Friday Randoms

[underwaterrhymes]

Yesterday I was trying to help N with homework and K had keyed up the dogs and they were barking and racing around the house and I was feeling really sad and overwhelmed and really just defeated and I kind of snapped at K, before taking a deep breath and asking him to crate the dogs for a few minutes so I could calm down.

Then I came downstairs and told him, “I’m so sorry I snapped at you. I’m just feeling very overwhelmed.”

He gave me a big hug and said, “That’s okay. We can be overwhelmed buddies together.”

My kids and H are getting me through this week. I’m so lucky.
💙

[lavenderblue]

My one cat decided last night to sneak out the back door when I was letting the dogs in. I didn't realize it at first and didn't notice she was missing until I went to feed the cats and she didn't come running. I went to look for her and heard the faintest little meow and realized she was sitting on the step right outside the back door. I almost had a heart attack. Thank goodness she wasn't feeling adventurous and she stayed right outside the door.

[georgeglass]

Speaking of cats, I work at a school and a neighbor has a "free-range cat" that is now hanging out on campus and kids are petting it, chasing it, all the things. I'm so annoyed.

[ssmjlm]

DH has this habit that if there is something in the dryer, he will put it on the guest bed to fold "later." I left a set of sheets in the dryer before we were gone for the weekend and he put them on the bed Wednesday. I said something last night and he claims he's going to fold them.

I'm WFH today and there is no way I'm folding them. I am standing strong, LOL. Besides I have about 4 loads of laundry to do today. He can fold the set of sheets.

[mx27]

Nov 8, 2024 8:13:38 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH has this habit that if there is something in the dryer, he will put it on the guest bed to fold "later." I left a set of sheets in the dryer before we were gone for the weekend and he put them on the bed Wednesday. I said something last night and he claims he's going to fold them.

I'm WFH today and there is no way I'm folding them. I am standing strong, LOL. Besides I have about 4 loads of laundry to do today. He can fold the set of sheets.

OMG, I am your H.  My apologies!!

[sofamonkey]

Short work day for me, then helping set up for the elementary school bazaar. My kids don’t even go there this year, but I love it and the parents that run it. Lol!! Tomorrow we start at 7:15 putting the signs out, then helping vendors load in and set up. They have a bake sale and book sale too, so that’s going to be a long but delicious day!

[lilypad1126]

I have nothing on my work calendar today. I cannot remember the last time that happened. I am meeting a friend after work for dinner, and am really looking forward to it. Hopefully it helps take my mind off things. Maybe I’ll get a midday workout in too!

[mrspez07]

We've got a big snowstorm starting up today, so the schools called a snow day early.
DS1 (15) wanted to do a sleepover, so we've got 3 extra young men in my house last night/today for awhile and it makes my heart happy. They haven't done many of these as they get older, and he's had these friends since K. All good kids, and I've enjoyed watching them grow up. I was sneaking peeks at them last night to study their faces, growing up so fast!!

[sonrisa]

Nov 8, 2024 8:34:52 GMT -5 mx27 said:

Nov 8, 2024 8:13:38 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

DH has this habit that if there is something in the dryer, he will put it on the guest bed to fold "later." I left a set of sheets in the dryer before we were gone for the weekend and he put them on the bed Wednesday. I said something last night and he claims he's going to fold them.

I'm WFH today and there is no way I'm folding them. I am standing strong, LOL. Besides I have about 4 loads of laundry to do today. He can fold the set of sheets.

OMG, I am your H.  My apologies!!

www.youtube.com/shorts/SynxM7Pbqmk

[deadwing]

I'm considering indulging in some retail therapy in the form of a new desk chair. I bought a good refurbished chair when I started WFH full time and it's not as good as it used to be. I'm not sure how old it was when I bought it. Herman Miller is having a great sale right now and I've had my eye on the Embody for *years*. I know it's probably worth the time to go to the nearest store to try out, but that's Boston and the hassle of getting there is not appealing, even though I'm on vacation and have the time.

[mx27]

Nov 8, 2024 8:58:06 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Nov 8, 2024 8:34:52 GMT -5 mx27 said:

OMG, I am your H.  My apologies!!

www.youtube.com/shorts/SynxM7Pbqmk

 TRUTH!!

[emilyinchile]

I was SO mad at L this morning because he woke us all up at 5, which meant I went to yell at Cookie for barking at 5, and she had woken up so much that she'd peed and pooped inside, and now thanks to my yelling she's cowering from me, and I feel like I've undone all my efforts to gain her trust. Plus obviously I didn't get back to sleep.

And then we got trapped in our elevator for half an hour and let me tell you, the panic that you might be about to fall to your death with your kid will get rid of your anger REAL quick.

[icedcoffee]

Guys!  Our elementary school gives out monthly kindness awards (our principal is AMAZING and has been super focused on getting the kids to be kind).  A couple months ago we were talking about being smart and getting good grades and I told my son that I am really proud of his good grades, but I'd be super proud if he got the kindness award.  It was spurred by convos of seeing Trump being unkind.  I think he took it to heart because last night I got an email that he'll be getting the award next week!! <3 <3 <3

[pandorica]

emilyinchile omg what a terrible morning!! The elevator part sounds terrifying. I hope your day sees a vast improvement from here on out.

We decided we can't stick around for the long weekend because I know I'm just going to feel anxious and overwhelmed with the world, so we're going away to the mountains. Hopefully we can all have a little fun at least (could be hit or miss - our kids are either great or terrible travelers depending on their moods).

[simpsongal]

I really need to stop reading the news...I'm very nervous about what's to come and having trouble focusing. I went for a jog for the first time in a while just to get out the jittery anxiety.

In other news, we caught two mice in our attic space, uggggh.

I asked the kids to write Christmas lists too - I can never believe how fast the holiday season goes. Christmas is in less than 7 weeks....

[fernweh]

I’m seeing articles about celebs vowing the leave the US now that Trump has won and it is really bothering me.
One because they are wealthy and privileged and while they still they the right to feel sick over it, they also likely won’t be as heavily impacted as most Americans. Two because of their wealth and privilege it will be much easier for them to leave the country than it will be for the rest of us who likely don’t have the resources/skills/abilities to get approved for resources. Three again because of the wealth and platform they have they can likely have a much stronger influence on things than the rest of the country.

So while I understand the desire to run off to the land of milk and honey (as if that even exists) they are using their privilege to do so and leaving the rest of us to burn.

[followyourarrow]

Our families don't know we are eloping. The wedding is in two weeks so of course our house is covered in wedding type stuff, but my mom is coming to stay with us for a few days. I'm frantically trying to hide things, which is tough with a big old wedding dress.

[cville]

Everything is meh. Except when it's terrifying. The election post mortems are all coming from places of grief and I alternately want to smack people upside the head, scream into the void, set things on fire, and give everyone a hug.

Tonight I have an event that celebrates youth accomplishment. Getting dressed up and smiling at people is the last thing I want to do. I hope it's uplifting.

[georgeharrison]

I have a gross question, so I'm trying to bury it here. Do you wrap your used feminine hygiene products in toilet paper before putting them in the trash? I do, but I have seen people say that it's super wasteful to use toilet paper for that. If I use a pad (which I hate, but perimenopause sometimes leaves me with no choice), I keep the wrapper and wrap it in that before throwing in the trash, but for tampons, I use toilet paper.

[candreco]

Nov 8, 2024 9:41:31 GMT -5 fernweh said:

I’m seeing articles about celebs vowing the leave the US now that Trump has won and it is really bothering me.
One because they are wealthy and privileged and while they still they the right to feel sick over it, they also likely won’t be as heavily impacted as most Americans. Two because of their wealth and privilege it will be much easier for them to leave the country than it will be for the rest of us who likely don’t have the resources/skills/abilities to get approved for resources. Three again because of the wealth and platform they have they can likely have a much stronger influence on things than the rest of the country.

So while I understand the desire to run off to the land of milk and honey (as if that even exists) they are using their privilege to do so and leaving the rest of us to burn.

DD and I were talking about this last night, not so much specifically celebrities leaving, but just people who will least feel the impacts of the next administration being the most able to opt out of it. Like I'm SURE DH and I could probably find jobs in other countries that would sponsor us for visas, and we could pick up and move. But that feels like a cop out when we can stay and USE that privilege to make some freaking noise here. Leaving the country when you're not the marginalized group is part of the selfishness that helped get us to this point.

[macmars45]

PDQ

H is falling into the depths of despair in a mental break via anxiety and depression. I'm watching it happen. It is awful.

He's seen his therapist already and trying to do things to combat it. I'm having the you need to go on meds asap talk tonight because I've never been more worried and scared about him. I legit think the next step after that would be hospitalization.

PDQ

[rosiebear]

Oh man, emilyinchile, it can only get better, right?

My poor H is so depressed by the election. He says he feels stupid for having actual hope. I have no answer for him, and it breaks my heart.

[bex1973]

georgeharrison, I do TP as well

[hermione]

I guess I am part of the cop out problem. My husband is looking to move up the academic ranks. Dean would be the next step. We made the decision last night to expand his search internationally and found a couple of promising options. Of course he's a long shot and it is likely we are stuck here but, frankly, I just want to pack up our lives and run far away with our daughter. It actually feels good to to have even the slimmest of chances to make that a reality.

[jane6672]

Nov 8, 2024 9:51:34 GMT -5 georgeharrison said:

I have a gross question, so I'm trying to bury it here. Do you wrap your used feminine hygiene products in toilet paper before putting them in the trash? I do, but I have seen people say that it's super wasteful to use toilet paper for that. If I use a pad (which I hate, but perimenopause sometimes leaves me with no choice), I keep the wrapper and wrap it in that before throwing in the trash, but for tampons, I use toilet paper.

I don’t wrap them in anything, the bathroom trash can has a lid and my husband can certainly handle seeing them for a few seconds when he throws something away.

If guests are coming over I’d empty the trash can but I do that anyway.

[followyourarrow]

macmars45, sending you and your family lots of good thoughts.

[cmeon]

Our HS gave 9th graders the PSAT NMSQT on school SAT day this year. Scores came in last night and my daughter knocked it out of the park. Her older brother is so good at these tests, too- but she bests him every time (and he is so proud of her for it ❤️).

She will definity qualify for national merit, which oddly nets a full ride scholarship in our state- tuition/books/tech/housing/food/travel. Most of these kids make $4-8k in refunds a semester- it is truly a ridiculous reward for what feels like a fairly mild accomplishment. She just has to repeat+ that score in 2 years, and I have no doubt she can do that.

It's really too bad there are so many ways the trump presidency will fuck this all up for her.

[emilyinchile]

Ufff thinking of you, macmars45.

[gretchenindisguise]

My youngest turned 10 yesterday. We had a fun day together, which I'm grateful for. Then I got to go do photographs of the dress rehearsal for their show - they were cast as Nemo in Finding Nemo and it's their first lead role. They totally and wholeheartedly knocked it out of the park.

H is leaving town on Saturday and missing the actual shows, so also came to dress rehearsal. He said he enjoyed that more than the regular shows because the last minute mayhem is fun.

[mrsslocombe]

georgeharrison, I just use the wrapper for the new one I'm using. And if its visible to H, he can deal.

I went to see Ragtime last night and oof...we were all going through it with the cast. I've never cried so hard at a show, the end of Act 1 everyone was just sobbing. It was cathartic, in a way.