Which wedding invites should I accept?

[bunch]

I'd forget 1 and 2 and consider 3. We were able to travel easily at 1 mo bc all dd did was sleep.

I didn't want to see anyone at all for the last month of my pregnancy.

[drloretta]

No to 1 and 2, yes to 3. Bring the babe.

[lmh1209]

I'd say to #2. You don't want to go to #2 anyway, and you have a good excuse. For #1, I'd talk to your friends and let them know your situation. For #1, I would have enjoyed a last wedding without a baby, even a week or so before DS arrived. Then again, DS arrived at 37 weeks 6 days, so wedding #1 wouldn't have worked for me. For #3, I'd have said no with DS unless I could have taken him because I wouldn't have been comfortable leaving him with a babysitter, even family, that early. With DD, I probably would have gone, but she arrived at 36 weeks. I also was more relaxed about leaving her with family at an early age.

[h]

I would say no to 2 and yes to 3. Given that you really want to go to 1 and it is local, I would see if the bride is okay with a tentative yes/possible last minute cancelation. I went to a wedding about 45 minutes away at 39 weeks and had an awesome time. The bride and groom knew the situation and begged us to go anyway. I had the baby 3 days later.

[psyck]

I'd say go to number one, but tell the bride (or groom) your situation.

I know I would have had NO desire to travel to a wedding four weeks postpartum. (granted, I have twins, but still.)

[matildasun]

I would say yes to one, no to two, and three would really depend on being able to bring the baby with me to the wedding.

If you have not given birth by the time wedding one happens you might want distraction. I have found that keeping as busy as possible, without getting too overtired, really helps.

[beaver12]

I think it's fine to explain your situation to the #1 bride. I did that when pregnant with DS and attended a wedding the weekend before my EDD an hour from our house. It ended up being a really fun night out with DH before kiddo #2 was born.

[froggy76]

Defintely no to 2. 1 might be a possibility, but you'll just have to tell them the situation. I think you could wait until after LO is born to make a decision on 3, most likely, but I wouldn't have been up to it that early.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

I'd go with a tentative yes to one and three. No to two. Even at the tail end of my pregnancy I wanted to be out and about and moving as much as possible. I flew with DS at three weeks PP so if you're on time it's possible you'll be feeling up to a wedding by then.

[slug*bug]

For me #2 and 3 would've been a no-go: I was pretty immersed in kid stuff at 4 w pp and even though I felt physically okay, getting myself together to drive that far and attend a wedding while BFing every 2-3 h would've been more than I felt up to tackling.

I was 10 d late w/#1 and 3 w/#2. Obviously there's no way to know (esp. the first time around) when you'll deliver, but the second time around, I accepted invitations up to my due date. (ETA: Hell, I even had a houseguest I'd never met before on my due date with #1: looking back, the distraction was the best thing ever b/c I had another week to go.) I think most brides would be pretty understanding if you were a last minute cancel because you went into labor. And if they weren't, well, they'd be the ones to look douchey, not you.

[SusanBAnthony]

At 4 weeks (and 4 months lol) all my kids did in the car seat was scream. A 4 hour drive would have taken 6 hours easily. If not more.

I would have gone to an in town wedding at 4 weeks if I could bring the baby (would have slept in a sling most of the night). Not out of town though.

I would try to attend #1 if the bride is ok with it. Keep yourself semi-busy at the end, and with stuff to look forward to. Justdont get depressed when none of your maternity clothes fit anymore- try to pick up a dress on clearance now, in 1 size bigger than the biggest size you could possibly need!

[GailGoldie]

#1 - A tentative yes - if you haven't had baby yet -and are feeling good- no reason NOT to go - can see people, eat lots of food and not feel fat b/c you're huge pg! I felt good at the end of my twin pg - and loved going places as long as I could just sit down the whole time.... i would have gone to a wedding then! But with my singleton- no b/c i was in a ton of pain- you just never know.

#2 - hell no.

#3 - nope- i wouldn't want to travel that soon after having a baby. you will feel FAT as shit, will not have slept well in weeks... and traveling with baby - during flu season, I would not even consider this one.

[vanillacourage]

No to 1 and 2, for 3 I'd explain the situation to the bride and groom and ask if you can RSVP 2 weeks out, just before their head count is due. Wait and see how you feel and how mobile your kiddo is.

[Noralie]

Tentative yes to #1.
No to #2 & 3.

[chessie]

I would think 1/2 would definitely be out, 3 maybe if you had a sitter? Not sure if wedding allows kiddos- you might have to ask on that one.

[Deleted]

I would say yes to #1 and no to the others. E was born a week and a half late and I had been on bed rest for 6 weeks at that point so getting out of the house would have been nice.

[megs193]

I don't think I would have been able to go to any of them. I delivered at 41 weeks with my son and I was too uncomfortable to go to a wedding. I went to church on my due date and barely made it through that. I also was not ready to go anywhere at 1 month post partum. I think I would have fallen alseep during the reception. We went to a wedding when my son was 2 months old and I still didn't really enjoy myself.

[keh2oblue]

I would say YES to #1. If you're still pg, you'll want to go. NO to #2, and maybe to #3.

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May 18, 2012 21:11:06 GMT -5 drloretta said:

No to 1 and 2, yes to 3. Bring the babe.

this is what I am thinking... with the baby being only a month old you could bring the babe with you to the wedding, or ask your brother to watch the little one for you... Also, it will probably be easier since you will be staying with family rather than a hotel.

[kelseybelsey]

At 4 weeks PP, I went back to my hometown for a "meet the baby" party and baptism. The drive was 6.5 hours (normally 5 hours). My DD was an angel in the car and basically slept the whole way. I was fine and everything worked out well. I breastfed as well, fyi. See how you feel after the baby is born before deciding.