What's your plan.....

[mrsjason]

if both you and your H die? Who do you have lined up to take care of your baby/babies?

It was always assumed that when we had children and something happened to us that our kid(s) would go to my H's brother once he was settled with a family. If our parents needed to step up until he was ready than they would, but ultimately our children would go to his brother.

My brother and his family aren't capable because his step daughter is a drug addict and she has a 6 year old son who is autistic as well as two other children. They have their hands full and it's just not where I would want Macy to go.

But my H's bro is marrying this crazy bitch and Macy WILL NOT be going to them, under any circumstances. My H and I have talked about this recently and it has lead to some heated discussions. I am a little stressed out about what will happen to Macy because we are not in agreement. He thinks his brother is still an option but I am thinking my cousin once she has a family. She's a huge liberal who lives in San Fran, but I would rather have my daughter be a liberal than live with my crazy SIL, LOL (I am kidding about the liberal thing, my cousin would be very capable of caring for Macy).

Chances are this is a non-issue and we're not both going to die, but it's something that has been on my mind a lot lately.

What's your plan?

[jen812]

We don't have a plan, but probably should...

[aegis2005]

We don't know - we know who we don't want to raise our kids, but are currently at a loss as to who we would. There's not disagreement - we're just not "sure". It's something we want to try and figure out in the next month or two as we'd like to have a will and health care proxies in place soon. We also realize it can change down the road, if we're so inclined - but that doesn't make it any easier

[dvroxy]

If my parents are still around and something happened to us, they would take our children. If my parents were not around, my older sister would take our children. Let's hope this is definitely a non-issue!

[Deleted]

I have a zoo membership. I'm just going to leave her there with a bunch of bananas and hope a monkey mama takes good care of her.

[amellis2]

Sept 27, 2012 20:17:08 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

I have a zoo membership. I'm just going to leave her there with a bunch of bananas and hope a monkey mama takes good care of her.

:Y:

Really though, we haven't talked about it to them, but we'd like some friends of ours to take the kids. My mom would fight for custody, but I have a strained relationship with her not to mention she has a ridiculously full plate. Our friends live in Pittsburgh, but they are wonderful loving parents (She has three children now.) It just so happens to be a plus that she is a vegan as well

[scjb143]

I always thought my cousin would take her if something happened to us. But, that cousin moved to Alaska. Since my DD is 14 almost 15 she would not want to leave Fl and move to AK to finish her high school years. So, I she would go with my mom to stay here and finish HS. I didn't want that when she was smaller because my mom has custody of my nephew and has her hands full. (his mom died when he was 10/mths old) But, I couldn't see making her up and leave everything she knows in the event she just lost both her parents. I would still want her to have some sort of normalcy, so, I think that would be the best place for her. Gosh, I hate to even think about it.

[etteyam]

H and I have talked about this and decided our kids are gonna go to his brother. He and his wife have similar parenting style as us and are financially secure and responsible. Now all we need to do is talk to him (his bro) about it and put a will in place.

[mrschelseap09]

We have no idea. There are a few that we would trust but they are too far away. We would want her to be close to my family that lives in FL. Its so hard to decide.