbing. It was cathartic, in a way.

I saw Suffs last night and saaaame. 😭

I thought about the Suffs cast/audience too. 

NY City Center posted a video of "Till We Reach That Day" from Wednesday night and poor Joshua Henry looked destroyed. www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKMIahHTT6o

[Susie]

Nov 8, 2024 12:35:27 GMT -5 cmeon said:

Wow, that picture, Susie !! Poor little guy! It does sound like you caught it early, though, and as I understand it, that's very promising. I hope he feels better very soon.

I know, right?  It looks so bad

It first emerged as a red and purple bump on Sunday.  It totally passed for a garden variety bruise.  We kept watching it and taking pics of it.  It took a couple days after that to start blistering, and until yesterday to develop the red halo.  H showed the progression pics to our pedi and he said it was an unusual progression and that he wouldn't have dx'ed it any sooner than Wed.  So that made us feel a little better about not having brought him in right away on Monday.  Hopefully we did catch it in time.  Yesterday he estimated the tick probably bit 4-8 days prior.  My guess is Halloween ToT.

We're approaching 24h on doxy now, and it looks a bit less red, and it looks quite a bit flatter.  I'm hopeful that's a good sign.

[fluffycookie]

My dad had mohs surgery on Monday on his scalp and is pretty heavily bandaged, including bandages going down the side of his face and under his chin so he refuses to be seen in public. Sunday is his anniversary so I had to go out today to get gift cards for my stepmother. For some reason he insisted on getting 3 $50 amazon gift cards instead of one $150. I was buying them and the man behind me asked if they were gifts and I said yes and he explained he was a police officer and he always gets nervous when he sees people buying multiple gift cards. It was very nice of him to be proactive, but apparently I look like a 90 year old woman. I told him I was going to the salon after to get 3 $50 gift cards there....lol.

[lilypad1126]

Nov 8, 2024 14:07:20 GMT -5 abs said:

To top it all off the weather this week has been real disrespectful. Nearly 90 in NOVEMBER is so beyond dumb.

I'm so ready to wear jeans and tshirts instead of shorts and tank tops. This weather is the worst!