How often do you say "I love you"

[Kit]

Sept 28, 2012 9:19:56 GMT -5 looseseal said:

I don't think H has ever said this to me umprompted, in 14 years. If I say it to him, he repeats, but in a tone of voice that lets me know he thinks it's ridiculous. You know, the eyeroll tone of voice? I tend to not say it very often, because that's not how I want to hear it. So, close to never.

[looseseal]

Sept 28, 2012 9:21:59 GMT -5 sake said:

Sept 28, 2012 9:19:56 GMT -5 looseseal said:

I don't think H has ever said this to me umprompted, in 14 years. If I say it to him, he repeats, but in a tone of voice that lets me know he thinks it's ridiculous. You know, the eyeroll tone of voice? I tend to not say it very often, because that's not how I want to hear it. So, close to never.

this makes me sad.

I didn't mean to bring the post down! I know he loves me, it's just not his thing to say it out loud. We've been happily together for 14 years, I don't really worry about it anymore. If it's good for other relationships to say it multiple times a day, that's good for them. There are outliers in every type of relationship quotient.

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Sept 28, 2012 9:25:23 GMT -5 Kit said:

Sept 28, 2012 9:19:56 GMT -5 looseseal said:

I don't think H has ever said this to me umprompted, in 14 years. If I say it to him, he repeats, but in a tone of voice that lets me know he thinks it's ridiculous. You know, the eyeroll tone of voice? I tend to not say it very often, because that's not how I want to hear it. So, close to never.

Have you talked to him about it?

eta: oops. you were responding when I asked this. If you don't worry about it then I guess it's not that big of a deal.

[bcv513]

Multiple times a day. Every time we talk or text during the day, and more when we're together. I also say it to my parents and grandmother every time I see or talk to them.

[rockpaperscissors]

Sept 28, 2012 9:15:15 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Except we text "Lobe yoy long tim".

There is a TV show reference there if anyone is nerdy enough to know it....

boobs

[Deleted]

Sept 28, 2012 9:13:14 GMT -5 blueballoon said:

Multiple times a day

this!

[ElizabethBennet]

Multiple times a day. We always say it before bed and whenever one of us leaves the house.

[sewf]

At least once a day. We didn't used to. H was very, "Those words should be saved for when you REALLY feel them". Since wee got married, though, he ends almost every phone call with them, and says it to me before we separate, like when he goes to work, or drops me off somewhere.

[emsumm]

A lot. All the time. To everyone: my H, my kids, and my mom and dad and sisters.

[bananapancakes]

At least once a day, usually a couple.

[sparkles17]

I am pleasantly surprised by these responses.

I came from a marriage where my exH NEVER said it unprompted, only in response to me saying it. With SO, we say it all the time, multiple times a day. I didn't know if we were the norm or if my marriage was the norm....I'm glad that we are the norm and also to have more proof that my marriage sucked LOL

[Deleted]

Multiple times a day.

I even tell him at the grocery out loud "MR.FOG, I LOVE YOU!"

[Deleted]

Sept 28, 2012 9:28:48 GMT -5 rockpaperscissors said:

Sept 28, 2012 9:15:15 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Except we text "Lobe yoy long tim".

There is a TV show reference there if anyone is nerdy enough to know it....

boobs

Lol.

Tim. Who's Tim?

[Chib]

Multiple times a day. Especially like before bed and before we leave somewhere.

[Deleted]

an absolute ton.

[JamaicanPineapple]

A lot throughout the day.

[gnomesweetgnome]

Probably a sickening amount of times per day, lol.

[adhdfashion]

All the time. To my H and kids.

[LLL]

a couple of times a day

[ninakir88]

A good bit, if we don't talk much that day, at least before we go to bed.

[Ruby Gloom]

Ditto sakelp & fycouch.

[hbear]

Multiple times. About equal in terms of who says it first.

We joke about the fact that we say it so often, but it's how we feel and we like to let each other know.

[lovehope83]

Every day, multiple times a day.

[Deleted]

Lots.

[verycontrary247]

Multiple times a day.

[cinnamoncox]

For the most part, multiple times a day, very minimum 2x, when he leaves for work (or whenever one of us leaves the house) then before bed.


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[Deleted]

Multiple times a day. Every time we talk or text throughout the day, and randomly when we're at home. We're really mushy.

[Deleted]

same as sakelp. I tell him I love him always. SIL is like that with BIL and MIL was like that with FIL. I make sure to tell MIL I love her every time I see her. I tell my mom I love her when we hang up. My dad and I don't have to say it, we have a sort of unspoken agreement. When we go over there, he tells me he loves me by walking H and I to our car (through the garage to the drive way) and waving. He's the best.

[macmars45]

Sept 28, 2012 10:13:14 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Usually multiple times per day. He says it to me often too. We're very affectionate.

This.

[hisno1girl]

Not nearly as often as everyone else.

We are a "say it when you are really feeling/meaning it" type of couple.

I think the last time we said "I love you" was a few days ago. We're okay with that.